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When it comes to dating relationships, there are a lot of guys who never think about dangerous and troubled girls. Some guys only ask the question, “Is she hot?” And if the girl will go out with him, he considers himself lucky. He has no idea about the emotional landmines that lie ahead. Plus, he no doubt has not thought through the consequences of dating the wrong girl. “Dating is a process that should be dealt with carefully.” (Romero) Romero is absolutely right. On my radio show, Dawson McAllister Live, I have heard many heartbroken guys who have gotten mixed up with all the wrong girls. They never considered what the wisest man in the Bible wrote about bad women:
“A bad woman is worse than death. She is a trap, reaching out with body and soul to catch you.” Now I’m not trying to bash women, but truth is truth. If you think I’m tough on bad women, read my blog archives about bad guys. All I’m trying to do is save both sexes from a world of hurt that could be avoided by making the right dating choices. Sometimes the date you don’t have is the best date you’ll ever have. Ladies, you will agree with me. There are some bad women out there. Read what Katie said about her brother and a bad woman he’s gotten entangled with: “My brother keeps trying to rescue her and keeps holding onto her for some unknown reason, and tries to help her...I'm not sure if he's dating her or not, but she's trouble.”
There are plenty of women who are nothing but trouble, the kind of women you would want to protect from the guy you love. So, if your brother or some guy you love was starting to date, what type of woman would you tell him to avoid at all costs?
Avoid women who are morally and spiritually bankrupt. You have seen this kind of woman. She can be a knock out, with a body sexier than Angelina Jolie. But in her heart, she’s a mess. She’s beautiful on the outside, but ugly on the inside. She has very little conscience and doesn’t care what’s right or wrong. She’s shallow and doesn’t think about what’s really important. This troubled girl doesn’t care who she hurts. She is disrespectful of everything, including herself. “If they don't respect themselves then how will they respect you?” (Ally) Ally makes a good point. I would take it one step further. If she doesn’t respect herself, she won’t respect your friends, your family, your hobbies, all that is you. Not only is she disrespectful, she is loud and crude.
| She should wear a t-shirt that says, “Stay away from me. I’m messed up and I‘ll mess you up too.” | She may be flashy and talk trash with you, but if you get involved with her, you’ll end up feeling like trash, because inside she’s cold as ice. “I [would] tell [my brother]…if a woman sleeps with him on the first date then she has probably done that with every guy she has been with. And never be stupid enough to believe the very common line given by a lot of women...’I don't usually do this on the first date, but I really like you.’ That has slut written all over it!!” (Tara) She doesn’t care about you and never will. She only cares about herself. She should wear a t-shirt that says, “Stay away from me. I’m messed up and I’ll mess you up too.” Katie is right on the money. This messed up girl will bring you down before you know it. “I would beg my brother not to date someone with low moral standards. Don't think you can change your girlfriend with just your example. Don't risk letting her bring you down to her level.” (Katie)
Avoid a girl/woman who is a nagging complainer. There are plenty of girls like this at your school. Once you date a nagging complainer, you will never forget her. Here is a woman who is constantly negative and attacking. No matter what you do for her, it’s never enough. She has tremendous mood swings and seems to be at war with the world and it’s just a matter of time when she will be at war with you. This woman is extremely controlling. She wants everything her way and right now. The nicest name you can call her is Miss High Maintenance.
| She’s the kind of girl that can get inside your head and turn you “every which way but loose.” | She will consume you and belittle you, tearing down your self-esteem. In the end, she will leave you feeling exhausted and defeated. “High maintenance girls are never satisfied with anything anyone does for them. They have high expectations with steep price tags. I just absolutely hope [my brother] learns to weed out those girls who can't fall in love with simple things like a walk in the park or a day at the beach.” (Cassie) This girl is highly controlling and manipulative. Avoid her like the plague. She’s the kind of girl that can get inside your head and turn you “every which way but loose.” “Any girl that can make you feel guilty about yourself or that can manipulate your thoughts of who you are is not worth it.” (Kristen)
Avoid a girl/woman who has a lot of baggage. Sadly, there are many needy girls at your school. They seem to be everywhere. This is the girl who has been deeply wounded or abused. She is the kind who brings tons of drama into a dating relationship. Drama is all she knows. It’s like everyday something awful is happening to her. Often, this girl is extremely clingy, craving attention.
| Some guys think they can rescue and heal needy girls. It’s called the “Wounded Bird Syndrome.” | Tragically she looks to her boyfriend to come to her rescue to make everything perfect. It’s like she can’t stand up for herself so wants her boyfriend to be Superman. She doesn’t understand her boyfriend can’t heal her. She’s going to have to get help for emotional healing from others far more trained and objective than her hero boyfriend. Some guys think they can rescue and heal needy girls. It’s called the “Wounded Bird Syndrome.” But sooner or later, they find out they can’t fix her. “Never go out with a girl who has major insecurities about herself because…you might think you can fix her problems… I’ve known some guys to go out with girls or become friends with girls to ‘help’ them…but throwing yourself into a relationship with that person and relying on yourself to fix everything is not healthy and will end up making you emotionally and physically exhausted.” (Kristen)
Avoid a girl/woman who entices you with her seductive ways. Everybody has seen a seductive girl. You can’t miss her. When she walks down the street, there’s far more skin than there are clothes. It seems like she’s always falling out of her outfit. While it’s not very loving, you want to say, “If you’re not a prostitute, don’t dress like one.” This type of girl is very sad. By advertising skin, she’s telling guys not to look past her body into her heart. “When a guy sees skin it just invites his mind to wander, especially when you’re trying to have a serious conversation with him and he won’t stop looking down your shirt.” (Nate) She gives the sexy look which says, “Here I am, come and get me.”
| The seducer will have nothing to show for her tragic lifestyle but a broken heart. | Soon, she becomes locked into sexual relationships. She’s so needy, she seems to have a new guy every week. Cheating is the name of her game. “I would tell [my brother] to stay away from those girls who brag that they had sex with their past boyfriend and that they are planning to do it again.” (Adam) The girl who is the seducer, who uses her body to lure guys to her, will in the end be left alone. Guys will play around with a seducer, but then end up marrying someone more like their sister, or mother. The seducer will have nothing to show for her tragic lifestyle but a broken heart. “I would tell my brother to date a girl who covers herself up. Too many girls think that ‘skin’ is the latest in fashion trends. I think a girl who covers up shows that she respects herself. You can see integrity, honor, and purity in her.” (Sarah)
Conclusion. Dating can be confusing and even dangerous. No one goes into a dating relationship hoping to get hurt or to ruin their lives, but it happens to thousands of teenagers and young adults everyday. My advice to all who are dating is to be careful, careful, and more careful. It’s a jungle out there and you only have one heart. So, don’t let it be broken by dating the wrong person.
NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC – “The Right Woman To Marry”
I need your thoughts on the following questions for next week’s blog. Remember, your comments end up in my blog. You help make my blog much better. Thanks.
Let’s assume you were given the job to pick out your brother’s or your closest guy friend’s marriage partner. What would this woman be like? What qualities would she have?
Your friend,
Dawson
Thursday, Jul 19, 2007 - 12:38:26 AM
hi dawson. i;m jacqueline. i;m 16 turning 17 in two months. i am very confused at this point in time. i'm dating this guy for exactly three times. and at this point we've been having a lot of problems and arguments constently. it feels that i;m just waisting my time on a person that we barely can get along with each other. if its not him who is mad or jelous, its me who starts the arguments. i just need help in what to do. i mean i don't even know if i love him or not. well in the past i had an expirience and i thought i was in love and well it ended up pretty bad. and i don't want to go through that again. i'd really appreciate if you could contact me on my email address. i;m currently on it everyday on my work. so i would really appreciate if you could give me some advice. i really dont feel really well right now.
- Jacqueline
Thursday, Jul 19, 2007 - 12:37:20 AM
i would want my bro. to marry girl who did not base her opinions on what he thinks because they r married or because of his qualities. my bro. is a person of his own and he needs a girl who can make her own desiscions as a women. for example, if he was a republican and she was a demicrat i would want her to vote for the demicratic party. my brother is awsome and needs a women who can not only respect him as an individuel but also for as a man and not baby him.
thanx and God bless,
maddie
- maddie
Thursday, Jul 19, 2007 - 12:37:00 AM
Well, first of all, ironically, I would tell my brother not to look for a woman who tries to be absolutely perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person, so I would set my brother up with a woman who has flaws that she EMBRACES, and tries to work at, as opposed to a fake woman who turns out not to be who she appears. That way, everything is settled from the beginning. You know your woman's weaknesses and strengths, and together the two of you can work together to grow as better, stronger people.
Aside from that, I need the regular qualities---loving, caring, honest, Christian, humble, down-to-earth....the list goes on and on. But that is an ideal woman for my brother.
- Iris
Wednesday, Jul 18, 2007 - 2:03:38 AM
Well Hello,
First off I want to say thank you. You make everyone want to live for a reason. If I could pick out my brothers wife for him, I would have to pick someone who is his earthly angel. Someone who will bend over backwards for him. Who will treat him with the up most respect as any wife should do. Someone that when trouble comes into the picture she won't worry about making a frame around the picture, but will carve into the picture and make the results even better. These are a few things I would pick out for him. But most of all it would have to be someone who believes in Christ, and someone who would turn her life left,right,up and down for him the way Christ did for all of us! Getting off the topic a minute before I conclude I want every guy out there to remember that yes us girls make it seem that the guys are the worst sex out there. And we think you all want to hurt us, or you do it anyways without thinking. Well I know that girls will also hurt you men as well. So good luck and just remember that there are wonderful wives out there for each of you! Someone that will turn over to make you happy. I hope this helped anyone reading Dawson's blog! Thanks for all that you do Dawson you are truely an inspirtation! God Bless!
- Ally
Wednesday, Jul 18, 2007 - 2:02:59 AM
I would want my Lil' bro 2 date a girl who's sweet, a family girl, covers herself up& doesn't cheat.Oh,a very clean girl that's not rude.
- Alex
Wednesday, Jul 18, 2007 - 2:02:27 AM
hello dawson!
i listen to your show every sunday until our radio station stops playing it, i wish it played longer. i love what your show so much!
- katrina
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:55:36 PM
I know it sounds kind of dumb because she's a m0del, but if I had a bro, I would totally tell him to look out for someone like Tyra Banks. Aside from her being fmous and gorgeous, she is such an amazing person because she's so real. She's serious, crazy, not afraid to show how she feels, very smart, and determined. So many people tried to tear her down, and she still made it big. She's tight with her parents, which is always good. And you know she's tough 'cause of all the crazy things she has to do in her shoots, and 'cause the fashion industry shows no mercy...and yet, she still managed to survive. Maybe it is cheesey, but whatever. It is my view.
- shelby
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:55:19 PM
I would tell my brother to date a girl who covers herself,likes things to be clean,always doing house work,and a girl who respects herself and others.Don't talk trash about people their back,and don't date my brother just because she feels sorry for him or looks.About how they about each other...
- Cristina
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:55:16 PM
i would like my brother to have a woman that would respect him and his family. since i'm from another country (zimbabwe in africa) i'd pick out a girl who's going to respect our culture and be open-minded. my family is all about jocking and having fun all the time so i'd pick a girl who has a sense of humor and knows how to have fun! oh yea she also has to love and honor him and also stay faithful.
- kuda
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:55:07 PM
Hi Dawson,
I totally agree. No one can change anyone but themselves. I love how I can relate tot everything you say. But anyway, My boyfriend that I have now had a bad relationship for a year and a half. She would hit him make him do things and he thought he could change her and make her a better person. But in the end it turned out with him being hurt and regreting that year and half of his life. She forced him into everything he didnt want to do. He got forced into sex with her and I'm sorry but I lost all respect for her when I heard that. Something like that should be saved for someone you love, it shouldnt be forced into by anyone. I just dont get it Dawson. Why would anyone (girl or boy) have to deal with people like that. Its not fair either way.
- Amber
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:38:04 AM
I would tell my brother to look at the girl that he was always friends with in high school. You know the one that he could talk to about anything. The one that was there to help him when he got dumped or just depressed. The one who never judged or got overly sensitive. I am on my second marriage and the one mistake I relise is that we aren't really friends. When there isn't sex to look forward to, forget companionship or conversation. When your friendship isn't established, you end up blaming eachother for everything. Your home becomes a war zone and you fear every conversation because of how your significant other might react. I would also say to not look past the little things that you think aren't important at the time, like common beliefs in truth, marriage, commitment, raising kids-discipline(later on), money..i-e. the spending of it, who controls it. I would also say that a woman has to have confidence in herself and respect for herself and you. If a woman doesn't respect you, she will walk all over ya. If you attend a church, maybe take her, see how she reacts. you want someone who is strong, but not afraid to let her man close.
- sabrina
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:34:45 AM
dawson you are one of the most inspirational radio spokespersons i havce ever listened to. i think you change hundreds of lives per night, and id like to thank you, and i am sure u get this all the time, but you are an awesome person, and i wish i cud talk to yo via email. You have inspired me to help local people in need for advice and such, so thank you, for all youve done for everybody.
- josh of pennsylvania
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:34:12 AM
She would have to be nice and like some of the same things as you. You can't have everything alike. That would just be kinda boring
- Erin
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:33:38 AM
If I had to pick someone for my brother I would have to say she must be neerly perfect. I know that sounds like a TALL order to fill but, My brother is my world. =]
- Courtney
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:32:57 AM
She would be stable in all areas of her life, trustworthy, respectful of herself and others, have some of the same interests as him or in the same clique as him...well mainly i would want her to be a good mother type girl because my brother would be clueless if it came to raising a family of his own. --Lauren
- Lauren
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:31:41 AM
The best girl for my brother should probally be smart but still have a really playful side. She should not have a really bad rep.and she should like my brother as a whole and accept him for who he is. She should be someone who isn't a huge liar and he shouldn't be relunctant to bring her to meet the parents.(oh and i love your show you really are a good role model and i love that you're always there to help;)
- lorr@ine
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:30:50 AM
if i had to give my brother the right woman, she would be the one, who wouldnt boss him around and hurt him in anyway
- brittany
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:30:30 AM
hey dawson!i listen to ur show every sunday night on 99.5 and i love it. it really gets me thinking of how much i want to call the show and tell u about mi problems, but listening to others helps alittle.mi brothers one of those guys who always picks out the wrong girls.hes always picking out the ones that cut themselves of that r suicidle.ive become friends with some of them but i wish they would listen to ur show like i do!good luck helping other ppl!...katie
- katie
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:29:35 AM
Hey Dawson, first off I'd like to say both you and your show are amazing. Your compassion and helpful advice really changes many peoples lives. I have never talked you but I believe if I did you'd lead me in the right direction. Thanks for being a teen world changer.
About the question you were talking about this past Sunday. I have 2 brothers and when I think of women for them I have some clear ideas of what I'd give them and some ideas of what I'd steer clear from. I've been in a relationship before where the girl has issues that you cannot see until it is too late and I wish to never put someone in that position or feeling.
Things I'd look for:
1. She must care about him as much as she cares about herself.
2 she must respect her body and what she does to it and with it.
3. She will not be a user of any kinds.
4. Preferably she would of had a serious relationship in the past. No jumping around.
5. She must know her values in life.
6. I'd like her to know the value of a dollar, too many women get married and spend like there's no tomorrow because its not "her" money.
7. A good sense of humor.
8. She must have been raised in a caring loving family. Especially her father, he must have been a father not a friend. Did he love her?
9. They need to share common interests.
10. Last but not least she must think he's the greatest person on the face of the planet.
- Steve Black
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:28:44 AM
Thanks Dawson, now I know to not let my boyfriend be my healer. Though I am very independent, I just want to see what he would do if did come crying to him.
- Sheena
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:28:20 AM
Last night I heard you on the radio, and you wanted to know what kind of girl we would pick for our brothers. Well I would most lickley pick a girl that is funny and loves to go out and have fun. She CAN NOT smoke or drink because my brother is totally against that (Thank goodness). Of course she sould be pretty cute, but she has to have a lot of respect and kindness towards my brother. She's also got to be a good problem solver, 'cause my brother is somtimes upset a lot, she has to be able to deal with that. Also he needs a very understandable girl. Shes HAS to be very out going and playful, but as much as possible serious, also not lazy (No duh).
- {(*Heather*)}
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:27:41 AM
Hey dawson,
Well i have a best friend.
He's a male.
And He's always been there for me, i can always talk to him.
But in the past couple months..
He's been with these messed up girls.
They just tear him down to make themselfs feel better.
And he wont admit it.
They just take what they want from him then leave him.
And he doesn't seem to quite understand it.
I try to tell him but he just gets mad and says i'm jealous..
But of course i'm just trying to look out for him.
I mean we have been friends since daycare.
And i care for him very much.
i think if i had to pick a girl for him..
She would be nice,smart,funny, you know the basics.
She'd have blonde hair, blue eyes. Chris isn't up for the preppy don't eat kinda girls.
He likes the skater punk girls.
The kinda girl that could put up a fight.
So she would have to be tough.
And mentally stable.
He doesn't need another ditzy girl that just wants him for sex.
And she wouldn't be a huge sl*t,
She would have to be into all the guy stuff.
That's a given.
I just wish he could see that i'm not trying to ruin his life..
I'm just trying to help.
=/
- Meshda.
Tuesday, Jul 17, 2007 - 1:25:52 AM
that is soooo true i loved it and i hear you everytime you come on it helps me and yea..
- olivia
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:26:35 PM
Well my brother would be a christian. She would not be a sl*t, she would be nice to him,dress modestly, treat her parnets &&& mine with repest
- *Liz*
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:26:31 PM
if i had to pick a gurl for my brother she would have to be a nice, caring gurl. Thats a christian and wont try to control his every move she would also have to be trustworthy sumone with good looks too. I LUV UR RADIO SHOW!!! by the way :))
- m@ri@h
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:26:24 PM
I listen to you on 92.1 some times and i really think that you have the best wprds of wisdom. Your question is if i had to choose some on for my brother who would i choose. My brother has a bad temper and he like to just do his own thing,so for that i would pick a girl that could put up with him and try to help him on that prbleM. She would have alot of respect and she would probably wanna meet my mom because she is really wise and she know who is a good one who is a bad one. Thats all i can say about that for right now i will have to think of more hard i just let him do his own thing and i worry about mine. I hope to hear from you some times itd be nice to talk about some stuff. Thanks.
- Amanda
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:26:00 PM
I think a lot of what you said is right; I just wish that most guys felt the same way.
- Mary
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 11:16:24 AM
Hm...If I had to pick a girl for one of my brothers...etc...This girl would carry herself in a respectful way. She would dress herself in clothing that doesn't send off a bad message. She would love my brother for him and not be picky about every single little bit of uneccessary detail. She of course would not be narcissistic, would have proper hygiene and know how to show respect towards others. She could have a drink then and there but she wouldn't be an alcoholic. And of course she'll be someone that he can actually have a relationship with, no one night stand. Also, someone he can bring to meet the family. - Sarah R.T
- Sarah R.T.Merine
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 11:13:33 AM
I Love Ur Show!!! A girl i would find for my bestfriend would be nice caring not some sl***. she should be comfortable with him know him very well, he should be able to talk to her confront if any thing s the matter. a preety woman who loves to party but not to much, drinks beer but not alot loves to go out, knows herself and what she wants and wants him because of his personality and not looks, no secrets kept from him just a lovable girlnota girl who cares in the beginning and later leaves or acts like crap. she should be his fantasy girl but also a girl his parents love!
- jk
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 11:13:22 AM
She would be nice, trusting, not too overwhelming and, maybe if I could find one, pretty. She would also have to be trust worthy.
Not slutty, but respective of herself. I love my brother and I want the best for him.
- Zoe
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 11:13:19 AM
oh my god!
well if i had to pick she would have to be intelligent
beautiful
sweet
respectful
honest
trusting
caring
and generous.
- CHARLIE
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 9:24:07 AM
the girl i would find for my bro?
well she would HAVE to carry her self like a woman.and yeah that means no skrits that cover her butt by the an inch. she could go out and drink 1or2 beers but no more.a beautiful woman and some one who would be able to talk with him and under stand wat hes gone through as a child some one with a big loving heart and doesn't nag him or isn't a gold digger a girl that is good all around and some one that he can bring home to mom and have family dinners wen the holidays come around and some one that doesn't smoke and is able to raise good children wen he is out on the road.
that is the perfect girl for him.
- cassie
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 9:23:50 AM
For my brother, I'd pick only a certain kind of woman. She's have to be modest, fun but not dangerous and she would have no addictions to drugs or alcohol. She would be someone you can trust easily and not the kind who sleeps around or flirts with all the guys. She would shy away from drama and wouldn't be high maintence, and she'd be willing to do her own thing. She definately wouldn't be a golddigger, and NO baggage whatsoever. I'm very protective of my brother, so I don't approve of many girls, but a girl like this would win me over.
- Elizabeth
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 9:23:47 AM
I can relate to this blog because I used to be the girl who fit into some of the categories you mentioned here. However I recenly realized that by dressing slutty and treating your boyfriend like crap, you get nowhere, you just get used as a guy's toy, get thrown out once you get old, and then get reused by some other guy. and the cycle goes on. So, i really like this blog and i think both men and women can learn from it.
- amber
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 9:23:42 AM
This might seem already obvious enough but... I just broke up with a girl because of a relationship like this...
Don't go out with a girl who is only going out with you to forget someone she really likes. Like Dawson said "wounded-bird syndrome." Now I did not know this at first, but just saying though...
- Brian
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:11:34 AM
the right girl for me would have to be a loving caring woman that does not smoke do drugs or anything related to that she would be kind and understand that men do have an emotional side
- shane
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 1:09:22 AM
!!!PLEASE READ ON AIR!!!
Dawson, your blogs and radio shows help alot. They not only help with problems, but ***they also help make people realize how good their lives actually are.*** Your radio show on q102 has influenced me to change. I am now more aware of situations and know when to do the right thing. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am also helping my friends with their problems too. Again, Thank you.
- Joe
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:50:55 AM
I would find him a girl that is nice, seems like she's well put together, has her own place (so u know shes not a gold diger) that gets along with most people, doesnt nag, that wont be causing drama. Ya know? Just the type of girl you bring home to mom.
- Breanna
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:50:45 AM
this blog is very true actually this is every step with this one girl i was with for a couple months she had a bad home life thats the bagge part she nagged and complied about everything nothing was evry good enough she was spirtually and morally dead she had no respect for herself or anyone elese this blog is very correct in so many ways she had sex with me the first night we went out its not a cute little act she really did have slut written all over her i was blind in my own foolesness for awhile she went to the mental health facicilty that really scared me and i knew she was a slut she cheated on me with serval different girls one night she had sex with 15 guys in one night i did not know she was that bad but i was stupid for letting go one so long but i apprecite what you do i like listening to the show ill take all the advice i can get i no i dont know everthing and i am always willing to learn from my mistakes and others too but guys this blog is 100% honest truth so if this sounds like you GET OUT NOW CAUSE IT WILL BE HELL TO PAY IF YOU MARRIED THEM I AM GLAD MY PARENTS TALKED SOME SENSE INTO ME but this blog is the real deal pick and chose your woman by this blog dont rush into anything because if your girl has one of these problems she probabbly has them all i know the girl i dated did so watch out im just letting you know so you dont go through HELL like i did
- kyle
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:46:53 AM
Dawson,
If I were to pick my brother's wife she would have to be sweet and cheerful. She would need to respect my parents, me, and my brothers and sisters. She would need to have patience and understanding but at the same time not let my brother walk all over her. She would need to bring out the best in my brother and help him to control his anger.
- Kristin
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:30:44 AM
I think your right. some of the people i know just date because they want a boyfriend or girlfriend. And i also wanted to say- I know you get this alot- I love your show. You have helped me so much. I've been really depressed lately, to the point where last night i had a razor in my hand, and trying to make a decision- should i cut myself, and be releieved from emotional pain for a few minutes, yet have the scar of that pain and depression forever, or should i not cut, and try to get out of this emotional pain. I decided to wait. Then tonight i really listened to your show, and it has helped me so much. I feel great, and i decided never to cut. oh and just letting you know, i havent cut before, i was just thinking about doing it for the first time
- lana marie
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:29:46 AM
I absolutely love my brother and i would do anything in the world for him and id be hard for me to even think about there being a girl out there that might be before me that might sound shallow but i dont evben know if im that high on my brothers "people i care about" list but hes nunumber 3 and he deserves perfection. She has to understand that trust is important and that if he cant trust her she cant have him. she cant be too uptight but cant be too loose and i have to be able to trust her too. she has to be nice and not a total snob. she has to be outgoing and able to make my brother happy. but i cant be selfish and make her all what i want it has to be someone who makes him happy. if hes happy. im happy. SLASG i love you more then anything. never forget that. :)
- Alisa <3
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:22:16 AM
If I could choose my brother's wife she would have to be a well respected women, someone that is not from our neighborhood, someone that I know for a fact that will treat him the way he deserves to be treated.
- Tina, Pa
Monday, Jul 16, 2007 - 12:03:04 AM
This is in response to next weeks blog.
If I was had to pick out my closets guy friends spouse it would be an extreme decision. It was hard enough picking my own husband, let alone someone elses. And while I want to be one that says " she would have to be sweet, compassionate and loving" I'm not. Those qualities are great, but let's face it, I just described the last answer at a Miss America Pagent. She would have to be real. No faking. None.... Most of all she would have to love my friend more than life itself. She would need to be confident but not cocky. Pretty but have flaws. Stand up for herself, but not obnoxious. She would need to offer love and care to him when he needs it, and stand firm against him when we was acting like a jerk. (Let's face it everyone acts like a jerk at times). Laughing would need to be something that she did with out any reserve, never holding back a good chuckle or yielding a good snort at times. LOL! Everyone is going to have thier faults and it's other peoples faults who accent our own great qualities. I think it's good to be with someone who does exactly that. Find someone who helps you help yourself. Someone that makes you happy when life hurts your heart, someone that never ceases to amaze you, and someone that will hold your hair up when you puke.
- Serenity Rose
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:36:11 PM
If I had to pick my brother or my best guy friend marriage partner I would have to say the girl qualities would have to be respectful,someone who accepted him for who he isand love him for him,sweet,loving,always there for him no matter what and just forgiving, honest,and honest!!!!
- April.M.K
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:29:23 PM
I really love your show. When I listen, and I know this seems cheesy, but when I listen I feel so happy, even though your explanations aren't towards me, that there's someone like you that can do so much for so many people. I'm glad you're around.
- Brittany
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:29:06 PM
Let me start off by saying that I absoubltly love ur show. If I could chose my brother's perfect wife, which is kinda useless now since he's already married; she would be caring and supportative. My brother is a pain in the butt sometimes, but has a great sense of humor, his perfect wife would be able to laught at his jokes, and be a great mother to his 2 year old daughter. I would just pick someone who would love him for the great 21 year old man that he is, and love him while they grow old together.
- Jessica
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:22:41 PM
Well most of my friends come to me with issues to ask for my help...and if my friend was to get married i would have to say this girl would need to be an honest down to earth person. She wouldnt try to hide anything from him. I also think that she would need to be flexible and not nag on little things that she may not like about him, becuase noone is perfect. She would have to love him for who he is and not try to make him something he isnt and never will be. I guess in short, she would have to be like a best friend to him more than another date.
- josh
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:00:55 PM
For any of my cousins, I would pick a chick who isn't a doormat or a bully. Somebody who won't be walked all over but won't tear them down either. Somebody who isn't me. Somebody who can make them feel worthy and special. And somebody who they can love in return.
- Miranda
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:00:13 PM
i really love your show
- kay
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 11:00:04 PM
If I were to pick the woman my little brother would be married to for the rest of his life, it would have to be someone who accepted him for who he is. All of him, not just his job or the clothes he wears..but all parts of him. Who he is on the inside. I would want her to have morals, be trustworthy, be trustING, kind hearted, and most of all...forgiving. People make mistake, and no relationship is going to be perfect.
- Ashley
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:59:11 PM
hmm. I will say for my guy friend the girl would have to understand that me and him are friends and that I'm not some competion or whatever. And she would have to treat him right. None of the "WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL ME TODAY!!!???" cr*p. She would be honest but not obsessive. She would give him space to breathe!! lol. And btw I'm not a guy! lol.
- Jessica
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:57:38 PM
So..Ive just discovered this site along with the radio show thru a really good friend...And I dont want to seem like a bad person which i know im not but i think i fall into the category on here on avoiding these kind of woman its kinda sad for me really...I dont know why i am this way and id really love to speak with someone im not a phone person so email would be great for me!
- Jennifer
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:53:18 PM
I would actually not give my brother anyone. He had someone that loved him cared for him and gave him a child but he treated her horribly. He hit her when she was pregnant. It was horrible. and he his a huge waste of money. No one should go through this so i think the best for him is to just live by himself.
- Duc
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:52:55 PM
WELL DAWSON, IF I GOT TO PICK OUT MY BROTHERS IDEAL WIFE, SHE WOULD LOVE HIM UNCONDITIONALY..WHEN HE WALKS IN THE DOOR AFTER WORK SHE WOULD BE THERE COOKING DINER FOR HER HONEY WITH A SMILE ON HER FACE BECAUSE SHE LOVES HIM SO MUCH.. SHE WOULD BE A GREAT MOTHER TO HIS CHILDREN, AND SHE WOULD TREAT HIM LIKE HER KING, LIKE HE TREATS HER LIKE HIS QUEEN... SHE WOULD HOLD HIS HAND AND KISS HIM FOR NO APPARENT REASON...SHE WOULD TREAT HIM FAITHFULLY AND WOULD NEVER HAVE A THOUGHT CROSS HER MIND ABOUT CHEATING ON HIM. SHE WOULD BE BEAUTIFUL NOT ONLY ON THE OUTSIDE BUT THE INSIDE AS WELL...SHE WOULD KEEP HERSELF CLEAN AS WELL AS THEIR HOUSE...SHE WOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS AND NOT YELL AT HIM..SHE WOULD WASH HIS BACK AFTER A HARD DAY AT WORK..TO ME THATS THE IDEAL WIFE THAT MY BIG BROTHER NEEDS... SINCERLY RACHEL
- RACHEL
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:47:26 PM
Hello,
I would not lie an say i have no roblems because every one does...
I just want to congratulate you and your staff for such a wonderful program, i like listen to your advices. It helps both the people you help and the people who listen. Thanks for being there fr them...
Goos luck and best wishes...
Ingrid
- ingrid
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:46:30 PM
Im not a guy obviously. but i do have a younger brother. Im 18 years old and i know a little about crazy people. If it were my job o pick...i would say smart nd humorous. even if shes no the most beautiful girl in the world why do guys always consider the hott ones a good catch? Hasnt anyone heard of middle calss before? whre did the days go when it was more then just a piece of a**. Or how big a girls b**bs are? Anyways. A capable person (being ok on their own sometimes) everyone needs space. Articualte, active, honest, down to earth, family oriented, open minded and strong willed. Thats what i would hope for him.
-Julia
- Julia
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:44:13 PM
I would give my brothers someone with the same qualities as they have.. so they could get along!.. I would wish that the women would have good finiancial background.. easy going and that they would be conservative! Good mothering skills and a women that knows love.. gives love and expects love!!!.. because i love my brothers and i want them to be happy!!>( i am the youngest of five children by many years and sad to say i saw what DIDN'T make them happy!
- Cassidy
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:43:53 PM
I think that what you do is a very respectful,and nice thing.You talk to anyone in the help of need.I have a relationship that is really wonderful and i love this guy so much but i just dont know what to do;do you think you could help?
- Sarah
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:37:00 PM
If i could pick my brother a wife that she would stay with for the rest of their lives i would pick someone who is nice,caring,helpful, and s into her family and my family and i would want a ladie who is on the bigger side because my whole family is kinda on the big side!
- shelby
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:36:38 PM
Hey Dawson, I just discovered your show tonight and I think it's a great show. I love how you can talk to people honestly about their problems. Keep up the great work that you do.
- Josh
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:36:32 PM
The woman I would choose for my brother would be fun to be around, loving and caring, smart, outgoing, attractive and of course nice.
Those would be the characteristics I would look for in a girl.
- Taylor
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:29:43 PM
Hey Dawson, I think its wonderful that you give your time to other people who need help. You have a beautiful soul and I hope all the people that call you get the help they need. I think its great that you encourage them to change because they need it. Keep up the good work and don't quit your job, you do a wonderful job. Jennie
- Jennie
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:26:46 PM
If I were to pick a woman for my brother...She would have to be good at cooking and cleaning. My brother doesn't like any of that and hates to be told to do them. She would have to be beautiful inside (kind, mature, have manners, and respectful). She must care about other people and be willing to make sacrifices for him. She also must be caring and respectful towards our PARENTS and want them in their lives.
- Christine
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:13:51 PM
hey dawson
i love the show i can relate 2 most of the ppl i had a boyfriend and he cheated w/ another girl and he broke up w/ me and it 2 the point where i cant stop crying and i dont no wat 2 do? the thing is if he breaks up w/ the other girl he will come back 2 me and i love him so much and i would probally take him back i no is should not but it so hard i think bout him all the time and then cry and i cant get over him and i no i need 2 but how?!?!
- dominique
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:13:29 PM
How this girl is toward her father that's how it is going to be for you. YOU ROCK!!!!! KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING!!!!
- Josh
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:13:09 PM
thank 4 all the advice u give n thank 4 making this show 2 let kids 2 talk about this they cant talk with parents or family friends
- Nick
Sunday, Jul 15, 2007 - 10:12:35 PM
I know someone who is involved in a similar situation. Two of my friends have a child but the mother will allow the father to see the child. I have known the father gor a long time and we are really close so he comes to me and tells me his problems. They were together in high school and things were okay but once she found out she was pregnant problems started taking place. After she had the the baby at first she said she wouldnt keep him from his child due to their personal problems. However that was a lie she never lets him see the child, only allows him to see his child whenever her parents are in the house, and other bogus things. My friend (the dad) has never done anything bad to cause her to act like this. He only wants to spend time and take care of his child but she keeps him away from him. I would just like to say ladies if you are ever in a situation where you involve your personal situations with parenting....think about the child first!!!
- Erika
Saturday, Jul 14, 2007 - 10:54:42 PM
The woman would have to be someone who is open and honest...someone who wears her life on her sleeves. Secrets are never good. She would have to be someone who is committed to relationship...willing to work through difficult situations...patient, long suffering, persevering, ect.
- Sarah
Saturday, Jul 14, 2007 - 5:33:40 PM
The woman that i would pick to marry my brother is someone who would love him the way he is. She wouldn't be the type to try and mold him to fit her personality. He is one of a kind and so is she. They both should be able to work together and build on each other. They should be able to share feelings to help each other threw the good times and the bad to become better and stonger people.
- Hannah
Friday, Jul 13, 2007 - 11:13:24 PM
Hiya,
This woman has to be good with God and Loving and kind. She cannot be bossy! Also, she cannot be snobby! You know what i mean, we have all seen the snobby girls, just liek a guy thats cocky...! She has to love him like no other and treat him like he is her everything! Same back to her too! I love your show, I listen every Sunday night! Keeep Helping people! God Bless!
- Marshall
Friday, Jul 13, 2007 - 11:13:04 PM
i need your advice
my friend wants to kill herself
what should i do??
- haylie
Friday, Jul 13, 2007 - 12:03:42 PM
Hey, I listen to your show all the time. I need some help with my relationship. It isn't going right, and I just want some advice on what to do. It's a difficult situation.
- Trip
Friday, Jul 13, 2007 - 12:03:27 PM
If I were to pick a wife for my brother's, I would find one that is not outspoken, loves children and has a great spirit with a relationship with God. Someone who lets her husband make more of the decisions and isn't a control freak. Some one who will abstain until the wedding night.
- Lisa
Thursday, Jul 12, 2007 - 11:12:51 PM
i think the perfect girl for my brother is someone not like me beacuse him and i dont ever get along very well and i want the relationship to go smoothly and not to many fights and i would pick a girl who would go throgh a lot of stuff and be able to hang out with me and be able to talk to me and be like a big sister to me
- cindy
Thursday, Jul 12, 2007 - 11:11:25 PM
hi i love your show it ia awesome but i am going through some stuff right now so i have been kind of down and i feel alone so yeah well bye
- Ashley aka Butterfy
Thursday, Jul 12, 2007 - 11:09:39 PM
the woman would have to know how to clean and cook because i would not want my brother or close uy friend not treated right. If the woman cannot do any of those then she's not a real woman and men need them so that's how i would pick a woman out for him.
- Lauren
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