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Lows Of Addictions
In my last blog, with the help of your comments, I wrote what most talk show hosts would never write about. There is a risk of being misunderstood on this important subject. I tried to describe the positive effects of addictions. Click HERE to read it. I wanted you to see the whole picture of addictions - the good, the bad, and the ugly. Click HERE for a list of most addictions. It was a pretty powerful sales job on why you might want to take up an addiction yourself. I hated writing it, but I didn’t want you to think I was naïve or like a poster that hangs in your health class.
We discovered there are some advantages to addictions, at least at the beginning.
| …whatever positive you can say about addictions, you can say 10 negatives against them. | We said addicted behaviors would give you an awesome buzz and make you feel like you were invincible. We mentioned with addictions, you can go on your own make-believe vacation, and have your own fantasy amusement park. We also talked about how cool some addictions are in that you can use them on demand. We went even deeper and claimed some addictions make you think you’ve step into the world of the supernatural, a world far beyond this physical everyday life. I worked hard on last week's blog, but I wasn’t proud of it. Because whatever positive you can say about addictions, you can say 10 negatives against them.
It’s too bad we can’t experience the positive side of addictions and not have to face the negatives, but that’s not the way it works. I have a friend who always says off the wall comments. One day he said, “You buy meat, you buy bones.” Crazy isn’t it? He was trying to say even when you buy meat (which is good for you), you also end up with bones which might help your dog, but will do you little good. With addictive behavior, he could have said, “You buy meat, you buy poison.” Or as someone once said when it comes to addictions, “For every thrill there is a chill. For every kick, there’s a kickback. For every high, someone somewhere will die.”
So let’s get in to it. What’s wrong with addictions? Why are they so destructive?
Addictions are destructive because they never deliver what they promise.
If there was ever a case of false advertising, this would be it because addictions never live up to their own hype. There’s a reason for this. One reason is your body builds up a tolerance to chemicals or behavioral activity that activates the chemistry in your mind. In a sense, it’s like the hyped up chemicals in your body that give you a high become overused so to speak, and can’t perform as well as they once did. Therefore, the high they received from their addiction isn’t as strong as it once was. Some addicts call their searching for that strong buzz, “chasing the high.” They can chase all they want, but there’s only so much high they’re going to get.
| …all you think of is that next high, that next buzz, and you will do ANYTHING to get it. | My mother used to say, “You can’t squeeze blood out of a turnip.” Neither can you squeeze pleasure out of your body when it has become tolerant to the chemicals that causes the "feel good" to begin with. Therefore, as the addict continues using, the brain tries to adapt to the change by reducing the amount of dopamine, serotonin, or norepinephrine (adrenaline) it would normally release. This leaves the user needing more of their drug or behavior to feel the same effect. All addictions could be called “false feel goods.” They’re false because, in truth, they cannot deliver what they promise. “Yes the feeling you get when you are in your high can be amazing, but it doesn't last. After the effects have taken hold…you start to come down, it’s like HELL…all you think of is that next high, that next buzz, and you will do ANYTHING to get it. You become a person you don't want to be…” (Eric)
At least two things happen with addictions. The original thrill is harder and harder to find, but the cravings for it become greater and greater. It leaves a person always craving, but never truly finding.
| …you'll find it easier to catch the wind than the addict would catching his/her high. | So you see, the addict’s high never delivers on what it promises. It’s a liar, and will always make a fool of us. The wisest man in the Bible, King Solomon, talked about finding meaningful life without God. He called it, “chasing after the wind.” He said, “I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.” That is what addicts do. They chase after the wind, thinking they will find that one all time best high. Have you ever tried to catch the wind? It’s impossible, but you'll find it easier to catch the wind than the addict would catching his/her high. “The fact is that [the high] wasn't permanent, so I would have to keep doing it every time something bad happens, and that just sucked…” (Rachel)
Addictions are destructive because they turn you into a liar and a thief.
Tragically, every person with an addiction ends up being the kind of person he or she never intended to be. A person with an addiction spends half their time chasing the high, and the other half either covering up the addiction, or
frantically searching for money to buy the chemicals or behavior which produces the high. Their addiction becomes their god. This god becomes more important to the addict than anything else. No matter how important friendships, family, jobs, security, etc. are, they always become a distant second in importance compared to the god of their addiction. All addicts are liars. They’ll do anything to get their high, which includes lying and lying and more lying. Lying becomes second nature to the addict because it’s a tool to cover the tragic life they are leading and the craving that makes it worse.
“I have to hide what I just did to myself. I have to hide how I did it…I have to hide that I am hurting…I must go on with the guilt eating away at my insides. I walk around, different from others, covered at all times, and people ask me why all the time. I lie to them…” (Shelby)
“I have 2 young children (3 & 1) and just left their father because he was addicted to gambling…I always thought that cheating would be the worst, but I soon discovered that along with gambling came lie after lie…Our relationship was never going to improve without trust.” (Ericka)
Lying is only one tragic part of worshipping at the altar of addictions. As bad as it sounds, addicts become both liars and thieves. Addictions become expensive, or as they say in
Narcotics Anonymous, “Are you tired of the high price of low living?” There are millions of people who spend tens of thousands of dollars paying for their false feel good. When the craving for the addiction hits them, they often act in an irrational, cruel, and unbelievable way in order to dig up the money. Ultimately, they become thieves. All addicts are thieves. They will steal whatever they can get their hands on to underwrite their high.
“…Me and my mom got away from the only person I ever considered my father because he started shooting meth…things were getting so bad he was stealing from me and my mom, taking things out of the house to pawn…” (Shelby)
“My boyfriend is addicted to weed…He smokes in the house and we have a son who sleeps in the next room. He has taken money out of our son's piggy bank to buy weed.” (lala)
When Lala’s boyfriend first started smoking weed, he never in a million years would think he’d sink so low as to steal money out of his little son’s piggy bank just for some pot. But there he was, doing things he’ll regret the rest of his life, not to mention the damage in his son’s life.
I’m not the only person who hates addictions. So does Lala, Shelby, Ericka, Shelby,
| It is only the God of the universe, the One who loves you and me, who can meet our deepest needs. | Rachel, and Eric. All this pain because you and I are susceptible to believing lies and forever chasing that high which we mistakenly think will fill the hole in our soul. The god of addictions is a liar, and always will be. It is only the God of the universe, the One who loves you and me, who can meet our deepest needs. And He would never turn us into liars, thieves, murderers, etc. Yes there is a small upside to addictions at the beginning. Too bad it doesn’t last. Too bad reality has to come knocking on our door so soon, but as somebody once said, “Life has a way of showing up.” And if I am to be happy, I must deal with the way things are, not the way I wish they would be.
Your friend,
Dawson
QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
25 YEARS LATER
Pick an addiction (example: stealing, cutting, etc. To find a list of addictions, Click HERE) and try to express what a person's life with the addiction would be like 25 years from now if he/she is not set free.
For example, in 25 years from now, a person addicted to stealing will have a reputation of being a thief, will be in and out of jail, will have lost his/her family and friends and be distrusted or hated by just about everybody he/she knows. This person is going to have a very difficult time getting a job, or finding any kind of peace in their life. Their addiction to steal will follow them and haunt them for the rest of their life. Few, if any, will attend their funeral. Plus, their addiction to stealing could be passed on from generation to generation.
Friday, Aug 31, 2007 - 9:11:13 AM
hey dawson,
i started smoking pot a few months ago with my brother. and i knew if i didn't stop i would either end up in jail or dead 25 yrs. from now. but it wasnt easy.i still smoke and im trying to quit because it has already made me a liar.
karen
- karen.
Friday, Aug 31, 2007 - 9:10:49 AM
Hello Everyone,
My wife was finally able to kick the habit before she got pregnant with our now first born beautiful baby gilr, so I tought I'll share the resource that she has used to help her quit the smoking habit with as many people as I can.
She was a heavy smoker for about ten years and just a couple of weeks after finding out about the program that I have researched online, she was able to quit smoking permanently and now can't stop telling people about how she had kicked the habit for good.
Anyway if somebody want to check it out the site is; http://endthehabitnow.com
- exsmoker
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 6:00:28 PM
a person 25 yrs from now who cuts will have raw meat for arms and legs and will be unable to cope with anything that comes there way. they will be alone in life because no one wants to love an addict.
- brittany
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 6:00:12 PM
Thank You So Much For What You Are Doing for theese kids, teens and Adults. You are truly blessing them, and I by listening to your show on every Sunday night on KDWD
Thank You so Much, May God Bless You Greatly!
Abigail
- Abigail
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 5:59:50 PM
i also think that people that have addictions 25 years from now they will eatehhr end up dead or in jail and about 10% out of 100% will probly be able to quit no matter what there addiction is.
- gregory b.
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 5:59:22 PM
i think that people that have these addictions need to try to get some help and need to stop abusing there bodies i have an addiction and it is smoking but it is not as bad as these other things that people in this world are using.
- gregory bradford
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 5:57:23 PM
I am a drug user. I do smoke weed. You see, my brian is divided in half. One half is the good side that says "I need to quit. I have have to stop". While the other side is the bad side and it says " AND I DON'T WANNA STOP!". So I'm really confused. I haven't really made the best choices in my life. Like to smoke weed was one of them. But I feel so good when I smoke. I love that high feeling. Its makes me feel like everythings okay and that there's no problems in my life. But then the next day I just want more and more. I can't go a week without it. I have another problem also. I cut. I tried to stop it but just receintly I started again. The pain is alful but it releases all the real pain that I sufer from. I'm a problem child. I do have problems. And I can't stop. I know that one day I'll probably end up killing myself. There's no telling what I'll do next. I don't want to die. but I'm not sure if I want help.
- Jeannie- 15
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:27:54 AM
I agree. Addictions never deliver what they promise, they cause you to live a lie, and cause you to be a person you never intended to be. No matter what the particular addition, they rob you of your potential - career potential, personal development potential, and relationship potential. This, I think, is a part of the "death" consequence of sin - a part of the "reaping" of what we have "sown."
I recently heard life described as two fields. With our choices and actions, we can sow seeds in the field of the flesh, or we can sow seeds in the field of the Spirit. No matter which field we sow in, we will reap a harvest - corruption if we sow to the flesh, or abundant life if we sow to the Spirit.
I was first exposed to pornography when I was a boy of around 9 years old. My dad worked part-time in a small community grocery store, and I even got a job there bagging groceries. Magazines were kept in the back room, and it didn't take long to get hooked. And the battle has lasted now for 40 years. As I have sought to serve God, this struggle - this addiction - has caused me to stumble more times than I can remember, and has caused me such shame and grief. It has kept my wife and I from having a truly intimate and loving and joy-filled relationship. And as my children have grown up (they are now 25,22, and 18), I have prayed over and over that they would be protected from any generational curse that might come from this.
Thanks for your ministry, and for this discussion.
- L. O.
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:26:26 AM
Dawson, I have been struggling with an eating disorder for several years. I'm anorexic. I know that if I don't quit, in 25 years, I will be dead.
- Kitty
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:26:12 AM
o D.M one of my friends are addicted 2 weed and she started doing it wen her bf shoved it in her mouth and she cant stop smoking it and she even gathered up with her bf and friends and one of my cuzin 2 smoke it and wen my cuzin was high she gave heads and i dont no what 2 do about this
- Sikara
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:25:55 AM
i think that 25 years from now someone who iz addicted to gambling would be living on the street and have absolutely no money at all. ppl wouldnt trust that person because theyve been known to have a problem with gambling. they would end up on the street because they would probably use up all there money to go to the casino and play till they have no money left then they go to then they go to bank accounts and then b4 they kno it all there money iz gone and it gets to the point to where they are theiving from their own jobs bank money. so then they go to jail and its just gets all out of whacck. it must be hard to have a gambling prob cuz u use all ur money to play till theres nuthin left....jeez.
- Mariah
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:24:48 AM
I listened to your show but didn't call in I didn't have to, a girl's story sounded exactly like mine so I took your advice and got over my addiction to sex and heroin, so thanks Dawson you changed my life keep it up!
- sranger you have never met
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:24:31 AM
Well I struggled from more than one addiction. Such as cutting sex love and many more alot of them have to deal with past issues that I am still trying to over come today. It's a long process but with Gods help I can do it I just want all to know that help is out there you just have to seek the information. Alot of times pain causes young adults as well as grown adults to intoxicate themselves because we feel there is no other way. Word to the wise there really is a way you just have to seek the right tools to become successful. Those who have addiction with children in the nashville area look up the renewal house program and you will learn more than not getting high.
With love to all suffering addicts its a hard road.
Melissa
- Melissa T.
Thursday, Aug 30, 2007 - 12:23:57 AM
Hey Dawson!
I wanted to ask you what I should do about something. OK I have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost 2 months. And I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend still. It hurts to see my ex everyday at school and after school. It just Hurts BAD!! And I miss not talkin to him and eveyrthing else. SO HELP ME PLEASE!!! What should I do.
- Caitlin
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 11:55:09 AM
i like what your doing for these kids and young adults, sometimes talking to someone who will listen is all a person needs. keep up the great work and thankyou!
- beth
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 11:55:06 AM
i listen to your show every sunday night at work (the graveyardshift)and i can relate to alot of the issuues these young people call you about. i'm a single mom working my butt off to take care of my three boys with no dependable suport and not quite enough to make ends meet. i was married and pregnant at 15 to an older gi who i was beaten by. i have struggled with being homeless, almost giving up my children because i thought they would be better off with someone else and i was a meth addict for a few years. i've been in the same home now for 1 1/2 years ( though we are not happy here we have a gole of getting back to new york where we now own our own home if we can get there) i've been clean for 7 years, and no it wasn't easy but i know it can be done and i've been at the same job for 1 1/2 years without missing a single day and only been late once due to my three year old playing superman.....that was fun. i'm now thiry years old and still learning and growing with my children. they have been my streangth, my will and my reason. without them i know i would be nothing i just hope i do good by them and teach then to do things the right way so the can have a better future for themselfs and the family they may one day have.i do have regrets and i have made so many mistakes. i just keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason and we are all here for a reason. i know too that i still have alot of mountains to climb in my life but knowing that my three boys are on the other side will keep me strong even when i feel that i can't take anymore.........
- beth
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 11:54:48 AM
I am one of those people who do smoke pot. But just recently a friend talked to me about it and he got me thinking. See here's the thing, my dad smokes pot and thats where I get it, and my friend told me he said " Think of it this way, when your fifty years old do you still want to be sitting around the house and your doing is smoking pot. I mean is that how you want to end up?". Well I really did think about what he said and I decided to stop. I know htat I'll really need his help through this but I think I can do it. i'm just saying that pot really has messed up my life, so its time for me to stop.
- Jeannie
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 11:54:43 AM
You know my mom has been addicted to marajuana 25 yrs or longer!Her life is horrible.She has a boyfriend who doesn't care for her and a daughter (my sister) who hates her.I don't hold anything against her because I've forgiven her even though she's effected my life in unbelievable ways.She took my child hood because I had to raise my sister and has left me with a lot of guilt because I did a bad job.She does nothing but sit home and smoke pot she doesnt clean, take care of herself or do anything for that matter.She never gets out or even has any friends and she looks horrible and is only 50.I try to help my sister understand but how can someone who has to live with that torment understand.She's very bitter about her life and her choices and is extremely paranoided all the time.She thinks everyone's out to get her, get her help is what it really is.If you could see and live what I have you would never try marajuana and what's scary is most people don't consider marajuana dangerous.After 25 yrs she has ruined her life and effected everyone around her.She's left me with emotional scares I don't think will ever heal and that effect me in my everyday life.I can't even have a healthy relationship now because I have no clue what that is.
- Kelly
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 11:54:35 AM
I agree with dana because i am a addicted of cutting and have been cutting for about 3 years. I think about cutting all the time and i do have scars all over my body. There not pretty I have been hospitalized twice and it's not fun. The pain and suffering people say it will stop but for me it just keeps going. I have lost faith and I am scared to tell people how i really feel. I feel like noone understands me. people say it will be okay in that case why do I cry wishing to be someone else. I have no clue where I am gunna be in 25 years or even 10 but all I know is that I don't want to still suffer.
I know i can make a change but addictions are not easy to stop they take time i just hope my time comes soon.
Love,Mariah
- mariah
Wednesday, Aug 29, 2007 - 1:16:25 AM
Say you're addicted to cutting.
I've seen pictures of those who are addicted to cutting, those who have been addicted to cutting for a long time. It's not pretty. Their arms are covered in scars, fresh ones and old ones. You can see pain reflect across their eyes, it's written all over their face. The pain that disappeared when they drew that thin blade across their skin for the first time, so many years ago...it doesn't go away anymore. It stays. It taunts you, begging you to give in to its power. And you do, because you no longer have the strength to fight it, you no longer have the self worth, the self value to fight it. It's not worth it anymore. People have given up on you because you've given up on yourself. Nobody knows how to help you. It appears as though you don't want help.
That's how addiction will affect someone in 25 years. I've seen the pictures. I've seen the pain. It's not pretty.
- Dana
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 10:20:00 PM
25 years from now, a girl with a sex addiction could end up sitting in a room wondering how she is going to pay next months rent because after 25 years of prostitution her body isn't "beautiful" enough for the business. Aging isn't looked upon with desire and rejection sets in. The future looks hopeless. Years of abuse and roller coasters of emotion have taken a toll on all forms of hope for something greater. The need to be loved and accepted is still unfulfilled despite the money making "highs" night after night after night. All sense of self worth, value, identity...disappeared long ago. The loneliness must be unbearable.
- Sarah
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 10:19:25 PM
I agree with the last Kayla girl. If you were addicted to cutting, drugs, etc., then you would have a greater chance of not being here in 25 years.
But let's suppose the were to live, they would have to live with the scars of it on top of regular life. How can a person do that? I can't and it's only been a few months. I am scared to death to remember what I have done, (but I still want to do it).
Let's say in 25 years a person gets married and has children. How are they going to explain to them how to cope with teenage life if they couldn't, in a cutting addiction situation? Also, how can the parents tell their kids to not do drugs if they did them? It would be difficult if possible.
It could also affect your job. Let's say you get a grand job of a big company, big responsibility. How can a coworker explain to the other coworkers or boss even if he has his sleeve rolled up and they see scars?
Anyone can email me. I can always talk to anyone and people can offer me their advise. I am Rachel, only 15 who has a cutting and drug problem. Don't judge me!
- Rachel
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 10:16:37 PM
Addiction is things that poeople might need to do when they get rally mad. but it can hurt so many more poeple then you think when you are about to cutt or something like that cuz you will died before 25 years if you keep it up .
- kayla
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 10:15:59 PM
In 25 years, people that are addicted to relationships and or love will be emotionally drowned by their own needs and the real sad part of it is that they wont even know it. Most people would agree that being in love is a good thing and your lucking to find it but when you think about it people that go out and look for it usually fall in love with the wrong person, but there satisfied because their in love. they live there whole life around there idea of you are always having to be in love.
- Liz
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 10:15:00 PM
Well if you take cutting for example, in those 25yrs. you can loose everything. People won't want to be around you becuz your always depressed. You'll be put in so many psych wards. You won't have good people skills so it'll be hard to find a job, your marriage will be in the gutter, & if you have kids in the mix they'll be as depressed as you are. Not including all the physicall problems, lose of blood from all the cuttings, ending up in the hospital plenty of times, having to pay all the Doc. bills, you'll be in debt. lose of blood to your brain so you won't be thinking straight half the time, You'll have so many marks on you that you won't be able to hide them all. Not to mention all the people you hurt around you. See just becuz YOU think that no one cares, they do and it affects them too & makes them feel bad that they might loose a best friend, wife, sister, mom, aunt, daughter, dad, uncle, husband, brother, son, etc. Someone that they aren't able to help. They are afraid becuz they know the time is coming soon that they will be sitting at your funeral with people around them wipping there tears in sadness, weeping at your grave site. God cared about you so much that he sent his one & only son to die for you. He was nailed to a cross just for you. Now if you don't call that love I don't know what is.
- Jenn
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 9:11:43 PM
In 20 years the person who is cutting might regret what they are doing/ have done. It breaks up marriages, causes lost friendships and makes them feel even more alone than they are now.
- Shorty
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 9:09:53 PM
Any addiction is just a simple thing that go out of hand. If that addiction goes of for 25 years, first off you'd be lucky to even be alive for 25 years after giving into your addiction over all those years. Say your addicted to drugs, alcohol, or cutting, youd be lucky to last 25 more years. Now, with that said, once you do continue over the years, you dont have too much hope for stopping or quitting, but there is always a chance to start anew, always, that chance will never go away. If you addicted to drugs, over the years you will only spiral down, and you'd either spiral down with another chance to get your life in line, or you'd spiral right into the groud inside a coffin. Any addiction past 25 years needs serious help, and i hope anyone suffering from any addiction recognizes it early enough and spirals down safely with another chance instead of spiraling down right into the ground, dead.
- kayla h~
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 9:08:57 PM
Thanks to you me and my mom talk alot.
I have not called in.but you helped
someone like me.You touched me in A way that no one can.Dawson keep it up.
THANKS A BUNCH
- Kimm
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 9:08:44 PM
Ive only heard your show one time as I was flipping thru, and there was a girl on there, I dont know specificaly
what the topic was but I do know she was talking about a parent that did drugs. I was listening to her and everything she was saying was SO similar to what I have been through. My mom is a meth addict. She has been that way since I was 12 I am now 20. She had lost everything she pretty much owned, from her car to her home, down to her kids. She was a normal mother. A very good mother to that. Just came in contact with the wrong people. She is currently in jail waiting to go to prison along with my brother. Iam happy to say that I have never touched the drug in my life, just seeing what it had done to my mom, was enough for me. I have no idea if this has anything to do with what your show does, like I said I heard about it and from what I hear, this is an awesome show, and its great that there is a place like this where people can talk. jessica
- Jessica
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 9:08:01 PM
Dawson,
I am emailing you because I am very frustrated. I am over 25 years of age. The problem is my daughter, I told her to call you but she won't. She is 20 going on 21. When she was 9, I had to relocate to PA from NY. I left her with her dad and he was verbal and physically abusing her. Her self esteem is very low. She never follows through with anything. And she lashes out violently out against anyone trying to help her. She tried to hurt herself several times. I am at my wit's end, as for the past few years, I have been battling cancer and had to quit my job. She is causing a lot of stress. Please help me. She listens to you on Sunday or perhaps you can email her with a message on my email address. Thank you very much. A very stressed out mom. Parents have problems too and you give pretty good advice because I listen to you, too.
- Jeanie M.
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:18:27 AM
I have had an eating disorder for 6 years, going on 7. I've lost: My friends, my family, my body, my mind, my sence of identity, my ability to think clearly. The ability to stay warm, the ability to not go a day without hating myself. I've lost my ability to know who I am, and my purpose in life other than to self-destruct. My eating disorder started as a way of coping. And I just thought, once I lost a little weight, once I was a little thinner, then I would be better. It would let me GO. IT HAS NOT LET ME GO!! I have become a liar and I hate myself everyday. Eating Disorders are hell, and knowing all this about myself, I am still an addict. I'm still sick.
- Trisha
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:17:51 AM
My friend Alex was addicted to smoking pot and drinking and he ended up in AAA and then he was put into the United Hospital Psyc Ward and he is totally changing his life around and is concentrating on school and trying to get his life back on track.
- sam
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:15:21 AM
I listen to ur show EVERY Sunday. I think it's great what u do. I am very lucky cause none of my family is "druggies" or "cutters". I really reach out to people who unfortuantly have those problems in their lives. BLESS ALL WHO READ THIS!!! :)
-SHELA
- Shela
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:13:17 AM
in 2o years if a person who is cuttin n only like 13 or so hasn't stopped then they will be strugglin wit it for ev...n like will have to explain to peeps why they never wear long sleeves or shorts....or ever go swimmin n stuff like that.... lets just put it this way...i've been addicted to a few thangs n they suck...all they do is cause more drama in ur already over dramaed life...yeah they make you feel good for like a few min...it aint worth it
- AmBeR
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:12:46 AM
hey dawson i like your show alot because it really helps people and evry sunday night i lay down and relax to hear your show just listening to all those teens talk about there lives make me think what would i do if hat was me .............. keep it up with your show you are a good man :)
- adrian m.
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:12:23 AM
Wow keep up the great work Dawson
- katrina
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:10:20 AM
I choose me as the addict. I like to keep it real. I have an addiction to hurting myself. I forsee maybe and eating problem coming into place. I am hunger striking with my friend. No reason though. I just like the challenge. And I was angry. Anywhoo, in 20 years, I forsee myself to be in a lot of trouble. I will have a bad reputation. I will have probably lost all my friends, except maybe one. She's messed up with me. I will probably weigh a very low and unhealthy amount. I will probably have stolen. I will probably be into prescription , because I feel so tempted already by them. I will have many more scars. I will probably turn into an 'emo'. Peircings of all the sort, even though they scare me like crazy now...all this and maybe more...if I'm still alive by then.
- shelby
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:07:29 AM
im highly addicted to Jesus Christ!!!! and i will never stop with addiction
- ashley b
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:07:12 AM
I feel like my boyfriend is cheating on me. And he won't tell me if he is or not. Can you help me on my problem? Just call me ... Please Call Me!!!
- Miranda
Tuesday, Aug 28, 2007 - 12:00:30 AM
I have prayed for everyone of those who responded to your comments of the week. They must believe right now that God has healed them and they must turn away from their addictions and not look back.
- Liz
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 11:45:07 PM
the addict becomes a person without concern for the health, and well-being of others, his conscience perhaps once useful and working becomes seared by the fire satans addicting chemicals splash around, as he sinks deeper HE begins to sell the drug to provide for his own addiction and he sells to anyone, and everyone who will buy, with no regard for the outcome that will follow in the lives of his victims...errr customers, family members are not excluded if they will try and they will buy he will sell to even his own mother...brother...sister ANYONE ...he has lost his way
- JoAnne P.
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 2:55:19 PM
im 15 years old a basically addicted to cutting i started when i was in the 6th grade stoped when i was in 8th and now im back to it i cant seem to find a differnt way to get my feelings out. my life was good and now its all upside down I need some help..
~Nicole R.
- Nicole R
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 10:51:32 AM
I have this friend that lives in New York. And she is moving to Texas because her real mom. And that when she moving to teaxs she told me that her step mom dose not like her and My friend (girl) dose not like her. She also said that she was telling her what to do and she siad that my friend told me that she dose not like that. she dose not want to be controled. She is a senior this year. And she is my age. My friend also said to me that she calls her mom calls her names. And my friend dose not like thst
JON E.
- JON E.
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 10:50:08 AM
I believe that when you get addicted to either cutting or whatever it maybe, that it can really ruin your life or someone elses life. I personallydo not have an addiction but I know people in my family that have them and they have ruined or are beginning to ruin their lives. Dawson I think that you show is the most helpful thank you!
- allie
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 10:49:52 AM
u have helped me plenty i want to thanku for it dawson u ROCK..........................................................................
- SARAH D.
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 10:49:30 AM
This isn't about your blog but I was wanting to tell you after listening to you live on sunday night for the first time that your a great person for what you do and I admire you as a role model.
- Garrett R
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 10:49:10 AM
I used to be addicted to weed and herion it was 12 weeks ago that i called DM live high on weed herion and i was VERY suicidal....I just didnt care if i lived or died. BEcause when your high NOTHING matters. ecause you become numb. you dont fell much of anything. being high was always fun for my but DM Opened my eyes and told me i was going to die. I laughed at him. But he sent me to the hopeline and thart i got a guy named JT he shared his testimony to me. he helped my see some prtty hard core things. Thing i didnt want to see. So my poit of this storyis i have been DRUG FREE for 12 WEEKS.
i quit could turkey and all with will power and God. SO for those of you who are addicted to anything there iss hope. its the fact that you have to WANT change! and you have you WANT help. you may know you NEED it. but untill you WANT it...you waont get anywhere(good). HAve faith in the LORD OOR GOD! and ask someone anyone for help. THERE IS HOPE!
In Christian love.
love you
- laura
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 12:38:26 AM
i think everyone has an ediction. even i have one. its not food or cutting myself, im just simply addicted to chris brown. and i dont think theres a low to that addiction.
- yasmihng
Monday, Aug 27, 2007 - 12:17:52 AM
Dear Dawson, i am sending this message just to tell U that i LUV your show so much! i recently started listening 2 your show and i think it is the best talk show 4 teens on the radio! keep it up!
- Corinthium M.
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:29:48 PM
I hate to admit it,but i think am addictid to eating. i eat all the time when im bored half the time im not even hungrey. its so hard to eat the right kind of stuff knowing all the junk is right near me. i need to fix this habit be for my weight gets really bad. im not that fat but im over weight for a 16 year old male. when school let out in may i was 160 i was at my friends house just the other day and im alot heaver then i am now i am at 180 what can i do to stop eating as much as i do ive tried everything
- Ryan W
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:24:48 PM
A close friend of mine has been addicted to cutting herself and she has drank peroxide in the past. I want to do anything I can to try and help her and to get her to stop cutting. But, I've hit a dead end and I don't know what to do anymore. And there has been times where she said she just wants to go kill herself, because she can't take it anymore. And I don't want to ever lose her, she's the greatest thing in my life. I just don't know what to do anymore.
- Matt
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:15:34 PM
Dear Dawson,
Please I need urgent help. I have a friend who (I suspect) may be addicted to cutting. (I do not say this lightly--I am very sure of this based on what she herself has said.) Also, she is (according to her best friend who I trust) having sex with men online. My parents don't know that I know her. Her parents don't know waht she is doing. Please, I'm worried that she'll get raped or killed. What should I do? Should I wait? Tell my parents? Tell hers? I need advice, and I need prayer.
- Kelby
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:14:41 PM
I have an addiction. I started cutting at the age of 14 after a very dear friend committed suicide. I'm 19 now and I still cut. I have been cutting for almost 6 years now, and it is just so addicting. I don't cut to feel pain, but to try to get rid of the pain that I already have. There are many things that I feel give me reason to cut although I know that it is not the only solution. It is my only coping skill at the moment although I am trying to learn otherwise. In 20 years, I will look back on what I have done to my body, the permanent damage I have done to myself. Looking at my scars now reminds me of where I have been, what I have been through thus far. When I am older it could be a good thing to know that I was able to make it through everything or it could be a horrible reminder of the things that happened in life. Either way the scars will always be there to remind me of what has happened in my life.
- Jacque
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:13:05 PM
my friend is addicited to cutting herself. I tried to tell her not to anymore because she could hurt herself but she just won't listen.... Well i think this is because she said she is doing it because she is way to upset about school and other things going on in her life. I think that she needs to get help fast because she could reall yget hurt. Her mom cut herself when she was young and so maybe she wants to copy what her mom did. I really think that it is really bad. I love your show and i thnk you are doing a great job helping teens because most teens don't have anyone they trust to talk to.
- andrea
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 11:08:25 PM
hey...im addicted to cutting and in 10-15 years, i think ill b dead. im suicidal and depressed and idk wat to do. i cant turn anywhere and i need help, i dont like talking to ppl cause i know they cant help. i dont want 2 tell my mom cause she hits me 4 it. i need help and i know it. im willing to do anything. i have tried to kill myself 6 times already and my arms r torn up. idk wat to do anymore.
- Nikki
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 10:56:15 PM
When I was 15 till 16.5 years old I was addicted to herion. I was told I would never amount to anything: However I am retired from the militairy and now I am a General manager of a restraunt. So no one can pridict how people can change if they turn their mind to want to stop they can do anything they want to on their own. I never went to rehab, I saw what it done to my family so I turned my life over to God and he changed me forever.
- Will
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 10:55:42 PM
Hey, im having a problem and I need a bit of help. I am adopted and my family keeps everything from me. My parents got divorced and I am currently living with my mom. She has a boyfriend that is really mean to me but she doesn't listen. My dad has this new girlfriend and i can talk to her like shes one of my best friends. I keep saying to my mom i want to move in with my dad but she yells at me. My grandparents do absolutely nothing and they watch this all happen. One day I got in a fight with my mom and cried on the phone to my dad and he came and picked me up the next day and I spent the night at my grandparents. I talk to all my friends and they do nothing. My dad lives 3 hours away and I really want to move there. What do I do? Please help me.
- Alex
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 10:49:09 PM
I think for meth addicts...in 20 years they'll be dead or in jail because, one day they might go out and rive high and crash and might die or get seriously injured. My friend took meth and she got in a car accident and died. I can't imagine what would happen if another friend died of that again.
- Alana
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 10:34:13 PM
I am with a group called the Weapons of Mass Percussion and we talk to students about the dangers of meth. I've seen a lot of what just meth alone can do to one person. I can't imagine what more than one drug would do. I have made it a point to never put anything on my body that wasn't there when I was born. With a few exceptions of course.
- Katie
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 9:56:30 PM
the worst part of my dad's alcohol addiction is seeing him passed out in his chair and alone it makes me want to cry
- bridget
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 9:05:46 PM
there are some addictions better than others i know im addicted to cutting it's what i do i can't help it even if it seems like something that happened on accident for me it's not i see more pro's in it than con's it's basically preseption...what one person thinks is wrong or sinful...another person may love and worship god for creating it...
I love cutting I ussually regret it but i love it it's like a drug you can
t get over...And another type of addiction to add is energy drinks it may not seem like much but when i quit drinking them i was sick for a week and a half from the withdrawl of caffine
- Brianna
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 7:27:52 PM
i have a cousin and shes 19 and she does drugs.
she has lost ALOT of weight and she doesnt look the same anymore.
she has sores on her face and acne.
she was abused when she was young.
she was tooken away from and aunt (her mom)and i think thats why shes like this.
i want her to have help and i want her to understand that our family will be there for her but she doesnt understand that and she steals from us and we dont know what to do.
shes messed up.
i want her to be the way she use to be when we were younger.
- Renee
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 7:22:37 PM
people always say that smoking messes up your life. so far, it hasn't messed up mine. i told myself i was going to stop but i decided, no. My friend is stopping but thats only because her and boyfriend broke up. I don't see a reason to stop anyway. So, I'm not. I don't really care anyway. I hate my life so whatever. It might mess me up later in life but for now, no thanks.
- Ashley
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 7:20:40 PM
For me the low of an addiction is feeling like you have no control over your life.
- Anna
Sunday, Aug 26, 2007 - 7:20:31 PM
addictions have not only messed up my it had takin my freinds life away from him. i steped in the church and got saved at the alter but he didnt and he didnt stop doin harowen. i think thats how u spell it. and he died about 7 years ago from his addiction.....
- joshua c.
Saturday, Aug 25, 2007 - 11:40:38 PM
You are so awsome! I love your show! I love to make a differance in my freinds lives i have counceled many of my freinds and have been told i am excelent at it by them and many adults. I am going for a career counceling kids and teens and you are sooo much motivation! I'd love to do what u do! I wish i could be there for many more people than just the few that have come to me but i don't know how i could do that. I'd love to hear from you if you have the time to email. God Loves You, Dalton
- Dalton M.
Saturday, Aug 25, 2007 - 10:48:52 PM
I dont really come from a "rich" family or a big one. But as i sit here and think;; Mostly everyone in my family is addicted to something. My mom is addicted to Cigs&Weed- same as my dad. One of my sisters is addicted to Meth&Weed and my other one is addicted to Sex. & as for me;; Cutting used to be my thing. Most of my consins are addicted to sum drug same as my aunts and uncles. My lil consin who is nine is ALREADY addicted to Self Injury!! But as a teenager is hurts to know that the only people you have are addicted to sumthing that everytime you try and talk to them--there high or there to messed to do anything. & it also sad to c the lil ones in my family be addicted to sumthing cuz they c there older family doing it. But--like now my family is in debt cuz my dad is so addicted to weed... thats where all our money goes. But i mean if your additced get help thats all you can do;;
- Samantha
Saturday, Aug 25, 2007 - 10:06:03 PM
I listen to your show constantly, I have a friend who is suffering from an eating disorder who is in the hospital right now so of course I am very worried about her
- Briana
Saturday, Aug 25, 2007 - 8:26:04 PM
i have an addiction to non-food thing such as dirt and clay and tape ill start to eat and cant stop. i think you have an addiction then you should tell someone.
- kara j.
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