• You begin to notice emotional distance between the two of you. Things just aren’t the way they used to be.
  
  
• Your instinct tells you he/she is being unfaithful. Deep in your heart of hearts you sense something has gone wrong with your relationship.
  
  
• You begin spending less time together. Your bf/gf tells you he/she doesn’t have the time for you like they used to.
  
  
• The one you love so much stops asking you to go out and do special things together. Somehow your untrustworthy bf/gf just doesn’t have the time for you like before.
  
  
• They suddenly start encouraging you to spend time with other people. Their rationalization is “If you spend time with other people, then I can too.”
  
  
• There's a distinct change in his/her schedule. There are huge blocks of time your bf/gf cannot account for. They often make excuses for the extended time of “running errands.”
  
  

• Many people are caught cheating because of what is on their computers or cell phones.

  You notice suspicious computer or cell phone activity like secret texts, emails or strange websites. Many people are caught cheating because of what is on their computers or cell phones.
  
  
• He/she doesn't answer certain phone calls when you're around. They look especially panicked when the phone rings.
  
  
• He/she doesn't talk to you about all their love and deepest feelings anymore. They are probably talking to somebody else about their love and deepest feelings.
  
  

• Cheating drains their emotional and physical energy because of fear they’re going to get caught or from spending a lot of their time trying to cover their tracks.

  They appear anxious when you're together and want to leave, maybe they say they're just "tired." Cheating drains their emotional and physical energy because of fear they’re going to get caught or from spending a lot of their time trying to cover their tracks.
  
  
• You notice a sudden change in their appearance, or they have an increased concern about how they look. Your bf/gf probably has a new “reason” to look great, and that person is the most likely the one they’re cheating with.
  
  
• He/she hangs around with a “new best friend” of the opposite sex a lot, or spends time with his/her ex, but claims nothing is happening.
  
  
• He/she begins to be increasingly critical of you, or blames you for cheating, even when you haven't. This is a way of putting you on the defensive and making them feel better about what they are doing.
  
  

Thursday, Jun 19, 2008 - 7:24:11 PM
wow. this was really helpful. honestly. it made me think a lot.
- dora p.

Wednesday, Jun 18, 2008 - 11:06:33 PM
hey dawson, me an my bf are having alot of trouble he cheats on me all the time. an i kno it cuz he calls me other girls names ALL the time an its hard wen he does so i just get up and leave but he gets really MAD an does things to himself and its gotten to ware iv started doing those things myself, an d my frenids tell me that i shud break up wit him but im too scared to break up wit him. sumtimes we fite an i say mean things like "go hang out wit all those other girls ur wit all da time" an he knows that i kno an hes told me that hes cheated on me but i cant break up wit him its really hard too!!!! HELP? thanks, Emma
- emma ~

Wednesday, Jun 18, 2008 - 10:28:38 PM
alright. so i am confused. you say that it is perfectly fine to be single... yet you keep blogging about relationship stuff... so basically the idea is to tell everyone that being single is super, yet it is not the usual theme in society? obviously people need to hear/read the blogs that you write on the subject for guidance is always needed, but i am just saying... oh yes, and you want to know how do i know my boy isnt cheating? i know my man ain't cheating cause i dont have one. woot woot!
- amanda

Wednesday, Jun 18, 2008 - 9:39:20 PM
hey dawson, me and my bf jake have been together for a while now with only one break up at the very beggining of the relationship. he is known for cheating, and flirting and it worries me. i know there is a bunch of girls with the same kind of bfs, but they need to trust them! trust is the base of all relationships! if you dont trust this guy, then why are you with him? even though you feel like he is messing around,he might not be! the worst thing is to go through his personal things or go off on him before you know what is going on. thats what i did to my bf jake. all the signs of cheating were there...i thought deep down in my heart he was cheating on me. so i went through his car and looked on his cell, i found a bunch of numbers and weird texts. nothing really giving proof he was cheating but i was a women determined! so finally one day he was getting ready to leave and i went off on him. i didnt let him explain or even talk. and finally when i was done screaming and in tears i found out his dad was dying. the weird texts were from close old friends, and same with the numbers. i felt so bad, luckily he understood, he was just in too much pain to talk about it and didnt want me to worry about him. so for all the girls who think their bf is cheating talk to him!!! guys have a weird way of expressing things...you never know whats really going on!!! you just have to ask and get the answer
- amber

Wednesday, Jun 18, 2008 - 2:08:39 AM
i used to be a big time cheater...i would have 2 or 3 boyfriends at a time! i would get caught then i would lie and simply get out of it. no matter who told the boys i was cheating, they would believe me. i never did come clean about cheating on all of them, but i feel guilty. they trusted me and i betrayed them. my advice now is just break up with a person if you feel the need to cheat. there is a reason you dont want to be with the person you are cheating on and if that reason is big enough to make you cheat, it is a good enough reason to break up with the person instead of hurting them worse
- brittany

Wednesday, Jun 18, 2008 - 2:07:44 AM
HEY DAWSON!!.. WOW I LOVE ALL YOUR BLOGS AND I THANK YOU BECUASE THROU THEM YOU'VE HELPED ME ALOT AND IM SURE ALOT OF OTHER TEENS THANK YOU FOR THAT.. I LOVE YOUR SHOW! BUT THERE IS MAYBE ONE TOPIC YOU HAVENT BLOGED ABOUT AND I THINK ITS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT ONES ITS ABOUT GLBT TEENS.. ABOUT HOW TELLING THEIR PARENTS, ABOUT IF IT IS A PHASE AND STUFF LIKE THAT.. ANYWAY HOPE TO SEE A BLOG ABOUT THAT SOON. BECAUSE RIGHT NOW JUST LIKE PREGNACY IST A BIG BIG ISSUE WITH TEENS.. LOVE YOUR SHOW! THANK Y0U DAWSON!..
- XIMENA

Tuesday, Jun 17, 2008 - 2:14:20 AM
hey dawson well ya im 13 with an 18 yr old bf he and i dated but all the time we were dating he was totally cheating on me when i found out i almost dided so i broke up with him but noiw like 2 weeks later we are dating againand he has been very honest with me i know this for a fact but we are doing so much better! young 13 yr olds dont date an 18 or older bf its hell i have learned from experiences i wish i would have never met this fool but i love him and we are together and everything is working out great or at least i hope
- zuri

Tuesday, Jun 17, 2008 - 2:13:50 AM
WEll my bf and I have been together for 7 months now and he has suddenly changed. we are both 17 and go to the same school. But since school has been out he has been different. I suspect he is cheating on mye with his ex gf b/c during the school year he spent days at her house and they were close. But now he is just different. He matches 8 out of the 13 tyhings above including------------ You begin to notice emotional distance between the two of you. Things just aren’t the way they used to be. Your instinct tells you he/she is being unfaithful. Deep in your heart of hearts you sense something has gone wrong with your relationship. You begin spending less time together. Your bf/gf tells you he/she doesn’t have the time for you like they used to. He/she doesn't talk to you about all their love and deepest feelings anymore. They are probably talking to somebody else about their love and deepest feelings. They appear anxious when you're together and want to leave, maybe they say they're just "tired." Cheating drains their emotional and physical energy because of fear they’re going to get caught or from spending a lot of their time trying to cover their tracks. You notice a sudden change in their appearance, or they have an increased concern about how they look. Your bf/gf probably has a new “reason” to look great, and that person is the most likely the one they’re cheating with. He/she hangs around with a “new best friend” of the opposite sex a lot, or spends time with his/her ex, but claims nothing is happening. He/she begins to be increasingly critical of you, or blames you for cheating, even when you haven't. This is a way of putting you on the defensive and making them feel better about what they are doing. So I'd like to hear what all you Dawson fans out there have to say! Please post your veiw!!tHanks-Kenna
- McKenna

Monday, Jun 16, 2008 - 10:55:11 PM
Happy Father's Day Dawson
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Monday, Jun 16, 2008 - 9:20:58 PM
i have a feeling that my bf is cheating because he always call all of the other gurls baby and always tell them he loves them that he wishes he was with them i dont know what to do
- felicia

Monday, Jun 16, 2008 - 8:39:49 PM
Dawson, I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years. It was an on and off thing. I broke up with him 3 times. the last time I broke up with him I decided not to date him again until I'm able to handle it more. The problem is I really liked him and I still do. What could I have done to make our relationship last?
- Allison

Sunday, Jun 15, 2008 - 10:53:08 PM
This doesn't have anything to do with this subject, but would you write something about PTSD? I have it, and I have also been cutting for 4 months now, and haven't stopped. My mom knows about it, but my father doesn't. He was extremely violent and abusive toward me and my 3 younger siblings. I have a lot of trouble opening up to anyone. I really like your show. Happy Father's Day.
- Erica S.

Sunday, Jun 15, 2008 - 9:48:16 PM
Happy Father's Day, Dawson!
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Sunday, Jun 15, 2008 - 9:48:04 PM
Dawson, i have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now! And i do care about him alot... but when we first started dating he cheated on me! So i cheated on him and i felt really bad so i besided not to anymore! Then he lied to me about drugs, and he cheated again and i made me feel lost, upset, i even thought about killing myself! But my friends helped me though that! And i cheated on him again! and i still am i want to stop but i think he doesnt care so i keep doing it... cause the people i am with makes me feel loved! i also am into very bad drug, and cut myself.... so bad i have to go to the hospital!
- ashey

Saturday, Jun 14, 2008 - 12:47:36 AM
Dawson, Well I've been dating my bf for over 2 years now, and for half of that time, we've been doing it secretly. His parents dissapprove of me, not because im bad or anything. Im a straight A student and going to be a senior next year, and i've participated in clubs and activities at my school. Unfortunately my bf is not as "smart" (as i would say) as myself, and got his first F in college. His parents blamed me for his mistake and said i could no longer see him and that he should forget about me and find someone else. I explained to him and his parents that if they wanted me to back off a little, and let him spend more time with his schooling that i would, and i'd be fine with it, but they would not except it. For the past year we've been seeing each other for only like 4hrs at 2 weeks at a time, and we're struggling, but still loving each other more then ever. His parents say we can be "friends" since i see them around about every 2 months, yet im not allowed to call, or see him out of his parents watching eyes. 2 more years until he's out of college and living on his own, and then I could actually be with him, but who knows what would happen until then...
- :+: Julie :+:

Friday, Jun 13, 2008 - 11:23:58 PM
My two-year relationship just ended because I smothered him. I wouldn't let him text any other girls, and I always accused him of something. I didn't like him going anywhere, because something in my head just knew he would cheat. Now, I have nothing. You can't control someone or eventually they will get tired and leave. Sometimes your accusations aren't always true.
- heather

Friday, Jun 13, 2008 - 10:43:19 PM
what makes a great relationship is trust, if there;s no trust then, ur screwed,,,,,, well i dont trust my guy, cuzz he has really pretty freinds, and they all think i am a jelouse freak! lol, i know this makes me a hypocrite, but i am trying to work on it!!
- lilly MaC

Friday, Jun 13, 2008 - 9:39:58 PM
when i found out my now ex- boyfriend was cheating on me, i went crazy i told him that he was nothing but a guy who took up more air in this world. i was so upset, i didn't know what to do, i thought i was gonna die, then i met this amazing guy Greg who i'm dating now :] and he just helped me thru the whole thing, and helped me realize what a jerk my ex was, and now Greg & I are dating, going on a year on July 4th, he is the best thing that ever happened to me :] i'm totally crazy about him, and don't ever think about my ex, Greg is the only thing on my mind :]
- Ashleigh