1. “A girl should be seen as a treasure, not a magnet for the guys to be attached to.”

   He talks with her in a courteous way. Put another way, He doesn’t talk trash to her. He doesn’t swear, tell dirty jokes, or use filthy words around her. (He shouldn’t be doing that around anyone!) He doesn’t make jokes about her body. He never talks behind her back. He never texts her with cruel or biting comments. He is there to defend her if somebody should. Kaitlyn wrote: “Guys should respect the girl by always encouraging her and NEVER ever putting her down in any way!” Jose said the way he shows respect to girls is by talking to them in a positive, affirming way. “I do not strip them of their dignity, like many guys do. Many guys my age feel it's okay to make remarks about their bodies in a sexual way, and they have to know that it's not okay. It's wrong. Girls deserve all the respect they can get, and more, but our society isn't doing that.”
   
   

2. All women love the gift of time and attention. It’s a gift that can’t be bought.

   He will never try to take advantage of her sexually. This is a big one. Sarah agrees: “My wonderful boyfriend shows respect to me by not pressuring me to do things I don’t want to do.” Brittany uses the word “no” to find out if a guy respects her. “I know they respect me when I say no and they lay off me and aren’t grabbing at me all the time.” Kaitlyn said a girl should be seen as a treasure, not a magnet for the guys to be attached to. “If the guy wants you only for a sexual relationship then he has no respect for you. He is only thinking about himself and how that one night or so will benefit him and his social status.” Taylor said it would be very respectful to her, though it’s mostly unheard of, to be in a relationship with a guy who isn’t forever talking about sex. “It would be nice and respectful to have a least one person to be around to escape this sex saturated world.”
   
   

3. Show me a guy who treats women with respect, I will show you a guy who receives respect in return.

   He gives her time and attention. All women love the gift of time and attention. It’s a gift that can’t be bought. It’s also a gift she can clearly see and experience. A guy gives her this gift by talking with her and asking questions about her life. He refuses to brag about his own accomplishments to try and impress her. Amy expressed how when a guy truly respects her, she can feel it. “He shows it by his actions, by his words, by the way he looks into your eyes. When a guy respects you he listens to your feelings, and even if he doesn't agree with them, he lets you express them to him. When a guy respects you he knows that small things matter to a woman, something as [simple] as giving you his jacket when you’re cold or holding open a door.”
   
   
4. He knows when to joke and when to be serious. Dobrinka said there are a lot of guys, when hanging out with their girlfriend, who act as if they are with their guy friends. “Girls are more sensitive in certain situations, and guys don’t always know when to be serious and when they can be playful and joke about stuff. If a guy truly understands you and your feelings then he should know when is the right time to be serious about a situation and when is the right time to play around.”

Thursday, Sep 11, 2008 - 7:21:08 PM
I am always giving people respect and I always try to help people with whatever problem with respect. Just some people dont get it. This world is to stupid with what the word respect means. My parents have been divorced for 13 years now and everyday I have to live with giving my family respect. Thinking that everything will be alright in my life and I know everything isnt and I just try to hide everything that I am going through and try to help and try to get gods word in many peoples lives as I can. And if I dont then I feel like Im letting myself down.
- Kacci W.

Thursday, Sep 11, 2008 - 7:20:13 PM
I think u r a great mentor,coach....belive it or not I helped friends through thing but compared to u I'm nothing................anyway I have to say ur great.
- b_ry

Thursday, Sep 11, 2008 - 12:58:38 AM
i love the blogs on respect. i have always been taught that to respect a woman is just as important as to respect your mom or even your self. i hope that many more people will read this and change their ways. JRay
- Joshua N.

Wednesday, Sep 10, 2008 - 11:49:08 PM
How i respect girls is well depending on the way i know them usually i try and help with any problems they may have i like to offer advice. If they are not as open as i am then i try and build a relationship.sometimes i think it's not good to have too many friends but as a safety plan i have best friends and (peers) friends.But i like to joke a lot and most girls enjoy being around me.i am polite, funny, open and observitive.Girls respect guys that not only can listen but respond. Austin F. Atlanta, Georgia
- Austin F.

Wednesday, Sep 10, 2008 - 2:50:04 AM
some kids don't get the point of respect. Some kids take it more seriously than others. But it's not just what he(or she) does in front of you, but more like how he talks about you to his friends. If his friends start talking bad about you, he should stand up for you. That's what girls think is the greatest. Same thing for you guys out there, tell her that you'll stand up for her...and you can bet your last m&m that she'll apreciate it and return the favor.
- Kyna

Wednesday, Sep 10, 2008 - 2:14:43 AM
I think how a guy needs to give respect to a girl is to LISTEN to her, not try and tell her what shes doing wrong, or how she needs to handle things. A guy needs to also pay attention to all the little things, cause thats what really matters most to a girl if they love someone. Try and do something for them every once in awhile is always nice just to show them that you care. Dont introduce them to someone as "This is my girl"! Thats really embarrassing! It's also nice to says she beautiful unstead of saying she's hot or sexy!! That's real rude! That's all I got to say! Autum
- autum

Wednesday, Sep 10, 2008 - 1:45:55 AM
Guys have a misterious world. One minute they want something from you and another they just want to adore you. Let them know that your giving them all the respect that you can give then maybe in time they would give it back to you!
- kacci

Tuesday, Sep 9, 2008 - 3:30:18 AM
I think a girl should respected by giving time, attention, love, caring,trustworthiness,honesty, and whatever else makes her happy. Girls are usually more sensitive than guys are but when a guy really loves a girl is that when he understands her feelings.
- wes

Tuesday, Sep 9, 2008 - 3:29:31 AM
that basically covers all of my questions
- karley

Monday, Sep 8, 2008 - 10:12:49 PM
My boyfriend and i haven't been together for long but the first time i got in the car while he was around me, he opened and closed the door for me and had opened doors for me earlier and let me go first. Another way guys can show respect in a relationship is instead of calling their girlfriend hot or sexy all the time, call her beautiful and pretty. It's a major self-confidence booster, It makes me feel more wanted on a better level than just sexual. This might just be me but instead of grabbing me in a sexual manor in public or even private, grabbing and holding my hand shows he has respect for me and cares about me. I also believe that girls should return the respect. It's only fair to recieve some esp if you've given some!
- Lorelei

Monday, Sep 8, 2008 - 1:46:21 AM
one way of showing respect to a girl is to be brutally honest about yourself. If you pretend to be perfect or more than who you are, she will not respect you. I think if you compliment her looks, you should not use words like "sexy" or "hott", that implies sexual immorality, thus, lost respect between both of you. Also, compliments should be towards theyre inner beuty, not just theyre skin.
- taylor t. 16yr male

Monday, Sep 8, 2008 - 1:24:09 AM
Girls, you know a guy is respecting you when he listens(like Dawson said). You know those days when you are on the phone with a guy you really like, its 2am and you are both so sleepy you can barely keep your eyes open, but neither of you get off the phone. The person on the other line is better then you have ever hoped for, because they have respect for you, they trust in you, they listen, they encourage you! Respect is a way to show your love, respect is a way to GAIN love.
- Amy

Monday, Sep 8, 2008 - 12:43:46 AM
The more I come to love the Lord, the more I understand and desire to respect the man He has given me. Women do deserve respect, they were created to recieve respect. Once you find a man who repects you the way Christ intended, the desire to respect him in return is overwhelming. I believe thats the way God designed respect to work. It grows and flourishes out of being shown respect.
- anonymous

Monday, Sep 8, 2008 - 12:15:00 AM
yeah, alot of guys dont give girls enough credit. there are barely any men that are serious out there anymore. i mean sure every guy can be serious but they misuse women.im a girl. but if the boy respects the girl she should respect him back or else she can kiss a good boyfriend goodbye. my boyfriend and i have been dating for at least 1 to 2 weeks n he hasnt cussed to me or anything. hes listened to my sayings and understands completly. he also flirts with other girls, but gawd what boy doesnt? no boy can be perfect. but if the boy treats the girl with respect she should definelty treat him with respect too.
- nicole

Sunday, Sep 7, 2008 - 11:45:22 PM
I agree, but shouldn't the guys be respected back. I'm a guy, and i do nothing but show great amounts of respect, and i agree that guys should respect Women/girls all the time, but what about the guys? We do deserve respect aswell. Not all guys treat girls badly. Your fan, shane. PS: keep helping Dawson, you really are helping, i appreciate everything you do.
- Shane M.

Sunday, Sep 7, 2008 - 11:22:09 PM
A Women Is Like a Precious Jewel That's What All of you Have Too Learn I'm a Guy and I know How Too Treat Women with Respect ....I'm a Nice Guy ...And I always Finish Last cause the Guys that Get the Perfect Women And then they Do them Wrong Like break them and there Will too Trust. Then The Women Go and Do them Wrong or Hurt them or Cuss Them Or beat Them .... And I'm Sorry but that's Just Wrong
- Dave

Sunday, Sep 7, 2008 - 11:05:43 PM
Hey Dawson, been listening to you and others on the radio and heard you speak of this blog. i like it but some of it im not sure i quite understand. I use to always be the nice guy and i still am nice to girls and all but the only way i can seem to find any attention from a girl is by telling jokes or making fun of them. Ive been told its a way of showing you have confidence of speaking to a girl. I am on the shy side of the game when it comes to speaking to girls but ive been told by many other girls that i am an extremely well listener. You say listening to them is key but when do you come in the game? I have never tried to put a sexual move on a girl. Or talk to them about it unless they have spoken of it. Id love to hear back from you
- Todd

Sunday, Sep 7, 2008 - 7:47:18 PM
so, is it called respect when he wants to do something sexual and you dont? he says then you dont trust me like you say you do and keeps putting the thing into little jokes and hinting it
- ashley

Saturday, Sep 6, 2008 - 9:37:15 PM
Okay so what about if the dude likes you and you are for sure he does ,but he is just scared but you don't know why he is scared and you have been with him for awhile.he acts like you but you ain't good enough for him. so what i think about it is that if that dude can;t learn how to respect you than it ain't worth wasting years of your life playing around with this confusing boy. So leave him he will soon find out what he wants and if you then he will come and find you.And then you make that choice if you want to take him back but you will come around and yes it will be hard because you love this dude with all your heart but you don't know what to do. And in this case you have a lot of thinking and sleeping to do. So that is that!!!!!!! PEACE,LOVE and HAPPINESS!!!!!!!
- Wondergem

Saturday, Sep 6, 2008 - 2:05:38 AM
i definitely agree with this...too many guys are disrespecting girls because that's all they know how to do from rap videos. Could you do a list about how a girl can treat a guy with respect? I think that even guys are disrespected
- t

Saturday, Sep 6, 2008 - 12:55:42 AM
Hey, Dawson, I think that if a guy respects a girl whom is his girlfriend, he won't start suddenly comparing his current gf to his ex, or dump his current for an ex. That has to be one of the worst and most stupid things a guy can do, or if he suddenly starts talking to an ex that he hasn't seen or talked to for away. Me and my bf of three and a half years were doing great until two months ago. His ex started calling him all the time and was trying to get back into a relationship with him when he was dating me. Needless to say, I experienced a lot of heartache about two weeks after she started calling again. He dropped me like a rock and went back with his ex. And today, I saw the two of them at the mall holding hands and kissing and they didn't see me, but the worst part of it they were joking about me! Making fun of me and saying terrible things about me. I left the mall in tears and I've gotten over it, but I still feel betrayed. That's not showing respect at all. If he would have respected me, then he wouldn't have broke it off so suddenly and make fun of me behind my back. I wanted to b-slap the both of them, but i held myself back from attacking the two of them. At least I can show a small amount of respect towards him because I didn't attack the two of them. Even now, I still shed a few tears because his brother told me that my ex was talking to him about asking me to marry him, I'm 23 by the way, he's 24. I still can't believe he did that to me. I just fell so betrayed and violated. It always help to talk about it, and I feel a little better about telling my story.
- Delilah

Friday, Sep 5, 2008 - 11:10:25 PM
The best way a guy can show respect to a girl is by recognizing that she is a precious creature carefully crafted by God. Once this realization, sets in, most everything else will follow. Holding the door, listening, being sensitive to their needs and sensitivities, treating them like people and not sex objects, opening the car door, walking them home, listening and talking to their face and not their chest, defending them verbally and, should the need arise, physically...I could go on. Everything in this world is a gift from God, and women are the most beautiful, precious gift of all. That fact alone charges us to give them all the respect we can.
- Jonathan

Friday, Sep 5, 2008 - 5:54:38 PM
So true. I use to date a jerk who had ZERO respect for me when I was 15 & he was 16. Come to find out, he dumped me for his ex, then dumped her for some girl he dated for 2 years. (Whie he was dating me and while he was dating his ex.)
- Erin

Friday, Sep 5, 2008 - 4:05:58 PM
dawson, look it really doesnt matter how guys like myself show respect because for some reason all the nice guys in this world, including me, fall short to the guys who hit and misstreat their female companions. ive tried everything that i know to get a girlfriend but the only thing that i wont try is beating a woman down mentally and or physically though that seems to be what a mojority of the women that i run into like. i dont know what a woman truely wants and neither does anyone else except for the woman herself but if you can figure it out please release some of that knowledge on the nice guys that always finish last.
- aj luttrell

Friday, Sep 5, 2008 - 2:51:20 PM
Guys should consider girls has God's daughters and an object. Too many guys are treating girls with disrespect and it shows. Always respect her wishing regarding sex and sexual conduct.
- Danny

Friday, Sep 5, 2008 - 1:16:29 AM
i know a guy is respecting me when he doesnt touch me in a sexual way in front of his buddies. i know most guys do that to there girlfriends to show, yea, this is mine, but when i guy only holds your hand or puts his arm around you in front of his buddies, you can believe he has respect for you.
- Trina

Thursday, Sep 4, 2008 - 10:43:26 PM
Dawson, what can I say except you've done it again!! Every word in this blog is true, right down to the punctuation. A guy has to respect a girl and understand how she feels in certain situations. And no offense to any guy out there, but we females are not toys to be played with and used(mentally or sexually), cause we have feelings to and how we react to them might effect something that goes on in our daily life. And the same thing goes for girls showing respect for guys. Respect isn't something you can just get by demanding it, and it's not something that can just be given out, it has to be earned and when earned, it is an honor and a privilege to have. Anyway, great blog Dawson!! I can't wait to read the next one!!!! ;)
- Cynthia