“So, my friend, listen closely;
don't treat my words casually.
Keep your distance from such a woman;
absolutely stay out of her neighborhood.
You don't want to squander your wonderful life,
to waste your precious life among the hardhearted.
Why should you allow strangers to take advantage of you?
Why be exploited by those who care nothing for you?
You don't want to end your life full of regrets,
nothing but skin and bones,
Saying, ‘Oh, why didn't I do what they told me?
Why did I reject a disciplined life?
Why didn't I listen to my mentors, or take my teachers seriously?
My life is ruined!
I haven't one blessed thing to show for my life!’"

King Solomon painted a very graphic picture of where his son would be if he fell in to the addiction trap. The king was right. Somebody once said, “The devil can paint a pretty picture too.” That’s true, and so can every addiction. No addiction wants to paint the picture of a life at the end of the trail. But with your help, I have attempted to paint that very picture. Trust me, it is not a pretty one. You may be tempted to turn away. Please don’t. What you read from your own peers could save your life. So, the end of the trial does not have to be a horrible, deadly, bitter place for you, but a place of freedom and joy.

Every word you read from this point on is written by you and your peers.

Drugs
“You know my mom has been addicted to marijuana 25 yrs or longer! Her life is horrible…She took my childhood because I had to raise my sister and has left me with a lot of guilt because I did a bad job…She's very bitter about her life and her choices, and is extremely paranoid all the time…If you could see and live what I have, you would never try marijuana…After 25 years, she has ruined her life and affected everyone around her. She's left me with emotional scares I don't think will ever heal and that affect me in my everyday life. I can't even have a healthy relationship now because I have no clue what that is.” - Kelly




Gambling
“I think that 25 years from now, someone who is addicted to gambling would be living on the street and have absolutely no money at all. People wouldn’t trust that person because they’ve been known to have a problem with gambling. They would end up on the street because they would probably use up all their money to go to the casino and play…” – Mariah




Love Addiction
“In 25 years, people that are addicted to relationships and or love will be emotionally drowned by their own needs and the real sad part of it is that they won’t even know it…They [will] live their whole life around the idea of…always having to be in love.” - Liz




Sex Addiction
“25 years from now, a girl with a sex addiction could end up sitting in a room wondering how she is going to pay next month’s rent because after 25 years of prostitution, her body isn't ‘beautiful’ enough for the business…The future looks hopeless. Years of abuse and roller coasters of emotion have taken a toll on all forms of hope for something greater. The need to be loved and accepted is still unfulfilled despite the money making ‘highs’ night after night after night. All sense of self worth, value, identity...disappeared long ago. The loneliness must be unbearable.” - Sarah






Eating Disorders
“I have had an eating disorder for 6 years, going on 7. I've lost: My friends, my family, my body, my mind, my sense of identity, my ability to think clearly, the ability to stay warm, the ability to not go a day without hating myself. I've lost my ability to know who I am, and my purpose in life other than to self-destruct. My eating disorder started as a way of coping. And I just thought, once I lost a little weight, once I was a little thinner, then I would be better. It would let me GO. IT HAS NOT LET ME GO!! I have become a liar and I hate myself everyday. Eating Disorders are hell, and knowing all this about myself, I am still an addict. I'm still sick.” - Trisha


Cutting
“…I am a cutter, and I hate myself every time I do it again. In 25 years, my arms and legs could be full of scars. I want to work with children when I finish high school, and who is going to trust me with their children if they see the marks on my body? Who's going to ask me for help and guidance with their children if they see what I did to myself? I will probably have lost a lot of friends. I will probably have a hard time getting a job anywhere. I'll have to spend the rest of my life covering up my scars…Plus, I may accidentally cut myself in the wrong spot and bleed to death…if I don't quit cutting, then a lot of the things I want aren't going to work out the way I dream they will.” – Abby

Conclusion

 
“There are so many things wrong with addictions. They take over your life. It never ends with just one addiction. Then you can't stop lying to feed your addiction and other times you steal to get what you want (not need). You put your addiction first above anything else, including your friends, family, job, self respect and morals. You will do anything for you addiction and end up hurting the people you love. You mess up your life and sometimes you can't pull back. Pretty soon you'll lose everything, accept your addiction. But by then, it’s not even worth it.” - Jenna

What will your life be like in 25 years? The decisions we make today create the consequences of tomorrow.

NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC – HELP FOR MY ADDICTION
Here is what I would like for you to comment on:

What counsel would you give to anyone who is heavily addicted? Where should they begin to get help so they can break free of their chains? What is your plan for them to stay clean and sober from whatever their addiction is?

As you know, your comments mean the world to me. Your advice could change someone’s life forever.

Your friend,
Dawson

Wednesday, Sep 12, 2007 - 10:23:03 PM
Lying. 25 years from now a complusive liar might be thinking "what do I do now? I have lost the trust people have put into me." I am a high-school senior right now and was a compulsive liar from about 7th grade. I lied about almost everything just to get out doing stuff. I have learned that when you start lying it is hard to stop. It takes a lot of hard work and determination to get over a habbit that has been a big part of your life.
- Claudia

Wednesday, Sep 12, 2007 - 10:22:53 PM
I have had issues with food and body image since I was 5 yrs old. Only recently though did it put me in a hospital and take away my heart muscle. It took me away from my school, my sports, my family. It took me away from God. So one night, I had reached rock bottom and I could not even get out of bed. I had not allowed myself to eat in over a week and felt like I was dying. So, I asked God if he would give me the strength to eat, I would do everything in my power to do what I needed to get heatlhy. Being thin would no longer be my priority, but he would. And he did help me. It is still a struggle sometimes, but I can and will get through it by keeping God my #1 focus. Therefore, I would council people by telling them to be truthful with people because eating disorders are all about lies. And I would tell them to get in a church, because my church really helped me. Finding out what God thinks of me and realizing that is really all that matters.
- Kari

Wednesday, Sep 12, 2007 - 10:22:17 PM
I think you are right. sometimes you become so consumed with the addiction that there is nothing else to live for. I can tell you that there are better things to live for and life can get better if you just hold onto your higher power and believe that the worst is not to pass.
- ingrid

Wednesday, Sep 12, 2007 - 1:09:37 PM
ok so im haveing many problems right now.. with Friends and Guys... Friends.. well i have had this friend since 3rd grade... and me and her are seniors.. and jsut last year her and my Cuzin who lives in town. got really close and i feel like my friend is leaveing me nad leaning more toward my cuzin... who i cant get along with... me and cassie(my cuzin) seem like me are always in competion in the family since there in Only 3 gurls and 17 boys for grandkids.. and my other gurl cuz jeanna is older so she dont really bother me.. but cassie seems to want all the attention she is a junior.. and ya.. i feel like she is takeing shelly(my best friend) away from me... i know its not a big problem but it matters to me and i really dont wanna loose her she is the bext...and next year we are moving in together haha for college and ya im hoping with dont split up b.c we have been threw alot... and i hope we are friends forever...but ya if you could help me and then ill explain about the guys ight.. thanx alot...
- Karah

Wednesday, Sep 12, 2007 - 1:09:31 PM
hi dawson? I have a problem. This girl that I like does not know that I like her. and if she found out that I like he. We might not can be friends anymore. What should I do. Everytime I try to talk to her I get afraid to talk to her. I dont know want I should say to her. but I like her very much and I love her. but I dont think she will love me back if she found out that I love her. DAWSON I NEED HELP I CANT LIVE WITHOUT HER PLEASE HELP??????????????????????
- Nick

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 7:34:07 PM
The advice I would give if somebody is trying to quit an addiction is to simply find an activity to take the place of it. For example write stories or poems about your emotions, or take up another hobby like music, dancing, or a sport. It takes a lot to admit a problem, but it can take even more to fix the problem. But the person has to want to become clean, and be mentally and physically ready for the change to happen, but when it starts to happen they can't run back to whatever was hurting them in the first place.
- Tori

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 7:34:01 PM
about my family.
- elena

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 1:11:26 PM
You can't give help to someone who doesn't want it. The old saying "where there's a will, there's a way" isn't just something your mom said for motivation. You have to have a desire, an urge to stop. Even if you don't have anyone to support you, when you've asked for help, you're already the strongest person you know. So with will and courage, you can begin the healing process. And "a 1,000 miles begins with a single step."
- Jessie

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 10:06:02 AM
Hi dawson, I was wondering if you could help me with a problem: I just found out early August that my boyfriend has a new girlfriend. We went out for TWO years! He knows I know and messaged my friend Telling her to tell me to call him to talk. I haven’t talked to him yet, he hurt Me so much that I don’t want too but know I should because we were in love. What should I do??
- Melissa

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 10:05:46 AM
hey dawson i listen to your show every sunday night and i think its great what your doing!!
- Jack Piper

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 10:05:43 AM
Addiction is best fought off with God's help and with church adn support from family and friends.
- dana s of philly, pa

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 10:05:39 AM
Hey Dawson I really love your show i listen to it every sunday iwould love to talk some day.
- Charles

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 10:05:36 AM
Hi Dawson, I am a recovering cutter so I know exactly how difficult it is to overcome an addiction. The thing about addictions is, you can't stop until YOU want to stop. When I cut I know I'm inflicting pain not only on myself, but those who see the cuts on my arms, or see me flinch when I bump my leg. Its hard for me to look my best friends in the eyes, knowing what I've done, but the feeling of control I have when I cut over powers my shame. Some of us cut for a feeling of control, others for emotion. For example, I can't cry. When my grandmother passed away, I couldn't cry at her funeral. I was absolutely devastated, but I couldn't release my pain through tears. I cut so I felt human. So I knew I could feel pain. FOR ANYONE OUT THERE WITH A SIMILAR PROBLEM: Don't give up. I know the temptation for that release is seemingly unbearable, but you can withstand. You CAN come out of this.
- Celeste R.

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:28:14 AM
Hi dawson I've been best friends with this guy for 6 years and I recentley noticed that he has a really bad addiciton to speeding. I am really worried about him hurting himself or others when he speeds and I don't know what to because he will not listen to me and he is just ignorant and does not even realize how dangerous speeding is. I told him teenagers die all the time from driving to fast but he didn't even listen. I was so scared the other day when I was in his car and he was doing 90 miles per hour when the speed limit was 55. Can you please tell me how I can convince him that when he drives like that he is not being cool and he is risking numerous lives. Thanks - Jane
- jane

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:27:11 AM
Dear Dawnson, I like your show on sunday night. I would like to talk to you some day. Thanks VITALY T.
- vitaly

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:26:38 AM
i just want to talk about my life so thank you so much please write back
- allison

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:26:18 AM
I think that they should try to stop, because if they don't then they could seriously, seriously be screwed in life they won't be able to get a job, they won't be able to do alot of things!! they think that they are helping them selves by doing their addictions, but they are just hurting them selves and everyone around them! Just because you think that it will releive the pain doesn't mean that it will go away!! You have to work on it to get rid of it not cut yourself, smoke mary J, or whatever you do! If you really think about it then you would see that you not only loose yourself but everyone that you cared about and everyone that cared about you!!
- Nessa

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:25:36 AM
please e-mail me b cuz i have something to say, and i need to talk to u. i cant do it over the phone. i need to e-mail it to u. so e-mail me please.
- alex

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:25:23 AM
I am a recovering drug addict and my advice is NEVER GIVE UP. No matter who gets in your way. No matter how broken you are. I'm a member of 12 step programs and the fellowship and friendship I have found is all that keeps me sober. Talking EVERYDAY to recovering addicts and dropping my using friends. I had to realize they'll come around when they see how much my life has improved. Don't be scared to go into a meeting and ask for help. That's the main purpose: To help and carry the message to the addict who still suffers. Not using helps, too, but if you have the DESIRE to stay clean don't let anything stop you, not even drugs.
- Kirsten

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:25:06 AM
im a biter in 25 years if i don quit biting myself n takin my anger out me i will see my body with bruises and bite scars from where i bit myself too much... when i get older i would love to be a model or something out there n id hate to be something marks all over me .. the reason i bite myself is because i got all this in me and every day my mom picks on me out of every one and shes 7 months pregnant she always hits on me and dis encourages me telling me my little sisters are way smarter then me nand im lil sl*t etc.. i really am trying to focus on school so i can prove her way wrong but when i get frustrated no matter where im at il hit my self or bite myself im stressed and i have alot of boxed up anger and need to learn how to let it out with out hurting myself or others around me.. because if i dont it might just get worse to the point i will do something i dont want to...
- brooke

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:01:26 AM
i am addicted to mary jane. it controls my life.... i just feel so good when i get some. it makes me happy when i have it and when i dont have it, im lookin around to find where i can get it...
- aj king

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:00:53 AM
I have girl friend problems if I get a girl friend can't keep one. i need some help Dawson please!!!
- Austin M.

Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007 - 12:00:12 AM
I may be pregnant&so may by sister and were getting it checked out this weekend...the fact that its either my ex's or the guy who i met at a dirby....who started making out with me..and pulled me in his friends truck. my sisters...is either from her boyfriend or the other guy she was seeing...but she most likely thinks its her boyfriends...i get sick from smelling my perfume..and cigerette smoke...from my family members but i told the guy i think that is the father of my kid...last night..and we spent the whole night cuddling and he kept rubbing my stomach it was so sweet...but i dont know wat to do if it all comes out to me and my sister being pregnant if it does then were both dead...(in Big Trouble)
- Tarah&Hannah

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 2:12:23 AM
I really thought long about calling in tonight, but I figured the kind of problems I have are menial compared to those of the callers I heard. I don't have abusive parents (atleast, not more than anyone elses, we all have problems) I have never been raped, or beaten, or stalked, or threatened. But I am an addict. I was over-whelmed by the show tonight, because being an addict, I always figured, meant being addicted to drugs, or something of phsyical being that was a must have. Now, with that said, I spent 8 months of the last year, doing cocaine. It made me feel invincible, I felt beautiful (because I kicked those 20 troublesome pounds) it made me feel wanted, glamerous, whatever it was. I managed to put that in my past, that is not why I am writing. I am writing because every year, for the last 3, I have been moving, at this time. I feel cold, stagnant. I put as many miles between me and my problem as possible, and every march, I find my way home, and back into the arms of my problem. I am in love with someone, someone I think about daily. The last thought before I fall asleep, or how he would have found something funny, or how I was never allowed to talk about the J-word (Jeordie, my rockstar) the S-word (My favorite movies -- star wars) or the B-word (my favorite band, the bee gees) I have this new guy in my life, but I keep pushing him away, because he isn't the "one." I am so convinced it is Mr. March that I can't see anyone else. This new guy, he treats me so well, but it isn't how I want to be treated, I want the one. I feel like every step I try to take forward is three more steps back, and I run to the only place I can forget about him, which isn't a bad thing, its just expensive. The only place in the world I feel free of my problems, is Santa Monica, California. Now, I live in the centeral US, so its 1700 miles each way to get there, or a hefty plane ticket price, but I have been struggling, and been using her (SM,CA) atleast once every month-and-a-half or so, for the last six months, and I am at my wits end. I don't want to keep running, but I am in the process of packing my belongings, and moving to Philadelphia, away from everything and everyone I know, so that I can again, try to fix what is broken. I am trying to help myself, but I just wanted to make it clear, love, and all this "the one" b*******, is an addiction, and to anyone who is suffering, never feel how I have felt for so long, alone. Because we are women, we feel pain, and I can admit that. Nikki.
- Nikki

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 12:53:56 AM
The advice i would give anyone that is heavily addicted is that they need to quit before the addiction kills them. I would also tell them how important their life is. I think they should get help at a couseling session, friends, family and church members. My plan to get them sober and in a clean direction give them a "positive" addiction.
- Freddy

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 12:30:17 AM
I am a recovered cutter and bulemic. I cut for 6 - 8 months and i have scars on my thighs and wrists and arms. This past Christmas i stabbed my arm opening a box with a buck knife and when it happened it didn't bother me really and that scares me because everyday i think about cutting again and 25 years from now i wouldn't be able to do my dream job: Cosmotolegy because i know people would see my wrists/arms and wouldn't want me doing their hair or makeup. I was bulemic for 3 years and nobody noticed, not even my parents. Each day i think about being bulemic again, because each day i look in the mirror and think how fat and ugly i look, yea my boyfriend tells me i'm beautiful but it doesn't help. In 25 years with bulemia i prolly won't be here because i won't have any nutrients left in my body to keep me alive and i would hate to do that to my family/friends/everyone i know. I can honestly say that i am happy to be living today because i wouldn't have met my boyfriend i wouldn't have been able to see my little cousin grow up into a beautiful and smart little 5 year old. Fighting an addiction is hard but it is honestly worth it to be able to live and see those around you everyday instead of have those loved ones come and visit your tombstone.
- Mary Grace

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 12:26:48 AM
Dawson, I Think maybe I have another kind of addiction. I am not alone in this addiction. I am afraid that my girlfriend Tina and I are sex addicts. There is a little history you should know about both of us. We are married, but not to each other. Though there are different reasons involved, we are both away from our spouses right now, and have been for several months. Tina is one of my best friends and we do almost everything together. We shop for groceries together, we hang out all the time, we even do laundry together. We both have extremely high sex drives and feel intense attraction for each other. Neither one of us feel guilt about the relationship we have. It is almost like we were married in a past life. We try very hard to restrain our selves, but it never works. I love my wife with all my heart and Tina loves her husband just as much. Neither one have any desire to leave our spouses. When we are together, there is a tension in the air. It is all we can do to keep from yielding to the desires we both share. Neither one of us have any desire to be with anyone else but each other and our spouses. Are we addicted to sex? Tony and Tina
- Tony

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 12:17:28 AM
I am a recovering alcohol who is a 16 year old female, and I have been clean for over 6 months.I go to A.A. meeting every night, and Ive heard people ask this very same question about one of their love ones.The truth is you can not tell them anything without them rejecting your suggestions unless they really want help and aren't just sick of hurting.They have to of hit their bottom and be sick and tired of being sick and tired before they are truly ready to do whatever it takes.What was suggested to me that works the best for a recovering person helping the still sick and suffering is to share my experience,strength,and hope with that person.Tell them what worked for me, and what i have found makes me joyous and free.When we have 1st step meetings for newcomers all we them they is what we use to be like,what happened,what we are like now, and most important keep coming back it works if you work it.The worst thing someone can do in this situation is to preach and or criticize them.All this will do is make them wanna run.Because no one want to be judged for something they all really feel horrible about.Once again those you can tell someone all the amazing things that have happened to you because you got help for your addiction,but if they haven't suffered enough and are really ready to do whatever it takes then all is will do is anger them,make them resentful,defensive,and threatened.If this those occur all you can do is hope and pray that you at least planted a seed that may day begin to grow.
- Sami

Monday, Sep 10, 2007 - 12:01:27 AM
im addicted to drugs. mostly like prescription pills. 25 years from now..if i dont die before then...i think i'll probably b in jail. im 18 now and i've been using drugs since i was 12. i've sold drugs also and i've been caught before and done time for drug related crimes. so its easier now to get caught because the cops know me from my history. honestly i give myself 5 years at most. i was sober a little bit after i got out of jail but i started using more and more. so i honestly believe that if i dont get sober somehow...dont find the will power and neccesary help to get sober i will end up in jail or dead.
- becky

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 11:19:56 PM
Hi Dawson my name is beth and im 18yrs n trying my hardest to get out of a 9month relationship that hasnt been the best and its killing me inside.. I love him to death but lately its just gotten worse, he emotionally hurts me n physical. He does anything n everything in his power to put me down. I just started listening to your show and i love it, listening to other peoples problems sorta like mine and hearing what you have to say its kinda making this whole situation a little easier for me.. thanks for listening Beth
- Beth

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:56:44 PM
if someone would ask me for help to get sober and/or clean i would immediatly say im here for you emotionally but physically you need help then i would get out the yellow pages and look for a 12-step program.
- Erin

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:36:39 PM
I have been there before and I am here to help you. It's not easy and I won't b******* you, this is going to be hell. But no matter how hard it gets, no matter how low you go I will be here for you because I know you can do this. It may take more than one try but I am always here for you.
- Jamie

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:35:25 PM
i am addicted to cutting....i think in 25 years ill either look like a railroad or ill b dead....i think i need help and no one cares, i am on the brink of suicide, i need help, but no one cares...
- Alexa P.

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:34:26 PM
Some people don't want to give their information out... or talk on the phone... Just maybe get an email or something. Is their anyway to talk via email?
- anonomous

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:08:34 PM
Hey Dawson I just wanted to say its really great that your there for people when other people don't have anybody at all, Youre like their guardian angel. I listen to your show every Sunday and I love your show. Keep doing what your doing. May god be with you always.
- Walter S.

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:03:34 PM
I was addicted to sex for 25 years, since the very earliest experience, and at the end, I had truly come to the end of my trail. I didn't feel human anymore and I thought I'd never be able to feel enjoyment or sense beauty every again. I had the stink of death on me, and I would have been happy just to die in the dessert away from humans and have my bones bleach in the sun. All the years of trying to quit and relapsing again and again accomplished nothing. I though I was headed to Hell. I had panic attacks that put me in the hospital. I drove all the way across the country, and when I was halfway through Texas, I asked God what I was doing out there, and at that moment, I say a sign in the middle of nowhere. It read: “Trust Jesus” Well, I've been doing that ever since, and He's real and true. He's freed me from sexual addiction. He's showed me that the Bible contains all that we need to know. Jesus is the one who came, not to break us or put out our little flame of life, but to set us free. He's the one who sets the captives free.
- Dan

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 10:01:59 PM
Hey Dawson, I am 30 year old married man of 3 kids and in the military in Oklahoma, I just wanted to tell you that you are a good person to help out with people in need of support. I go to bed listening to the show. I am usually out cold by the end of the show. I just wanted to say Thanks, and keep up the good work. Spc. Okara, Jason L., Ok
- Jason

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 9:13:49 PM
Hey just wanted to say I never knew of so many addictions. Wow it's crazy! I was listening to the show and got curious.
- Donna

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 7:55:28 PM
Dawson I listen to your show every sunday noght and i try to go to bed but i cant :) your show is just soo good it keeps me awake at night!
- Kaitlyn

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 5:59:10 PM
i love listen to you dawson you are a good preson who helps young peolpe today with their prombles. i when listen to your show on the radio and i hear the heart breaking stories form peolpe my heart just drops on the floor god bless you
- Emily V.

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 5:57:43 PM
I have had addicttions in my life about three years ago i was really bad in to coke and drinking. The person who helped me through it was my ex boyfriend so what i am trying to say is the one you are in love with is the one who can help you. Thanks for helping me with everything Dawson!!!! ~Sami~
- Sami

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 5:55:13 PM
I was a cutter once ,and i ended up gettting help by going to the hospital,and putting my self in there. They helped me with cousiling,and i got help when i left the hospital. I have friends who i call when the urge pops up. My plan is to call people and tell them i need help. The hopeline is the best place to start so they can get the help they need. Had the hopeline been around when i was younger my life would be totally diffrent than it is today. Thank u guys for all the help that u do for those of us who do need the help. Younge kids can't talk to there parents or some times the parents are the problems
- Lesley

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 5:53:34 PM
I would tell them to a good support system of people who they can be accountable to. Go get counseloring it help i been going for years. Counseloring for 7 years for dpression and for my cutting because I am cutter. I hate it and the past few night I had to talk to alot of people so they can listen and be there for me. It hard to do but you need to leave your friend and get new one because if you stay with you continue doing what you addiction to bo natter what the addiction is.
- Ashley C.

Sunday, Sep 9, 2007 - 5:52:46 PM
wow... i have a cutting adiction, and, after reading that... well it make me awnt to stop even more!!! dawson, i need ur help.. ur the only adult, that i trust!! I LOVE YOUR AND UR SHOW!!
- ashley

Saturday, Sep 8, 2007 - 9:45:46 PM
I would let them know that I'm here for them any time any day. People need to have that sense of comfort. They need to feel that you can trust that person fully. However I have to say sadly, that if you don't want to get out of your addiction there's nothing that I can do becuz no one is going to get anywhere if they don't want the help, they have there mind made up. It's not going to do one bit of good if you don't want the freedom from it. YOu need to srat out with the sources around your area first to get the help. If someone knows of a councelor or pastor that can guide them into getting the right help, but be with them for every step cuz they can't do it alone. God never left us on our own. let them know that you'll be there for them no matter what. my plan for anyone to stay clean & sober is that any back fall you might have I'll be there to catch you so that you can get back on the right track! When things get a lil' tough I'll be there, & whenyou just simply need to talk about something, I'll be there. I'll make sure that you don't get mixed up in that addiction again, I'll do my best to try & get help if need be again! But most of all God Loves you so much that he gave his life for you to live. The Devil never offered to die for your sins! So what choice are you going to make? You gonna take the help & be free or sit in misery until your grave comes?
- Jenn

Saturday, Sep 8, 2007 - 9:44:28 PM
Dont start if you are thinking about it. It is hard to stop. The best thing to do is to go get help from a doctor or a counseler. I have a bad addiction and i want to stop bt i do not know how it is the worst feeling. I feel like no one can help me. I hate my life. I also think that i want to start more things but i dont know how which is a good thing but i just do them. It is very hard for me. So just get help even if you dont want to because that is how i fell but it has helped a little but just go do it. It is the right thing to do and inside you somewhere you know it is right too.
- Marcy

Saturday, Sep 8, 2007 - 9:43:26 PM
hi dowson i know u remenber me i was the one that wrote u 1 moth ago asking for help now i need more help
- carlos

Saturday, Sep 8, 2007 - 11:47:14 AM
i love to lissen to u help others in need, on the radio. i have a problem of my own.I'm a person, that is deprested all the time. i think its because my parents r always fighting with on another. and they almost get a devorce because of it. sometimes I think they should. and my sisters r kinda crazy. the rezon i say that is couse they can get mad 4 no reson. like Nicole ( the middle child age13 ) has chased me and my sister around the house with knives. she was 10 years old when she did it. and Jessica, came into my room, to return some sisors. and suddily got mad and through them at me. they were spining open. the sisors hite my face, and cute me. ( left a little scar)she was 11 at the time( Jessica is the youngest age 12) so with at this comotion, i hide in my room all day. and when my family wacks up in the morrning, 4 they can go to town. the don't wack me, or even ask me to go. i feal left out. it doesn't help the my gandfathers, gandmother, and my dog i had sence i moved to Montana, has all died.( i was close to them all). and just the other day i went to the doctors, and they said i had this thing, i 4get whats its called but i can't be in a large crowd, or i go crazy. my mom said i had it sence kindergarden. but is been worse 4 the last 3 years. and i have to go to Flathead High School, i couldn't handle how many people that were there. and that was just freshmore, and softmore, that next day a thousand more people were to arive(the rest of the school). so the doctor gave me the week off. im looking into High School Homeschooling online. i think it would be a lot easyer on me, even though my mom put me on medication, its called CLONAZEPAM, doctor proscribed.( It doesn't work on me) what do u think about the homeschooling online thing, my dad says go 4 it, what about u, and about what i said above?.~Jenielle C. AKA~Panda ( friends call me Panda BTW) age/14 -state/MT
- Jenielle C.

Saturday, Sep 8, 2007 - 1:26:17 AM
If someone has an addiction, they HAVE to want to stop. Say cleaned up every addict in the world. If any one of them didn't want to stay clean, then they will go back to that same lifestyle over and over and over. I personally know people who have gone in and out of rehab for years because they didn't have the will to stay clean once they were out. You must admit you have an addiction and then have the will to change it. You must understand that it will not be easy. Another thing, if you have an addiction, you HAVE to tell someone. Having all the will in the world to get clean won't help if you don't have that support. You will crack @ the first relapse; the cycle will start all over again. It doesn't really matter who you tell, they just have to be willing to be there for you every step of the way. Family, friends, teachers, counselors, anyone you trust to be there for you. When you get clean, then you have to stay away from whatever you are addicted to. For example alcohol. You can not go to drinking parties, bars, ect, ect. Your addiction will take control of you no matter how many times you promise you won't drink at that concert next week. Plus, the people you socialize with must understand that you are trying to stay clean and they need to stay away from you if they decide to continue using. If they refuse to do so, then don't socialize with them. It may be hard but it's better then getting addicted again. Addictions are not pretty. If you were think of everything good in your life right now, then think of your life without it, you know what it's going to be like if something doesn't change.
- Allie

Friday, Sep 7, 2007 - 11:01:54 PM
The section on cutting is very informational.I have 2 friends who cut themselfs and i try to not hang with them much because the one is also into drugs.I tell my friends to stop they arent only hurting themselfs they are hurting everyone they love...and i think what you are doin is Fantastic!:)
- Jannie

Friday, Sep 7, 2007 - 11:01:36 PM
I miss the old person i use to be the person i was before i started smoking or doing those other drugs. I use to smoke a lot but i promised my self i would stop and i did stop, but once i stopped i started doing coke, and i like doing it. It made me feel good like if i didn't have to worry about anything else!!! but then i told myself i stopped smoking i have to stop doing coke and i did stop. and i told myself i was going to start doing better in school!! but now that the new school year has started i feel sad all the time and depressed and i started smoking again, and i also want to start doing coke again. I know i shouldn't but i just want to. and i can feel my grades starting to go down. I want to do better but every time i try to change i go back to the person i hate!!! and i know in 25 years if i was to still smoke, pop pills, or do coke i think i would end up dead or something bad would happen and i really don't want that!!!!
- Laurissa

Friday, Sep 7, 2007 - 10:58:23 PM
i would tell them to get a either like a couselor or someone they can trust to talk to, and that would help them thoughout all the stages of getting clean. the truth is i have learned no one will get clean if even if they say they will, unless they really really want to change and to let somebody help them. there are also alot of really cool groups that are all about different types of addiction and getting clean.
- lauren

Friday, Sep 7, 2007 - 8:19:06 PM
Every body has problems whether its with family,drugs,cutting,suiccidal thoughts or attempts ect.but The different between them all is Who actually wants help and wants a better life to live,and who knows they have a problem but wont get help for it.I heard a saying from one of my best friends when my dad through out my medacation for my bi-polor disorder and said i dont need it...It takes a much stronger person to admit they have a problem and get help for it then it does to ignore it and convince yourself theres nothin wrong with you.
- Miranda

Friday, Sep 7, 2007 - 10:44:23 AM
I don't know who I am anymore. I've lost all that I know about myself. The things that I've learned in the past don't seem to matter anymore. Its like I get the message but I just ignore it. I hear all these things about how bad drugs are for you and I know that they are but its like I don't care. I myself have changed because of weed. I smoke it like once or twice a week. I can see the changes that are taking place. In my lifetime-Wellness calss it has in our book symptoms of a drug abuser, and I have every single symptom! Its more noticeable than I thought. But weed controls me. I am addicted I will admit that but the thing is I don't want to stop. My friends want me to and I told them that I am but I lied. One of my friends said he looks at as an example of how he doesn't want to end up. When he told me that I told him that thats not right to say because I'm quitting. But like i said I LIED. Plus I cut myself. Its also an addiction. I mean its not as bad as some people but still I can't stop doing it. My life is messed up. I am messed up. I'm not the person I used to be but I don't miss that person. I didn't like that person. But now, I hate who I've become.
- Jeannie