Getting Over A Broken Heart - Part 5

11. Let go of mementos
    

    Hanging on to reminders of the relationship is sheer torture and just gets in the way of moving on.

    If you’ve been dating someone a while, you no doubt have collected items that remind you of the one who left you behind. When you were still dating that person, these mementos meant the world to you and had a powerful impact on your emotions. But now, these same mementos only work to break your heart. These include things like pictures, rings, pillows, music, clothes, etc. Hanging on to reminders of the relationship is sheer torture and just get in the way of moving on. Get rid of them. It’s hard to do because there is something very final about throwing them away. It’s like you saying to yourself, “It’s over. It’s truly over.” So please, don’t torture yourself anymore. “Dawson - everything you say is so true...especially the part about letting go of mementos. Its really hard, but letting go of them makes it so much easier.” (Megan)
    
    
12. Keep yourself busy by giving to others.
    When you were dating, you spent hours and hours with special someone who has broken your heart. Now you have all this time on your hands and don’t know what to do with it. It’s like there’s this big silence surrounding at you, reminding you that you have been rejected and are now alone. People who get over broken hearts find ways to fill that time with something positive. For example, you might want to get to know your friends again who probably have felt neglected by you. Hanging out with them will help and remind you of the good old days before your ex. You can get involved in help organizations like Big Brothers Big Sisters. You might want to get a job to help fill the time. As long as you fill the time with positive activities, you are okay. “Some of the things that I do to help heal a broken heart [are]…go to the park, re-acquaint myself with positive friends, hold myself, and compliment myself on hard steps taken.” (Sonya)
    
    
13. Get into exercise/eating right.
    

    Getting good exercise actually triggers chemicals in our brain helping to lift our mood.

    It is very difficult to overcome a broken heart when you don’t feel good physically. Not feeling well only adds to your depression. When people have their hearts broken, they tend to quit eating or begin overeating all the wrong things (looking to food to give them comfort). Sometimes they even try to self medicate through drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc. None of this works and usually makes matters far worse. When we eat right, we have more energy, more endurance, and less mood swings. Getting good exercise actually triggers chemicals in our brain helping to lift our mood. Have a friend to encourage you to exercise and eat right. Soon you will be feeling better, even if you’re not sure why.
    
    
14. It’s mostly about you, not your ex.
    Any event in our lives is just that – an event. The issue comes down to how we interpret that event. Some people look at a tough situation and say, “Here’s a situation that can help me grow as a person.” Others do just the opposite. They look at a break-up for example and interpret it as the end of the world. Two people going through the same type break-up can interpret it in opposite ways. So in the end, it comes down to whether you are going to allow this break-up to make you stronger, or stay a victim. It’s no longer about the ex. The men come and the men go, but you’re still here. If you’re a guy, the women come and the women go, but you remain. At the end of the day, it’s mostly about you, how you interpret things and respond to the right way to them. “I just broke up with my gf today of like over 2 years. I still love her, but the pain of being in love with her is now way worse than the joy of being in love with her.” (D-Rock)
    
    
15. Move on.
    

    You have weathered the storm…learning a lot of lessons, and know there’s a big world out there waiting for you.

    Finally, that moment comes. Sometimes it creeps up on you. Other times, it’s like a light bulb goes on in your heart and you say to yourself, “It’s time for me to move on. I’m not going to die. The sun will come up tomorrow and I feel myself learning to live without the other person. In fact, I can go a whole day without thinking of him/her.” When that happens, it’s an awesome thing. You have weathered the storm, made steps to be strong, learned a lot of lessons, avoided a lot of pitfalls, and know there’s a big world out there waiting for you. There’s nothing quite like the realization you have decided to move on. “I've been heartbroken so, so many times and its true it does take time to heal and I learned from my mistakes like for an example don’t date too soon when your really young and don’t move too fast in the relationship, don’t be sexually active, when you break up with someone and your hurting then you heal and they want you back DONT do it the same thing will just happen all over again.” (Carli)
    
    

I hope this series of blogs has helped you. It means a lot to me to think that maybe something I’ve written or said on my show has helped you. There’s more blogs to come, so keep checking them out.

Your friend,
Dawson



NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC – LUST VS. LOVE
Next week I want to blog on the difference between lust and love.  So here's the question for this week:

What do you think is the difference between lust and love?

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:50:04 PM
I believe that LUST is just that when a person is only concentrated on one thing that would pretty much only satisfy themselves, such as sex. It wouldn't really be a mutual thing at all. But, if that was the way a relationship started and kept on going, it could later on lead to the two people THINKING that they were in love... possibly just because they had had sex before. Love, on the other hand, is mutual and the satisfaction should come from both individuals. When I say satisfaction though, I mean it more of the same good lovey dovey feeling. Also the thought that you would want to spend the rest of your lives together, you are always looking out for each other and giving each other POSITIVE and HONEST advice, do things for each other to make the other feel loved. That is my view on a short note. That is a very good question though because it is difficult to answer. I hope this was of use to you. Thank you Dawson!
- Tyler E.

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:48:34 PM
Alright well I've had my heart broken twice. -first time, boy I've been with 5 months cheats on me with his best friend's sister. -second time I was going out with a boy 4 years older than myself (14 & 18) he never pressured me into sex, in fact he was entirely supportive and said it was incredibly attractive I wasn't a "whore" but then there were rumors he slept with two of his exes. He never confirmed nor denied, just broke it off with me when I heard because I wouldn't talk to him right away about it. Both times I took those "tragedies," so to speak, as opportunities to grow. I became stronger. I became very good friends with the first boy and we're still tight even to this day, but the second one still hurts. However I am moving on (four months later...I guess I'm a slow healer) I allow myself time to cry. I open up to my friends. I use it as a reason TO keep up my grades (prove to myself I'm strong enough and I can handle it, then I trust myself more) I tell the people around me I love them. I think about him, but I remember what the reality is. I find the idea of this as an opportunity to grow incredibly helpful. And love and lust, -Love when you deeply care about someone, no matter what they choose. You just enjoy being with them and hearing their thoughts, you do want some physical connection as well. -Lust physical attraction. Pure and simple.
- Kelly G

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:45:28 PM
Lust is a strong physical attraction, && indulging in specific acts. while love, its a deep caring, a wanting to always be with that person. never wanting that person to leave, && if they do, well then u go thro crazy emotional pain, sometimes even physical. but u still wish that they r happy. thats my opionon on lust && love
- trina

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:43:57 PM
i dont really know what lust is? but when your in love all you can think about is the one person.there in your thoughs and your dreams.
- des

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:42:43 PM
Well I think Love is what You can give to someone else like your heart and caring,but Lust is what you can get out of it like your pleasure or the physical involvement that makes you feel good and wanted!
- Kaitlyn

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:33:15 PM
My name is Samantha and i am 17. At my age most people say you dont know what love is so theres no way you know your in love. I disagree because i know i am in love with the boy i am dateing know!! We have been friends for 10 years and i have always liked him and the more i learned the more i liked about him!!! Love is a very strong emothion and very confusing if your not sure how the other feels about u!! I would have to say the difference between lust and love is; when u lust over someone they make you feel good and you think about how much you care and want to be with them. Most of the time if you lust over someone you just want to hold them were as in love you have the same feelings but your not as likely to act on them! Your more likely to act like you dont want to be more then friends and usualy you and that person are friends for a long time before you even act like you like them! The other thing i noticed is that when your in love with someone your more "closed" your not as likely to say i love you or even hold hands kiss and stuff like that. Its very odd how many people can kiss hold hands or just flirt with someone u lust over then when you find the one your in love with you run and hid. Samantha B.
- Samantha B.

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:28:49 PM
im in a pickle right now coz i like this boy and he likes me too but he doesnt want to admit it.i dont want to ruin our friendship, he just doesnt want to talk about it. I dont know what to do. can someone please help me.
- Jena

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:26:03 PM
PS. Dawson you should do a segment on "When love is right and when love is wrong". I think that would be a good topic because not a lot of people know the difference between the two. Like wrong relationships are where your aren't benefiting and it harms you. Where you are being used, abused, depressed and etc is the wrong love. To where you are happy, treated as a person, respected (especially your body), and etc would be good love. I think it would help a lot of people clarify the types of relationships they are in and if it is healthy or not.
- Lindsey

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:23:45 PM
A broken heart can feel like a deep scar inside your heart and soul. Just because someone broke you heart doesn't mean you should give up on the rest of your life and love. It seems like your world is over and life is over because you lost someone who meant so much to you. You feel like you can't survive without them. The thing is you can. You just have to have the will to survive and look on to the future. If you feel completely lost than turn to the Lord to guide you through. Love Vs Lust Lust It is common for a lot of people to confuse lust with love. I have done it and so have many other people. Lust is more of a desire for someone and need. You have a strong attraction to that person for whatever reason and you just want to be close to them. It may feel like the feelings you have for the person are a lot like love. But it is just more of a physical and sexual connection. It could feel a little bit like an emotional connection. To where you feel like you click with the person and there is some kind of chemistry there. You seem to loose all focus on yourself or things around you. You start to focus on this main person and it is kind of like a sick obsession. Love Love is a lot more of a stronger connection than lust is. You feel it within your heart and soul. It is more than a sexual and physical connection. Love doesn't just happen over night. I takes time to grow and for you to realize that its there and its meaning. The relationship I am currently in feels like my first real love. I am 21, divorced and a single mom. I thought I have loved numerous times before but nothing comes close to this love. He treats me the way I should be treated and respects me. He respects my needs, wants, and desires in life. He doesn't try to hold me back at all. He actually helps me accomplish my goals or put a step forward towards them. He forfills my needs every way possible and more than sexually. I never really had a man go out of there way before to make sure my needs are met. Usually it is the other way around and me trying to make them happy. He makes me very happy and I do the same in return. We connect on so many different levels and discuss so many things. We can sense each others feelings and how to comfort each other. I feel like this is my first real adult love if that makes sense. It seems like all the other loves were puppy loves, lust, or just kid stuff. I feel like I am growing up and I am feeling what it is like to have what I have always wanted. A real man who appreciates me and I can do the same in return. I see him for all of his good qualities as a man. He does the same for me as a woman. He knows there are some things in my past that I am ashamed about. He doesn't judge me for them and sees me for him. He says usually he would of judge a person but I have helped him grow to see that yes I made mistakes but that doesn't defined me as a person. He knows there is more to me than my past. He sees me for the person that I want to be not the person who I use to be. It is also funny because when we first started getting really close. I had this outer shell that caused me to present myself as a completely person than I was. It was my way of protecting myself and my heart from breaking anymore. He cracked open my shell and found the real me. I have surprised him and impressed him so much. He never knew that I could be so sweet, loving, and accepting. I think another thing about love is that it can help you grow. It should help you grow to be the person you want to be or where you want your life to be. I have told him before that I have never experienced a love like his before. He does mean the world to me. He knows about my past loves and what I have experienced with them. But to me he is the best love I have ever experienced in my life. It has helped me grow as a person and made my life feel like it make sense for the first time. I could not ask for a better or stronger love than I have with him. I thank him and God for coming into my life. He also tells me thank you for coming into my life and loving me the way you do. I don't want to ever loose this feeling or this love... And I hope people who do want to love experience a love like this at least once in their lives.
- Lindsey

Wednesday, Feb 6, 2008 - 10:10:17 PM
Well love is one of those words that is not easy defind. However when I think about what real love is it makes me go back to the bible. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 it takes about what real love is. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. To me that is how I would defind love. Lust is everything before that. I used to go out looking for love in all the wrong places thinking oh I found love and all it ended up being was lust, only wanting me for my body and thats it. I'm now with a wonderful man and I know he truly loves me. My bf has those love qualities in which the other guys did not have.
- Mandy

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:34:56 PM
well dawson i think that lust is a crush or being in the moment type of thing while love is something that you care deeply for the person for and you are in a committed relationship on both sides.
- chris mc.

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:34:28 PM
Oh, I forgot! Love is when you have strong emotions for another person. Lust is a desire for indulgence of sex or a strong desire.
- Zach

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:32:35 PM
Hi Dawson! I look forward to Sunday just to listen to your radio show!I've never really had time to read your blog but im here, it took me awhile.. Maybe a little too long! ☻ZACH☻
- Zach

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:24:46 PM
Love and lust are two very different thing s. Love is like a thing that you share with another person like a boyfriend or a sibling. Lust is very different. It is like a one sided thing that is only enjoyed by the one person that is "lusting"
- Mae C.

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:22:43 PM
I believe the difference between lust and love is quite simple. Lust: You feel happy and are very attracted to a person. You have a feeling that pulls you towards this person you base this feeling and your thoughts on being attracted to this person. You never really get to know this person. All you really know is that they are attractive, the two of you have great chemistry, you seem happy, and these feeling feel like love, but you dont really know this person at all take time to get to know someone their likes their dislikes, veiws on family, riasing kids, everything that is important to you. Love: You take time to learn everything you can about a person and truly care about wht they have to say. Both of you hold off on the sexual part of a relationship and take time to be friends first. When you love someone you will do anything for their happiness and just them being happy will make you happy. You will be there for that person no matter what time of day or night and will be willing to cancel any plans if they are going through something and need you, but also if they love you most of the time they will not let you go to far out of the way, they will be patient and wait til you can be there. Love is a great thing, become friends before getting in a relationship get to know someone before you try a relationship. The best of friends make the best fo lovers. Love takes commitment and sometimes hard work.
- Jason

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 11:19:44 PM
h dawson well my name is samantha and my birthday is this sunday feb. 10th. i dont think i should have my birthday. you see 2 years a go my friend justin died and we have the same birthday its hard to think that his parents wont get to ever see him or celebrate his birthday. for them that day is a symbol of something they lost but for my mother its a symbol of what she gained. am i wrong for celebrating my birthday? plzzz help me im crying at the thought of him.
- samantha

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 9:26:06 PM
i beleive the difference between love and lust is is that lust is something u feel for that person that u think is really real but in the end it was nothing while love is the way that you cannot seem to go on without that person or be one day without hearing their voice. lust is a sord of "puppy love" something that you feel is real but later realized that it was just something that your mind was telling you what it was not your heart. love is one of the most amazing things that can happen to someone its unexplainable. if you think you know what love is then your not in love cannot be simply explained in words!
- Jenny

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 9:23:53 PM
the difference between love and lust is if you can be around that person without one crude thought running through your head. love is if you can just be with that person and be holding them without your hand sliding up their shirt or pants. lust is if all you do is hang around that person because you think you can get lucky. i used to think that if you were in love to prove it you had to sleep with that person well i thought i was but he wasnt. so now i regret not knowing he lusted for me but didnt love me
- samantha

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 9:22:57 PM
to me the diffenrence between love and lust is this:love is liking someone for who the are not for what they look like.Lust on the other hand is only liking someone for things they do like for instence sex and only for what they look like.If you truelly love someone you dont really care what thye look like or what other people say about them you like them for there personality and if there trust worthy and all that.Lust is like using someone because they are cute and popular and people like them so you're mostly using them to be cool when you dont really care about there personality or how they treat you.That is what i think the difference between love and lust is i hoped i helped!!♥dawson i love ur show i listen to it every sunday u really have helped me before
- mariah

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 5:58:21 PM
WELL, I THINK LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHARE WITH A PERSON THAT YOU HAVE VERY STRONG FEELINGS FOR. BUT LUST IS JUST LIKE FOR PLEASURE, LIKE WHAT PLAYERS OR PIMPS FEEL.
- VICTORIA

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 5:58:07 PM
love is the love and support of your family but it can also be when a guy goes out and makes you realize that no matter what you are special and you should belive that because you are. lust is where you think your in love but its just something you expected and not what you truely wanted but you thought you wanted it.
- danika

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 1:12:31 PM
Love Is something thats so special. Everytime you see that special person your stomach gets butterflies everytime you see that item in your life. Lust fell sht esame but it does have a catch and you will know it later when your in hat relationship. Lust is to me, puppy love or a fling. When your in a trustworthy relationaship and with respect you will knpow that it is love. I'm in love and I had to go through enough to know that I have respect.
- Sara

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 1:12:24 PM
i got a great way to get over a broken heart, stay away from dating anybody and just be yourself!
- maureen

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 1:12:19 PM
I'm 15 years old. well todays my birthday. so I just turned 15. and I'm in a relationship that I've been in for just about 2 years now. but my boyfriend lives 130 miles away. so its been harder and harder to see eachother. and I live with my grandparets becuz my mom went to jail last year and my dad wants nothing to do with me. but my grandparents dont really care if my boyfriend comes and stays with us for lets say a weekend. but I really wanna break up with him. but I really dont because this has been the most sane relationship I've been in. when I was 12 I was going out with this kid. and he hit me and called me names and forced me to have sex with him. but some how the guy I'm going out with right now has helped me to trust other people. but its still really hard for me. but I'm still trying. and some of the people that go on your show (which I listen to every Sunday) have helped me ALOT! so I wanna say thank you to all those people. and I'll be calling in one of these Sunday's! thank you sooo much!
- Kayla Aaseng

Tuesday, Feb 5, 2008 - 1:12:08 PM
yea there is a differnt beween love and luck couse its not the some.
- jamie house

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:54:23 PM
My first serious bf of 6 months broke up with me 2mnths ago. Believe me when i say: IT WAS RANDOM. At first, i would have given anything to have him back, but now i have realized how blind i was and that we really weren't right for eachother. Still, i don't regret it. He didn't treat me that great and i just didn't see what i do now, looking back. 3 weeks ago, he came to me wanting me back. Oddly enough, that was the same night i had heard "Over You"- my theme song for this life lesson- on the radio and said to myself: "Self, I am moving on today." I told him i didn't really think that would happen and a week later, he had a new gf. I have learned so much about myself through this heartbreak and i couldn't have done it w/o God. This blog really helped me too, in realizing what i was/am going through.
- Savannah

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:49:42 PM
Dawson, i went out with this guy twice and it broke my heart when he broke up with me. i took your advice and im almost over it. i put away the jewelry and stuffed animals he got me. thanks. your advice helped me a lot. now i dont greive over him anymore
- Kayla

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:48:52 PM
I think love is when you can see the best in someone even if that person does not see it in themselves but you do.Its when you have a bad day and just being near them makes you happy.When you look at them and you feel something you never felt before.The differebce btw lust and love is not only a matter of opinions but more of a matter feelings.Love lasts forever but Lust only lasts for awhile.
- Deanna

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:47:36 PM
I really don't want to get rid of the stuff he gave me!! We were together for 4 monthes and I know that that is not alot, but I really believed and still believe that I love him!! He is being really sweet about it and not making it awkward or spreading rumors about me, but it still hurts when I look at him and see that i still love him and he doesn't feel the same! Another thing, he was my first boyfriend and he had all the qualities that I want in a guy!! He is a Christian, he is sweet, he makes me laugh all the time, he knew when I needed a hug(most of the time!) I don't know why I can't change my feelings towards him!! That frustrates me!!! I am jsu rambling on so I am going to stop now!!!! I put my website above because I can't get emails from somebody that is no in my address book, so you can check that out!!! Thanks for all that you do!!! With the Love that Christ gives,
- Jessica

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:42:56 PM
i loved a man for 2.5 years, and thanks to this i am completey over my ex-husband!
- Matt C.

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 11:41:03 PM
I have recently had my heart broken for the first time. I was in love with him and he decided to walk away. the thing is he rather believe people who dont like me over me. Once i got to thinking i realized that i still love him but i have to live my life without him. Listening to your show last night gave me insite that i have to move on i cant hold back anymore. So thank you
- Dominique

Monday, Feb 4, 2008 - 1:47:32 AM
Love is a deep respect and admiration for someone; a selfless attitude that puts the well-being of the other person above your own. Lust is selfishly dwelling on and fantasizing about sexual activites or entertaining sexually arousing thoughts with no thoughts of the other person's feelings. Love doesn't lust.
- Jonathan

Sunday, Feb 3, 2008 - 11:25:53 PM
Dawson - It's been over 6 months since the break up... even now... this much time later i still think of her... and she wants nothing to do with me... i wanted a friend... got the love of my life... broke up and lost both... i asked her a few weeks ago how she was... trying to get in the old habbit... Her b/f (the ex who got out of jail)... The one she left me for... threatened me... ya know... i miss her and all.. i want to be her friend... i'm friends with her family... i mean i can't completely close connections ya know... i don't know what to do... if you could reply... that would help a lot... i want to be over her... and i am... i just miss my friend... the one person who i could talk to isn't there anymore...
- Sean

Sunday, Feb 3, 2008 - 10:28:05 PM
I LOVED A BOY FOR 6 YEARS AND WOW I CANT GET OVER HIM I NEED HELP
- NICOLE

Saturday, Feb 2, 2008 - 11:01:04 PM
Love: Love is when you have a atraction to the pesons soul when you have a connection the is not held together bye sex or phisical fetures or attraction Lust: Lust is when you look at someone with passion for there body. And dont really see who they truly are or who they want to be other than your trophy and toy.
- Megan

Saturday, Feb 2, 2008 - 9:34:45 PM
I think that love is a feeling that leaves the holder of that feeling realize everything more clearly. I think that lust can turn into love but I think that once someone has love it is never lost, maybe changes forms... but in the end it all comes back to you and doesn't dissapear. I think lust is a shallow feeling that comes from chemistry between two people but never coming close to the healthy energy of love. I believe these quotes sum up my experience with it; "Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and you find out you still care for that person", & "The best proof of love is trust" -Dr. Joyce Brothers. I think it's healthier to take the power into your own hands and take a closer look at if the trust does make it in the relationship before speeding your heart into love. I am now going to save myself the heartache by taking good caution before getting my life caught up in someone else's life... possibly because it felt so good to experience that lust and general feeling of excitement that comes with starting going through the phases of falling in love with someone.
- Katie

Saturday, Feb 2, 2008 - 1:28:33 AM
Keep up your good work. You're great! don't know how you do it but you sure have a gift of talking to people. May God bless you for using your talent so openly.
- Ranee

Saturday, Feb 2, 2008 - 1:28:24 AM
wow tha differnece between love and lust.....theres a big difference, Lust is just a temporary feeling of wanting something or somebody. But (the rite type of love)iz a feeling that never goes away. it stays and nothing or nobody can change that feeling. If you have tru love for something or somebody no matter what comes your way you will always have love for that thing or person. Lust on the other hand is just wanting something then and now. But just as soon as the next best thing comes out you leave the other thing and you go chase the other thing. **that blog series by tha way was great and thanks for that. god bless you and everything that you do** ~*Riah*~
- riah

Saturday, Feb 2, 2008 - 12:36:44 AM
I have just get over a broken heart that I have been dealing with for a long time and its was not that easy to get over but one day the boy that broken my heart called me something that I hate to say.But since I been writting to you on your blog I have been getting me throwth all of this and I feel alot better.
- jamie h.

Friday, Feb 1, 2008 - 5:58:58 PM
hello just wanted to say i listen to yuor show every Sunday. I cry every time. I love that someone is out there to talk to since i moved to texas because i left them behind. anyway thanks
- caroline C

Friday, Feb 1, 2008 - 5:58:47 PM
Dawson,I realy liked your blog.I have just recently had a broken heart and I have to admitt it was realy hard.I cryed for a week,but your blog helped me get over it.I have moved on and so has he Thank You Dawson.
- shayelan

Friday, Feb 1, 2008 - 5:58:37 PM
Thanks for this series. I will undoubtedly print them and probably get a few copies of it to some of my aching friends. It has really helped me understand the steps towards getting over a thing as hard as a break-up.
- rafael

Friday, Feb 1, 2008 - 5:58:22 PM
What if your the one who broke your own heart because youwere to drunk to be rational and did some thing so stupid it ruind one of the best relationships and freindships [with the same person]you ever had or could ask for.by the way im not a big drinker and have quit drinking since then
- jason