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The Type Of Woman Your Brother
Should Marry

Your wife may change through God’s love and the circumstances of life, but this change could take a long time to develop. Instead, she should be the kind of woman who will encourage you to be all you can be. “She should make him feel good about himself and make him want to become a better person because of her.” (Melissa) Many women do not understand most guys do have a sensitive side to them. A wife who does her best to give unconditional love and respect will probably help him show her who he really is. “She would be kind and understand that men do have an emotional side.” (Shane) Marriage will bring out the good and bad side of you. You need the kind of woman who will not be a doormat, but will love you the way a husband needs to be loved (This is also true for a husband). You both will need God’s love in order to love each other.

Every potential wife should be the kind of woman you would want to be the mother of your children.
In the end, there are very few things in life that are truly important. Those things most often have to do with relationships. That’s why most guys at one time or another dream of having a loving and respectful wife and children he can love and nurture. But raising children is a huge challenge. It is worth the work, but it is a lot of work. When a wife teams up with her husband to help raise their children in a positive and loving way, a healthy, happy family can come about. “I would want her to be a good mother type…because my brother would be clueless if it came to raising a family of his own.” (Lauren) I have observed there is something about a woman that allows her to be gifted in nurturing her children. This gift of love and patience has nothing to do with whether she is sexy or hot. It’s whether she has the character to team up with her husband and make a difference in their children’s lives.

“Even if she’s not the most beautiful girl in the world, why do guys always consider the hot ones a good catch? Hasn’t anyone heard of middle class before? Where did the days go when it was more than just…how big a girl’s boobs are?” (Julia) I totally agree with Julia. If having a beautiful body made a great marriage, there would be no divorces in Hollywood. A good wife comes in all shapes and sizes. What she has to offer her husband goes way beyond the physical, and right to the heart.

Every potential wife should be the kind of woman who will do her best to get along with your family.
One of the most surprising things I learned when I first got married was how important inner-family relationships were to my marriage. All of us come from different styles of families and our families have a huge impact on what we believe and the way we act.

The wisest man in the Bible, King Solomon (one of my favorites), said something that’s oh so true: “A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.” It’s true. A good woman is hard to find. There are plenty of pretenders, but few who are the real thing. That’s why every guy should slow down, get good advice, and ask for God’s help before getting married. I want to end this blog where I began: Who you marry is the second most important decision you will ever make. Make that decision very wisely.

If you are a girl/woman, I want to encourage you to work on being the kind of woman you would want your brother to marry.

Your friend,
Dawson

Thursday, Jul 26, 2007 - 12:33:33 AM
A dictionary definition of a addiction would probally say something like "it is when someone repeatedly does something that is unhealthy and they won't stop." My definition of an addiction is when you start to do something that could harm you physically or mentally, you say you can say you can quit any time you want to and you think you can stop it by yourself. That's acctualy when it becomes worse and you get to the point when you get so addicted that it get's harder to look yourself in the eye and honestly say that nothing's wrong. I do know someone who has an addiction. She has an addiction to bad boyfriends. once they hit her she leaves. But she is back with a boy who hurt her once. She says that he has "changed" but I just don't believe that it is true. I guess that we'll just see. Still love your sshow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- lorr@ine

Thursday, Jul 26, 2007 - 12:32:55 AM
hey dawson i just love your show and listen to you every sunday night. Im 13 and info helps
- shayla

Thursday, Jul 26, 2007 - 12:32:33 AM
I thought your blog was Ausome, you gave a lot of information that is very helpful.Thanks for all the stuff you do. I love you...I listen to your show every Sunday......Bye
- Cierra

Thursday, Jul 26, 2007 - 12:32:19 AM
I have one friend who is addicted to weed, beer and cigaretts. She is only 13 years old. I listened to what you had said, 'tell them that you are there for them but you have them come to you' I did that and she came to me and asked for help, she has now been sobor for a year and 15days I have counted because I am so proud of her. I want to thank you so much you gave great advice so thank you. -Ellie
- Ellie

Thursday, Jul 26, 2007 - 12:31:48 AM
well, dawson if i had to pick a marriage partner for my brother i would pick someone who makes him happy.
- amanda

Wednesday, Jul 25, 2007 - 1:50:18 AM
When I saw the topic of addiction I was looking for quotes on addiction and came across this quote “You do anything long enough to escape the habit of living until the escape becomes the habit.”I think this quote does relate to addiction.
- Yevgenia

Wednesday, Jul 25, 2007 - 1:43:28 AM
My definition of an addiction is when something in a person's life is affecting them to the point that they are hurting themselves,other,or affecting other people in a bad,dangerous way.I personally don't know anyone who has an addiction to anything but I see in the media young celebrities like Lindsay Lohan,Britney Spears,and Paris Hilton that have drug addiction,alchol addiction and are out partying all the time.Also how these celebrities end up going in and out of rehab,jail and effect their careers because of these addictions.
- Yevgenia

Wednesday, Jul 25, 2007 - 1:42:58 AM
Hey Dawson! I absolutly LOVE your show! I listen to it every Sunday night, and the advise you give people is great! You really make a difference in peoples lives by being there to talk to and help them. I admire you for everything you do! Keep up the good work!!
- Brett Lynn

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 3:12:02 PM
Hey Dawson, I just wanted to say hi and thank you. You are so AWESOME!! And whenever you get this can you PLEASE e-mail me. You are my all time role model,and i listen to your live broadcast every Sunday night. Thank you one more time. And PLEASE e-mail me A.S.A.p!!
- Amber

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 3:11:58 PM
Addiction for me is when you can't control what you are doing. Sadly, addiction for me has hit me hard in life. My Mother was addicted to pain killers and other medications for many years, seeing her when she was on them was unimaginable becasue she was never like that, my family and I tried to tell her to stop, she did go to rehab and she was sober for a while, unfortualy she went back on them and this October will mark 7 years since her death. Looking back at it now if I had known the symptoms of her problem I think she would still be alive today. If you are having a problem or know someone who does, do whatever you can to get into treatment, it will help you break the addiction and get back the life you deserve.
- Michael

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 3:11:35 PM
hey dawson. wow i know alot of people who have the same kind of addictions these people have or know people who are or were. i was addicted to drugs myself for a little bit. well i guess it wasnt really an addiction cuz i was able to stop all of a sudden and i don't feel the need to start up again. i guess i'm lucky. and as for the kind of girl my brother shouled marry. well she cant be the kind of woman who thinks wemon are better than men(though i think he needs that) cuz then he wont hook up with her in the first place, and she cant be a druggi or an alcholic(another thing he wouldnt get with in the first place and he would dump her instantly if she started). he needs a womon to respect him, but also to get him off of his butt and push him to do more things with his life, to help him, and not be mean to his family cuz if she was mean to me he would get ride of her as if she never exsited. and she cant be to controlling. and she cant have cheated on every single guy she's been with. she needs to have a serious since of humor cuz he likes to make jokes and be silly ninty percent of the time and it would be cool if she was into sports but if she wasnt it's ok he can deal with it cuz almost none of the girls in my family do so he's used to it. and well that's about it i think. i just hope if he does get married no matter what type of girl he winds up spending the rest of his life with he's happy.
- kimberly

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 3:11:26 PM
i ove your show i lisin to it every night that it is on i have a lot of probs w/ my family so it helps
- megan

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:36:33 AM
My definiton of addiction, would be something that you do often. Something you can't control, but it isn't always a bad thing. An addiction is somewhat like an unhealthy obsession--you need it. Someone with an addiction that I know would be my dad. He's addicted to Niccotine. He's been smoking since he was in middle school, and he had tried various times to quit. Last year at the end of 6th grade, for Father's Day, I went ahead and bought him a box of patches to quit smoking. He used them, and they seemed to work. But right around a year of 'non smoking' (I'm not sure if he had smoked during that time), I found out he was smoking again. It was related to a recent car accident he had gotten into, and it was putting a lot of stress on him. I figured that as soon as he got better from the accident, he'd stop again. But 3 months later, I still see him ocassionally smoking. At first I was really upset with my Dad. But now I've sort of come to, well, not ACCEPT it, but be more considering. It's not that he doesn't WANT to quit--it's just that he's so highly addicted, that once he started again, he really can't stop. But in time I know we'll get through it, and hopefully he'll stop before it kills him.
- Kelsey

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:35:06 AM
I think that an addiction is something that you feel like you would die if you had to go life without it. My addiction is to internet pornagraphy. It all started a few weeks after I was molested by my teacher in 5th grade, when I was 11. I saw an email my parents got, and told me not to look at it, because it had "bad stuff" in it. I decided to look anyway. I became instantly addicted. My addiction got worse over the years, made me question what orientation I was. I had one night stands with a few people. I would look at pornagraphy sometimes up to 8 hours a day. Finally, I got help for what happened to me in 5th grade, the pornagraphy, my suicidal thoughts, and many other things I struggled with from my youth pastor. I still struggle with a lot of different things now at 17, but my youth pastor has helped me out a lot.
- Sarah

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:34:13 AM
well i just started listening to your show and well i couldnt call so i looked on dmlive so what i wanted to tell you was that there is this boy i know and we go to the same school and he's bi sexual and well my friend said that he was in to me and i never would of thought of asking him but i did and he was now the thing is that hes like my best bud and i kind of like him but ive been told that the relationship wouldnt last so i was wondering if it would be ok thanks!
- Hope

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:33:18 AM
hey i have heard your show and i love it im going threw a rough time right now c i think im gay and i dont know how to tell my family
- Cayla

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:32:59 AM
the type of woman my brother should marry is a person who will do anything to help u with situations, to keep her body in good health, will not do anything bad, oreven be disloyal because u will never know what will heppen the next couple of years of ur life or even the next second of your life!! By the way Dawson your awsome keep up the good work
- Kiersty A.

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:32:18 AM
Hey Dawson, I only recently discovered your show and try to listen to it every Sunday to motivate and help me with the struggles me and people around me are going through. It's great to know that you are there whenever anybody needs someone to talk to. God Bless you man.
- Darrel

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:31:55 AM
An addictionis something that you do and it is very hard for you to stop doing that thing, ex.. smoking, gambling, drugs. Those are bad things you should not do, and oyu might want to stop doing them but it really hard. My mom has an addiction to smoking, she is always smoking in the car, the house, the backyard. She smokes like 4 packs of ciggarets a day. She wastes all her paychech on smokes, we all ask her to stop and tell her that it is killing her slowly but she says it is the only thing that is keeping from stressing out all the time.
- kandyce

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:31:20 AM
Hey Dawson! First let me start by saying i love your show i listen to it every sunday. i would call in, but im not allowed to use the phone past 9 o'clock. Anyway, I have a friend who i would say she is obsessed with being skinny...and being that girl that you see in a magazine. i dont know what to do for her. im a natrually skinny girl. there is nothing i can do about it. i feel that she is intimedated by me. not to sound to full of myself. she stopped eating and tries to lose wieght in an unhealthy way. i dont know what to do for her. plz advise...
- Trina

Tuesday, Jul 24, 2007 - 1:30:38 AM
Addiction, to me, means alot. Lets see how i can start this. Back home, i had many friends with addictions to drugs, alcohol and sex. I started getting into drinking myself when my mom was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. It seemed like my only escape. I got into it big, and my parents never found out. Last november when my best friend over dosed on oxy cotton, i had a wakeup call. I started seeing a change in him around september. He had been doing drugs as long as i knew him. suddenly he was calling me in the middle of the night just to ask me questions about god. He would always tell me "you can't have both amy, you can't love god, and love the drugs you do, I have to choose." He knew that i was completely against drugs, but he couldnt grasp the idea of why i was drinking so much suddenly. One day in our english class our teacher asked us to write a paper on a life changing event. By this time i had calmed down on the drinking and was feeling pretty good. So i wrote about my moms cancer. My dear friend wrote a paper on his addiction, and how he had suddenly found faith, and become clean. He wrote in the paper "I believe that the only reason i continued doing the drugs i did, was to get back that first feeling i had when doing them." I was so proud of my friend, he was changing, and helping me change. The week after he read his paper to our class, we went to thanksgiving break. One night, over the break, when i was at work i got a phone call from a freshmen. She told me that my friend had Over dosed. I laughed and hung up on her, no way could he have done that, right? then i started gettng more calls. I couldnt believe it, untill his girlfriend called me crying so hard that i couldnt understand her. I collapsed at work. cried for two days straight, and couldnt even tell anyone what was going on. He died the night before thanksgiving. It was so horrible. The worst thing about it all was that i never talked to his parents. I had known him and his family since the 3rd grade! He lived less then 3 blocks away from me all my life. After he died, i couldnt go over there, i couldnt call them, i coudlnt handle it. I now have moved across the country and i doubt ill ever see them again. I feel horrible for not talking to them, for not going over to pray for them, for not answeriong my foen when i saw that they were calling me, but it was too hard. I quit drinking the day he died. I got recommited to the lord a month ago, and im doing amazing. The only thing i feel horrible about is not talking to his parents. Does that make me a horrible person?
- Amy

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 2:52:20 PM
Hey Dawson! I love your show and your blog is great! My father never married my mom, because he was in love with another woman when I was born. Six months after I was born my half brother, Robert, was born! They got married and had my other half brother Derek. He was two when they got divorced and he married another woman! They're still married! He and my mom have a bad relationship, so I haven't seen him in a long time. Not to mention I have a sister, whom is also my mother and father's child, is in close contact with him. I want him to contact me, but he just won't.
- Daina

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 2:52:16 PM
I have a brother he's 16.He's struggled with drugs but he's clean now.I think he should marry somone who likes to have fun but still likes to sit on the couch and wath 'reno 911' sometimes.
- Baylee

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:21:47 PM
MY addiction. cheating...I just got married to the man i love.(MAY 2 2007) The man that i really do want to spend the rest of my life with but it seems kinda hard to do that when I had bonded his friend out of jail (jun. 8 2007)(because my husband would ignore me alot and i didnt know what to do) and put 5,000 dollars on the line for him but when my husband needed help for months i never gave him a penny and his credit got messed up real bad. well my point is that i lie all the time and i really hurt him and i get mad when i found out he went with his friends to hooters etc. but i cheat. i love him so much but i always get like this itch to cheat but i really dont mean to and i dont know how i get myself in this mess to because its so stupid its like just dont cheat but i cant help it. And like if i stop 1 year later it might happen again. no matter what happens its allways the same thing and same fight about me messing up again. its like when my husband and i talk i feel like im being disiplined like a little child in front of my parents over and over again. now i have a court date with the guy i bonded out of jail because a year ago i pressed stalking charges on him and he sat in jail for that because he was obsessed with me and wrote letters it is a long confusing story but my husband and i were friends with him 5 years ago and i cheated with him once and ever since then he became obssesed with me even though i didnt talk to him for 5 years and never saw him because i wanted to be with my boyfriend whos my husband now.our ex friend has no family either i think thats why hes obsessed with me because they all died. anyways well i revoked my bond and put him back in jail and then he started threatening me and my husband and said i was only for him. so i called the cops. and showed them my protective order. so now we have a court date with the stalker that i bonded out (stupid chioce all because of my addiction) and hes gonna put up a fight in court and say i love him and all this crazy stuff and i will have to testify for the county and my husband will be there to hear every thing and it might ruin our marraige forever if what he hears gets on his nerve. its like the real point is i notice my addiction is that i alway think in my head hes cheating and so i wana cheat and every time we fight and he doesnt show me love i find it somewhere else. its almost like not a habit but an addiction i cant stop but i want to.An i really do love my husband. but it sounds stupid to say to someone "oh i love you" but yet you cheat on them. but i do because if he ever left me i would fall apart my whole life would. but i never think about these consiquinces when im doing what i do. its like drinking and driving. people know the conseqeunces of drinking and driving but yet do it anyways because it feels good or its tempting.....
- angela

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:21:32 PM
i really like ur blog and ur show they both help me a lot!!! keep it up dawson
- whittney

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:21:28 PM
um...i guess he should merry a kind and nice woman!! ~anime 4 ever~
- Chi

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:21:23 PM
My addiction is alcohol. It all started when my mom comitted suicide when I was 3, and after her death my dad became an alcoholic. He was at the bar every night while I was with my grandma. He stopped, but I began. I have been drinking probably for just about 2 yeas now, and i love it. I love everything about it. When I see it, everything else just goes away, like it's the only thing that matters to me. I'm going to a counselor, but I am still having a hard time fighting it. The last time I drank was earlier this month. I drank a whole bottle in under 5 minutes, and loved it. I didn't get sick or anything, just drunk. The only bad thing was I was in Drivers Ed class when I did it, but they still passed me. I mean I can probably quit whenever I want, but its just hard for me to do. My friend is also having a hard time. He's popping pills like crazy. I don't know what kind, but I know he's suicidal and maybe he's trying to overdose himself. I love him to death I mean he's my best friend, but I can't tell him to stop because he can say it right back at me. I don't want to be hipercritical. My dad doesn't trust him and doesn't want me near him, but I don't know how to tell him that he is an awesome friend, but just doing the wrong thing.
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Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 9:37:57 AM
My addiction. Well let's just say I have way to many to count. But there's really a few that I can't seem to get over. Especially this one. My mother. I haven't seen my mother. Haven't spoke to my mother. Don't know where she is how she is or what type of person she is for the past 17yrs of my life. My mother left me and my dad about when i was almost a year old. And she never kept in touch. There was this hope at one time that I would find her and everything you know. life desperate lil bears trying to find food. Well I never found anything about her. I always cry everytime someone talks about her everytime someone says "Janet yooh look just like your mother.Beautiful like her".. Stuff like that hurts me soo bad inside. When I hear her name or something I just get nervous I cry I scream I can't think. My addiction to that? Being scared to never meet her again. I keep telling myself that I'll never meet her. A few weeks ago It got way out of line. Dad came in there and told me that I wouldnt stop calling her name out saying "I want my mommy". I get scared I don't know how to control my anger against her and I take it out on myself. I always think its MY fault she left. Even though I love her dearly I hate the things she did to me. I wrote her a 3pg letter that she'll never get and I read it everyday. How am I supposed to cope with the fact that shes acutally GONE..To tell you the truth I'm almost in tears right now. Everytime I hear the radio sunday nights I always listen to your show wanting to call to ge MY story out there. I'm pretty sure this has nothing to do with addiction but it was time to let it out. I sometimes feel as if God punished me to this. Even though I shouldn't think like that but its just the thought that she was a total mess and she did me wrong. I'll never get to see her again never hear her voice and never get to experience the mother figure I always wanted. My addiction is soo horrible is not even funny. I just feel like I wanna die. I punch my walls every single time I think of her. I really don't know what to do anymore. I mean I live my WHOLE life without her so why do I need her now.?..The only reason why i have suicidal thoughts is bc of her. Doctor told me that. I'm not sure to beleive if she's even alive. Sometimes I'm like man. for all i care ill piss on your grave and then kiss it. I'll never bring you flowers. yooh know? It's hard. I just don't know why I'm still living......
- Janet

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:48:06 AM
I lie thats my addiction. I cant stop and it has torn so many people away that I really do love and care for. That is what is so hard I lie to the ones I love the most. I am ashamed of myself for doing this because it is about little small things. They just come out one right after the other anything from what I did for dinner to where I went shopping for the afternoon. I am aware of it and am really trying hard to "stay lie free" but I lived that way for so long its not that easy.
- Heather

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:47:41 AM
An addiction is one of the hardest things to overcome. Be it from drugs like crystal meth, or alcohol, or even something simple like video games. For drugs, its the chemicals in the substance that get into the body. They effect the mind, get into the blood, create a feeling or better an illusion that everything is perfect. Only it lasts for a short time, and when its over your mind craves that feeling again. Not only that, the body becomes dependent on the chemicals. It starts to need those substances that do so much harm. Making the person feel moody, depressed,and angry at times. All that person can think about is the next fix, the next drink just so they don't have to feel this way again. It's also true with non-substance related addictions (video games). Inside you can be whoever you want, in any place. You become engrossed in the play that it becomes the only thing you hear, see, think. You escape reality. In the game your free of bills, of responsibilities, of people who seem to ignore you. None of these addictions is a way to live, they are a way to die. If you are one of these people who seem to need these things, I have to say there is help, there is relief, there is an escape. Its different for everyone. My grandfather was an alcoholic, avid smoker, his day consisted of going to work, coming home, and drinking his day away. Finally, he suffered a heart attack brought on by a fight between him and my mother and aunt, i was five. I watched him, lay on the floor, so near death. When he finally got out of the hospital. It was such a scare, he never touched a drink or cigarette again. I pray that no one goes through that scare. A few years ago, A very dear friend got hooked on METH. He lost weight, didn't sleep, didn't eat. He was a mess. He went to rehab but relapsed. He was losing everything. Not only money, or health, but also family and friends. Finally we had to do an intervention. It took 3 months. Also a few bruises (fighting, never the best way, I do not recommend anyone do it)but finally we helped him, we showed him we were not ready to let him go. My point to all this is to say, there is always a way. There is always someone who is willing to listen, to help, LOL, even take a punch for you (again, not recommended). I guess the proper words I need to say is someone to love you. Sometimes, it'll come from an unorthodox source. To those who are seeing a loved one in an addiction. Show them you are there, don't stand back and watch. Even something as small as a word, a hug, or just sitting there listening can make the difference. And if you are suffering from an addiction, call out for help, ask for it. there is always someone there. A teacher, a friend, parents, pastors. You are never alone. if it comes down to it, to where you feel like there is no one. Go to your local hospital, have them refer you to a clinic. I am not gonna say it'll be easy. It won't, but you are always stronger than you think. Men (and women)have the power to move mountains, all you have to do is push. Are you ready to push?
- Eric

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 1:28:01 AM
Dawson, I know this doesn't have anything to do with the topic above,but i need help with a realationship.Im 14 and im a female girl.I just recently had a terrible breakup with my ex boyfriend Adam.I knew in the begining he was Bisexual,but i loved him anyway.Are realationship lasted for about 4 months and during are last month things got rocky.I went to go pick him up to spend the night and my mom went up to get him,he opened the door and told her to tell me it was over and he was seeing another guy.All i need is tips to get over him,because i cant go into another realationship until im through with him.
- Kiersten

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:32:59 AM
I used to have a different kind of addiction…cutting. It was how I dealt with things. I turned to cutting when I got in a fight with my mom, an argument with a friend, or when my boyfriend made threats or did anything stupid like that. I always thought I was so stupid for doing it but it was how I dealt with things. Then I ended up going into treatment. I was in in-patient 4 different times for 1-2 months each and out-patient 1 time for about 6 months. I am so happy to say that I haven’t cut since February. Sadly as a result of my actions my mom has resulted to drinking, marijuana, and fasting to cope. I only hope she can overcome those addictions as I have overcome mine.
- cassie

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:32:28 AM
I think the definition of an addiction is something you feel you need in your life to survive, something you just cannot live without. My "addiction" is an eating disorder. Last summer it was very bad. I was anorexic and sometimes i would make myself throw up. Its hard to explain. I felt like i had to not eat to stay skinny. The addiction i had wasnt really the actaul action of not eating it was my thoughts. I thought about eaintg and food at least every hour. I was addicted to being skinny and looking absolutely perfect. I never really understood what i was actually doing to myself until a good friend of mine talked to me about it. Im a little better now, but to be completely honest i still think about it almost everyday. I dont act on most of those thoughts but i know i still ahve a problem and i sometimes dont eat when im feeling "fat" im not quite sure how to handle it because i know im stil addicted to looking perfect. So that is my "addiction".
- Shannon

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:31:17 AM
addiction controls you...you cant control it i have been a drug addict for three years now and heres my story... everything started when i was seven years old (im 18 now)...my mom and dad got a divorce and i was forced to live with my mom...when i was 12 my mom remarried to a guy named steve and he started to become sexually and physically abusive toward me...my mom got into drugs from my stepdad the year after they got married and i was basically on my own then...i still tried to go to school but it was really hard because i had nobody to push me into it...so i quit going when i was 14...i still had a few friends from school that i saw at parties...but they started to get into drugs, drinking and sex...two of my really good friends overdosed and my best friend Alex was killed in a driveby because he was a drug dealer and he was just in over his head...then my twin sister committed suicide when i was 15...thats when i couldnt deal with it anymore and i also turned to drugs and drinking to get away...it started out with perscriptions...but soon i was doing hard stuff like meth cocaine and ecstacy...ive been living with my aunt for the past three years because she has good connects
- Alyssa

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:30:58 AM
my definition of an addiction is something that just kindof pulls u to wat your addicted to if that makes sience. my addicition was cuttin and i went to consolin for it but it's was hard to stop untill i met my curnt bf. wen he learned he was really suportive and i can't hurt him b/c i no i was by hurtin myself.
- kaylei

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:27:23 AM
im only 15 and im a mexican fem, i think i need help because i cant stop doing drugs and cant stop drinking, even dough sometimes i regret it, i fall back in that crap, and cant find the way to stop... i need help bad.. i started doing drugs Since I was 12 and now i cant stop.. plz help me dawson.. PLZ
- Martha

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:26:07 AM
My friend is addicted 2 a website boys and now 2 sexy and im so worried. Her name is Jessica and she stared getting on this website and she meet a guy on there who is 5 years older than her and was commited 2 another girl she had computer sexy with him we told her mom and she checked it out and the account was deleted but then the next 2 days i found out she was back on it and her mom was letting her do this. Weeks later her mom's new boyfriend moved in and his i think its his nephew came over and my Jessica was attracted 2 him they went 2 her room and her mom and her moms boyfriend let them have sexy[so i have been told she has lyied before though] and im just so worried and i dont know what 2 do. Can you help me?
- Meredith

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:21:03 AM
a couple years ago, i was addicted to crack and ice. i went to rehab for it and havent touched it up until about a week ago. i met this person that i really like and might possibly want to start a relationship with. the problem is, she does crack every single day. i know that if i am around her, i will be influenced by her to do it. i dont know what to do. please help.
- Lauren

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:19:59 AM
hey i really like listeing to your show on sundays. i'm not the kind of person that has certain issue's like the ones you talk about on your show. but i was wondering if you could talk about a persons future in one of your blogs. i'm talking about when high school is done, and someone goes to college and decdide what they do with their live. my problem is decding. i want to go into the navy for 4 years. but my parents dont like the idea. then when i reutrn i want to finish college and become a history teacher. i'm wondering a good way to help convince my parents and friends that this is the right path for me. cuz i've thought about it alot, and i know it's right for me. i just want the support. please e-mail me and let me know how i can talk you about this. thanx and keep up the wonderful help
- Jared

Monday, Jul 23, 2007 - 12:03:43 AM
to me addiction is when you truly believe you need whatever your addicted to just to make it through the day. when you go out with your friends and the first question you ask is "are we getting high" or "drunk" or whatever. when you think you cant live without it. when its all you think about and it makes you miserable to not be able to have it. thats how it is for me mostly. i feel like im dying without it or i cant do anything without it.
- becky

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 11:44:26 PM
I think addiction is doing something over & over not being able to control it. Sometimes you don't even realize you are doing it. I am 24, & have been clean for 4.5 years. I started smoking pot when I was 17, to fit in with my boyfriends crowd, i had been drinking since I was 16. I started smoking when I was 12. My addiction started with the cigarettes, it was something that I did to "fit in". Then I started drinking, when I graduated high school I got hooked up with the wrong kind of guy in the wrong kind of crowd, I started smoking pot, then it went to coke & crank, all I wanted was that next hit. I just couldn't get enough, I needed the next hit, and things just started going downhill. I got pregnant at 19 and that is the best thing that could have happened to me at that piont in my life. If I had not gotten pregnant when I did, I would be dead somewhere, or in jail. My 4 yr is the light of my life, I got married last year and we just had baby. I still fight with my addiction there are times I will be just sitting there, and all of a sudden it hits me, I hae to find something to do to keep me busy, and keep my mind off of things that I used to do. I quit smoking 2 years ago, so I am still struggling with my addictions, but things are so good right now I couldn't imagine going back to that life.
- Alexis

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 11:42:49 PM
hey dawson!i just wanna say i LOVE your show and listen to it every sunday night. it helps me alot to think about all the things going on in my life right now. im 14 years old and am just trying to find out who i am and your words seem to click! thank you so much for all you do and ill be listening to u every sunday :] thank you, samantha
- samantha s.

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 11:04:46 PM
HI DAWSON!!!
- steve

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 11:04:34 PM
Hey u r so so cool you helped alot of people and i help my friends out 2!! stay cool vale.
- vale

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:59:19 PM
an addiction iz ne thing that u cant stop urself from doing, u will say anything to get more of it my mom is addicted to alchole she always says shes going to stop but my whole family no she wont my grandfather smokes he promised me he would stop after christmas 2 years ago i havnt seen him since and i dont no what happened to him i dont no y people do that to them selves they dont think they r hurting themselves but they r and teyre hurting every one around them too
- megan

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:57:37 PM
I just wanted to drop a quick comment to say that I really appreciate how you sometimes say "there's a greater source than me and you helping me" and how you suggest prayer to people who are struggling. Though it's the easiest advise to give it's the best. Thank you.
- Brittany

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:52:52 PM
i think an addiction is something you do consistantly, and you cant break the habbit by yourself. i think what i have is a form of an addiction. i have an eating disorder. i think that an eating disorder is a hugeeee addiction. i am a bulimic anorexic, and i guess not eating is a form of an addiction, but its opposite of what an addiction normally is. an addiction usually is DOING something repeatedly, but in this case, its not doing. but i cant help not doing it. i think that makes sense. and bulimia is a big form of addiction. if its trowing up or exercising, it doesnt matter. i cant stop throwing up by myself, so i am in rehab for it. exercising is the same. once you do it for a while, you cant stop. so dont think you can go have an eating disorder thinking you will stop as soon as it get bad. i went into it with the same intentions. i was addicted after awhile. and i couldnt stop by myself. so i guess we can say my drug is an eating disorder. and we'll end it on that.
- erin

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:28:46 PM
an addicition to me is not just to drugs or alchole but also to sex and susicde/ cutting and food and pretty much anything I belive! I have had a friend that was addicted to cutting and sex and achool but mainly cutting and she was hard to be around sometime b/c you you never new what would happen next and we all just wanted to help her but know one belived her so she pushed everone away and now only has 2 friends that still try to help her and I know its hard on her. But she will not belive anyone and she cuts and the reasson she is addicted to cutting is becuase of her boyfriend b/c he would beat her so she truned to cutting but I have and will stick with her all the way though but I know its hard to stuggle with an addiction because I have myself thats why I will stick with her and I think anyone with an addiction needs someone they can count on though it all!
- Kristen

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:21:46 PM
I difine addiction as something that has ruled your life. Something that affects your body and your mind.It also affects the way your friends see you.
- Trevor

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 10:01:27 PM
someone who will take care of him and not use him. i want him to marry someone who will support him in everythin he wants to do. and will always be true.
- jess

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 9:44:29 PM
addiction-anything that becomes compulsive and one won't let go of.
- Tabitha

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 9:44:00 PM
Dawson, I found your show accidently by driving home from the love of my lifes house. And since I have an hour drive home I listen and look forward to hearing your show all the time. I just want to say that hearing you encourage, help, guide, LISTEN, and honestly tell young adults what they should do from a Godly persons view is so important for them. I myself being 22 years old now have gone through a lot of heart ache and trouble and I got through that time because of gods love and his mercy. I could have not gotten out of situations and problems that I had without him. He is an incredible God and he CAN AND WILL DO MIRACLES EVERYDAY! Thank you dawson for your show and I will continue to listen. I also wanted to mention that i think that I could be a real great deal of help for these kids even though I am 22 almost 23 years old. I have gone through many things in my life and because of that and my love for kids, I want to help them, and if there is anyway that i can help others please let me know as soon as you can. Thank you and God bless you Dawson, Nikolai
- Nikolai

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 9:42:59 PM
Some people think that an addiction only pertains to substance abuse. But I myself am addicted to cutting. I began over 3 years ago, and though I am begining to gain more control over the situation, I, for the longest time, could not control the urge to cut my arms or legs. I still struggle sometimes. An addiction is something that a person turns to when they cannot handle the cards that they are being dealt. I have my reasons for turning to cutting (and more recently smoking), but I pray to God everyday for the strenght to overcome these things. Addictions are hard things to try to break alone. Everyone needs someone there to help them along the way.
- Amanda

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 6:16:49 PM
my definition of an addiction is something that is hard to handle. Something that affects not only your body but also your self image and how others see you. An addiction is hard to live with and stop if the person insist of not having a problem. It affects families and not to mention the person that is the addict. Its a very hard thing to go through!
- jenny

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 6:16:34 PM
Okay well im addicted to dip and smoking and i have been smoking since i was 14 and dipping since i was 15 and i am 17 right now and i got caught with it at school and i had to go to court for it and its a horrible habit and before i was doing ala this i was addcited to weed and i hate doing all theis stuff. dawson can you please help me
- John

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 6:16:15 PM
For a while my brother use to be addiced to drugs. Pot use to be a problem with him. My Mom couldn't take his attitude, and his rebellion got him in a lot of trouble. He was just always disorganized when he was doing the pot, and he would leave doors opened. My mom got fed up with him, and told him to leave because of his addiction. He moved out, but kept a lot of his stuff around. I was around 17, and I decided to go through his stuff. I found lots of ciggeretts, pipes, objects used to do drugs with. It just hurt me so much to see that he was doing drugs, and how addicted he was to it. A few times he would go out to the garage, start smoking, and my Mom would go out there. He said he never did drugs, but she went out there, and told him hand me the bag of pot. He said he had none, looked at her straight in the face. He had pot, and she took it out of his hand. Now he is doing a lot better, but he still does pot wich bothers me and he also tries to influence me to drink do drugs, and smoke. I completely ignore it. I don't want to have a problem with an addiction later on nor do I want to face consequences of jail time or cops.
- Christina

Sunday, Jul 22, 2007 - 6:13:49 PM
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- Cindy

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 9:25:39 PM
I define an addiction as something that's controlling you, as opposed to you controlling it. When you have an addiction, it's like you can't think for yourself, and that addiction is living your life for you. It is slowly killing you...eating away your dignity. I am dealing with a couple of serious addictions myself that I don't feel comfortable sharing here, and it seems kind of hypocritcal for me to be posting this because I'm not doing too good at all. Still, addiction is a vicious cycle that takes so much courage, strength, and self-discipline to break.
- Iris

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 9:24:57 PM
Addictions to me are things that you can't stop doing. They become things that are really important to you and become a huge part of your life. I am addicted to cutting. I haven't done it for a month or so but it got to the point where it's all I could think about and it was the first thing I would turn to when something went wrong. It was making me really depressed. I started when I was thirteen because I couldn't handle things at home. My mom's boyfriend was abusive towards my mom and would always tell me how much he hated me. Both him and my mom were major alcoholics. Then when I got in ninth grade it was just me and my mom and I started cutting more. My mom was drinking more and fought with me more about everything. Then in the beginning of tenth grade my mom passed away from a virus or something that was messing with her heart. Now I live with a family from church and I haven't been able to stop for more than a couple of months at a time even though I know I'm not getting anywhere by doing it. It's hard.
- Jess

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 8:22:38 PM
Hey Dawson nice blog! I really want you to know that I REALLY appreciate what you do for the community. You truly are a life saver.
- Anonymous

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 6:35:35 PM
My definition of addiction is when they over use a substance,object,etc and can't stop what they're doing even if they wanted to. They need to get help, because being addicted to something isn't a good thing, most of the time.
- Miriah

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 6:35:10 PM
hey dawson I have a addiction some people don't think is a problem but cutting. I feel like i have to cut all the time and that i need it to get by. There are a lot of people in my family with addictions to drugs because of depression. Instead of using drugs I cut myself to relieve my pain and to be distracted. Life is not easy and or good for me right now and when things get hard thats when people turn to drugs or other things and get addicted. When you have an addiction it is really hard to stop it or get help thats why a lot of people struggle. Much Love to you Dawson -Mariah-
- Mariah

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 6:21:03 PM
My definition of an addiction the condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or involved in something. I have family that had addictions with drugs. One of my uncles are currently in drug rehab. I have two addictions: smoking and self-injury. Both have been very hard to stop. With smoking, I'm currently on three months for the most part I've stayed away from people who smoke. It started when I was 15 the day of my grandmother's visitation and in the back of the funural home my cousins where smoking and I was under a lot of stress, so I took one from their hand and started. With self-injury, I'm currently on one month! :) It has been really hard. I started when I was 11, now 17. Often times I would go through periods of six months of not harming, but the past year or so it's been hard to get past a month. About one month ago I was sexually harassed by my best old guy friend. He had gotten mad at me for trying to kill myself, but he told me that he was always there for me no matter what.
- Ashley R.

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 3:10:50 PM
This is a great post.
- Shorty

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 2:46:46 PM
My boyfriend doesn't realize how bad his addiction to alcohol is. He drinks almost every day. I have lost most respect for him, and when he tells me things like how he loves me, I don't know if it's really him talking or the alcohol. He told me he would quit for me if I wanted him to, but I feel pressured into letting him so that I can be the "cool" girlfriend. I'm also afraid to find out whether or not he loves alcohol more than me. I don't know how to tell him how bad his alcohol is affecting me.
- Rachel

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 2:46:19 PM
she has to be buetiful inside and out. not to controling and sweet. She has to be caring and not selfish. nobodys perfect but everyone can try...=]]
- sydney

Saturday, Jul 21, 2007 - 2:46:02 PM
sometimes you need to look at her at a more good because she may be nice or something good.
- mike