Part 2 - Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

Thur June 7 2007
I think its because the want to feel loved by a male figure. Some girls may give in because they feel if they dont have sex, the guy will leave them and they want to not feel loved from a male. They want closure. - Molly

Thur June 7 2007
hi. i listen o u on the radio wenever i can. im in a fiant situation that isnt good. it sucks being 14.5 and always wanting a guy. it does. get back to me wen u can thanks. chel$ea

Thur June 7 2007
hey i have a boyfriend and i like him but i do not know if he likes me - Shiana

Thur June 7 2007
i think that girls give into guys cause they dont want to loose them. And so if they do stuff with them they think that the guy wont leave. - Randi

Wed June 6 2007
i think girls want to be loved and want to feel special...or they are tired of feeling left out of the loop all the time....and they want all guys to love them.... sometimes its just curiosity....they want campanionship and sometimes guys will give it more than girls - Abby

Wed June 6 2007
Hey...my namesz leah...im 3 and i have a boyfriend and i love him....but im not sure if he loves me to.......i was on the phone with him today...and he alwaysz ignores me or somethin like dat....and i feel so left out....he used to tell me he loved me and he missed me alot and everythin like dat....but he never does...and whenever im talkin on da phone wwit him now....he always has to do something....this has been happenin for the past week or two....but i really dont want 2 leave him.....cuz i still luv him......and before he asked me out....i used to like him sooo much....weve been goin out for 4 months now...and today is our 4 month anniversary...and he forgot about it....but i still luv him...cuz i kno he has problems in his life with his parents - Leah

Wed June 6 2007
to all the girls out there who give in to guys,having a boyfriend is not that important,so if he is making you do something you dont want to do say no. i know its hard but you can if u want.if he wont quit dump him. - Mariah

Wed June 6 2007
i think they give in to them because they are afeaid to lose them..and if they lose them the are scared they will never get them back..and the might get hurt if they dont..or they might get their feelings hurt..i have friends like that..in the end they get hurt for doing this.. - Courtney

Wed June 6 2007
i think that girls give into guys because they feel like there's this big empty hole in their life and they think guys will fill that hole so they just keep searching. girls are just prone to always be looking for their perfect match. - Chloe

Wed June 6 2007
(why i have sex) is just for that moment you feel like you have that persons love and they are there beside you and you feel like they are loving you back. hoping that they really do love me like they say they do. WELL i was 15 when i lost my virginty and they guy was 22 and i really liked this guy .. only god knows why but to this day me and this guy still mess around everyonce in awhile we never really ever went out but he always told me he really liked me and that he loved me but it seemed that he only said it to get in my pants. but he never did ask me out. he told people we went out, but he never acted like it to me. i dont know what to say or do about him .. i have really strong feeling for this guy! – Mizz B

Wed June 6 2007
i'm a Christian and my dad's never been around much. i found myself was tryin to find someone to be the dad that wasn't there. a guy who would give me the love that my dad didn't. i was only 13 when i really started looking hard. i was very quiet so i just started reading books. romance novels which eventually became sex novels. in my mind i could have a guy who was completely "in love" with me. we need our dads. there's a special kind of love they give us. and if we don't have our Heavenly Father's love either, we'll still try to find it. but in all the wrong places. - Heidi

Wed June 6 2007
I haven't had a chance to read all the responses yet, so I'm not sure if someone else has stated this: I think another reason why girls who have poor relationships with their fathers give into sex is because their fathers should serve as a good role model for how their boyfriends should treat them. For instance, a father's relationship with his daughter should demonstrate that the daughter deserves to be respected, loved, and treasured without sex in the equation. - April

Tues June 5 2007
Dawson, First of all let me comment on you. I love your radio show and if I knew you were here when I went through hard times, I would have called. I'm not in the ago group you talk to. I am 28yrs old. I wanted to give some of these girls an insight of what I went through and where I am @ today. I was to go to the first question. "Why girls give into guys?" Well, here is my story and I was one of them..I was brought up in a home with 2 parents that never fought. They were married for 21 yrs and divorced when I was 15. My mom put so much stuff in my head that I was against my father for a whole year. My mom left me...Not physically but mentally. She found her a "new" boyfriend and started smoking pot..I didn't talk to my dad so I had no one to turn to. Her "new" boyfriend took my place. I believe a girl that is 15 and on really needs the mother there more than anything else in the world. She borrowed money from me to buy pot. I felt so alone. I got tired living with her and her boyfriend so she let me move back into our foreclosing home. I was a good teenage until I turned 16..I got my car, came more independant on myself. Then things got worse when I turned 17. I started running with the wrong crowd, smoking pot with friends and my mom also did it with me a couple of times. I slept around b/c I was looking for the love I was needing, lacking, and wanting. So, sex was a temporary fulfillment for me. I was suicidal and everything in btwn like u here 2 day. I got pregnant...OH BOY!! Was life over I thought. I realized it was a chapter closing in my life and starting on a new one. I had a tough time in my teens and needed a female role model. But I am married now with 2 kids. I sit back and look on those times. You know what was missing? A few great friends and a church family. I have that now plus a family, I am so happy that I did not commit suicide at that time. I would have missed out on alot.. I believe a church family is very important. You have the good female and male role models there. What I le arned is that I will never choose ANYONE over my children but God.. And I will NEVER turn my backs on them. Me and my husband has already said we will climb any mountain together and conquer problems and always be a team and not divorce. I want to give my kids something I never had..A True FAMILY!!! I hope this helps a little b/c things to get better and I want each and every troubled teenager out there to know that and you can always turn to God....Love you - Anonymous

Tues June 5 2007
What i think is that because at that moment the feel loved and if they dont have sex with them tha are goin to them leave them. Most girls dont reaaly understand that there is someone out there for them that just dont wont sex that they will love them and they dont have to have sex to love them, what im saying is that they dont feel loved and when they think they find the one they give in but deapt down its just sex. Its hard to say - Kimberly

Tues June 5 2007
When I was 17, I gave into the pressure from my boyfriend. I hated it and I hated myself. I know I did it just to keep him and because I was tired of him pressuring me. Now I'm 32 and I work with teens at church. I can't even begin to explain what a huge mistake it was to give in to my boyfriend. When I was a teen, I talked to my dad some, but nothing really personal. I feel that if my relationship with my dad had been better, it wouldn't have been so easy to give in. I know that God has forgiven me, but it is a huge scar I will carry with me forever. - Karen

Tues June 5 2007
maybe its 'cause they r afraid they'll get beaten and raped if they don't give in. - Daniel

Tues June 5 2007
I think that the reason why girls have give into guys well because what to be part of gtoup they think if there friends are doing it then why can i be juust like them and tthey also think its cool and fun to mess arund!!!!!!!!! - Sarah

Tues June 5 2007
yea im 14 years old and i think the main reason that girls give into guys is because they have to be like everyone else...i know that because i know a lot of people who ive asked "why are you going out with that guy?he doesnt love you." they say because i dont want to be "the loser" - Rachel

Tues June 5 2007
Girls can give into sex for many different reasons. Home life can be one of them. If a girl and her father aren't getting along at home, a girl may go against her father's wishes and have sex. A girl may do this to get back at a father for something he has done or for someting he has failed to do. A girl may also feel that she has to have a male figure in her life, so she turns to her boyfriend or another guy. A guy might make her feel special inside and ehr father may not have. She may give into sex because it is what the guy wants her to do and she may feel as if she owes him someting because he made her feel special. Don't give into these situations. They are hard to say no to but if I can, so can you, trust me. Good Luck! - Molly

Tues June 5 2007
so i deff. think that is so true. i mean the fact that most guys are just looking for a one time thing..and girls are looking for there boyfriend to love them. and all you end up in is a big mess when girls give in to guys. - Sarah

Tues June 5 2007
Dawson, I have a friend with benefits, I dont like him and the sex isnt even that great, the only reason i give into him is because i dont want to be alone but i feel alone even when he is there with me. How do i let him go and not keep going back to him all the time or give into him when he calls me? - Courtney

Tues June 5 2007
i beleive that girls give into guys because they're scared. They're scared that the guy will get mad or their relationship will end and the girl does not want that.. Girls also want to feel loved and protected. - Kyra

Tues June 5 2007
I think the reason that girls who have poor relationships with their fathers give into sex is because they want love from a man and they use the person they have sex with as a father figure to stand in as their father. - Zack

Tues June 5 2007
Girls's give into guys becuase they know what to say and how to make us feel and well every guy i have been with have made me fell loved but i really wasnt i was just a skut to them and now i am in love and thinking about getting married this summer and well i need to someone to talk to about this can anyone help me i really truely need someones help!! - Ashley

Tues June 5 2007
dawson, I am a girl and I know all this true I am 21 year old on friend I never really want out and tried to find a guy but I feel the same many of these girls do I always feel like i need someone to love me but I know God loves me and break my heart to see girls going out to fulfill their needs and I can't believe guys would do something like this. I wherher be single the waste of my life then have guy use me. I see it happening all the time. Love your show dawson You are the greatest. Love in Christ Ashley

Tues June 5 2007
I think girls with poor relationships with their fathers give into sex because they don't have another man in their life that would really care.. I beleive that girls are trying to make their fathers even angrier by doing something against their will. - Kyra

Tues June 5 2007
Because they feel like they want somebody to love them and they need a father figure or a male figure in there life and by having sex you may get some. - Annie

Tues June 5 2007
I did it the first time because my boyfriend said he would love me even more. I think girls give in easily because they do not want to lose their boyfriends. They think they will love them more, but it's not true. I really regret it. - Amanda

Tues June 5 2007
from a guy piont of view, girls give into us because of the stupid things we say. stuff like: "if you love me you'll do it." or my favorite one that I hear all the time " But I really dop love you." but seeing as though I've never been in that kind of problem, I can't really say anthing - Kevin

Tues June 5 2007
i think thatthe reason girls give in to guys is they what to be part of the group they think that if there friends are doing it then why cant I - Heather

Tues June 5 2007
all that i know is that i feel loved when i am with my boyfriend and i want him to love me but that is the olny way that i thought that he would love me and i know know that it was wrong and i probably would have not done it cause after the fact he told me that he didn't need it to love me. - Brittany

Tues June 5 2007
I think some girls give in to guys because sometimes they think if they don't then the guy will leave them. Or if a guy threatens her that he will leave unless she gives in. So if he leaves the girl thinks she will never be loved again. Especally if the relationship was a long one. I hate it when guys take advantage of girls. It's not rite. That the guy couldn't be the bigger man and say NO. So, i've deticated my life to never do that to any girl and teach guys the rite way to treat girls. So, i think that people sould wait until they are married to have sex. And Dawson i would like to say thank you for helping us teenagers, and i look up to you for what you do. I help a lot of people with their problems also especally girls. i listen to your show every sunday. the stories that touch me the most are the ones when a girl calls crying because a guy took advantage of her or beat her. those stories make me cry sometimes. that is why i help mostly girls because as i said a hate it when guys do that. sometimes i catch myself sitting there and taking notes about what you say to them so i can move that advice around to other girls with the same problems. i can tell you are a christian man and i am a christian myself. you are a shining light to this earth for what you do. so, keep up the good work. one time you helped me. i didn' t call you but that night i almost did, then you talked to a guy with the same problem as me and it helped a lot so thank you so much. You are one of my heros and i am thinking about being something like what you are and help people. Keep up the good work. - Casey

Tues June 5 2007
I have a really crappy relationship with my dad, and I've come pretty close myself. I'm a Christian, and I really want to stay a virgin until I'm married, but I have this deep-seated need to earn the approval of guys, even if I don't like them. Sometimes, I make mistakes because of that need. There have even been times that I've made out with guys just to make them attached to me, then broken up with them because when they get upset, I feel valued. I know it's because my dad never really cared if I was there or not unless he needed me; he never even flinched when I told him I hated him. I know what I'm doing is terrible, but I can't stop... - Brandi

Mon June 4 2007
i was wondering how i could talk to someone through email. Thanx - Nicole

Mon June 4 2007
I have a poor relationship with my father as well. I believe that this blog is exactly right. I am still a virgin, but having a broken relationship with my dad did make me seek other guys to fill that emptiness I had from not having my father. It makes me more sensitive when I lose a boyfriend, as well as it hurts more when guys use me just for sex. - Rachel

Mon June 4 2007
I feel that the girl has lost part of herself and she tries to find something to replace that emptiness in her life. In some cases girls find sex to "fill in" that emptiness, and that is supposely suppose to satisfy their needs. But in reality it makes matters worse. - Danielle

Mon June 4 2007
we try to find subsitutes for who really need, not even our earthly father but our heavenly father. he is the one who fills the hole inside all of us. not a guy, but many people just do not understand that. - Sara

Mon June 4 2007
From a guy's point of view, I think that girls give into guys because of empty promises that are given from the start. As the relationship progress, the guy has partially done a few of the promises but made it seem like a significant happening, making the girl feel overly appreciative. Then the guy recalls all of those events and make the girl feel like she has done nothing for him to match those and the one way that she can is to have sex with him. " Well, if you truley loved me, then you would show me like i want to show you how much I love you" is a tipical line on how guys make girls feel guilty about supposedly not loving them as much as they love the girl. The girl I think then feels obligated to make the relationship a 50/50 deal, thus giving in to the guy. Sorry to have been long winded. - Lorenzo

Mon June 4 2007
I think girls give into guys because they really like them and they don't want to lose them. So they just give into them - Jackie

Mon June 4 2007
Girls that have bad realtionships with their fathers give into sex hoping that it will make them feel better. Only not knowing that they are making their lifes even more worse. - Yvette

Mon June 4 2007
the reason that girls give into guys is because, guys give a sence of belonging, witch should be the job of the dad but like me i don't have a dad so thats the reason that some girls give into guys it gives us that sence that we belong and that we are loved, cared for and cherished in every possible way that we should feel by our dad. THANKS DAWSON YOUR SHOW IS AWSOME KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK AND I CAN'T WAIT FOR NEXTS WEEK SHOW THANKS AGAIN KAYLA 16 BISMARCK NORTH DAKOTA

Mon June 4 2007
I think it is to get stress out because I read books and thats what happends see ya - Jack

Mon June 4 2007
I think that girls who have bad relationships with their fathers give into sex because they feel like they need a guy in their lives. Usually they hate to be single and have a hard time finding a guy that actually cares about them and when they do they usually get scared and run away from them. Some girls use it as an "excuse" and they shouldnt. If you respect yourself than you wont go looking for love.. you will let love find you. - Cana

Mon June 4 2007
i think girls give into guys because they want to be loved and think they will get love. but once they find out it was nothing but a one night stand, or just a boyfriend wanting sex out of them, they feel bad about it. we give in so fast because we think we are being loved and we think that the guy really loves us. doesnt turn out that way... does it? i lost my virginity the same way. i thought this certin boy loved me. but it wasnt love. it was just a guy, wanting sex out of me. we need to be loved and wanted, just not in a sexual way. atleast until we are married. we give in so fast because our hormones sppeak for us. i know mine do. and that is what gets us in trouble. we must fight it, though. we absolutely must. - Cam K.

Mon June 4 2007
Girls like to be used i gives us a sence of beauty. Wierd i know, but we act all nieve when really we hope to have a guy want our bodys so it makes us think we are somewhat attractive on the outside even if it means giving up our virginity. Every girl has her own reason on why they do it but it comes down to the feeling of sex, we are the generation of "feeling" this and that. Like the song says "listen to your heart" its all about what i want and feel at the momment. - Krissy

Mon June 4 2007
i think because they dont really understand the males personality. some guys just go into relationships thinking im going to get good sex off of this. but if you dont have a good relationship with your father you wouldnt know that. so it depends if you meet the right guy or not if you meet the guy who uses you its not good but if the guy is sensitive and actualy loves you without having sex hes the good guy. so they think oh this guy wants to have sex with me he loves me. thats where it depends on what guy. he could but i doubt it - Rob

Mon June 4 2007
When girls ever feel down about themselves . . . they feel the need for someone to pick them up. Guys are usually pretty sweet talkers and they make the girls feel good. We get ourselves into situations that we aren't aware of . . . untill the moment comes. Then, we don't think things through all the way. We just do what the guy says, because we think that since he made us feel better . . . he must be an ok guy . . . so why not go ahead and give in . . . - Jenna

Mon June 4 2007
i think that girls give in to guys because some of them dont think that they can find someone else... also i think that they have no one lese that they can go to - Marcia

Mon June 4 2007
I think girls want to fill that empty space in their life, which is love and care. That is why I think girls give into sex. - Edward

Mon June 4 2007
Girls with poor relationships with their fathers have sex for one main reason. THEY WANT AND/OR NEED A MAN IN THEIR LIFE. They think that, everyone else has a father role in there family so there should be one for everyone, so if i go to the mall and have a one night stand with some guy it should go well for me because i need that fatherly figure in my life and I deserve an idol like that in my life. Sadly, this is not very true. Some people have to grow up without a father idol of somesort, and girls think thats a way to get rid of the pain when all they're doing is pushing it back one space while it comes up two. Another way is that they live in the now and in the past. When they have sex they think they forget about all the problems they have with there fathers and focus on they're partner, but later on it comes back to bite you, maybe even carrying unexpected pregnancy and/or STD's. But its not just the womens fault. A lot of guys at my school all talk about wanting to have sex with her, or getting her to do this. Guys should always put there lady first and do what she feels right doing. Why men always look at the figure and not the heart is a mystery, its probably that a lot of us are all jerks. But hopefully, i can make everyone believe that not all guys are the same. - Erik

Mon June 4 2007
I would probably say that there's this certain thing girls look for in guys, and when they find it, they think everything else is fine. - Faydra

Mon June 4 2007
well i got pressure with my boyfriend who is my ex now and when after 2 weeks he broke up wiht me so that show how some guys just one thing and i havent fall for another guy like that n i wont fall for another guy who is just looking for one thing and that is sex but guys like that aint going to get far in life.... – t.k.

Mon June 4 2007
I think girls give in to guys because they are afraid. Theres a lot of guys out there trying to tell us what to do, acting all tough, making girls feel like they are outsiders. & i think the only way girls find an answer is to just let them do whatever, like they control their lives. Men have become to powerful over women and i think its time it should stop. - Brianna

Mon June 4 2007
i'm A 13 year old virgin & i'm comited to save it until i'm married ! I'm A christian girl ,but I have a friend who is not a vergin from my old church . Should I continue to be her friend? - Jodi

Mon June 4 2007
I think girls give into guys because they like them or they are just tring to be cool or are pressured! But I also add that guys give into girls too. - Cassie

Mon June 4 2007
The reason girls who have poor relationships with their fathers give into sex: Girls like to pretend that we're tough and we can make it without a man, just like men think they don't need women, but the truth is we all need each other equally. When a girl is hurt in life by her father, if he leaves, abuses her; when their is a poor relationship between father and daughter, the daughter will search the rest of her life for love from a man. She needs a strong male figure in her life, but without a dad to show her what a real man is, she will fall for any trick of the trade. A girl hurt by her father will be hurt by men for the rest of her life, because she will always be looking for acceptance, and will give in to anything to feel loved. - Kendra

Mon June 4 2007
I think its because when we feel depressed or not loved we tend to believe the first sweet thing a guy says.Thats one of the reasons most girls give in easily. - Nayeli

Mon June 4 2007
When having poor relationships with their fathers, girls give in easier because they need some type of male figure to look to for comfort. I noticed I tend to do this, and I know it's wrong, but it's just my natural instinct. - Christy

Mon June 4 2007
me and my father have never had good relations and i have relationships mostly sexual with older males and im only 16 there mainly above the legal age i guess i am attracted to older guys because i want the love my father never gave me but its still hard and it hurts - Amber

Mon June 4 2007
I think that all the girl really wants is to be loved and have a male influence in their lives. So girls give into sex, because then they really truly feel loved by a mail. - Brittany

Mon June 4 2007
hey...I was thinking about this and I decided...for me...i've been around sex my whole life..my dad raped me...then by the time i was 7 he was getting paid for me...so i guess i grew up thinking that sex was a great way to hide...i had some regulars....i felt pretty...loved, b/c my dad sure didn't love me...he beat my siblings..and my mom...well anyway long story short...i was put into the foster care system...but i didn't stop having sex..i still dont...it's like i get high...i mean when i get high of crack..i feel good for a little while...meth it lasts a little longer...but you never know how long a high is gonna last....with sex it lasts as long as you make it.....i feel loved....charised....thats why.... - Amy

Mon June 4 2007
because they dont feel wanted, cared, or loved in their house so they go out seeking it from others. they will do anything just to have that feeling. - Sam

Mon June 4 2007
I'm 14, and a sophmore in high school. I think a nother reason girls might give into guys is because it's not even considered a big deal anymore. 'Everybody does it.' They think of sex as a normal part of a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship. It's not considered 'bad' to have pre marital sex so what's the big deal? Or maybe they come from a crappy home life and were never taught about the 'sex standards'. Or maybe it's the oppistite, they were WAY over protected as a kid, and now that they're in high school, and sex is EVERYWHERE they want to branch out so they can feel superior to their parents, or maybe so they can just expeirement because they never had the chance to before. All of the points in your blog are very valid points, these were just some I thought of. O yeah and I also think that people have different 'sex standards'. 'Jessica' may feel it's OK to have sex as a freshmen in high school, after dating a guy for a month, whereas 'Judy' may feel like sex is never OK unless it's in marrige. Where you set your standards is up to you, but if you don't set them high enough you're going to end up feeling used, or getting hurt. One last thing, (this is for the guys), my friend 'Jo' told me that when he was dating this girl, he felt more like a sex toy then a boyfriend. HE was willing to love her without ever bringing up the topic of sex, but SHE insisted. SO it's not always the GUYS that do the damage. - Sarah

Mon June 4 2007
i think it is just cuz the have a empty space in their heart and they tryen to fill it up - Cheyanne

Mon June 4 2007
I think girls give into guys because they want to feel loved. And if a guy tells a girl that he loves her, and he wants to be with her, she doesnt want to loose him. some girls do need guys to show them the way, others just want love. Love is a great feeling, but guys use it against girls and a girl has no way of knowing if their lieing. So they give in. - Gabrielle

Mon June 4 2007
*Girls give in to guys because they want to feel like someone loves them even if it just for a minute...They could feel like they have too because they have been going out for a long time but you dont owe it to them u owe it to your self to say NO!!! -KATIE<3

Mon June 4 2007
she would feel loved by her boyfriend if she gives into him.......sex is not all that....cause when a lot couples have sex the girl will feel used after her boyfrreind dumps her.........that you should wait until your married to have sex...... - Christina

Mon June 4 2007
Girls just want to be loved. They just want one guy to show them that all guys aren't the same. They just want one guy to give them what all the rest have denied them. They want to be needed. and wanted they just want to be loved - Claire

Mon June 4 2007
i think taht girls give in to guys be cuase they want more love from guys and they want to be loved. Or thier parents are like i don't care what you do just don't be in my way... so they feel that they have to get love from sum one and sum way... they feel that if they just have sex that it will make family care about you more but idon't think that it will cus it makes you feel like some one who has done sumthing bad!!! - Dani

Mon June 4 2007
I think that they give in to sex because they don't have a father figure in their life. So they think tha if they have sex a guy will love them and care for them. - Misty

Mon June 4 2007
Hey Dawson! I turned on my favorite radio station a few months ago, and found they were playing your show. I've been listening nearly every Sunday since. You ROCK!!! In response to your question... If a girl has a bad relationship with their dad, then they go looking for love elsewhere. In this case, a boyfriend. Once they've found a boyfriend that seems to love them, they want to keep him. They think that if they have sex then that guy won't leave them- that it will somehow bring them closer. But of course, this is not true. I think it's more likely to seperate them than pull them together. Girls need love from their dads. On your show you say that the worst thing that can happen to a child is mother abandonment. I think father abandonment is second. I have absolutely no idea what I'd do if my dad were never home or didn't love me. I think I'd fall apart. (Thank you for being there for me dad!!!) - Morgan

Mon June 4 2007
Well the truth is the reason why girls give into sex is, is because they want it just as much as the guys do. Sex is on girls minds just as much as it is on guys minds. We want it as bad as they do. But not just because we want to be accepted oh no, we want it for the "pleasure" of it. And no I don't think it simblizes love at all. Sex revolves around complete pleasure of the sexual nature. Thats why girls give in to guys. - Jeannie

Mon June 4 2007
This week's blog is really an eye-opener for why girls give in to guys. To answer Dawson's blog, I believe that girls who have poor relationships with their fathers give into sex because they are missing that love from the male figure in their family. A girl is going to try to find that love by having sex with their boyfriend. I don't have a father myself( he passed away when i was very young) and constanlty find myself looking for that male figure in male teachers or adults. I guess unconciously I am looking for that male figure that is not present in my life. Well, similar to this, girls who have a poor relationship with their fathers go look for the love they are not receiving from their dads at home in the bed with their boyfriends. It's sad, but girls really feel they need that love from a male and unfortunatley go looking for it in the wrong place. - Cristy

Mon June 4 2007
there are so many girls that think that sex will make a relationship stronger when in reality sex becomes the bond in the relationship. unless a relationship is built on a strong emotional bond it will not survive. also when you have sex, you are saying "i am responsible for all the consequences that come with having sex." when you commit this act before you are ready for the responsibilities that come with having sex it is just a selfish act of lust and the relationship along with your life will only have a bad ending. - Jocelyn

Mon June 4 2007
I am 22 and I have a roommate who is also 22. She has been with this guy for 5 months and there have been several "red flags" already for her to break up with him. Of course she's blind to the obvious. In my roommates situation I believe "girls give in to guys" because some girls are just SO desperate for love. Seriously! And they will settle for ANYONE just to feel like someone cares about them. I think it's pathetic but my roommate is to proud to listen to my advice. - Michelle

Mon June 4 2007
i think girls give in because they're afraid of being single. - Giovanna

Mon June 4 2007
So that the Relationship there in can replace there father for who they are with to have two in to two. - BknLovesGhost

Mon June 4 2007
I couldn't tell you... I mean... my biological father was killed by a drunk driver when I was 6... my mom didn't date again until I was in like 4th or 5th grade... so I didnlt have that fatherly influence/figure in my life until MUCH later(she was remarried in 2001) but... here I am... now 18 and... I'm still a virgin... I am now dating a WONDERFUL guy... he's 21... he ALWAYS wants to be with me or around me... when he can't be... he's probably on the phone with me... he NEVER abuses me... in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM... and... he has had sex but... he knows that I don't want to so he NEVER pressures me... he used to just sleep around and brag about it to all of his guy friends but now... they all pick on him because a year after we went on our first date... we are still together and... still haven't had sex... and now... most recently... he's asked me to marry him... Steven is the best thing that has EVER happened to me... we have the most amazing bond... we share EVERYTHING... there is nothing about us that the other doesn't know... but... my main point is that... you only fall in love FOR REAL once... and... when it happens you will just know... everything about this guy will be different... everything you feel for him will be different... but... to anyone who doesn't already know... true love does wait... so... even if he says he loves you... it doesn't mean anything... the real test is to stay with him as long as possible without sleeping with him... this is an especially good test if he's already had sex but you haven't... if he can actually tell his friends that he used to brag to everytime he hooked up with a new girl that he doesn't care about that with you and that its different and... he doesn't lie to them and say that he's hooked up with you just to get them to leave him alone... if he doesn't look for sex elsewhere or jump on the first outside offer... if he can sit there and just wrap his arms around you and tell you that he could just sit there with you like that forever and do nothing more... that's how you know its for real... when you know for a fact that in all of his 20 something years of life he's never told a girl he loved her even if she said it to him but he tells you everyday at least once... you know its real... but still... that does not mean you have to sleep with him... don't do anything until you are more than 100% sure that you're ready because... you can never go back... I almost died on my 18th birthday due to alcohol poisoning... I passed out and was unresponsive for almost two hours before I was rushed to the hospital... when I told steven about my birhtday... he almost cried while I was on the phone with him... and he still to this day tells me that he doesn't know what he would've done had I died... he says that that would've been it for him... that there would've been nothing else left in his life... if I can get a guy to treat me this well and care this much about me without acting like someone that I'm not and without having sex you other ladies can do it too... it just takes patience...in the end its worth it though... I've struggled with severe depression/bipolar disorder and ocd all my life since I was 6... and now... I'm the happiest I've ever been... thanks to the love that I found in steven... so just... WAIT IT OUT... DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE, EVER!!! - Amanda

Mon June 4 2007
you should read alyssa's answer about the father/girl sex thing on the show tonight, because some of my friends are having this problem, and they're listening to your show right now.They want to find an answer to that exact question. - Sarah

Mon June 4 2007
Hey Dawson. I think that the reason most girls give into sex when they dont have a strong fatherly/manly figure in the life. I feel that when msot girls dont have that its what they desire most sometimes. and once the have that feeling from there boyfriend theyll give it up so the guy stays around and they dont loose that feeling. its ashame to see this happen and ive seen it so much in my school. what makes it worse it that i have seen other guys in my school use thi to there advantage to get a girl in bed with them and ive seen guys already date a girl until they had sex then broke up with them within a day or so. I also want to give many thanks to you for doign this for all of us teens though. It helped me though alot of rough times and im sure its help many others. (also if possible could i email you? i need some advice but i dont like talking on the phone otherwise id have called you before) ~Sean~

Mon June 4 2007
Guys know how to say all the right things and girls just feel so insecure and fall for what guys say. When they have sex they fill whole and wanted. - Jill

Mon June 4 2007
Now that I think about it it makes sense. My dad isnt in my life and doesnt really effect me. If I lived with him i wouldnt do what I've done in the past with guys. Im trying to stop. I just lost my boyfriend because 3 guys know about what I've done with guys before and all 3 of them forced me into it. I told my boyfriend to be honest with him and he broke up with me. I expected him to do it but he's still into me. We are just workin on gaining trust back. I havent really cared about what my parents think or anything because they arent part of my life really anymore. I live with my grandma now because my mom is having an addiction. Im trying to stop giving into guys tho because im just hurting myself and i have lost friends from it. Its not worth all that. Thank you! - Kayla

Mon June 4 2007
hi dawson. i like many others am listening to your show as we speak. i just think your advice has changed the lives of many people. as well as mine. i listen to your show every sunday and pass your advice all the time. i wish i had a gift as good as yours. i would truely be thankful. i have your back bro. keep up the good work. if you have time, i would like you to atleast say you got my e-mail on the air. im not bragging, just if you have time. im listening! you rock!!! - CAM

Mon June 4 2007
Well most of my friends, well 2 of 3of them do it because they dont think they will ever find "true love". But they started doing this around the age of 16 and im the only one of my friends who havent messed around. Im 19 and feel like love wont come but i have trust in GOD that he will provid! so yeah i think its due to the lack of trust or the lack of wanting to wait. - Valeri

Mon June 4 2007
I have ALOT I can say reguarding this PROBLEM that girls and women ALL ages deal with, The issue of sexually pressured relations, first I would like to say "I am one of these girls" I am 24 yrs old and have been STRUGGLING with this problem for years!! and I think there are many reasons why this happens. My dad was ONLY around until I was about 14 yrs old when my parents split up so I was looking to fill a void " SOMEONE to love and to love me back" Also I was molested by several different guys as a child but the main one was a family member for 12 years my grandfather someone I trusted!! and as I started to date when I got older I figured "hey this is how it is supposed to be, He loved me" so I thought as long as I had a sexual relationship with a guy no matter what the pressure he might love me!! because that is ALL I EVER wanted but afterwards I ONLY felt more empty, hurt, alone, and felt only that I was letting myself down and takin advantage of and letting ithappen, In someways I felt like I was being violated and sometimes even raped and dirty inside because I even sometimes said NO but then would let it happen because of the pressure and would feel COMPLETELY sick over the whole situation. Also somewhere between my grandfather molesting me maybe more and the first guy i was with I contracted HPV and have been dealing with it my whole life!! because I am ALWAYS reminded of my past because now EVERY relationship I go into I have to be completely honest about my past. You would think after feeling with way in every relationship that I wouldn't continue letting myself down in a way that would ONLY hurt me EVERYTIME!! I have NEVER really been able to have a real relationship because of my past and I still continue to let it happen no matter how I feel in the end and love NEVER follows. I only get wrapped up in the situation become clingy and then that makes matters worse because I'm the ONLY one who ends up hurt and crying and I know alot of people who have been in the same or similar situations an d it will never go the way we want it to in the end. So PLEASE if you can let women know they are not alone and if you can give me ANY words of wisdom or advice as to my problem can you PLEASE, PLEASE e-mail me I would love to be in a somewhat normal relationship without feeling all the pressure I would REALLY love to hear what you have to say or if you can post a blog as it might help alot of other women in the same situation it would be GREATLY APPRICIATED!!! THANK YOU for giving people the chance to get out there fears and problems.... Becky :)

Mon June 4 2007
I think they give into sex because they didnt get enough attention from the opposite gender. Since they never got the right attention from their fathers they want to get the wrong attention from their boyfriend or whoever. They think they're getting the right attention but since they dont really know what the "right attention" is they can't really make a truely correct desicion on the matter. Some girls just feel that their boyfriend is the only guy in their life that cares and because she feels like this she would give into sex. - Michael

Sun June 3 2007
well i live with my step dad right now and him and my mom are truckdrivers so they are literally never home. me and my real father had a very complicated relationship that would be too hard to even try and explain but at 13 i made a vow to myself and god that i would never give myself to a man until i was married. i even have a ring that never leaves my finger saying true love waits so i will always remember that vow. so to that question i answer: even though they never had a male figure like some girls do and think that having sex will give them that they just have to think that is was his loss and not theirs. they will always regret if they have sex before they are married. - Shauna

Sun June 3 2007
i think that girls give in to guys cause there lonely an need someone to love them so they turn to guys for all the wrong reasons .so they give in to guys - Jana

Sun June 3 2007
I fell for the same thing.. about two years ago i was seeing this guy named John... and I thought he really loved me we were dating over the summer and towards the end of the summer he wanted me to come over and watch movies. so I did and we ended up doing it... but before i was like are we doing this for love??? and he didn't answer but we still did it and now i regret it.. i thought he did it because he loved me and after that day he won't talk to me.... i was heart broken........ - Nikki

Sun June 3 2007
i wouldnt really know what to say. i agree with what you said and i think that that probably has a lot to do with it. there are also a lot of ppl that that may not be the case on. there are a bunch of girls from my old school that got pregnant but there is one that i cant understand. last year when i was in 7th grade i had a friend felicia in the 8th grade. she had just turned 13 and already had a kid almost 2 years old when before her 14th birthday she was pregnant again by the same guy who had said with the first child that he didnt want to have anything to do with him an also said the same thing with the socond. so i guess you would have to be in that situation to know why. - Shauna

Sun June 3 2007
I think you are right about what you said, but i think the door swings both ways. I think girls use guys for sex and love in order to escape from other problems. If one of these girls hooks up with a guy that just wants sex, then this girl never gets closure and will keep dying inside. I see it happen a lot, and it's not gonna stop any time soon. - Hali

Sun June 3 2007
Girls give into guys because they are spoon fed the idea of a "night in shining armor" from day one. When in reality there is no night in shining armor. They spend there days wishing to be rescued when in reality all they need to do is get up and save themselves from the meaningless existence they are buying into, don't wait for someone to love you, love yourself. While this may be initially blamed on society by first presenting the idea and reinforcing it through out childhood, it is ultimately the girls fault for being to close minded and obtuse to see what is truly happening. Women should also realize that this sets them at odds with each other, so instead of forming friendships with other women, they avidly compete with one another to win the affections of a guy that is not worth their efforts. This in turn keeps the society male dominated because the women are to preoccupied fighting over men. Why make women wear birkas when you can distract them with a cinderella story goal that does not exist - Rani

Sun June 3 2007
Girls with poor relationships with their fathers have never had a man that they could trust in their life, and by giving in to sex, they feel as if they finally have found a guy who will pay attention to her, and make her feel special. Once that guy breaks her heart, they find another guy, and look for more...giving in to even MORE sex. - Courtney

Sun June 3 2007
I never realy knew wat it ment 2 hav a father becuz my parents gt seperated wen I was very yung. Growin up I always looked 4 an older guy as a father figuer bt I never realy noticed it til nw.I'd hav sex wit guys much older then me wit nuthin n return. Bt later on I meet a guy that I realy liked and I meet him and I had sex wit him once, then he asked me 2 be his girlfriend. In the beginning he was the one always tellin me he was startin 2 hav feelings 4 me I liked him 2 bt then things gt more seriouse btween us and he tld me "I love you" at the time 2 be honest I didn't love him bt I realy did like him and I was afraid 2 tell him I didn't so I went on and tld him I loved him 2 we had sex only one time while we were goin out and at a point he tld me we didn't hav 2 hav sex and so I relized I never realy had 2 hav sex wit him jus to get him 2 like me or even love me I jus felt so comfortable wit him and hw I didn't need 2 hav sex wit him jus 2 keep him wit me. And I jus think most girls hav it in their head that having sex wit guys we'll lead 2 them loving them and most times it realy doesn't and I had 2 learn that the hard way. I think most gurls jus wana be felt loved by sum1 or cared 4 or 2 jus knoe sum1 out there is thinkin of them... well jus wana say THANXZ FOR ALL YOU DO DAWSON YOU REALLY DO HELP A LOT OF PPL... - Jessica

Sun June 3 2007
to be honest i think girls that give in to there relationships is cause they wanna feel loved, and maybe there not gettin it at home from there father's..an alot of girls give in to because they think its kool an think to themselves everyone else is doing it why not..but they i think these girls need to respcet themselves an there body an wait till there married.. kari n.j.

Sun June 3 2007
Hey DAWSON, Your blogs are way powerful and I agree with alot what you say. With the blog that says How girls give in to sex because they have poor relationships is what i really agree on. I think its is because they dont talk to there fathers about that stuff so its hard for the girl to know really what guys think of and wat goes through there mind. I think yeah its ocword but i personally think girls need a stronger relationship with there fathers. I think this is because my father and i talk about it yeah he was a boy and he thought the same things at on point . All in all he helps me with advice and help with guys and why girls give in to sex cause of week relationships with there fathers. - Marissa

Sun June 3 2007
I believe that girls who have poor relationships with their fathers often give in because they have a lack of discipline. I sometimes find myself thinking if i do this and my dad finds out what would he think?! So its probably because if they don't have a relationship with them anyway then what's there to loose? and your blogs are soo good and help out a lot! I wish the guys that are only wanting sex out of relationships nad using girls would have a little more respect especially if he has a girl that feels that strongly about him! - Casea

Sun June 3 2007
Well there's a lot to say about this subject... I can remember a time when I was growing up where a close family friend was tickling us kids and when I told him not to go any farther up he did. I was still elementary school when this happened. I got punished for "lying". He was the adult and I was the child. Since then I have been open female who thought that having sex meant that I would gain a "man's" respect and love. I was soooo wrong. I am 22 and married to a man that I have known for 3 1/2 years. I did not have sex with him until a week prior to our marriage and I must say being in love and making love to someone you know and care a lot about is much better than just sleeping with any random man. Many men have a lack of trust in women just the same for women to men because of sex. If you are sleeping with him because it's IN well it's NOT. I wish I would have saved myself for my husband. Those little flutters you get in the beginning because of a kind gesture doesn't mean you have to sleep with him. Those feeling don't stay around forever. See how long he sticks around when you dont give to him. I have noticed that guys like the chase keep things interesting by doing things that are not sexually involved and see where it leads. Try that for a year or 2 before making that decision to have sex with him. - Camille

Sun June 3 2007
My father hasnt ever really been a "father figure" so my whole life I have been looking for male attention. Im overweight, and didnt get my first boyfriend untill August of 2006 at the age of 17. I started doing sexual things with the guy who is 19 in May of 2006. It started with oral sex and I didnt ask for anything in return. For a while things didnt change but the in June we had sex. I lost my virginity to him and he is the only person I have ever done ANYTHING willingly with. Now we have been dating for 9 months and things are great. But I think the main reason I started having sex with him in the first place was because he told me he loved me. And I just latched on because my dad has never said that to me. He goes to work and comes home and doesnt speak to me unless Im being yelled at for something little. My father also does drugs(marijuana) and I turned him in 2 times but nothing has changed. My whole life I have just kept looking for someone that loves me.And that sort of hurt me. I was vulnerable and I ended up being molested by my older cousin. He is in prison now...but it still hurts to know. My boyfriend knows this because we tell each other everything, I have known him for 4 years and we have been best friends for a long time. I have always had feelings for him and to hear him say that he loves me just makes me feel so happy. But not having a loving father made me very vulnerable but me being overweight prevented anything bad from happening. - Amber

Sun June 3 2007
THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY THINK THE BOYS WILL ACTUALLY WANT MORE AFTER THEY GIVE IN SO THEY THINK "MAYBEE HE'LL LIKE ME MORE" - Nermen

Sun June 3 2007
I believe girls give into guys because they are not happy with themselves. Many girls just don't think of themselves as independent and they believe they need a guys "love" to feel in control. – Christine

Sun June 3 2007
Many girls have never felt loved by a male figure in their lives. Since they don't have this figure, they can't comprehend what true love is with the opposite sex. They convince themselves that sex is the best way to experience this feeling, and do, but in most cases end up empty. - Jack

Sun June 3 2007
Their is really only one reason girls give it up to guys because they are afraid if they don't they will get broken up with or left and we are all afraid. - Jessie

Sun June 3 2007
You could not have said it any better. My ex-boyfriend was an amazing boyfriend. Ever since he left me, I'm just clinging to him, doing anything and everything that he wants me to do. The thing is that he isn't acting at all the way he used to. The favors I do for him are all in hope that he will love me and care for me. I never get that anymore, but I keep doing what i I can to try and get him to show he cares. I know its not the right thing to do, but part of me believes that he will be the way he used to be. Despite what I know, I will most likely keep doing what I do, hoping that he will show that he cares for me, because he's the only one that would listen to me. I wish I could stop, but I love him. Dawson, boys are so confusing, sigh! - Amy

Sun June 3 2007
I think that the reason girls give in to guys is because they think that it is going to give them an emotional conection to that person...and it may possibley give them a sence of comfort and trust...alot of guys will say anything for a girl to do what they want them to..and this is mainly because they know that girls are so over emotional when it comes to love and commitment. Love is a strong thing for a girl, but for a guy its a big joke and somthing to play with for them to get what they want...so all I have to say is that the reason girls give in to guys is because its easy to belive somebody when they are telling you exactly what you want to hear.!!! - Brittanie

Sun June 3 2007
girls with a poor relationships with there fathers have sex so they feel loved by a man – Dallas Girl

Sun June 3 2007
I think it's because of low self estem and a need to feel loved in some way. Sex for me is more about the emotion then the feel and I think it's that way for most women. I love to feel loved and important in someone's life because my father and mother don't always except me but my boyfriend said he always will. - Jen

Sun June 3 2007
just to say i love your show.im a british guy who moved to florida this year and you really do help people and im greatful for it. to your question why do they have poor realtionships with their fathers give into sex.......... i believe its the case of attention, dads to girls i would assume are role models,i mean ther role models to every kid,but especially to women..'daddys lil angel,and daddys lil princess' belive it or not i think dads and their daughter have a far beter realtionship that boys and ther dads,as fathers are very protective. and in this case because they are not protective,the girl has had that taken out of ther life,so this results into sex.....as a atteniton seeking move. in the uk this would happen all the time, girls who havnt had a close father would result in having sex at a very early age. very strange,and ther my views on the subject, keep it up,i love the show,and im listeing to you!!!!!!!! - Nick

Sun June 3 2007
I think girls give into guys because they just want the guys to like them because if a girl likes a boy she will do anyithing..just to have him in her life.... - Jordan

Sun June 3 2007
I think sum gurls just get real aggressive I'm one of them always trying to hook up with guys putting them selves out there for everyone sum gurls will even try hooking up with more than one guy at a time - Annie

Sun June 3 2007
Well,i think that girls give in to guys because sometimes they're looking for love and they cant find it from their parents so they went out and look for someone(as a guy)who can give and show them love.soon they find it and think its true, they going to give anything they can so they dont lose what they were looking for,which is love...:-) - Natasha

Sun June 3 2007
hey i think that girls who don't have close relationship with their fathers give in to sex because they need a man influnce in their lives i mean i have no relationship with my dad but i have never had sex before either but i know it is just a matter of time and i would die to have a relationship with my dad that some girls have and not have to cut over it and other thing :[ THANKS FOR YOUR TIME -Mariah

Sun June 3 2007
I feel (from my completely unqualified male point of view) that women who don't have good relationships with their fathers never get to see how a man should treat women, and especially women he loves. Without this basis for how a relationship should go they follow pop-culture because that seems to be what they're supposed to do next. Why? Because they never had a male role model to show them how they should be treated. - Derek

Sun June 3 2007
Hi! I think that there are young women (13-18) who are in relationships with men who do give into men and their advances (whether it is wanted or unwanted) because for some of them it is their only way to feel love or men just think of women as a 'notch on their belt' or as someone who is 'easy' beucase they will give it up to any kind of guy. The way that would be in relation to their poor relationships with dad could be because since there is no way to have her feel love, acceptance, but more importantly their father's approval and so they go straight into the arms of the nicest, cutest, most sexy looking man who actually 'cares about me' but also those type of men who say 'i care about you' can instantly in the next breath degrade her by calling her names and abusing her because he thinks 'I am a man and because she is my girlfriend I can control her and she has to do whatever I tell her'. Basically, women get approval from guys' because they can't get any kind of love or anything else from dad so she goes to her current boyfriend. Thats' just my 2 cents on it, hope that it makes some kind of sense to you and that it helps those within the same situation. - Christopher

Sun June 3 2007
I think the reason why most girls give into sex when they have poor relationships with their father is because they've never really known what's it like to have a father figure and their just looking for someone older and someone that cares for them and just want a someone to be there for them threw everything... because that's what I went threw and that's how I saw it... - Jessica

Sun June 3 2007
I think that if you are truley in love it is ok to have sex with someone else. But it is impossible for someone in there teens to know if ther in love. Were just to young to know what love from a peer is. We experience love from our family but its just not the same. What teens need to do is wait. If the guy/girl truly loves you for the person you are they will respect you for what you believe in. And if you are in "love" think of all the responsability having sex brings with it. Are you ready to have a baby? mistakes can happen and if they do will he be there holding your hand??? - Dee

Sun June 3 2007
I think that girls want to feel something special, to have someone to really care about them. I have had many friends who want to be with a guy and they will do anything to get them just so they get more attention from our peers. - Cassie

Sun June 3 2007
I had a really good relationship with my dad, but he died 3 years ago. He committed suicide. But i think that girls who have bad relationships with their fathers give into sex, because they don't want to listen to their father. they want to rebel against what he says to do, because of whatever he did to them. - Courtney

Sun June 3 2007
Peer pressure. That's all it is. Everyone just wants to grow up faster then what they need to, or just try and be popular and be accepted by their fellow class mates. The guy ends up being looked at as the big winner for having sex with the girl... and the girl ends up being frowned upon by everyone or just used by the other boys. - Todd

Sun June 3 2007
i think girl give in to guys because they r lookin for sumone to keep them safe and someone to love int herer life and to eb there... bc lk maybe they dont have anyone else - Katie

Sun June 3 2007
I have few girlfriends in my life but they would not see who i am till the day they lost me. I get the messege from them that they will give me anything just to come back but i never did. its one thing that i do. i think sex is a way to show how much u care about soomeone but it should not be a substitute for what true love stands for. i'm 18 now and i kept myself for the girl that will show me that she cares more than words can say. - Cosmo

Sun June 3 2007
ok so i have this friend and she was drinkin and smoking and had to go to the hospital because she overdosed and she had alcohol poisoning and i love her so much.... she just got out og treatment and she is smoking and im scared that the school she is going to next year is gonna make her do it again becuz its a bad school there are drugs everywhere... i love her and i want her to stay sober what should i do? and she is only 14 - Ashley

Sun June 3 2007
Girls that have poor relationships with their fathers easily give into sex because they are looking for something or someone to fill the void that their father has left. When someone doesn't have a stable father figure, relationships with other males can be affected. They yearn for the warmth love and companionship of any male, that they will do whatever it takes to keep the male around.. whether its giving into sex or taking part in drugs. When in reality, they don't need a male.. women can be perfectly independent. I wish these young women in this situation would realize how perfectly wonderful they are and that they don't have to give into males demands for sex. - Leah

Sun June 3 2007
i think thy want to be loved and wanted - William

Sun June 3 2007
I think girls give into guys because they think they'll get a guys love by doing things with them. What they don't know is most of them are 'hook-ups' and they gain a reputation that will effect them in the long run. - Anita

Sun June 3 2007
HEY DAWSON! I listen to your show every night. Except last week was the same as the week before, but I listened to it again anyway. :D lol Well, I guess I should answer that question now... I have a dad... a really great one... and I think that fathers teach their daughters the right morals. (well, they're suppost to) Us girls are like our daddies' special persons...lol... because, most dads are very protective over their daughters. And, I think that us girls get used to that. And my dad is always telling me, as a christian, that I should never do anything that I KNOW is wrong, or that doesnt feel right. Also, I think having a dad who cares for you, gives most girls a better outlook on men and what they should look for in them. I feel really awful for those girls out there that doesnt have a father who's there for them, and I pray for them, and your show has really opened my eyes to see all that. So, I'm gonna go listen to the rest of your show now... lol :D haha. And you should know that there are a lot of people out there that really appreciate what you are doing for them. YOU ARE LOVED! lol :D I guess this is goodbye... :D he he BYE :) – Rina

Sun June 3 2007
i may only be 14 but with the blog, "why do girls give into guys?" i think that most girls think they have strong feelings for some guy but all they want is the sex. so they tell the girl that they love them and put them under a lot of pressure if they dont do it. its terrible in my oppinion, and i think its so low. – Shannon

Sun June 3 2007
ok, well i know people that call your show and make stuff up. and i can believe that others do it too. but i think its good even if they do that becuase someone out there is having the same problems that my friends aremaking up and your advice is still helping them no matter what. usually people are too scared to actually call and talk about it. – Lexi

Sun June 3 2007
I feel so hurt when this boy cheats on me and even though he does i keep coming back but i just feel a good attempt to come back and a bad attempt to go on i just follow my heart and go back to him i don't know what to do is it true love or is it just me wanting to be the one who get's him. - Kait

Sat June 2 2007
I just finished a book by Relient K entitled "The Complex Infrastructure Known as the Female Mind." In it, the band gives some insights into, among other things, the different types of girls and guy/girl relationships. Near the end of the book, they discuss three needs that girls have, and the last is the need to feel loved. They say: "But for a girl to find love, real and genuine love, these are the things she will find: kindness, understanding, generosity, respect, thoughtfulness, empathy, friendliness, helpfulness, concern, care, support, and affection." Note that sex isn't on that list. A trailer for the movie "Good Luck Chuck" shows a scene where a man asks his male friend what sex is without love. The friend replies: "Sex! It's still sex!" While this does not seem like the best of movies morally, that quote hopefully represents secular culture coming to grips with something Christians like Relient K have known for a long time: sex does not equal love. You can have sex without love, and you can have love without sex. Unfortunately, the culture has pounded into girls' heads for years now that sex and love are equals, and it will take time to reverse the damage that is done. My heart breaks for the girls who will be permanently scarred by the lies they are being fed. With regards to why girls who have bad relationships with their fathers give into sex, I think it's because they're looking for a substitute in their boyfriends for what they don't get at home. If a girl has a bad relationship with her father, then she will end up desiring another male role model, one who can fill the gap her father could not (or the gap she didn't let him fill). However, because she doesn't feel loved by her father, either through her actions or his, then she feels like she must do whatever she can to make sure her new role model's love won't leave her. The model inevitably ends up being her boyfriend, and if he's the type who attempts to coerce her into having sex, she'll most likely give in, hoping that it will be a way of retaining his love, and being afraid that he'll reject her if she does not. - Jonathan

Sat June 2 2007
My boyfriend tells me he would rather have sex with me but it was my decision. he already pressures me to have phone sex with him and we do OTHER stuff that relates to sex. i think you know what i mean. but i am afraid that if i tell him i dont want sex, that he will treat me differently. what do i do? i can only take so much pressure. help. - Cam K.

Sat June 2 2007
Hmmm well this is a touch question. I never had a good relationship with my dad still don't. And i think in my case when I give into sex that in some way I'm looking for that father figure altho knowing deep down inside that its not going to bring my dad closer to me. Seeing these little girls with their dads often times brings me to tears, cause I never had that growing up and still don't and i'm a grown up adult now. I believe since I don't have my dad around a whole lot that it leads me into looking for the attention by guys. Altho I have been into sexual things since I was 11. - Mandy

Sat June 2 2007
it's sad how this generation of youth are surrounded by sex, and the want of love. it is such a common misconception that sex equals love, or that when you think you're in love you should give your significant other your body. I think the reason why girls feel they need to give themselves up is 80% the need to feel love/accepted, 15% peer pressure (or being pushed by the guy), 4% because they know nothing but that, and 1% because they really ARE in love...although I have YET to see a couple who slept together in school make it into a successful marriage...not saying it's impossible, just highly unlikely. in answer to the question about girls and their fathers, I think Bayork is absolutely right. I believe that girls have a bit more to lose by giving themselves up than guys, some exceptance given, of course. but some guys, like 'players', can move from girl to girl without feeling the least bit bad. that's just sick, in my opinion. I too have heard some guys say they like a challenge, and I've seen what happens when they get a girl who turns out to be 'easy', cause I end up picking up the pieces. very few girls, and even guys, realize that, in one night, their entire life can be changed, and not always for the better. Keep up the good work Dawson. I enjoy listening sun. nights, and I must say I appreciate the effort you put out to my generation. If only there were more people doing the same thing you are, trying to reach out, we could put an end to teen suicides and school shootings. God Bless - Steven

Sat June 2 2007
The reason is that they didn't have a man to love when they were younger so they get all the love they needed by having sex.It's not the girls' fault, it's the need to love a man they can trust and look up to.Deeply loving the man is like the girl loving her father.The man she had sex with doesn't help much at all if he uses her as a roller coaster at an amusement park and gets off it when it's done to ride another coaster(woman).Mos girls lose a lot of self-esteem if they don't have one of their parents with them. They gain their esteem back by later meeting, loving, and having sex with a man. - Alyssa

Sat June 2 2007
on the question for next week, i think that they feel like their fathers dont love them, so they go out and find the first guy that will say that they love her after sex and that fills the father shaped void in their hearts, even if it only fills the void for a few moments, when i was younger and in high school i saw alot of this, "find the pretty girl that wants sex" and all it does is hurt the girl more when they find out that the relationship is based on all the wrong things. Thanks for diving into the problems that adults always avoid, and saving a lost generation of teens, i am thankful for all that you do Dawson. - Zach

Sat June 2 2007
It burdens my heart when I see a teenager give in to peer pressure, or walking around with a baby when they themselves are babies. God never intended for sex to be a game, or a sport to see who can get the most from whom. I see it as a serious problem with many regrets later in life. It burdens me because so many will take it out on their children blaming them for their mistakes or taking out their frustration on them because of those regrets. I am not saying all will do this but many will. – Rev. Harry

Sat June 2 2007
YES THAT IS ALL SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE - Candice

Fri June 1 2007
i totally agree with those girls and its hard being a teen these days, but to me i think that if u give in to him like that he would just look at u as an object. i have never been in this situations before so i wouldnt knaw what its like. i think girl give in to sex when their relationship with their father is poor bc they are looking for that love that was never there and think they can get it from sex or what not. - Annie

Fri June 1 2007
It seems kind of obvious to me. A girl who did not have a loving relationship with her father will seek another male out to try to replace the relationship that she never had with her father, whether it be through a sexual way or otherwise. She thinks that it will fill the gap, but it only leaves her feeling worse than before she had sex. Like I hear on your show, children are hardwired to love their fathers, and they may have sex or do other things to try to fill the missing relationship. - Jennifer

Fri June 1 2007
I think relationships are supposed to be boy/girl, not boy/boy or girl/girl. - Pierre

Fri June 1 2007
I think that they did not really have a father infulenes so they are tying to find that father figuer they never had so they would do anything for it - Chelsea

Fri June 1 2007
I see alot of girls every day thinking sex is gonna keep their boyfriends from domping them,and i see their boyfriends cheading on them. - Sal

Fri June 1 2007
Hey Dawson! I know what u mean I'm going true this also.My boyfrind wants me to have sex with him.I tolled him no and he got mad and he broke up with me just because i dint had sex with him.So I now what u talking about in this blog.I hope u talk about this in show on sunday.I will be listing to ur show!! I love ur show!!! bye Dawson P.S I hope u can help me on ur show - Mayra

Fri June 1 2007
i think us girls feel that if we have a poor relationship with our dads,we need find a guy to pay attention to us, cause we feel that our dads dont love us.and that love from a b/f leads to sex - Mandy

Fri June 1 2007
I totally agree! I was 14 when I lost my virginity to a guy I really liked. He told me that if I really wanted to date him I would have to prove it to him by having sex with that. According to him that would prove that I really cared about him. After that we had sex whenever he wanted it until he was about to go to college and then he broke up with me. Thats not exactly the story I want to be telling my daughter (when I have one) about my first time. Girls want to be loved so much they will pretty much do anything to get it or what they think is it. They just have to realize that sex is the LAST step in closeness. It is only really love when you are deeply in love and it has nothing to do with the physical part. Its all about the emotions. - Daniel

Fri June 1 2007
I think they are looking for a male to love them since they aren't accepted by their father. One of my friend's dad is a neurosurgeon, and he is never at home. Because of that, she went out with this guy who she's had her eye on for a while now, and they've been doing a lot of things that show potential to lead to sex, and we're only in 7th grade. I'm really afraid that she'll go all the way before she's out of highschool as a lot of girls do, but I really don't want to see her get hurt. I've tried to talk her out of it, but I've had no luck there...Anyway, thanks again for everything you do, and once again I'm rooting for a Red Sox victory over the yankees tonight! GO RED SOX, and now that you mention it...Go Tennessee in the World Series! _*Katie*_

Fri June 1 2007
I agree with you on the people think that love equals sex but it doesn't. I am 16 and in my school there are a lot of people who think that if you have sex your in love and that is so not true. being my age, hearing some of the thoughts and feelings about sex from students my age makes me think, "what have they been told?!" it honestly suprises me that people have sex in highschool and then the next day their boy/girl friend break up and they are devestated bc they just had sex! i hate it when people try to tell me that if your in love that you have sex. i try to tell them why that's not always true but they have it ingrained in their brains that what they think is right and what i say is wrong. - Lori

Fri June 1 2007
i think your blog will end up helping a lot of troubled teens well thanks for trying to help all of the teens with problems because it is really working - Candice

Fri June 1 2007
Because they want accpence from the other gender. - Rachel

Fri June 1 2007
Well i have been down this road of substituting sex for the love they never got from their father. When a father isnt there to love their daughter the daughter looks for a male to except her and love her with any requirments she most go through to make him want her. She is mislead and confused and what ever easy way she can find that makes her think she will be excepted she will go for it. But sex isnt the way, Most guys have said that they like the girls that dont give it up and leave them wanting more, Im not so sure if that is true but if it is, All girls that think sex is thae way are wrong. And even if that is true or not sex isnt the right way no matter what a guy may tell them. Feeling lonely and unloved is a hard way to feel, but disrespecting your self and your body isnt the right way for it. They dont really understand that in a relatioship both have you work at it and if a female has to give up her body what would the guy be giving up for her? He wouldnt respect her much any more cause she didnt respect her own self. Its better to make them wait and test out the waters before you think about having unmarried sex. Cause the only love thats pure is god and even though you some times question it its still there and always will be. - Bayork

Fri June 1 2007
I love your blogs and your show i listen to it every sunday laying in bed. i have learned that alot of people have the same problems as me and it really helps alot to know that i am not alone. - Jennifer

Fri June 1 2007
I LOve Your Blogs I Learn Alot From Them - Elizabeth

Fri June 1 2007
It's really good and true . - Christina