Part 1: My Boyfriend Hurt Me

Thurs May 31 2007
Hey that's so true. There are these guys that I've become really good friends with them and they are pressuring me to drink and smoke weed. And I really don't like doing that stuff, but the thing is that I really like this guys and I want to fit in with him and his group. ~Shelby

Thurs May 31 2007
Hello my name is Shawntay. Im 19 years old from kentucky. I just started listening to you Sunday on 107.5 The River. I loved your show I loved how you gave the callers really good advice about there problems. I just got hooked and I couldnt turn it off. Im glad that there is something out there for teens or anyone really who has a problem in there life that they dont know what to do or dont have anyone to talk to that they can talk to you about it. They trust what your telling them. So keep up the great job!

Thurs May 31 2007
I don't know why girls give in to guys but im 16 and i have personilly had sex with 10 guys. I think i had sex with them b/c most of them i really thought that i loved them but when i really thought about it i realized that they were using me and i just let them but now im not haveing sex im going to wait until i get married too have sex again because having sex takes a lot out of you emotionally. If I would have know what i was getting myself into i would have locked myself in my room and stay away from anything with boys. After the third guy i was really wanting to kill myself because all the guys in my town were calling me the town ho and all but i just wanted to get pregnant so someone would love me well i got pregnant but after the guy found out he beat me up and like he was trying to do i had a misscarage . But I just want all these little girls who think that their men love them they dont/ they wont/ and they just want some - Tiffany

Wed May 30 2007
I am 14. I love this blog. It explains a lot! My best friend that is like a sister to me her boyfriend use to hit her. It was so awful every day I tried to talk her into breaking up with him, however she felt so low down she told me she felt as in if she deserves it! He ended up continuing to hit her until one day he broke her nose and got sent to jail. Her dad pressed charges against him and her mom also did. He left her alone for awhile but now he has threaten her into going back out with him. She has been forced by him and his abusive side to have done it with him. I feel so bad for her. I feel all her pain and wish i could take it all off of her. She is now back together with him. And i just know he is going to continue to hurt her. I am so scared for her. And she is dating him behind her parents back. But if he starts to hit her again she always feels as she deserves it. I dont know what to do. I am so worried cause this time he could do more than a broken nose!!! -ALYSON-

Wed May 30 2007
hey Dawson!My ex boyfriend likes to push me into things I don't want to do and then later he will tell me that he just used me,doesn't really like me but still likes his ex.I really don't know what to do. I stoped talking to him for a while because of his manipulation but,everytime I stop talking to him I go back again and I don't know why. A couple days ago he called and told me that he still has feelings for me but,then again tryed to get me to do stuff I didn't want to do and then told me that he just wanted me to be happy and he wasn't using me but the thing is I've heard that so many times from this guy. I just don't know what to believe. ~Lexy~

Wed May 30 2007
hey my name is Damian i am 14yrs old and i have listened to your show for a long time but i never called in and i really want to b/c i need to talk about some things. but you are right about what you said. dont listen to what guys say watch how they act especially around their friends b/c when theyre by there friends they change alot.

Wed May 30 2007
hey dawson...i know that guys often take advantage of girls--but really girls do the same thing//why do u think girls wear miniskirts and revealing shirts their pretty much asking for the sexual attention that they often recieve the consequences of their actions is guys presuring them into doing things that they didn't even have on their mind in the first place...they just wanted a guy to like them~~~...so do u think wearing a sexy outfit is worth being pulled into "the crowd??"<?popularity?> sincerly...fl-girl

Wed May 30 2007
thank you. i came on cauz i am in that same situation. but this blog gave me a little confort. - Linda

Tues May 29 2007
hey dawson! i love your show! my name is danielle and i'm 12 and i live in minnesota. i am asking you something here because i dont know how else to reach you with this question. but i was wondering if it costs any money to call you and if so how much? because my parents wont let me call you but i want to talk about something that is bothering me! so if it does cost money i need to know cuz i dont want to give my parents a high phone bill. if i cant call you please tell me a way of how to talk to you about this! thanks! hope 2 hear from you soon!! - Danielle

Tues May 29 2007
Hey Dawson! My name is Nichole.I am 12 years old,and I live in Florida.This blog that you wrote reminded me of a poem that I wrote myself,and I titled it "Do I mean it". This is how it goes: "I keep asking God If I mean it when I Tell you that I love you I know that I do love you But the thing is I don't know how Deeply I love you Therefore I have this Door for you Yet I leave it cracked Only because I don't Know what is going to happen If I open the door all of the way To let you in my home Which is in this case My heart By:Nichole M. May 19th,2007" I think the reason why your blog reminded me of that poem that I wrote was because in the poem I talk about how I love this guy,but I'm "cerious" to allow him in my heart,because I don't want to be pemanatly damaged emotionally.I think that guys that take advantage of girls in a bad way,do it because they are damaged themselves deep inside,but are afraid to show it,so they have nothing better to do.Well Dawson,I have to go now,but I dohope to hear from you soon!I love your show,and I am a big fan!I can't wait to hear more stories! Love Always, Nichole.

Tues May 29 2007
I really hate that guys take advantage of girls. I hate that all guys ever think about is what they can get from girls. I was recently violated by a guy who i thought was a really great guy but then he started pressuring me and now i hate him for it. We arent even talking anymore. If your a guy and you read this, can you please take this seriously and please respect the girl that you like and please dont violate her. It can really make a big difference in anyone's life. He was my best friend, and now i hate him. - Becca

Tues May 29 2007
I really like ur show. I listen to it all the time. Thank u for putting ur show on the air that helps people out.  - Lesley

Tues May 29 2007
Thats true. Girls are a bit more emotional than guys so i think that they tend to get confused and dwell on things more. I think being sexually abused by someone you've given your heart to is one of the worst things that can happen to you. And you're right about love. But most people, especially hormonal guys, dont really know what love really is when they're teenagers. - Elizabeth

Tues May 29 2007
I had a friend who was getting sexually abused by her dad.He never did it to her sister. Her sister got straight A's. He only did it if she did something wrong. Her boyfriend and i told her school cousler. From there we have no cue what happened. She dumped her boyfriend and all her friends. Shes a loner WE think it got worse we don't know - Brianna

Tues May 29 2007
Well I listen to your show every Sunday, and it makes me think about my problems and how they have affected me a lot through the years. And your show made me wonder if it is really worth me living if it's just going to happen again. Your Friend, Amber

Tues May 29 2007
Hey, i listen to the show as much as possible, and i really have a problem. My ex girlfriend is dating a guy now and i was finally over her, then this weekend she calls me and tells me she cant stop thinking about me, and that she doesn't want to lose me, or have other girls like me. So i tried to get involved with her again, and she shut me down...i don't knoow what to do, she said she thinks she loves me but she wont go out with me again...please help. - Billy

Mon May 28 2007
i totally agree with you. last night i was listening to you and i heard about the girl that was 15 with the 33 year old boyfriend. i have been in a similar situation. when i was 14, i was with a 21 year old guy. and looking back, i had the same attitude that she did. when your dad isnt there for you and you dont have a male structure in your life you are vonerable to men. but to rap this all up i do hate how guys abuse "i love you"!!!and in the end its all a lie.the when you look back you say to yourself "man, why didnt i see through that?" - Natalie

Mon May 28 2007
hi dawson. its cam again. i dont know if you get many 2 timer e-mailers like me. i dont have a lot of patience. sorry ha ha. i just have a lot of problems on my hands. i really want an e-mail from you. i need to talk to someone. i cant talk to you on the phone because i am grounded. sorry again. ha ha. but if you would e-mail me i would appreciate it bye! - Cam

Mon May 28 2007
I think its sad what guy will do just for sex. I watch a lot of shows of what guy will do to women just for sex and then leave. - Stephanie

Mon May 28 2007
Hey Dawson. I think that some girls give in to guys just because they think that the guy that they're with acutally loves them, but I think the main reason is because they are scared of what might happen if they don't do it. If they give into the guy's demands, it could mean that giving in could be a lot better than what could have happened. I can't thank you enough for what you do for all of us here. You have put A LOT of time and effort into making a difference for teens and young adults everywhere, and that means so much to us so thank you! This is sort of off subject, but bear with me here. I just wanted say,"GO RED SOX!" Thanks again! _*Katie*_

Mon May 28 2007
wow. ive been there done that. its horrible for a guy to do that to a girl. but like i said ive been there. and dawson you are right, he only wants some sexual activity. thats what happened to me. a lot of girls should really read this. - Olivia

Mon May 28 2007
Thank you soooo much for standing up for the girls the way you do. Sometimes it feels like nobody really cares what guys do to us. It's so nice to know someone does!!! - Beth

Mon May 28 2007
Dawson, I completely agree with you about watch what a guy says. I made a committment to myself that I was going to stay pure until marraige, I also made a committment that I would not tell someone that I love them unless we had been dating a LONG time and I really thought this was the man God had chosen for my life. And then I got a boyfriend, He knew how I felt about doing thing before marraige, he said he had made the same committment, his words spoke it, but his actions were COMPLETELY different. and when I wouldnt give him what he wanted, he cheated on me and found someone else who would. I guess some guys are just in relationships for the wrong reasons, I think some of them just aren't mature enought to be in a serious relationship. Thanks for listening, ~Emily~

Mon May 28 2007
my view on this is... nobody's MAKING you do anything unless they hold a gun to your hand and THEN tell you to do it. other then that... it's your choice. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little over a year now, im 16 and not ready to have sex. where he's 17 and has been ready for a long time. but he waits, waits for me to be ready. so some people might think this is the guys fault but actually, i believe it is the girl's fault. of course, not all the time. but many times that is what i believe. i believe that girl's give in to all that bull talk and don't take into mind what the guy is REALLY trying to do. these girls arent thinking. actually... its a little bit both the girls and the guys fault. guys should not push for the wrong reasons and girls should learn how to just say no. - Taz

Mon May 28 2007
I was getting into the car tonight and when I started the car your show came on. It is the first time that I have heard your show, but when I came in the house I got on line and started to listen; and I'm glad I did. I really enjoy your show and will be tuning in a lot more. I really enjoyed your blog and thought what you said about "Love can always wait to give. Lust can't wait to get." was great; I wish I had heard it sooner. I'm 21 now and when I was 18 I met a guy. About a month after we met we started dating. He told me that he loved me all the time and about a month later I had finally said it back and we ended up moving in together. About six months after that I ended up getting pregnant. Financially we were not doing well. He bounced from job to job, sometimes going two or even three months between jobs. It was very stressful on me and I was getting very depressed. I started to see someone about my depression when I was about 6 months pregnant and it was helping for a while, but then shortly after I had the baby I decided to stop going. I don't know why and even now I still think I should call some time and set up an appointment, but I still haven't. At any rate...my boyfriend and I started to get worse and worse. It seemed that shortly after I got pregnant is when things really started to go down hill, but I stayed with him because I was in love with him. We ended up living in 3 different places together because of the job issues he was having. On December 22nd of 2006 he popped the question and I said yes. I should have known better...They say it should be the easiest decision of your life. When he asked there was nothing romantic about it and I bet we sat there for about 20 minutes before I gave him my answer. It was the longest 20 minutes of my life. In march of 07 he had said something to me that really set me off. He had always shown some sort of need to control me and he was verbally abusive; and although he didn't drink a whole lot it was always worse when he drank. This one night he w as drinking and the thing he had said to me was "I'm the man of the house and you are the woman of the house and you need to learn your place." As I said, it really set me off. I knew right then and there that it was over. I had thought many times about leaving him and I had many family and friends telling me that I could do better, but I think I was blinded like you are kind of saying in your blog. In the 3 years that we were together he had 10 jobs and he just kept saying that "it will get better" and "we just need to get out of this town" and I believed him. But it was that night, when he said those words to me that I realized that I don't want our son growing up thinking that it's ok to act like that and treat someone that he loves like that. I guess I just wanted to let you know that after 3 years of verbal abuse and manipulation...I DID IT! It was very hard and there are still times that it hurts, because although I believe it was probably lust at first, it grew into love after 3 years together; even though in my heart I knew that I deserved better. And I still love him and will never stop because he gave me the best thing I could ever ask for (my son). But I am very proud of myself because I was able to open my eyes and leave him so that I could begin to move on with my life. Although I feel I'm at a stand still and need to get out and meet more people, I am a lot happier now then I have been in the past 3 years. Thanks for listening. - Amanda

Mon May 28 2007
hey dawson, well i have been listenin to your show for a while now, an all i can say is wow the storys i have heard blew my mind an opened my eyes up alot.. but i must say i have alot of issues of my own . to make it short i have a 15th month old daughter who is my world, an her dad wants nuttin to do w her at all an give me not 1 penny for her an in the process of goin thro a divorce also . i will say its very hard so i give credit to all the single mom's out there doing the best they can .. ty for ur time maybe i'll call sometime - kari

Mon May 28 2007
i think that grls give in to boys cause they want to be liked or popular but sex is just going to tell guys ur easy!!!!!!!!! - Victoria

Mon May 28 2007
Yeah that is totally wrong. I even admit that in my younger teen years I might have taken advantage of someone that had strong feelings for me. But now I'm 18 and I have come to realize thats not the way you treat people. Quoting something that stood out to me in your blog "Love can always wait to give. Lust can’t wait to get." that is a perfect example of alicias problem. - Dakota

Mon May 28 2007
I've read over this a couple of times, and I think I understand what you're getting at. Guys have an instinct for this sort of thing. Some of them, when coaxing a girl into sex, don't even realize that they're doing it. Only a few of them actually understand that they are damaging the girl, but they're just bad people. There's nothing that can change about that. Males have it in their instincts to go out of their way for sex, even if they're generally good people. Girls have the same mechanism in their instincts when it comes to giving into sex. They don't understand that they're hurting themselves, just like the guys usually don't understand they're hurting the girls. If the girls knew that they were hurting themselves...if they really, really knew it, they would get out of it. They may sometimes say that they know that they're making the wrong choices, but if they're still doing it, then they do not. I see what Alicia is saying in your blog, and if someone <i>made</i> her do nasty things that she didn't want to, then it is rape, and she needs the police. Even if they didn't make her, and only coaxed her into agreeing, there are laws regarding statutory rape. Personally, I think laws regarding statutory rape should be better enforced, just for this reason. To prevent instinctual mistakes, and to prevent bad guys from taking advantage of helpless girls, just like laws protect helpless store owners from being robbed by bandits with firearms. -Skyler

Mon May 28 2007
i can relate to this story in a way, i dated a guy who told me he loved me,and how wonderful things would be, he forced me to have sex and then broke up with me. i felt so ashamed for going out with him and didnt understand how he could do that. i felt like it was all my fault. i lost alot of my self respect. i felt like no guy would ever really love me. i still dont understand how and why guys would do that to a girl. i was lucky and met a wonderful guy who helped me through it and respected what i believed. he didnt push me at all, and waited to say i love you until i knew he meant it. we've been together for 2 years now, i still have times when i think about what that guy did to me , i wish i would stopped it. i hate knowing that there are other terrible guys like him doing the same thing. i wish there was a way to stop it. (im sorry if i got off subject) i just want to tell you i love how u help teens and i listen to you all the time. - Mandi

Sun May 27 2007
Wow! Your show and website amazes me. It is the best thing that has come into my life. I believe it truely helps people. Your show is a goal for my life. I have always wanted to help people. And your help on your show, helps me live my life for the better and to the fullest! Thank you and you are truely a lifesaver!!! - Ally

Sun May 27 2007
I truly agree with everything you wrote about her situation. Let me please tell you a little about myself...I am 31 years old. I have been married, had a child, and now I am divorced. I did not want the divorce, but now in hindsight it was the best thing that could have happened. However, after going through that, my self esteem was very low, to say the least. I looked toward male attention to ease the pain/discomfort I felt from the divorce. So, even as an adult...I gave into someone, sexually, who I did not want to. I'm not exactly sure why, but I'm pretty sure it was because I wanted to feel desireable again. Honestly, it was the worst thing I could have ever done because it only made me feel much worse. But at the time...I was seeking acceptance from a male. I felt I needed it. Now I completely regret it. Because, obviously I did not respect myself and I did not receive the love and acceptance I truly needed. What I truly needed was time to find myself. By giving in to men who are only looking for a "physical experience" a woman holds herself back from truly finding happiness. She attaches herself to whoever...and doesnt respect herself, her own life, her own needs...and gives some (to be completely honest...insensitive guy) unworthy man, her most precious asset...herself and her heart. No woman would ever give some crazy, angry, selfish, or just plain bad friend her heart(female wise)...but she would do that for a man/a boyfriend. WHY???? A need for acceptance and male love?? but what women/girls/ladies need to understand is that they are a precious gift. The love, support, or comfort they can give a man is a true GIFT. You don't just throw it out to anyone. You save it...for someone who will understand how wonderul YOU are and will give you the same. - B

Sun May 27 2007
Hey i am kait i already sent a comment on here but i want to say that my boy friend is still cheating on me and i don't know what to do and the worst part about it is he is cheating on me with my arch enemy! so please help me!

Sun May 27 2007
hi. i was just listening to u on the radio. i think u are a great person to come to for idvice. u dont judge kids and we need more people like u in the world. :]] - Carlie

Sun May 27 2007
Hello Dawson, I am a girl that has been through so much with guys...and tonight i had to be istening to your show and just read your blog and LOVED it!! It is the truth...i am honestly a christian and I try my best to stay as close to god as i can! BUt i am 14 also and go through pressure ALL THE TIME!! Your blog helped me to noticed that i really need to stay srong and against doing anything i will regret!! It is really hard sometimes but i will hang in there...i stand up for ALL the girls that has been pressured into things they didnt want to do because i have been there over and over and over again!! Well thank you again...it does help to get support for someone like you! It touches my heart and helps me to stay strong and wait on the right one!! Well i will talk to you later and thanks again...it means the world to me!! **alley**!!

Sun May 27 2007
Dawson, I am fourteen and I listen to your show on SL 100 in Mississippi every Sunday. I want you to know just how inspirational you are. I just 'discovered' your site and I would like to ask for your advice. My parents are divorced, have been since I was four and a half, my dad lives in Alabama and my mom and I live in Mississippi. My parents are NOT on great terms, to put it nicely. I have never had a wonderful relationship with my dad, and it has hurt me over the years. Recently my father and I picked up and my mother isn't happy. She seems to be angry with me for wanting a relationship with him. What do I do, Dawson? I love my parents both so much and I hate to upset either of them. I just don't know what to do. Please help me. I feel like I'm losing it over this and so many other things. I don't have anywhere to turn to. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Sincerely, Shelby from Mississippi

Sun May 27 2007
Alicia, Hello my name is Summer and Iam new to this. I too experienced the same kind of thing at the age of 14. Iam now 30 and still question my acts as well as his to this day I think about it all often. If you are interested I have advice that I believe that could help! I know love was why you did what you did, not that he loved you but that is what you were looking for! Anyway Iam here if you need to talk about anything okay!! - Summer

Sun May 27 2007
Dawson, Thank-you for being straight-up here about men/guys. Of course, not ALL guys are like that... but let's be honest... a whole lot of them are. But anyways, thanks again for telling all of us girls this and giving us this insight. God Bless! - Megan

Sun May 27 2007
So true. Love isn't about using people for sex. If a guy really does love a girl then he will try to make her feel protected, not used. - Thomas

Sun May 27 2007
Dawson am so proud of you!!Listing to your show as open my eyes.Now i can see what boys really think when they say they love you.I know how the girl feel.It happen to me also.I wish guys will stop doing that,and tell you they love you without having sex or sexual stuff.I LOVE YOUR SHOW!!!!^_^ - Mayra

Sun May 27 2007
wow, that is shocking!! i really understand now, thanks Dawson!!! - Emilyn

Sun May 27 2007
Im 13 I Litsen To Your All I Can And I Have Problem. I Have All This Anger In Me That Ive Botteled Up For Years That Im Afraid If I Get In A Fight Im Going To Release All That Anger. Im Afraid Im Going Break Bones,split Lips, And Knockout Teeth Or Worse. - Alex

Sun May 27 2007
I have a boy friend and we have been going out for 3 years and he has been going off and on with a girl which is my arch enemy named rachel and i think were in love so i can't let him go but i just don't know what t do. . . please help me! - Kait

Sun May 27 2007
hey Dawson, this is deanna,i justwanted to comment because...well...my friend commited suicide last year in september...he shot himself,he left me and katie and his family...he took the easy way out...he didnt even try!sometimes im mad at him,but then hen im mad im cryingmy eyes out because hes gone...but i know that i will see him again,and i hope hes ok now... deanna<3

Sun May 27 2007
I think I know why girls give into guys so easy. Because they want to be loved and they think by having sex or doing whatever with him will make him stick around. But I can say for myself as a 16 year girl. That's what I thought I let someone take my only thing I had away from me just cause I thought he would stay with me and because he told me he loved me and I fell for it. Yeah, I can say I was a fool for falling into the trap that most guys pull. But atleast I learned and now when a guy trys to get fresh with me. I tell him to back up. But all I can say is I think that most girls fall into the trap because when they hear "I love you" from there boyfriends they think that he will never leave me, or he wont hurt me. But they will so watch them and don't let them take advantge of what you have. - Sarah

Sun May 27 2007
I watch your show all the time, and i agree with you. i just recently got on the hope line about something like that- but it wasnt wat a guy did to me. it was about what guys do to my frend. they do really inappropreate things, and she lets them. she leads them on. - Kendall

Sun May 27 2007
Yeah, lust is a big factor for some guys that they can't control themselves. Whew, glad i can control it. - Josh

Sun May 27 2007
I am 16 years old i really love this girl but i feel really bad about what ido to her and she knows i cheat on her with this girl that goes to my school but she keeps coming back and i feel so bad i don't know what to do amd it makes me feel desperate and reallly bad inside what should i do? - Garrett

Sun May 27 2007
I'd hate to be in this situation, and hate to hear about anyone that has had to go through it. - Ken

Sun May 27 2007
Dawson u know what? you are so right! guys should be like that, they only should really care about protecting them and what the future is for you and that person! oh yeah, and you exspecially shouldnt just get a gurl just to do sexual things! that isn't right! at all. - Destiny

Sun May 27 2007
why do women allow men to force themselves to do these things? I beleive some where along the way they missed out on something. Whether it be a father figure or something else. I belive that young ladies long for acceptance. And I imagine that if I were in the same spot the things that would go through my mind would be, "If I do not do this they will not accept me. They won't like me anymore. They'll find someone else." I truly believe that the young woman, maybe not all cases, but many, have not recieved that acceptance from there parents or whomever. While I grew up I longed for acceptance from my mother and my father wasn't there for me the biggest part of my life. I turned to many boyfriends and felt accepted by some and when I wouldn't do what they asked, they threw to me the side and found someone else. In my case, I flat out refuseed but remained heart broken and lonely.And those are the worst feelings. Especially not being accepted by those who you desire to be accepted from. This blog touched my heart and I just want all the young women to know that you are accepted. Maybe not by mom or dad or the cutest guy in school but by God. He chose you. He picked you out. He made you. He planned for you before the earth existed. He accepts you. He wants you. He loves you. Turn to Him and I promise, it'll make a world of difference. He can be there for you and be what you need at all times at any time. God Bless You all... - Ally

Sun May 27 2007
I totally agree with you. I'm fourteen like Alicia but haven't had the experiences she has. I hope she comes to find fulfillment in God and healthy outlets instead of empty word boys and sex. I've made it a vow to wait until I'm married because like you said in your blog and like the Bible says, TRUE LOVE WAITS! Thanks for all the help you give people. I love to listen to your show out of interest, and I never know when one of my friends will have a similiar problem, and I can tell them your advice. My dad used to take his groups to your camps. Thank you again for doing what you do for so long.  - Erin

Sun May 27 2007
hey dawson, my name is miranda an 13 yrs. old i kinda sorta had a situation like this except i kept my morals an didnt do anything. me and my friends made a vowe no keep our morals.My ex. boyfriend tryed things an i just told him no. i know if you think your "in love" you will do things you might regret. I also beleve that at age 13, 14 or even 16 you really dont know what love is. You might think you know but you really dont. love, Miranda

Sun May 27 2007
I love ur show i listen to it when ever i get a chance. When i was about 1 my mom gave my dad a choice between me and drugs and he chose drugs! He wasnt hardley ever around and when i was about 9 he moved 2 Montana ( i live in Oklahoma). I dont talk 2 him much since im very mad at him but i still love him. My mom keeps telling me that i shouldent love him but im his daughter im supposed 2 love him (even though i dont want 2). He has never appologised 4 leaving me and my brother and sister! I love him but i dont want 2 wat should i do? - Sarah

Sun May 27 2007
i wanted 2 comment u because i didn't want to bother u with a problem that probably isn't that big but what happened is at the beggining of school i was doing very good in school but towards the second half of school a girl started talking to me and acting like she cared about me. I slowly started to fall in love with her but as time passed i found out a little about this girl and she was a slut and all my freinds told me to stay away from her but i couldn't. When time passed my grades fell becaue i was doin her work because i didn;t listen to what my friends were saying i should have listened to them because it affected my grades and put a gap in my life. I want to forget her but its hard and i don't know what to do and i guess i am just asking for advice thank you for your time. - Christopher

Sun May 27 2007
i agree with you on that one. but i also think that it's not always possible to give the best advices because we look at the issues differently. when people are calling you about some of their issues, they talk about them from their perspective, while the person they're in conflict with can have a totally different opinion. i dont mean to say that your advices are wrong, not at all. on the opposite, they are very logical and do help people. i am saying that we should look at the problems we face with different perspectives. some times all we need is to relax for a while, go out with some friends and have a blast.. that would get our minds aways from our issues so we can start fresh! i really think that this show (i guess i can use that word... not in a sense of a public amusment) will be a success, because you help people out by giving them a third party opinion, which often makes sence because you aren't involved in the issues (meaning you have no personal interest for neither parties)... thanks for being there for those who need you! - Olga

Sun May 27 2007
i love hearing ur show its good... yea i have a problem i have two friends that are saying stuff about me and all i am just totally sick about it and then i have another friend who is telling me whats going on and she is totally close to me and she dont want me to say anything to them so they dont yell at her so we are thinking of ways of her telling them without them knowing that i know. - Rachel

Sun May 27 2007
Dawson, I dont actually have the same problem Alicia had, but I feel totally confused about my ex and our situation. I'm 22 years old, and due July 7th with a little girl. My (ex)boyfriend wants to be apart of her life, but he treats me like crap and thinks that an appology later should solve everything. He lives two hours away, and hasnt made an effort to move here and get a better job closer to US, and on top of all of that, he wont quit smoking marijuana. His family totally disrespects me, and yet they want me to come around and allow them to see my daughter. Just this last week I finally broke things off completely with him, because I think my daughter would be better off this way, rather than me trying to MAKE it work and hearing her father talk to me like I'm a dog. I'm really confused though -- what now? Should I give her his lastname? What do I do whenever he wants to take her off alone? I dont know when he has drugs in his pocket or vehicle. He says that ! no one - not me, my family, or the cops - will keep him from her. What should I do now? - Tracey

Sun May 27 2007
Hey My name is Devon, I am 13 years old. I like listening to your show over the radio I do every sunday! My brother and I lie in bed listening to all of the problems of other kids around the country! All of the kids that I hear have prblems because they had sex and got prgneat! And all of theese guys that are scared that they will go to jail for getting someone pregneat! Well just by listening I made a disition that not most kids my age make! I made a promise that I will stay a virgin until I get married! I went and gat a promise ring! I wear it everyday just like I am suppose to! But what I am trying to say is your show made me think! "man sex sounds awesome" Man I want to do it! But I no there is no problem with me waiting! By me putting a ring over my finger and saying WAIT put a hold on that your to young Devon! Your show made me turn a total 180 degrees! Thanks so much Dawson! ~Devon P.S. Please send me a messege back.

Sun May 27 2007
Hey, I love your show and i thought i would try and ask you for some simple advice. I have a best friend that i used to do everything with and trust completly, and now that she is in high school, (a private school) she has completly changed. She met a new girl and completly ditched me and all of her old friends. If she ever talks to me anymore, its to brag about what she and her friend did. She getting into bad stuff and as mad as I get about her completly ditching me and bragging to me about what she does, i want so badly for us to be friends again and for me to be able to help her. Its weird for me also, because this all happened in a very short time span... like a month or 2... and i breaks my heart to lose someone like that so quickly... what should i do? thank you. - Ali

Sun May 27 2007
i really like your show, it helps me get through the day.  thanks, Chelsea and taylor.

Sun May 27 2007
I think this blog is awesome..I have been going through some tough times lately with something totally different then this and I just feel like I wnat it to be over with i have been so sick of feeling this way but your blog is awesome!! - Kaitlyn

Sun May 27 2007
honestly, girls let this happen to them because they are too insecure to know that they deserve better or are to insecure to believe they can find better, because believe me, the good guys are getting harder to find. parents are key in this as well, especially the fathers. boys/men grow up observing how the father treats their mother; does he look at other women when he's with her? does he make a constant effort to show how he loves her and how much he appreciates her? also, you hear about alot of fathers saying "oh they're just boys, they go through this" when you tell them that their son has been looking at porn and you found out, or you are upset that they wear shirts with half-naked corona girls on them, how does that make you feel? lower than low. the only reason i have not fallen into this is because i have seen what a man looking at porn and other women has done to my mother, i have seen what it does to my friends, and i decided a long time ago that i deserve better than being used and i'm not going to put up with that, and i will save myself until i am married because the only person worth that part of me is the person i am willing to spend my life with. my ex boyfriend used to wear those corona shirts and ask me what was wrong with going to hooters. but i knew i deserved better than the way i was being treated, so i walked, it was a hard thing to do, but honestly, if he really cared about me, he wouldn't do it if he knew it bothered me. girls are losing faith, and guys are giving us no reason to believe we should have any. i recently heard a quote that says "love is like where's waldo, eventually you just get sick of trying to find it". these girls believe they cannot find it, so they settle, no matter how bad the guy really is, they are flattered that SOMEONE is paying attention to them. i really respect all you do to help people, you should be proud of yourself, and thank you if you have the patience to read this entire message.  - Devin

Sun May 27 2007
I definetly agree that love does not beget lust...as a girl myself, I've nearly been intimidated into doing things like that (luckily, I haven't yet) and it can be pretty scary-- I mean, sometimes, the whole Rawr!-Look-I'm-A-Wild-Animal lusty look is pretty intimidating and sometimes you just crack underneath it. "When a guy really loves a girl, he will do everything he can to protect her." The lust, the whole-I-want-sex-even-if-you-don't complex is NOT love. Definetly not. I'm glad I haven't given in to any of that yet, and I would like to say to all the girls out there that I know how hard it is to say no to a guy, especially when he claims he loves you, but if he's asking for sex even after you say no, he doesn't really love you. Trust me, I found out the hard way. ^^ Love your show Dawson, I listen every Sunday down here in DC. Aishiteru (Love you in Japanese. ^^) Sierra

Sun May 27 2007
i think that the way some guys treat girls is wrong dawson by the way i went to your teen hope line it help with me and my perants thank you thank you thank you to your staff. - Mia

Sun May 27 2007
wow this is crazy! she is soo wright ,and by the way i listen to your show every sunday its my lifeline, and God bless you for this whole show you broadcast,and i hope to talk to you one day... Godd bless you.  Lacey

Sun May 27 2007
Well I think everything your saying is true. I mean when you really love someone alot wont you wait until its the right time and the right thing to do and not force each other into doing things? My ex-boyfriend tried forcing me to do things. He said that if i didnt i would lose him forever. Then he asked me to have sex with him and i said no then i found out he cheated on me with 3 other girls and had sex with one of them and got her pregnant. So now im afraid of guys just plain period. - Stacy

Sun May 27 2007
I had that happen to me with my ex just a couple of weeks ago. Maybe a lil advice for her from my point of view and what I have been through. If he says he loves u tell him to prove it. That has always stopped the guys I have dated...But thats just from my point of view. - Caitlin

Sun May 27 2007
I thought your blog was really cool. - Gene

Sun May 27 2007
wow i so believe that. my boyfriend did the exact same thing to me for a year and a half and to this day he still is doing it to me although i have become stronger of not giving into him it is still really hard. Im very ashamed of wat i did with him and the truth is i still dont know why i did i look back at what i did for him and with him and i want to cry. - Liz

Sat May 26 2007
i hate my school, people make fun of me. u guys should do a show for stuff like that. its ruined my life. - Sara

Sat May 26 2007
Yeah, I had a boyfriend like that too. Actually I had a few of them. I think to myself that I only really want a boyfriend that loves me and that is why I am open to getting hurt all the time. Well, Dawson, I think what u are doing for teens and young adults is really cool. I wanted to start something like that up to but I think I would rather write a book about it. Thanks Dawson. - Kaitlyn

Sat May 26 2007
Well in a way I have to say I feel for this girl Alicia. Now I'm alot older then she is. I love your show and I listen when I can. The station doesn't always come in clear as I would like it to. Anyway I'm in like in a very similiar way myself and yet I'm alot older then this girl. For me I guess the end of your statment as to why girls give into guys sexually when they shouldn't? Well for me I have a answer for you already. I feel loved and wanted thats why I give in. Hoping that something will come out of it and it never does. If i can feel wanted even if its in a sexual way i like it, but yet on the other hand I don't. Its hard to explain. Alot more in deepth I can get into this about my life and such. However I won't. But to end on this note. It all started when I was 11 and from there it just got worse and worse and now its like at times I feel like my life is falling apart. Anyway wanted to put my thoughts into this.  - Mandy

Sat May 26 2007
I love your show, and it just makes me feel better to know that if I ever need advice that there's someone that will listen. - Rachelle

Fri May 25 2007
I love your show!!! I listen to it every sunday.Im having boy problems. A guy at my school keeps on asking me if I want to have sex with him and it's scaring me.What should I do? - Serena

Fri May 25 2007
Wow thank you...thats all that needs to be said...I hope I can show the world that there are still some good guys out there...what I don't get is how girls will get hurt once with some user and then think I'll be the same...well any ways I love your show and listen every sunday night from 10 to 1 am, you have no idea how much help and sdvice you offer...thanks - Aaron

Fri May 25 2007
This is so true.I wish everyone would know this and there would be less broken hearts *sigh* - Ashley

Fri May 25 2007
Hey Dawson I listen to your show every Sunday night and I really enjoy it. I've heard you give advice to people with stuff that I struggle with and it really helps! Thank you, Jennifer