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What To Do If You're Pregnant
Finding out you are pregnant or your girlfriend is pregnant could easily be one of the most shocking and devastating moments of your life. At first, you don’t believe it. Surely there has been a mistake somehow. But after a visit to the doctor, there’s no kidding yourself. The doctor’s tests don’t lie. You are pregnant. There's no getting around it. Now what do you do? You feel alone, confused, afraid, a thousand thoughts swirling around in your mind. You’re feeling more emotions than you’ve ever felt before all at the same time. Then the questions start: Who should I tell? Will my boyfriend stay with me? What will my parents say? Will they kick me out of the house? What will my friends say? Where am I going to get the money to take care of the baby? What about adoption or even abortion? It’s overwhelming. What should you do? Sometimes you almost need a guide to help you walk through your experience. Hopefully this blog will be that guide. I want to give you some suggestions on what to do and not to do when you find out you’re pregnant and don't know what to do. So here we go…
Suggestion #1: Never make a decision based on impulse, fear, or shock.
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Remember, we usually don’t make good decisions when we fact out of fear, confusion, and shock. | The first thing that comes to your mind when you are pregnant out of wedlock is, “What shall I do?” It seems like a thousand questions need answered. The first thing you should do is nothing. You have several months to figure out what you are going to do with the baby. Calm yourself as best you can and then pray. Ask God to keep you calm and to give you wisdom in what to do next. Remember, we usually don’t make good decisions when we act out of fear, confusion, and shock. You may have heard someone say when having a difficult decision to make, “Let me sleep on it.” They’re want to calm down so the wisdom part of their brain can kick in. Then they won’t do something impulsive they’ll regret later. Remind yourself that hundreds of thousands of people have gone through what you’re going through and somehow in someway most of them made it and you will too. Remind yourself the decisions you will be making affect not only you, but those closest to you and especially the baby. I tell the teenagers and young adults who call me and are pregnant to remember to always do what’s best for the baby. So calm down and take a deep breath. Things will turn out okay.
Suggestion #2: Tell those closest to you about your pregnancy.
 Now it is time to tell those closest to you that you are in fact pregnant or your girlfriend is pregnant. This is a very difficult thing to do because you cannot predict how people will respond to the news. So start with someone you trust the most. Maybe your best friend or a relative you can trust. The most difficult people to tell are often your parents. They are the ones outside of you who are most affected by your pregnancy. People often ask me, “What can I say to my parents? How do I tell them I’m pregnant?” I wish I could give you an easy, magical answer, but there isn't one. I will say the sooner you tell them the better. Not to tell them is to keep a secret and no one likes to be left in the dark. Plus, not telling them only adds stress to you and he baby. I would sit down with them and tell them how much you love them and thank them for their help over the years. Then tell them you really need their support right now. Then go ahead and explain to them what has happened. Ask for their forgiveness and wait for their response. Their first response will not always be the way they will think about your situation later. They need time to process this news. Sometimes, it’s better to have another adult with you when you tell them. This will help them stay more in emotional control until they can get a hold of themselves. Your parents (or parent) may say some crazy things when you tell them what has happened. Just remember, they probably don’t believe what they are saying. They are just reacting. Hopefully, your parents come along and get behind you. After all, they are your parents. They have made their fair share of mistakes too.
Suggestion #3: Have a realistic picture of your boyfriend/girlfriend.
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The sooner you can get past the hope he will stay with you and support you, the sooner you can get on with the reality of what really is. | The next big question is, "What will my boyfriend do?" I just want to prepare you for the worst. I always say, "Prepare for the worst, you can always find a place for the best." Most girls who get pregnant are still living in the “la-la” land when they think about their boyfriend. Most are convinced their boyfriend will stand by them no matter what. At the risk of sounding cold and cynical, most guys do not want the hassle of having a baby in their life at that time. I'm not trying to beat up guys. After all, I'm one too. But most guys who get a girl pregnant out of wedlock still want to play. Sadly, most of them will cut and run. I only tell you this so you can prepare yourself for the worst. The sooner you can get past the hope he will stay with you and support you, the sooner you can get on with the reality of what really is. I received a comment from Meagan that is extremely honest and helpful about what happened in her life. “I was 17 when I got pregnant…Unfortunately my journey has been an exceptionally tough one. My daughter’s father broke up with me when I was 2 months pregnant and I have had no support from him at all. But I am very lucky to have a very supportive family and supportive friends. It has been a struggle and a lot of changes have had to be made for her, but it has all been worth it. I have had to put off college and I barely graduated high school…It can be done and I hope that I can be an example of that...” (Meagan) Meagan, like many others, has had a tough go since she became pregnant. But she is making it, and you can too.
These are just a few of the suggestions you can go by when you find out you are pregnant. Next week, I will finish the rest of the suggestions. Remember, I write these things not to scold or judge you. I just want to help you face life, because life isn’t easy and we need all the truth we can get. Please comment on the following questions:
Have you ever been pregnant? What did you do? What steps did you take to make your final decision of what you would do with the baby?
See you next week.
Saturday, Mar 22, 2008 - 2:39:49 PM
I think for teenagers to be pregnant is one of the craziest ideas they could have. Why waste those years or going out and partying, meeting all these people, and having the "life" when your at this younger age? At my school everywhere I turn there is a girl that is pregnant even at a young age of 14, and it seems hopeless. These are our FUN years. Nothing against babies i'd love to be a mom one day, anytime soon? I don't think so. I wanna have fun, and not stress or worry about what people think of me or an oncoming baby. If its the sex people like, then use protection to the extreme. Babies doesn't seem to be a top ten priority for a teenager, but yet again, maybe I'm wrong?
- Julie
Saturday, Mar 22, 2008 - 1:33:09 PM
I'm pregnant now. I've been maied for 8 years and it's been great being pregnant. We were both nervous at first but I think that's normal cause that's when 1,000,000 questions start running through your mind. We are keeping our baby but for those that can't for whatever reason I would lean towards adoption.
- shorty ~ from the DMLive myspace
Saturday, Mar 22, 2008 - 12:07:10 PM
I allways wanned to be preganat but then i said know and i tink dats da rite choiyce 4 me. thanks dawziie.
- Mistah P
Saturday, Mar 22, 2008 - 1:48:11 AM
yes i have been pregnant before.
i got pregnant when i was 15 and had my daughter when i was 16.
i still have her.
she will be 2 on June 8th, 2008!!!
i am curently pregnant...again.
i know that i wont be able to suport me and my daughter and this baby so i have decided on an open adoption.
i know a married cupple that are friends of my moms family.
they cant have children so im am happy to help them out.
they will be adopting my baby.
they live near me so i will see the baby when ever i want.
the thing that made me choose and open adoption was that i am ABSOLUTELY against abortion ((unless the baby has no brain and needs to be aborted or something along those lines)). since i new i wont be able to take care of it the way it should be taken care of i thought about an adoption, but not just any adoption. the reason i choose and open adoption is becuz i think its wrong for the child to grow up and find out that it was adopted and not know who the parents are. they would have soo many questions like 'why did you do it?" and so on. i couldnt handle letting the child go thought that.
i hope this helps you.
--Samantha (A.K.A. Spamerz)
- {♥Spamerz♥} ~ from the DMLive myspace
Thursday, Mar 20, 2008 - 11:10:44 PM
hey im ryan 17 years old i attend a school in savannah Georgia every were you turn you see a girl that is prego its kinda sad really most of them are in there early 16 17 year old year if that made any sence lol anyway my opion is that teens should hjave sex intill there grown and moved out of mommy and daddys house why should mommy and daddy take care of your children i think it should be a law here in savannah if you have sex be4 18 you shold be in mega trobble its not fair for your parents to have to wach your kids while your off with your friends or at school guys think be4 you do it its really not worth it and im not saying it to be rude or crude im just telling you i know alot of ppl at my high school who drop out cuz they have to staty home with there kids
- Ryan
Thursday, Mar 20, 2008 - 6:08:05 PM
you have to give the best advice out of anyone ive ever talked to..
your amazing..
thank you..
- Josie
Thursday, Mar 20, 2008 - 6:07:52 PM
I was pregnant at the beginning of this year. My boyfriend and I were so excited, it was the first time for either of us. We have only been together for a little under a year. I understand that most of the people who respond to your blog are younger than I am (23), but, becoming pregnant is a blessing, I'm all for a woman's right to choose, but, I personally would never have an abortion. At 9 weeks and about 2 days, I started having abdominal pains, my baby died. All of the physical and especially, emotional pain I've gone through in the last 3 1/2 weeks has been the worst pain I've ever felt. So, for all the younger girls out there who are going through the "finding out stage" and are scared and unsure, I just ask you to take a second and realize how much of a blessing has been given to you. Mine, as well as thousands of other womens chance to be a mother was taken away, without us having any kind of say in the matter. Do what is right for you, don't be pressured by your friends, family, boyfriend, or society says, do what is right for you, its your life, and your baby's.
- Ashley
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 11:27:11 PM
My son will be 2 years old April Fools Day '08. Wow how 2 years have gone by. I am 21 now since last September. My fiance and I had been together since I was about 16. I was scared and oddly excited at the same time when I found out I was "preggo".
My family history is by far to long to list here, but I basically lived on my own since I was 17. Working 2 jobs in the summer and School in the fall. It was hard, but easier than the other option of the place I called "home" but never felt like I had a real home. Of course when your partner finds out and it's unplanned, the news can be hard. He wanted abortion first, I couldn't do it, he then suggested adoption. I couldn't do that. I'd do abortion before adoption... I knew that I could be a GREAT mom. I AM a great mom.
I stuck through it knowing that if I put all my efforts into this I'd come out okay. If I put this life I'm baring, infront of mine I will succeed.
Well needless to say, we are great. I haven't listed near a quarter of the trials and hell I went through to get where I am.
I'm working on my career, fulltime mother (my son isn't even in daycare) , full time student, and a partime worker. His father and I are engaged now after a near 5 years.
- Sasha ~ from the DMLive myspace blog
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 2:03:34 AM
WOW! someone had a good boyfriend to help and support them. Guess what, you got lucky, not everyone gets that. I don't see a problem with being unwed and pregnant if the couple or woman is ready (not that its anyones business but my fiance and I recently decided to start trying to get pregnant and we aren't married). My problem is when people aren't ready and the situation could easily be avoided. Situations are even worse when it is a second and even third child for a teen/young UNREADY woman. Congratulations to you Chanti for furthering your education and providing for your family. However, there are many other young women out there that don't get that chance for some reason or another. With all the birth control options available there is just no reason for so many unwanted pregnancies. Also, I am glad to hear that you had a mother and a FATHER. DO you know what its gonna be like for these children from unwanted pregnancies that do not have a father involved in thier lifes and what emotions they will have from that. Fortuntely I had other men in my life that were there for me but I also have that void that will never be filled. So you need to call or go see your daddy and let him know how thankful you are for him because not everyone has that. Finally, do you know how many times I have to hear from friends about how they wish they would've waited to have children till they were a little bit older and ready(even though they love their children and couldn't imagine life without them). They didn't get to enjoy our last years in high school, going to college, and "partying". They were at home with their babies or could only go out when they had a sitter. So therefore that is why I am urging young people, married or not, to get educated about birth control. That is why its called planned parenthood. Live your "young" life, better yourself, and then enjoy being a parent. To Chanti, I am sorry that you think I am materialistic. I just want to be able to support my children so they dont have to work full time from the time they are 15 to have a car, go to college, and do some of the things they want to do. It has nothing to do with material items.
- Brandi
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 2:01:33 AM
1st I'd like to say that everyone's situation is different and not everyone has the drive to get up and do something. People handle things differently so I see no reason for Critisizm or Pointing Fingers.
I met a guy. Stayed with him for 8 years. We decided to get married. 2 months later I found out I was pregnant. Throughout the whole 8 years I was physically and mentally abused by a man I loved with my whole heart and soul.
November 1st 2006 was the 1st day to the rest of my life. I woke up that day. I called my father, I asked if I could come home.. I was going to have a baby and I did not want to bring a child in the middle of an abusive relationship. They agreed. I went home.. which is a HUGE step for any married 21 year old, with a high school diploma and a full time job and your OWN HOME. As much as I wanted too stay, I knew I had to go.. if he could abuse me, he could abuse our baby. It was that simple.
After moving home, I didnt just sit around and do NOTHING. I got up and signed up for 3 Classes. One for Certified Nursing Assistant, CPR and Phlebotomy. I Successfully graduated all 3 before giving birth to a Beautiful Baby Boy.. it wasn't easy and I was tired all the time. But things are perfect right now. My life couldnt be better. I am a single mother to the most beautiful boy in the world. Life is hard, but God gives you gifts to HELP YOU. He doesnt give you them so you can throw them away, or just get rid of them. If you don't want the responsibility, then don't have sex. A child will change your whole life. It is your life and you can make the best of it or you can put all of your responsibilities on someone else. But one day, you'll have to eventually step up to the plate and become and adult. You want to do adult things, then you should pay for them like any real adult would. My son saved my life! I do believe that if I were to have never become pregnant, I'd be dead. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. You're LIFE is going to be what you make it... no one else is going to clean up your messes for you.. remember that...
- Nichole
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:57:59 AM
if you just found out your pregnet then you have to make the desion to keep it or not..but one thing i have to say..i am sixteen and i have had a friend at the age of fourteen get pregnet, i told her it is up to you to keep it but i dont think you are ready cause at that time she was using drugs. but to this day i am very happy she mad that choose you doesn;t do drugs no more and does great in school..i just want to tell you if you think you can deal with it then keep it if you dont pleased dont give up for addopion..
loves always...
LAINI
- laini
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:57:27 AM
i have never been pregnant and i don't plan on it.
some people think that if you get pregnant then it is your fault but that is not allways true,
i feel sorry for anyone who gets pregnant unintitinately, but hopefully it will help you realize that you must be more carefully because now a days,there are more greater risk then just getting pregnant.
- yasmihng
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:57:11 AM
Well i honestly have never been pregnant but i do have friends that are. they deal with it very well i think in a healthy manner. but i still worry about then though :o(
- Christine J.
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:56:12 AM
well it depends on the situation, if the person is in a committed relationship or marriage, then it's fine, however, what i do not agree with are these teenage mothers who think it's so great to have themselves as many babies as they want and get all this free money from the government to take care of 5, 6, 7 or more children by different fathers. i however made the smart choice and waited until i was 33 years old before i had my 1st and only child and she's a wonderful 4 year old little girl as of tomorrow 03-19-2004.
- maureen
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:55:32 AM
Nice question Dawson!!!! Make sure you tell someone you really care about and if that guy leaves you, forget about it. I personally am not a big believer in abortions, but there is the time and place for it. If a person is considering abortions, make sure it is what you really want to do. I think people who are raped, for example have every right to get an abortion, but in my opinion if you made a bad decision, like got drunk, had sex, and had a kid, you should pay for your consequence. You affect more people than just yourself. If you know someone who is in this situation, be supportive and help them through this hard time.
- Kelsey
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:52:56 AM
i have never been pregnant but it seems like everybody around me is pregnant. its so sad too because they are all young and still in high school. i think the best thing to do if you aren't ready to raise that child is to give it up for adoption. none of my friends are doing that and partly it is because they had parents that abandoned them when they were young so they don't want to do that to their baby. but all i have to say is try and put the baby first. look at your situation and think about whether you have the resources you need to raise a healthy baby. is the father still in the picture? is there a source for money? do you have a home to raise it in? this is the time to not be selfish and to put the baby first and make sure the baby has all it needs. its very tough but in the end it will be better for the parents and the baby.
- Megan
Wednesday, Mar 19, 2008 - 1:52:20 AM
once i thought i was pregnant ...n the guy was way holder....im 13 n hes 19..but it turned out ok in the end i dont no wat i wouldve done if i was...it was scary..but if you really are make sure everything with the father is figured out..even if your not sure if you r or not..like if he'll be their for the child,if he'll pay to support em,n upserb him n see if hes even good wit kids..i may be young but i no everything their is to kno bout being down in a hole,n just going down the VERY VERY VERY wrong road..
- Miranda
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 9:35:57 PM
I believe children are meant to be, I had my daughter at 18 and I have raised her by myself while going to college and working. She has helped me through a lot and helped me from going down the wrong road. So remember that children are meant to be, and life happens for a reason. There are no mistake only miracles.
- Cherika R.
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 9:33:40 PM
I found out i was pregnant april 2005, and May 2005 i was beat up by my boyfriend's sister because I got pregnant and she didnt like the fact that i was pregnant and she tried talking my boyfriend into making me have abortion but now my daughter is 2 years old and i wont go around my boyfriends family because my boyfriends sister the girl who hit me now because i cant trust that girl around me or my daughter and his sister is always at family advents and etc and me and my daughter wont go because that girl is always gonna be there.. people do you think that this is wrong? and what should i do about going around his family and not that girl because she is psyhco...email me
- Nicole
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 8:17:35 PM
i had baby last year and the dad of the baby and i were together for 4 years before i had her and he stayed with me through the whole time....she died a couple of months ago but enough about that.. my friends and family were by my side all of the way..and they are still there for me.. but what ever you do, do not get an abortion. if you don't want to keep the baby put up for adoption there is also open adoption you can do... i say if you want to keep the baby make sure that the dad of it will stay with you because like everyonr says not all menwant to be dads just think about your decision first..
- Amber
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 8:15:57 PM
My #1 advice is adoption not abortion.
- Devie
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 8:15:51 PM
AGREED BOUT THE ABORTION!
DONT DO IT!
- rissa
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 8:12:08 PM
abortion is wrong! first of all if you feel that you are responsible enough to have sex than you are responsible enough to take care of a baby if you dont feel like you are than let someone who is take care of it but dont kill it thats wrong and not fair!
- **katie**
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 8:11:29 PM
Honestly,I don't see the problem with being unwed and pregnant.Being a teenager in school and pregnant is entirely different.
I was 18 and had graduated high school when I found out I was pregnant with my then-bf's child.He and I had been together for 4 years at the time and were living together.We both worked full time and I was a freshmen in college. Unfortunately,we had also had a lot of problems before I became pregnant. We did end up trying to work things out, forgiving each other for past mistakes, etc.. and we moved into his mother's house because our other room mates in the apartment we lived in had moved out.When our son was born he and I moved into a house his mother owned and wanted to rent to us, and we really seemed to have our selves together as 19 year old parents to a newborn boy.Then he went back to his "old" ways, I.E. late nights with friends nearly everynight, and suspected cheating. Some girls are stupid and would have stayed with him.I told him once and only once that he needed to shape up and be a father or I was leaving him. He thought I was joking and I wish I could have seen the shock on his face when he came home after a late night galavant and I was not there.
It's been 3 years, and we have both since moved on.We get along on a friendship level and he agreed to pay child support and pick up our son from my house every Sunday while I pick him up from his father's house every Tuesday.
When our son was 10 months old,I met the man I am now married to. He and I knew we wanted to add to our family, and I see nothing wrong with being classified as Young Parents.I became pregnant with my & my husband's son 4 months before our wedding,and have no shame.
Although I am just 23 years old,I have a full time career in a hospital since completing an online AS degree. We are in the process of looking for a house to buy. We have plenty of love and support around us. Most importantly, BOTH of my children are healthy, happy, and well taken care of.
For girls who are going through pregnancy or child-rearing alone, do what you feel is right. No one can tell you what to do, and even advice my not be the best because these are just people that you have never met and know nothing about you.
And finally, to Brandi, who called having children at a young age selfish because she did not get to have the same things other kids her age had.. Sounds to me like pure jealousy. Being poor is not an automatic disqualification to be a parent. I was raised in a "poor" household, and was deprived of many of the same things as you complained about, but my mother and father loved me. I am not a millionaire, and I am not poor, and I love my kids. I'm sure your mother loved you even though you were only interested in the material things and being like everyone else. "You have children when there is nothing else to do"? What??? Making babies is just supposed to be a pasttime when you are bored? Wow...
- Chanti
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 3:49:35 AM
if your pregnant and your boyfriend/husband tells you to have an abortion DON'T DO IT!!!!! thats murder! and if he tells you to have the abortion i would forget him! abortions are wrong because that little person inside you is a creation of god every person deserves a chance dont steal that chance from your baby! and no matter what there is some one who loves you and will care for you and im sure that there will be a good man to take care of you and your baby! Jesus loves you!!!
- keligh
Tuesday, Mar 18, 2008 - 3:44:23 AM
Hey there Dawson..saw the heading of your blog and i felt that i had something to say and add to the stories and experiences. I found out i was pregnant in July 2007...it shouldnt have happened, but it did..i wasnt at all sure as to what i was going to do about it..i had no means to care for another child at the time and still dont right now..i have a 2 1/2yr old and i do everything that i can for him. Back to the subject at hand--i had no means to support another child. I ran through every option available. I even stooped so low to go against everything that i believed in and consider abortion. that wouldve been the worst mistake of my life. I even went out with some friends knowing that i was pregnant and went drinking with them for a night. A couple months later, the day before Thanksgiving, i wound up in the hospital in ER because i had passed out in my friends car. They oredered up an ultrasound and much to my surprise and my sisters, the ultrasound tech let us know that i was pregnant with twins. TWINS! needless to say i was in extreme shock and first words out of my mouth were, "are you f***ing kidding me" pardon the language..after that though, i sat there in silence. didnt say a word to anybody. just had a blank stare. maybe it was that day when i truly realized what was going on..i thought about everything..so many thoughts were running through my head..and i remembered what i tell my sister all the time..everything happens for a reason, logical or not. ive always said that God couldnt and wouldnt give me anything He didnt think i could handle..and thats the truth in more ways than one..i guess you could say i blessed a family with twin boys the day before thanksgiving..i made the decision to have my babies adopted because that was the best AND ONLY option..the babies were born just march 4th, 2008. i named them Riley Nicholas & Tyler Breaden, both born amazingly healthy, even after all the stupid crap that i did, they were still healthy. they are perfect. the family even kept 2 of their given names, renaming them- Ryan Nicholas & Tyler Joseph. that made me happy to an extent. anyhow, thats my story. a story which still has many chapters to be written.
I even found a song that hits home on the adoption..
From Gods Arms to My Arms to Yours by Michael McLean
It's perfect. God Bless. Kristyn
- Kristyn
Monday, Mar 17, 2008 - 7:12:09 PM
I was 15 when I started having sex. I got pregnant on our third time. I carried the baby for two months before I lost it. It was one of the hardest things I could go through. I'm 17 now, and I'm still depressed over the miscariage.
- Audra
Monday, Mar 17, 2008 - 7:08:12 PM
if you get pregnet it is best that you tell the father of the baby and if you are under 18 you need to tell your mom or dad so that they can help you and find what to do i say this to help teens trust me because i am a teen my self i am 14 gpwing to be 15
- rebecca
Monday, Mar 17, 2008 - 2:22:24 AM
Okay so we have heard the young pregnant persons side of the story but what about the babies side of the story. Being born to a young unwed mother I can relate. How do you explain to a child when they can't have or do the same things that other children their age are doing. For example, not getting to do gymnastics, cheerleading, playing sports,having nice clothes, etc. because mom doesn't have the money. That is selfish and irresponsible. The health department hands out birth control everyday. Asking for birth control (fyi: health departments have a confidentiality code) is no harder than having to tell your parents you are pregnant. Also, take these comments for example, they show how uneducated these young people are and they need to be getting the education they need to help support and raise a child before they start having children. You can have children when there is nothing else to do, and you have lived a little and done the things you want to do. I have taken responsibilty into my own hands to avoid pregnancy to be able to give my future children all the things I didn't get to have or do. I don't think abortion is the best choice because there are many other choices (also multiple abortions can lead to future problems when a woman is ready to get pregnant). Young adults need to be educated on these choices so they can start making more educated, unselfish, responsible choices.
- Brandi
Sunday, Mar 16, 2008 - 10:48:28 PM
My husband, Bobby and I were listening to your show for the first time tonight and while we are older than your target audience we were touched by the callers and what you do on your show. We are in our early and mid 30's. We were escpecially touched by the story of the 2 sisters that called in and said that they were 13 and 16 and both pregnant. We want to first send blessings to them and their families. We have friends of the family that have experienced their children that have become pregnant in their teenage years. It was a struggle for the parents and grandparents both but with support and love they managed and are now a very happy and healthy family. In closing we are wanting to expand our family through adoption. We have an 8 year old daughter and would love to have another child or children in our family and would love to give a child or children a loving home. We could probably have another child without adopting but we had lots of complications with the pregnancy. We have had Foster to Adopt classes provided by the Department of Human Services and Home Assessments. We would like to extend to any of your callers that may be exploring or considering the option of placing their children for adoption that we would be interested in visiting with them. We hope that all of your callers would consider plaing their children for adoption instead of terminating the pregnancy. Thanks for your time and we will continue to listen to your show and pray for your callers and their families.
The Ingle Family
- Delia Ingle
Sunday, Mar 16, 2008 - 9:56:39 PM
hi there I ended up pregnant when I was 18 years old I am 32 now but I remember How scared i was and though i had to marry the father of my baby my dad kept telling me i did not need to marry him just because i was pregnant
well we did go ahead and get married but because we were so young we were not mature yet And had lots of issues And then an my daughters first bday he left me he cheated on me I want to tell teenagers to wait till your married I made the mistake and yes it hurt bad I love my daughter yes but now she is hurting to because not all the time do teenage couples stay together after having a baby out of wedlock
- Stephanie
Sunday, Mar 16, 2008 - 9:33:28 PM
yes i have been pregnant before but i lost it 2 years ago and i hid it from my dad i was pregnant for too months to i just thought i would say something
- ♥~ally~* from the DMLive myspace blog
Sunday, Mar 16, 2008 - 4:29:47 PM
Dawson,
Hi! Im Leona , Im 21 with 3 lovely boys age 3goon to 4 in april, 19mo going to 2 in aug and 5 mo going to 1 in sept.
my first experience was in high school my last yr in school I found out i was pregnant when I was 17 I was so scarred to tell my mom because i was afraid to upset her because what happen to her when she was young my moms mom made her get an abortion and it destroyed my moms heart. When i decided to tell my mom she was upset not for the fact that i was but because i had lied to her weeks before about not having sex with my boyfriend at the time . She had told me that she wont make my decsion about what to do it was now up too me what to do ,my responsibility and she will never force me to anything. At that moment I had decided that since i was responsible enough to carry on a relationship that had to deal with sex that i was responsible to take care of my problem I decided to keep my baby , for my reasons of this I didnt beleive a child shouldnt have a life , and I didnt want another family taking care of my baby when he was my responsibility . I had him a month before i graduated school I then lived at my moms and found a job a few months later working on end hours just so i could pay for a sitter , his health , my moms rules was if we lived at her house after high school i would need to help out with rent so i also took care that too . In july 2004 I had met my husband through family hes in the military so in aug 04 we got engaged and he took of to war when he got back in april05 he was in cali me in michigan in july 05 we had gotten married i moved to cali in sept05 and he had left agian jan 06 we had found out i was pregnant with my 2nd baby in dec 05 my husband was gone for the whole yr of 06 so he missed out on our 2baby being born when he came home in jan 07 we had found out i was pregnant with our 3 baby. i think my life changed alot by one single huge change . i think if i wouldnt of made my choice of keeping my baby i wouldnt know where my life would of tooken me , but the choice i made now makes me happy because i have 3 handsom boys, and im being a wonderful wife , mother, role model for my children, and an explorer of new things to come my way.
sincerly,
Leona M. north carolina
- Leona
Saturday, Mar 15, 2008 - 11:49:43 PM
O.k. Well. When I got pregnant by accident when I was 15 my boyfriend and I told both of our parents together. First my parents then his. WE talked bout options. abortion was out of the question. Long story short, I kept the baby. Her name is Morgan. 2 years later I had twins one girl-Kendell and one boy-Peyton. I'm now 22. Married to my children's dad.Live with him and pregnant again w/ twins.Yes, I have my hands full but we have a good enviroment and this is the last time I'm gonna get pregnant we decied. Just keep your hopes up.
- Erin
Saturday, Mar 15, 2008 - 2:39:55 PM
Hi Dawson!
I know what its like to be pregnant and not know what to do... I was 15 when I had my son Aiden. I didnt know who I was going to tell or even what I was going to do. My dad was the first person I told... Every girl has the thought are my parents going to kick me out. And the answer to that is No. If your parents care about you as much as they always tell you they do they will take you in deeper... My mom was more mad than my dad was but they were there and helped me make all the hard decision you have to make... I wanted to graduate from high school so I had the hard decision of if I was going to keep my son or not... I eventually came up with the decision to have my brother adopt him and that way I can still see him and so he knows that I am his mom...
- Sara
Friday, Mar 14, 2008 - 11:30:34 PM
I'm lucky, cause me and my boyfriend haven't had sex yet, and we plan on being extremely careful when we decide to, but he told me that if anything every happened when we weren't careful and i ended up pregant, he would stay with me and support me, cause he plans on marring me anyway....
- abby
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