Help, I'm Pregnant

Thursday, Mar 6, 2008 - 6:10:47 PM
it is my opinion that when a young teenage girls pregnant,and they have the child they should give them up for adoption. that is just my opinion though some of you might dissagree.
- danni

Thursday, Mar 6, 2008 - 6:10:25 PM
I DONT THINK BEING A TEEN MOTHER IS A HORRIBLE THING IF YOU WANT TO BE A TEEN MOTHER BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE AN ABORTION BECAUSE IT IS MURDER I DONT CARE YOU LOOK AT IT. I DONT CARE IF YOU ARE RAPED, POOR, OR GOT TO GIVE THE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION. YOU WILL ALWAYS WONDER WHAT THAT CHILD LOOKED LIKE, HOW HE WOULD HAVE GROWN UP, WHAT KIND OF LIFE HE WOULD HAVE LIVED, AND EVEN THE WRONG THINGS HE WOULD HAVE DONE; YOU WOULD WANT TO BE THERE AND LOVE THAT CHILD AND CARE FOR IT AND HOLD IT WHEN IT WAS HURT OR SICK OR EVEN HAPPY. ABORTION SHOULD NEVER EVER EVER BE AN OPTION FOR ANYONE BECAUSE JUST REMMEBER YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THOUGHTS AND WONDERS OF THAT PRECIOUS LITTLE MIRCALE THE REST OF YOUR ENTIRE LIFE: SO IF YOU ARE ABOUT TO BE A MOTHER DONT LET ANYONE MUCH LESS YOURSELF TAKE THAT AS ONE OF YOUR OPTION. CHOSE LIFE LET EVERY FETUS HAVE A LIVING CHANCE AND LOOK TO GOD TO PUT YOU BACK ON THE PATH TO HEAVEN. JUST REMEMBER EVERY BODY MAKES MISTAKES DONT THINK YOUR LIFE IS OVER BECAUSE OF ONE SIN
- *EMY*

Wednesday, Mar 5, 2008 - 10:02:44 PM
hi I got pregnant at 15 but I had a miscarriage not a DAY goes by that I don't wonder what my baby would be like then I got pregnant again when was 16 and had another miscarriage then again in november of last year and I just recently had another miscarriage so it just makes me think that im never going 2 have a baby even though im only 17 which is still very young.
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Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 10:21:17 PM
okay i am 14 yrs old n i listen to your show every sunday as much as i can i <3 your show!! well i was going out with this guy named zach and he forced me to do stuff with him like he held my hands back n started raping me but i never told anyone bout it but only my rlly close friends!But i thought i was pregnant but i took a test n i wasnt..what should i do dawson? im scared of him too he hit me yesterday! write back plz <3Morgan
- Morgan

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 10:20:39 PM
I have a friend who is a freshman and is 5 months pregnant. I think she is really lucky because she has such a support system with her. Her boyfriend (now fiance) is staying with her, her parents are supportive, and so are his! They are so happy. And she is so cute!
- Chaney

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 10:20:24 PM
I love you blog i was in a similar situation i was 14 when i found out i was pregnant. I was happy and my bf was too and about 3 months into our pregnancy he broke up with me. I lost my baby at the 5th month. So it was hard...
- Danielle

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 10:20:08 PM
Hi my brother is and he found out that the girl that he had been dateing for about 3or4years is pregenet and and the baby is due May of 08 and she had broken the relashonship before with then they got back together and that is when she had told him now my hole family is thinking that is not his baby and when that baby is born he will be 18. my older brother is 21years this year,with a wife that can die any day and 2 beautful kids the boy3 and girl2 and he stesses out sometimes. he tells me he is so happy and he is i can see it every weekend that i see him, and he tells me "NOT TO HAVE A CHILDWHEN IM JUST A CHILD MYSELF"and "TO BE READY WHEN I DO" all my life i wanted to be like my brother and i take his advise on every thing FOR THE GIRLS THAT ARE BETWEEN THE AGES 12 AND 18 DONT GIVE IT UP LIKE I DID I HURT FOR A LONG TIME BUT IM NOT PREGNENT AND IM GLAD CUASE IM NOT READY TO BE A MOM
- gabrielle b.

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 7:38:25 PM
my son was born nov. 11 2005 and i was not there.... it was one a fast moving meet date moving in with his mom we where both in our late teens and did not listen to anyone "love" blinds and we did not really know what we where jumping into. one night i came home for lunch and there was a note that asked "is there room for 3 of us here?" and with it was 2 ept test that proved it crawled into bed with her and from that point on i was more happier. i mean y not i had a good job her family looked after us few weeks went by and we saw less and less of each other it got to the point that i called in one night to spend time with her but when she got home it just caused a fight after that she went home for a week y i had a friend come in from out of town but by this time between the fights and lack for seeing her it was pulling on me so i cut his trip short and called her but she never returned my call i went over to her parents house and when she came to the door and her words where "well i was having a good day" i knew it was over.... i asked her what we are going to do about the baby i still wanted to see it (this time we didnt know what it was) she told me that it wasnt mine and that she never wanted to see me agin i felt my hart hit my feel i never felt more alone that night her mom and dad moved her out of the apt we share the same friends so for weeks they told me how she was doing when my son was born ive only seen one picture of him and that was online.... so 3 years later ive had to better myself get a good job and just grow up to be able to fight for my rights 2 my son but a day does not go by that the thought of missing his first words or his first steps do not cross my mind... and what makes me more mad is that all the women that have to hunt down and beg or fight for help with their kids from dead beat dads and she had me that was willing and happy to take care of my son
- jared

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 12:19:15 AM
My mom had a baby at 15, he's now over 30 years old and has been in prison most of my life. He's my best friend, and I haven't seen him in over 6 years. She was the stereotype teen mom, that had the future ex con. She put me on birth control immediately when I was 15. Which is good because the guy I've been with weren't much for using condoms. I feel like I dodged a bullet because boyfriends in the past wanted me pregnant at a young age of 16 and 17. I'm 20 now and engaged to the most amazing man. He doesn't want me pregnant yet and while we don't use condoms, I still take my birth control responsibly. I believe parents are to blame, put your children on birth control and teach them how to use condoms. Sex talk was taboo with my mom. But it shouldn't be that way, I feel if parents stepped in a lil more, girls wouldn't get pregnant as much because they would know what to do. And maybe guys would have more respect.
- Magan

Tuesday, Mar 4, 2008 - 12:03:49 AM
Hey Dawson! I think a woman should only be pregnant after they are married, NOT IN HIGH SCHOOL!!!!!!!! Anyway i think wat u do is just a blessing to those in need. Later =)
- R.H.

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 11:23:01 PM
One of my friends got pregenant at 16 and had her baby at 17. She's 3 years of age now and they're doing great. All you have to do if really be commited... and things will pull through. They did for my friend.
- Hannah

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 10:56:28 PM
I got pregnent when i was 16 years old but i had a misscarge. It was very sad but i belive that god does things for a reason. I belive this was his way of telling me i was not ready for a child. Yes i do get sad from time to time b/c i lost a child but my boyfriend has always, and til this day continues to support me.im 18 now and i see my friends with thier kids and see how hard it is for them to go to school, have a job,and take care of thier kids.And thats when im so thankful that my baby is in gods hands. :)
- Bella

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 9:20:13 PM
I know this one girl that is preagnet and she wish she never got preagnet at all.
- jamie h.

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 9:15:54 PM
I once was preagnet but I lost the baby not saying how. But its was horble when i was preagnet couse I was always sick and I felt like s***. I thought a cople of time that I was preagnet.
- jamie H.

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 9:15:10 PM
Both of my cousins have kids. One is pregnant again and her first child was the hardest, cuz she had so many pregnancy problems. My mom thinks that they get pregnant on purpose, cause both of there kids are nine months apart. And this next baby is goin to fall in the lines of this pattern. My oldest cousin never even finish high school and she wasn't even pregnant, but anyways, hopefully my other cousin won't get pregnant again, cause its not easy.
- alicia

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 9:14:31 PM
I was 18, and he was 21, and we were engaged. We had amazing plans of a wedding and a life together, all hinging on me getting out of college. We were having sex, he was my first, and normally we used protection, but that one night, we didnt have anything with us. He pulled out, and everything was fine, until he decided he wanted seconds. Then a couple weeks later, we broke up, it was over something stupid, but we broke up, and we were both devastated nonetheless. Long story short, a month later I've missed a period and the pregnancy tests popped positive. I called him, and we were both freaking out, we had been in love, and wanted to spend the rest of eternity together, but we also knew that it wasn't working, and there was really no sense in trying to make it, because it would just prove to be more painful in the end, not to mention neither of us believe in staying together for the kids (we've both been hurt my parents who did that). So there I was - 18, full time student in college, no job, no money, and pregnant. Then, I was about 3 months pregnant, my father and I got in an argument, that got rather physical, I ended up losing the baby. You may read this and think that this may have been the best thing that could have happened for me, but a miscarriage is a very emotional thing, I never would have guessed that it would hurt that much, emotionally, to lose something that I never really had. It definately taught me a lesson, but it also taught me that sometimes, what people say is the worst thing that could happend -- isn't exactly the worst thing that could happen.
- Renee

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 12:54:50 AM
I got preagnet at the age of 17 and I was very scared to tell me parents I knew that my dad was going to have the hardest time when I told him and I was afraid and I knee that abortion was out of the picture and how could I give a baby away that was part of me for 9 months?? And moved inside of me and feeling him kick I couldnt do it I knew from the beginning that I was going to beat the stastics graduate and will go to college I finally told my parents I was preagnet when I was 4 months it was hardest for my mom that was a relief because at that time I was living with my dad it took a while for my mom to not be mad anymore and I dont know how I would have made if with out my support yes it was the svarest thing and one of the tpghest times of my life but now that my son is born and I have graduated highschool I wouldn't change it for the world I'm not saying that it is going to be easy but I know that no matter what I will fight through the thick and thin and I will make it me and my son together I will be starting college in June and I am happy that I am on the right track to making somthibg for my self I will be the first person in my family to go to college and I can't wait I know its going to be hard and I know that hopefully I can find the strentgh to continue and not give up I'm afraid if the secdile between work and school gets out of hand I hope I will have the courage to not quit
- Lynn

Monday, Mar 3, 2008 - 12:46:36 AM
Dawson, I feel like you try to make younger women feel guilty simply because they had premarital sex and got pregnant. Yes according to you they should wait until they are married and I agree, however not everyone was brought up in a christian enviorment and as young people we often make mistakes. I am a young mother. I'm 19 years old and have a beautiful 4 month old daughter. Her father and I are not married so do we live a life in sin?? I have lucked out he is probably the best man that I could have had a child by. He provides for all of us.it was not always like that. Through my pregnancy he got scared and would come around for a little bit and then he would disappear.Things changed once she was born, but I was compeletly prepaired to do it by myself. I had taken out student loans to help pay for my college and was working full time b/c i knew in my heart that I was the only one that could take care of my little girl like she deserved. We know live together and are both working full time and go to school. I just wish that you would give some recognition to the sucess stories. Not necessarily condone premarital sex but to let the young pregnant women out there know that there is hope. If they are willing to compeletly sacrifice everything for the sake of there child and not be a "welfare" case then it is possible. There are sources out there! I know that alot of these girls call in wanting pitty and they jut want to be loved. I was that girl. But thank God i had a mother that encourged me to better myself, and helped me to see that if he wasnt coming back that i could do it. These young girls are already extremely hormonal and probably depressed so instead of putting them down and being bruitally honest by saying "nope it doesnt sound like he wants to be around" maybe taking into consideration that being honest can only be harsh when used in a harsh way. Maybe offering suggestions and encouragement would help. I havent heard every case so I am not judging your antics, I just heard a case where the girl was 17 and almost homeless. It kinda felt like u told her to just stop being lazy and get up and do something about it...I am a fan of your show and I hope that you do not find this offensive. thanks
- Kelli

Sunday, Mar 2, 2008 - 10:47:41 PM
Well, I have had a very interesting lifestyle till I found my husband. I was 18 when I first found out I was pregnant. I had a boyfriend that was not the best choice but I told my parents and my grandmother suggested I get an abortion. I did and ended up pregnant again a few months later. It is very true when that moment arises and you dont really care what the stakes are until reality hits. I ended up having my first son back in 02 which made me 20yrs old. I stayed a single mother for quite some time. The paternal father was around but i was the one working most of the time. I was able to get myself back into college for a while and support the baby and I. THank GOD for parents and family...they helped out sooo much. I ended up pregnant again and had my second son last nov. Im married now but living as a single mother is a hard job. My advice for any guy or girl. Please be careful of what you are doing. Because of my carelessness I wasnt able to take advantage of my drinking years, college dorm life, but honestly I think that was the plan. If you want to be active, health departments will be more than happy to give you birth control than have another baby brought into the world struggling. If the enexpected arises there are places that help and people are willing to help....you just have to ask. So please wait..parenting by yourself is a hard hard job and a lot of sacrifices go into raising a baby.
- Sara

Sunday, Mar 2, 2008 - 10:45:42 PM
I feel the pain. my x girlfriend says she's 5 weeks. so yeah. life sucks sometimes
- tony

Sunday, Mar 2, 2008 - 9:44:59 PM
I love your show just wanted to say.. I have never been pregnant. I however am a nanny. and every day after school i pick the kid up and take her home. she has a brother, who also has a nanny for him. the children seem to be used to the " never seeing mommy and daddy everyday life." They are used to me being the mommy figure and the other nanny how is a guy being the daddy figure. However, both the other nanny and myself are only 17. We have talked about life and having kids, but then we remember we already have two. Although we do not have to experience how to pay for everything, the everyday work that comes along with the job is hard! School is difficult because not only are we balancing our school work, but also the children's. I look at my life and think i am doing the right thing,i am helping others. But when do i get time for myself? Once you have a full time life involving a child everything changes. You realize that your life is pretty much on a hult, until you get done with the children. From my experience with the other nanny we have decided to wait for children. We already have to amazing children to watch everyday. If u are personally thinking of having a child, i would rethink. Something i havent told you yet, is our children are adhd. they have a hard time listening. And when they are with their parents the hear alot of unusal vocabulary for little children to hear. So when they get upset or mad, they will use words that are hard to take in - when they are used against you. A little fyi for all teens out there either pregnant or wanting to be.. how are you going to answer the question "where is daddy?" or visa versa. Not trying to take it out on the guys. But I am personally a girl who almost all of my friends are guys. And what most of them think is ... Dang shes freakin hot I can do her! And if for some reason I get her pregnant there is always abortion. Killing is plan and simple. It is wrong. Don't take an inocent person's life. And girls... your saying well i wont have abortions. Well then good luck trying to raise a baby on your own. Because most guys will leave you if you wont listen. This is only because he himself is only a teenager and doesn't want to give up his nights to raise a baby. In the closing, think before you do. If you wait until marriage when you are in love and both you and your spouse want a child you will be better off. Hope this helped!
- Melissa

Sunday, Mar 2, 2008 - 4:55:25 PM
hey! well i love listening to ur show. its helped me with a lot of my problems. onto pregnacy.. my sister got pregnant when she was 19 by the guy she so called, "loved" My sister had no idea what to do. She hasnt seen her family in 8 months before she got pregnant. She had no where to go. My sister soon got enough guts to come clean to her parents, and my mom and dad accepted her. Sure they were mad, but they got over it. i just liked to share that even though you might think that you parents will hate you, just come clean, who knows what will happen?
- Kirby

Saturday, Mar 1, 2008 - 11:30:21 PM
Hi I'm 17 and i love your show!! I just wanted to say....I haven't personaly ever been pregnant but for a long time i felt really lonely i had a boyfriend who wasn't really giving me the love ant attention that i needed and my faily felt so far away, i wasn't doing well in school and i just wanted someone to love and care for, thats when my whole thing started, i would have done anything to get pregnant i thought that having a baby would fill the void that i was feeling...thankfully my boyfriend didn't ever have sex with me and i was really shy so i never really talked to any other guys. For the longest time tho i wanted to be pregnant after i started to get my life back together i for some reason still wanted to get pregnant. I'm not really sure why i wanted a baby so much cuz i have wonderful boyfriend, a great family life and but it wasn't till about a month ago that I finally realized that I DIDN'T want to be pregnat. because i for about a month thought i was pregnant. Now i feel like i can finally see clearly.
- Racheal Marie

Saturday, Mar 1, 2008 - 11:26:30 PM
why would anyone need to have a baby at a young age when u can have a full life ahead of u collage etc....then collage cuz after the baby's born u most likely wont go and wen u get to a point were ur all alone living in an apartment w/ ur baby struggling to keep a babysitter and working a number of jobs to suport that baby,wen u could have went to college got married then had the baby and u wont be strugling anymore!
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Saturday, Mar 1, 2008 - 11:25:39 PM
I think that is sad that the dad left her at 2 months, but at least she has a caring family, and caring friends to help support her. I also think it is great that she wants to be an example of the advice she gives to other girls who are in the same kind of situation: I just hope that anyone else in my position would do everything in their power to finish school and continue school, for the sake of their child. It can be done and i hope that I can be an example of that.
- Marissa

Saturday, Mar 1, 2008 - 11:24:48 PM
Okay. I do understand the problems that come along with an unplanned pregnancy and also those which come with a pre-marital pregnancy. The people are not really ready. You have to take things into consideration. Before you decide to have sex with anyone, you have to think a few things through. Ask yourself these questions:: 1) Is the entire reason I am with this person for the sex? 2) Do I want to take the risk of becoming pregnant? You need to know that just because it may be your first time does not mean that you cannot get pregnant. Many teens and young adults get pregnant the first time, and come to see that the sex was not worth it at all. I have a friend whose name I will keep to myself. She had a boyfriend and they dated for a long time. On night after a football game they went back to his house. About a week later, she came to me in tears. She was pregnant. She decided to get an abortion, and I did not talk to her for a while after that. ( I am not exactly "Pro-Choice" ) She came back to me about 3 months later. She was pregnant again.. This time she decided to keep it. But once she made this decision, her boyfriend left her. Realize the risk does exist, but if you do become pregnant, there are people who do care and will provide at the least moral support. Myself included.
- Ashlyn

Saturday, Mar 1, 2008 - 11:23:26 PM
My unmaried sister who lives about 800 miles away was talking to my parents on the phone one night and when I, not knowing this, picked up the phone to make a call, I heard her tell my parents that she was pregnant. She and her boyfriend decided to get married and keep and raise the baby. They are still together and have just had a second child, but as a result a rift grew between my mom and her. My mother is very emotional and couldn't even mention my sister for the longest time. Going to the wedding was completely out, because it would have been an emotional train wreck for my mom. My sister and brother-in-law are making it, and my mom seems to have mostly recovered and is talking to my sister again, but there is still some hurt inside me. I've forgiven my sister; I did so when she first told me a long time ago, but I still feel a little bitterness, because her decision caused me to miss her wedding (she's my only sibling), but also to miss seeing my niece and nephew. She used to come down for Christmas, but hasn't recently. I don't think it's the children holding her back, I'm sure it's my mom, and not knowing if she would be able to handle seeing my sister with her husband and children. The hardest part is that I don't know when I'll ever see her again, especially because of the physical distance (again, 800+ miles) between us, and if I do, the kids will have missed out on seeing their uncle for probably several years of their lives. Plus, tensions at home escalated because of my mom's emotional state, which made things incredibly hard on my dad, my grandmother, and me. At least, through all of this, there is hope. I can be thankful to God that my sister's husband is a Christian man who shouldered his responsibility as a father and not a jerk who ran off at the first sign of trouble. I can also be thankful that these events did not completely isolate my mother from my sister, and that the rift between them has begun to heal a little. I'm sure it will take time before they can see each other again, but hopefully with a little help from our Heavenly Father, if He chooses to provide it, it won't be quite as long as it could be.
- Jonathan

Friday, Feb 29, 2008 - 6:24:29 PM
im not pregnant but i have known ppl that were and now there this girl that is 15 and pregnant with her 2nd child but she has to get an abortion with this one because its a water baby wich is a baby that has a deformaty and the 1st kid her mom takes care of and she lost her boyfriend to the 1st baby because he didnt want a kid and the only reason her current boyfriend is staying with her is cuz she is getting the abortion so its not good to be pregnant at such a young age but i also know a gurl that is pregnant from being raped and shes to far along to get an abortion so its not always the gurls fualt cuz if u were willing then it is ur fualt but if not then u can and need to tell some if u havent
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Friday, Feb 29, 2008 - 6:23:50 PM
this one girl i know she was like a big sister to me she was 17 and lived with me and mi family for 5 years but mi parents were kina stopid and beings she was 17 at the time they thought it was time to give her an answer on whether or not her bf could move in they said yes and she got pregnant and everyone started arguing and well they got kicked out and i felt really bad because everytime i saw her w/ her baby i started crying because she never wants to talk to me or anything and the baby was born on mi birthday and i saw her after she was born and that was the last time i really saw her..so getting pregnant might mess up your family bu sometimes they stick together through times like these but you should be grateful to have a family that cares about you!!!! ~anounomous~
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Friday, Feb 29, 2008 - 6:22:52 PM
I think it is no big deal. MY cousin got his girlfriend pregnant and i have thought about myself and i want a baby actully and i know it takes alot of money to have a baby i know for a fact cause my cousin and my aunt. my thougt is if you want baby fine if you don't give it up for adoption and don't have a abortion whatever you do!!!
- Rochell