Have You Ever Heard Of Love Addiction?

• A love addict lives in a fantasy world.
• A love addict wants to be rescued from their empty life.
• A love addict pushes their partner to meet needs only God can meet.
• A love addict tends to worship their partner.
• A love addict confuses sexual attraction with love.
• A love addict craves to be consumed with his/her partner. 
• A love addict lacks attention and nurturing when they were young.
• A love addict feels detached and isolated from family.
• A love addict is highly manipulative and controlling of others.
• A love addict has inner rage over lack of nurturing and early abandonment.
• A love addict tries to avoid abandonment at any cost.
• A love addict confuses the drama in the relationship as love.
• A love addict feels being in a romantic relationship will make them whole.
• A love addict has an obsessive drive to leave one relationship for another.
• A love addict uses relationship and sex to alter their mood and relieve emotional pain.
• A love addict trades sexual activity for what they think is love.

Thursday, Oct 4, 2007 - 7:11:31 PM
I think people don't know that GOD is love and they are looking for love in all the wrong places and when they think they have found it they just don't want to let go even when it hurts...real love should not hurt it should be what the bible says in first corinthians 13:1-13
- JoAnne P.

Thursday, Oct 4, 2007 - 7:10:47 PM
i need to talk on email
- Emma

Thursday, Oct 4, 2007 - 7:10:02 PM
I feel that if you know someone that is a love addict, instead of letting them search for "love", give it to them. Let that person know just how much you love and care for them. Once you open up to them, they'll open up to you, and a beautiful love and friendship will grow. It is always better to let it all out, than to keep it all in and let it litteraly kill you. I know it sounds corny, but SPREAD THE LOVE, of friendship and many problems in the world will be obsolete. If anyone needs a friend, I'm here to listen, and if you want, to talk. Love all and God bless all.
- Cally

Thursday, Oct 4, 2007 - 7:08:56 PM
as much as hate to admit it i might be this love addict thing me and my boyfriend used to be so happy togetther and all of a sudden he changed and only really wants to hang out when hes bored or not drinking whith his friends weve been going out for two years but these past couple months its like he doesnt really care about me anymore i feel like ive done somthing wrong i admit i get jealous but im working on it i try so hard to things to make him happy cook clean buy him stuff anything that he asks i jump up and do but i cant remember the last time hes went out of his way for me i try to talk to him but he just yells at me ands says not this again he makes me feel like crap most the time were together but yet i still love him more than ever maybe its because he wasnt always like this but ive to break up with him but when i do i feel like my life is going to end i get very depressed i no what i need to do but i dont no if i can its so hard if you have the time to right me back dawson i would appreciate it i dont have anyone else to talk to
- anynumous

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 9:51:15 PM
Hey Dawson I just want to say that you do a great job and also say that I want to become a phycratrist and I want to help people just like you do and what I have to say is that you ROCK!!!
- anynumous

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 9:51:05 PM
i think people become love addicts because they don't feel that inner security or independency, so they try and find anyone to fulfill that for them. my sister used to be like that. she thought that all the lovey dovey stories we watched on tv was the real thing, but i tried to tell her all the time that it was all fantasy. it felt like all i ws telling her went in through one ear and left through the other. my dad came and left several times and i blame him for her actions, cuz he was and still is the reason for all of the drama. for a period of time, i used to feel that strong urge to just find someone to make me whole, because i felt so empty. most of my relationships didnt go the way i wanted them to. after a while i asked myself if this was the path i wanted to take. i wasnt really gaining anything from worrying if the boy would call me, why he didnt call , where was he, and just all that crazy business. all i had to do ws find myself and figure out who i really was and what my purpose of being on earth was. i did now i'm in a healthier relationship and i've become more independent than ever! i feel more secure even if i was to leave the relationship anytime, and i feel even more free!!!
- kudakwashe

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 9:46:17 PM
i have a friend who always thinks she's in love ever time she gets a new boyfriend(almost every week). it drives me insane because all she talks about is how much she "loves" the guy she is with, and then she will come to school the next days talking about some other dude she is dateing...it just drives me crazy!!!i want to talk to her about it, i just dont know what to say...please help!!!
- Hayley

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 6:53:38 PM
i think im a love addict!!!!!!!
- Tarah

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 10:30:08 AM
i have a friend who is not in love but she's boy crazy. every week she has a new boyfriend and she thinks that they all love her. i keep trying to tell her that these boys dont care for her, but they dont. everyone who knows her knows that all the so called boyfriends she has only want sex from her. and when she doesnt give it to them they dissapear. i keep trying to warn her but she doesnt listen. and when she's out trying to make boys happy, she starts losing herself and her grades get worse.i just wish she would realize that love isnt everything
- yasmihng

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 10:30:03 AM
people become love addicted because they want someone to love them. My best friend says he needs a girlfriend because he doesn't get the same love from friends and family. If some prople are lacking in the family dpartment they turn to the opposite sex for love and comfort. It can get very high among teens, ging through life with stress and all they want is ti just be comforted and love by somebody they care about!
- Marissa

Wednesday, Oct 3, 2007 - 6:13:26 AM
I used to wonder why a friend of mine never seemed to be without a guy, but now I think she may be a love addict. I can think of two possible reasons: 1. Her family was/is physically abusive 2. She is diagnosed as bipolar manic-depressive schizophrenic. Her mom had similar psychological problems, and she told me once that that's why her dad divorced her mom, because he couldn't handle her when she wasn't 'normal.' She's married now, though, just this summer, so I really hope it works out for her!
- Irene

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 10:35:15 PM
Hey Dawson. I'm Cheyenne. I'M From Springdale, AR. I Love Your Show. It Really Helps Me. I Have A Major Problem Though. I Can't Get This Boy Off My Mind. He Broke My Heart. And Yet I Still Love Him. I Need Help Dawson. Please Help Me.
- Cheyenne

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 9:35:53 PM
God created us to have a need for love and affection. That's why he made a partner for Eve. He saw that lonliness was not good. There are different times in our lives when we require differing types of love/bonding; i.e., love from parents & siblings, friends, and husbands/wives. It depends on where you are in your life as to which type of love/bonding is appropriate and pleasing in God's eyes.
- shannon

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 9:27:31 PM
dawson i talked to u before but i had this problem to a love addiction the only reason why i am addicted is because it take the pain all away i feel wanted loved and that i cant live without him im suasial too i need help he want sex and i gave in to that he wanted me to do drugs and steal and stay out past curfue i did and look were it got me no were but still yet i still love him and feel like i need him i now why but how can i stop i need to before before i kill myself im in cousuling but im to ashamed to say theses things i cut and im trying to stop but i need help wat do i do dawson can u help me though this again
- andrea

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 7:58:00 PM
i think its like what you said in the explaination. people become love addicts because they feel they arent being loved enough at home or they dont hear i love you enough from there parents or they may become love addicted because they have low self esteem. i used to always want to have a boyfriend so i could feel appreciated, or wanted/ needed from somebody i had very low self esteem. but now i realize that i dont need a boyfriend to feel needed or to feel good about myself because i kno that im special and dont need anyone to make me feel like a superSTAR! because i am and beacause a boy wont help me get into college or make me a lawyer so i have higher self confidence because of that. and i think it shows a lot now. and i feel better about myself. so anyway i think if you have low self confidence you may crave having a boyfriend and settling for anyone who asks you out. which is not good either because you should realize that you are worth so much better than what you think and shouldnt settle for anything less than the best and someone who will treat you like the special person that you are.
- riah

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 7:30:30 PM
hey Dawson,I love your show so much and I thank you for the great work that you are doing for young people.I know that I could be a love addict cos I always find reasons to make relationships that won't work,work.But fortunately,no matter how hard it is,I let go and I feel great and renewed after that.Thanks for opening my eyes to things that I didn't know.You are awesome.You totally rock
- tasha

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 6:50:45 PM
my question is the fine line between love or lust.everybode has a hole in there soul.only God will fill it.
- jim e.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 6:49:15 PM
i thought that i was in love with a gye.i thougt that he was my best friend,and that i could trust him . i thought that he loved me.i wanted him to love me ,i made him think that he loved me, just so i could feel good about myself ,thinking that someone else cared about me.
- remy

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 6:47:41 PM
I didn't know love when I was a kid. I didn't know affection. I didn't often know what it was to be cared for. I didn't know the unconditional aspect of love at all. I thought I had to earn it or prove myself worthy of loving. So when I grew up, I didn't feel like something that could be loved. The first time a guy ever chose interest in me, every need that I longed to be fulfilled now seemed possible. I fed off that love, even though it was far from genuine. Selfish love is never genuine. I was perfect at giving and receiving selfish love. It was all about me...and I couldn't stop the cycle.
- Sarah

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:17:00 AM
I hate to say it but at one point in my life i was a addict then I woke up and realized im way to young to be in love!!.......The saying that teenagers cant fall in love i think is the truth!!......Teenagers may not think it but it is....there are only a few that work out!....I say yes its nice to have someone there but live your life like you want to..not how the person that you love wants you too. And do what you need to do to get by even if that person isnt in your life!!
- Tommy K.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:16:21 AM
I didn't know the love when I was a kid. I saw suffering, pain, and hardship all around me. I chose a path of isolation and abandonment. The first time a guy ever chose interest in me, every need that I longed to be fulfilled now seemed possible. I fed off that love, even though it was far from genuine. Selfish love is never genuine. I was perfect at giving and receiving selfish love. It was all about me...and I couldn't stop the cycle.
- Sarah

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:15:56 AM
I think bwhhen bu r w/ someone for a veary long time then yall break up then u think u have 2 have someone 24/7 that is what i think is a love addicts
- Kenzie H.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:15:43 AM
I FEEL LIKE I HAVE EVERY SYMPTOM OF A LOVE ADDICT AS YOU CALL IT. I JUST NEVER KNEW SUCH A PROBLEM REALLY EXISTED OR THERE WAS SUCH A THING AS A LOVE ADDICT.UP UNTIL OCTOBER OF 2005 I WAS LIVING A PRETTY NORMAL LIFE I GUESS YOU COULD SAY. THEN I MET THIS WOMAN AND WE STARTED SEEING EACH OTHER PRETTY SERIOUS.SHE HAD JUST GOT A DIVORCE ABOUT A MONTH EARLIER AND I MYSELF HAD JUST BROKEN UP WITH A GIRL A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE.BUT TIME PASSED AND WE BECAME SERIOUS. THEN HER X HUSBAND STARTING COMING AROUND AND THATS WHEN OUR PROBLEMS STARTED. SHE SAID IT WAS HARD TO GET OVER HIM SINCE THEY HAD BEEN MARRIED 13 YEARS AND NEEDED TIME TO SEE WHO SHE REALLY WANTED..ME OR HIM. TO ME THIS WAS DEVASTATING AND I COULDNT DEAL WITH IT. I BECAME DEEPLY DEPRESSED AND FOR THE FIRST TIME TURNED TO DRUGS. BUT WE WERE AWAY OR OFF AND ON UP UNTIL APRIL OF THIS YEAR. AND THE WHOLE TIME WE WERE APART I WAS ABUSING DRUGS AND RUINING MT LIFE. I FELT LIKE I COULDNT LIVE WITHOUT HER. BACK IN MARCH I CAME CLEAN AND CONFESSED TO MY PARENTS MY DRUG PROBLEM AND GOT CLEAN. AND FELT BETTER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE. I WAS TRYING TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE AND WAS DATING AROUND. BUT NEWS TRAVELS AND SHE FOUND OUT I WAS SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND CAME BACK TO ME IN APRIL. SHE WAS TELLING ME SHE LOVED ME AND KNEW WHAT SHE WANTED IN LIFE. SO I WENT BACK AND TRYED IT AGAIN..THINGS WERE GOOD FOR A FEW MONTHS. THEN IN AUGUST SHE STARTED ACTING DIFFERENT AND DISTANT FROM ME. SHE SAID I NEEDED TO UNDERSTAND SHE WAS TIED DOWN FOR A LONG TIME AND NEEDED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT SHE REALLY WANTED IN LIFE. SO THEN CAME THE DRUGS AGAIN..I JUST CANT DEAL WITH IT. ITS LIKE SHE TELLS ME TO DO WHAT I FEEL IN MY HEART. BUT SHE DOESNT WANT ME SEEING OTHER PEOPLE NOR DOES SHE WANT ME HERSELF.AT THE SAME TIME SHE IS SEEING THIS GUY. SHE WILL GO ALL WEEK AND NOT CALL ME THEN WHEN THE WEEKEND GETS HERE SHES CALLING ME AND ASKING ME TO COME SEE HER. AND SOON AS I LEAVE SHE EITHER GOES TO HIS HOUSE OR HE COMES OVER. AND IF SHE SEES OR THINKS IM DOING SOMETHING I SHOULDNT SHE ALWAYS SAYS "IF YOU TRULY LOVED ME YOU WONT DO THAT". I FEEL LIKE I LOVE HER WITHIN MY HEART LIKE IVE NEVER LOVED BEFORE. ITSL LIKE SHES WANTING ME TO PUT MY LIFE ON HOLD FOR HER. AND INCASE THIS GUY SHES SEEING DOESNT WORK OUT SHES GOT ME TO FALL BACK ON. BEFORE I MET HER I COULD HAVE WALKED AWAY FROM THIS SO EASILY AND NEVER HAD TO THINK TWICE. BUT FOR SOME REASON SHES THE FIRST PERSON TO HAVE THIS KIND OF HOLD ON ME.I FEEL LIKE IF I MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE THAT IM GIVING UP ON HER.AND AT THE SAME TIME I KNOW SHE DOESNT LOVE ME. ITS LIKE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I KNOW SHE WOULDNT WAIT FOR ME OR DO THE SAME THING FOR ME. SHE TELLS ME TO THIS DAY SHE NEEDS TIME TO SEE WHAT HER TRUE FEELINGS ARE. I THINK ANYBODY WOULD KNOW WHAT THEIR FEELINGS ARE FOR A PERSON AFTER ALMOST 2 YEARS. ITS LIKE SHE WANTS HER CAKE AND EAT IT TO. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS? CAN ANYONE RELATE TO THIS? OR HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS? I ALWAYS GIVE IN TO HER AND FORGIVE EVERYTHING SHE DOES. SHES EVEN SLEPT AROUND ON ME WITH HER X HUSBAND AND TOLD ME BUT I STILL FORGIVE HER. ITS LIKE MY LOVE NEVER FADES OR CHANGES. I NEED HELP AND I KNOW IT. CAN ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME ON THIS MATTER? TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK I SHOULD DO..
- TRENT C.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:12:57 AM
Unfortunatly I am addicted to love. I will sleep with or date any guy who thinks I am attractive. It's said, I know...but I just can't help getting emotionally attached to everyone! i am never content with one guy. I may really like him when I meet him, but after a relationship is started...i start searching for a new one. I am getting better, because I am finally talking about all of this with my close friends. It isn't impossible to overcome, but for anyone who is going through this... it isn't easy!
- Cait

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:12:18 AM
i think that love is one of the most powerful meaning things you can say to someone if yer young and think your in love thats great but don't waste your personal self on someone that you wont be with your entire life. you should save your sexuality for your husband or wife instead of on an impulse i love you on a true one
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Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:11:56 AM
i think part of the reason people become love addicts is b/c they think that the person they are in love with really loves them and cares for them, but really deep down inside they don't really love that person for who they are i'm not saying that this is for all people that are love addicts but just for some.
- stacey

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:11:31 AM
in my opinion people become love addicts because once they feel loved they automatically say, "hey this feels good" so love is like a prescriped drug you can use it for good and know when it's good and when its bad but somepeople do it for the wrong reasons. love addicts use it for the wrong reason.
- Erin

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:11:10 AM
I never thought this was a real issue, it seems serious. It's unfortunate that people have to be dependent on others just to feel...needed. I also know that a lot of people are always looking for "the one". they need to wake up and take notice, that they don't need anyone but themeselves. Thank you for writing this.
- Megan

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:10:45 AM
I think people become love addicts b/c they are afraid to be alone. My ex-boyfriend was very emotionally absive and controlling. He controlled what I wore, who my friends were, and alienated me from my family. He made me feel so bad about myself. That eventually I saw suicide as the only way out of the realationship. I was afriad to be alone, b/c I thought I didn't deserve any better!! That is why I think people become love addicts, they are afraid to be alone and feel they don't deserve anything better.
- Marie

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:10:08 AM
I think that people become love addicts because they feel the need to fill in a void or hole where they may not have been loved or cared for correctly.
- Abby

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:09:49 AM
i think people (usually in junior high) focus on just having a boyfriend/girlfriend rather than actually really truely loving..or liking the person. most kids right now just want the status to say "oh ya i have an 8th grade girlfriend" and things like that. <3 sammiee P.S. dawson i love you!!!!! ur so cool and you help me alott
- SaMiE

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:09:23 AM
abusesive family,it hase a buzz to it,i'm one of them but i'm geting out of it because i love some one specail. i have inproved so much just hearing you show.
- natashia

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:09:07 AM
I think the way to break away from this kind of thing. Is by getting real love from someone else. Like a friend, mom, teacher, etc.... So the person won't feel alone someone else will have to show them love. Love as a friend not as a parter. The harder way would to break away by yourself.
- steve

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:08:45 AM
dear dawson, MY friends all have been IN LOVE. I myself have always been reserved. I think when people get love mixed up with infatuation they are on the road to mixed up teen years. I thank god that i have not had to deal with love. But every teenage girl wants it
- maddie

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:08:26 AM
Most people dont even know when they become a love addict. They have a feeling and they fallow it. Its what people tell you to do right? to fallow your feelings. But if your feelings hurt you maybe you should fallow your mind. After all god gave it to you so you could think for yourself.....
- Gabby

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:08:04 AM
im going to call your radio stations.
- michael m.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:07:46 AM
being a love addict is much more than being addicted to sex. i am one of them. i need the good feeling that comes from being loved
- Kevin

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:07:23 AM
maybe people become love addicts for several reasons and one of those reasons is: they dont get the love that they want at home so they find it in guys/girls and i used to be that way b/c i never found the love that i wanted at home so i thought that if a guy showd me the love that i wanted then i will be happy well i found out the hard way and as a result of it i am not the same person that thought that guys can give me the love that i was longing for all my life.
-

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:06:50 AM
Some of my friends say im a love addict but, i dont beleive i am. Yes,i like alot of guys at once but, i know exactly who i would choose out of them.Like now for example i like about um..... 3 different guys but, really its the qualities they posess that i like.I have high standards for myself many times but, not my partner. To the point though, my friend Dezi is obsessed with her boyfriend Tom he treats her bad but, she says if they broke up she would die!! Please help me to help her before she does something crazy!!
- sammie

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:06:10 AM
i love love love listening to u on the radio!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- alex

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:05:57 AM
I have this friend that needs help she likes to skip school and she is always in trouble at school.
- Shanice

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:05:09 AM
I think love addicts are the empty shells of people who weren't loved enough by their own parents. They can't help what they've become. Maybe they wouldn't be that way if their parents would've loved them as much as they needed to.
- anna j.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:04:41 AM
Dawson, I am 25 and am going thru a very rough time with my marriage. I have been married for 3.5 years and have a step son5 and a son 3. life was pretty good until this past april when i found out my wife was cheating on me with a women she worked with. life has been very hard every since we split up and then get back together. This time she wants to move away from me, and I am havinf a hard time with that, i do think I am a love addict, but it is hard to get over her due to my kids. They are my life and I can't live with out them. I miss her and the relationship we used to have and i now it will not ever work , but it is hard thinking of moving o with out her in my life. I need someadvice or if you anyone out there has gone though this plz e-mailme. I know inmy head i need to move on but i know i will miss out on so much of my kids life if we aren't together, and that really scares me. thanks so much i love your show. I think what you do is so awsome and once i get past alll this i wan to join your street team so i can help others who need it like i do right now. thanks Chris
- Christopher Z.

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:02:52 AM
I have been here.I have been very much addicted to love.After overcoming this addiction I realize the cause.I was trying to fill the void in my own heart with what I thought was-love from other people.I had many scars and hurts from as far back as my early childhood and I was trying to cover them up,rather than deal with them.There is a special place inside of you that can ONLY be touched and healed with God's love.Once you allow that to happen you will begin to see changes in every part of your life. Caitlin-18 years old.
- Caitlin

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:02:29 AM
ive been tied up in relationships for 3 years now. everytime i get out of a relationship i jump back into a new one and i always find myself goin back to my boyfriend i first started with. we went out for almost a year then broke up then i was talkin to this other kid cause i couldnt stand the thought of being alone then we stopped talkin and i went right bac to the pervious boyfriend. we were miserably together for only a few more months when we broke up and i immediatly jumped into a relationship with someone who made me fall hard and cheated on me. when we broke up i started talkin to this other guy and stopped cause i know i just need some time. now im single and tryin to be ok with it but it just feels like im pretending all the time. my best friend cant figure out why i think i always need someone like a boyfriend when i have my friends there. i dunno if im guilty of this love addict stuff but if i am i need a cure and fast!
- a fan

Tuesday, Oct 2, 2007 - 1:01:43 AM
My very best friend is going through this right now. Her parents were very strict and she wasn't allowed to date. She met a guy 6 years older than her who was a "hottie" and showed her some attention and she fell for him. It ended up getting her kicked out of her house. He took her virginity, he mental and emotionally abuses her constantly, and he has even smashed her phone and threatened to slash her tires when he gets mad. But through it all she sticks with him and "can't be without him". She has admitted to me that she knows it is wrong and that he is bad for her but she just can't leave. It is hard for the addicts to go through this, but it is almost worse for friends to see them go through it. I try to help her but she just goes back to him. It hurts so much. I don't know what to tell her anymore other than that she can do better and that I love her.
- Katie

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:42:38 PM
I think people become love addicts because they don't have a sense of self-worth. They feel like they need someone to tell them that they're fine the way they are, and then after a while, they'll do anything for someone to tell them that.
- Chelsea

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:41:52 PM
i have never herd of love addiction before but i know that my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me february of 07 and we havent talked since and i would really like to get in touch with him but i dont know how.
- Samantha K.

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:32:46 AM
i think that people should think about love before they say all them things. people become love addicts because they have a feeling that if they are not with somebody than they are completly lost and they think they can not live with out any body.
- GREGORY

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:32:40 AM
wow i totally used to be that girl!!!! about two years ago i was in that same type of relationship. then after about the 5th time him cheating i finally called it quits. a friend of mine constantly told me i could do soooo much better, and i knew i did, but it was that feeling of loneliness that scared me more than anything. but when i finally left, to begin with i thought my life was over. but that friend stuck by me through everything!!!! now 8 months ago i started dating that friend. i finally found true love!!!! i gave myself a break and stayed single and the person i should've been with the whole time was right in front of me. we are now getting married. there's no more anxiety!!! he's treated me with respect, compassion, complete honesty, love and everything else tat's supposed to make a true relationship. i've never been happier
- jessica

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:32:29 AM
OK i was in this long term relationship with this guy that i was dating for 3 years now and i love him alot. This guy broke up with me like 6 weeks ago. I feel head over heels for him and he said that he loved me and i still love him. He was the one that helped e stop cutting and thinking of suicide.I have been crying ever since what happen i have been crying myself to sleep i cry every time when my mind comes across his name.I am thinking of committing suicide or cutting myself which i don't want to start again i stopped a little over 2 years and I'm thinking of suicide again please help me
- kayla venderley

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:32:24 AM
love addicts are some what of problem to some people they hurt people in some ways, oh yeah i listen to your show on ksyn 92.5 everysunday night.
- jake romine

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 11:32:02 AM
I belive that soooo many girls out there that have become love addicted just want to feel something.[me being one of them once apon a time]I feel that so many girls have been shot down or feel hurt so they will do anything just to find that one guy. These girls will do anything to keep them too. Even though the rest of the world sees what is truely going on. Guys are like good parking spots, or cute clothes that actually FIT you, they are VERY hard to find!!At least that right type of guy for that specific girl. I think alot of girls have given up way to fast. But that is my personal oppinion.
- Heather

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 2:04:14 AM
after reading your blog i finally think i have figured out my problem..before i met my girlfriend i was living the life that i thought i loved, going from girl to girl, partying, have the time of my life...all i wanted to do was go out with different girls everyday of the week, and thats what i did. i would get with one girl get what i wanted and moved on to the next....then i finally met this one girl that changed the way i thought about everything.....i stopped seeing other girls, stopped talking to other girls and settled down with just this one girl...i loved her, and everything about her...after a few months things started to die down a little bit and i started to get a little bored with it so i started to see other girls and cheat...she cought me and i stopped for a little while and then i started to do it again....she found out again, left me. we worked things out and then after we were together for about a year she got pregnant...while she was pregnant i did it again....after she had the baby i did it once more.....i dont understand it though because i love this girl with all of my heart and thats the last thing that i want is to hurt her or do anything bad to her....i feel so bad for the things that i did to her and when i think about it all i wanna do is kill my self because of how i treated her....she did everything for me....paid my bills, took care of me, paid for my gas in my truck, did whatever i wanted, hung out with all my friends, never complained about anything....she was a dream girl that every guy dreams about.....and all i could do was hurt her and treat her like crap..... i love her with all my heart and our baby girl.....but i cant stop doing what i do.....i try to stop myself so hard but i cant stop.. i think my problem is this addiction. i feel like i have the need to be with more than one girl, even though i have the girl of every man's dreams....i dont know what to do...please, if you could, could you help me? thanks, Mike
- mike

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 1:12:15 AM
After reading this, I have self diagnosed myself as a love addict. How does one become addicted to love? I dont believe I was less loved as a child than most, or anything like that, but more that I just have not found anyone to have a relationship with. I had a serious relationship in high school, or what i thought was serious and got hurt quite badly when he cheated on me numerous times. Ever since then I have been trying and trying to compensate somehow for the love that I felt with him, and have failed to do that at this point in my life. Every single guy that I have had any sort of physical attraction to, I reel them right into me, hoping they fall in love with me. I completely change when I have a new guy- Im overly nicer than I normally am, I bend over backwards for someone Ive been dating for 2 days or 1 week, etc, and I do anything to make them fall for me just that much more. Once I feel them growing distant- I try that much harder. I become that clingy girl that everyone hates. That girl that even I make fun of! But I crave love. Crave doesnt even describe it. If I won the lottery, i would give up every last cent of it to be completely devoured by love. When i get my heart broken, on the outside im strong and dont let people know it bothers me, but on the inside im an emotional trainwreck. I usually dont understand at first why they wouldnt want to be with me. I consider myself funny, somewhat attractive, fun to be around, and yet i cant find anyone to just love me. But when they want nothing to do with me, I carry that pain and move right on to finding hopefully the new love of my life. It never works and i usually know that from the very moment I meet them and all they want to do is get into my pants, but in my sad pathetic little mind I believe that they love me. So, long story short i can really relate to this and can not wait to listen to your show!!!
- hilary

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 12:54:27 AM
The feeling of being rejected after a lot has been done for the relationship.
- Ana

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 12:07:29 AM
i think people become "addicted to love" because they may lack the love from the house...so they spread out to see who will "love" them like they wish that their family would they feel like they have to have this feeling and wont stop until they reach satisfaction...even if it means being used and abused by thier "loved" one
- dennis bryant

Monday, Oct 1, 2007 - 12:07:07 AM
Dawson I dont show many of the signs of a love addict but I fear I might be one. It's a long story that I feel I can share with you and any of the readers simple because i'm not afraid of my choices and maybe it's time to really have it all looked at from an outside party. I met this girl (stephanie) when I was starting 10th grade and was taken back by her. We were complete opposites from day one because she was a quiet shy girl with high morals and i was the shadey dark guy with few restrictions in life. We spent a whole day together and started talking afterwords getting to know each other. She was in a relationship of one year and I had just come out of one that lasted 8 months. As we talked we got to really know each other and started to develope feelings for each other but when she broke up with her boyfriend of one year she turned to me and I told her "I dont want to be a rebound for you, i think that you need some time and a part of me isnt over my break up" well 2 weeks passed and she was with a new guy who's name I will keep out of this for his own protection. To this day she is still with this guy and that gives them a three year relationship. Throughout these three years her and I have continued to talk and my feelings continued to grow and any time i would reveal them i ended up attacking her boy friend with insults or comments that could or could not be true (the grape vine is a horrible way to learn things) Well finally we got to a point where we quit talking for 5 month and one night she just came back into my head. I mean over the three years we had had alot of arguments that caused us to stop talking but never for such a long period of time. Well i started to think about her and how shemade me feel, how she made me feel fuzzy and how her moral standigs were amazing to me and just how everything about her was perfect to me and I started talking toher again and as time went on one day I just straight out told her "Stephanie I think I love you, i dont know what love is but ive never felt the way I do for someone like i do you" and that of coarse scared her but a month later she came back and told me the same thing, that she couldnt stop thinking about me and that she loves me too. since then we have talked daily and and i keep trying to find ways to win her over but every time we get close she decides that she needs to focus on her current boyfriend and try to make things better with him. It gets frustrating to hear about how he can call her names and treat her like dirt but she keeps giving him chances because she loves him but also loves me. Recently I have found myself sick over this, not wanting to eat, tired, and just having an emotional rollercoaster ride where I can be overly happy and excentric one moment then completely down the next. I'm coming to this point where it hurts so badly and yet I want to continue to fight for it because if this is love then its something to fight for right? Then I heard your show tonight and came tothesight and read this blog. I dont idtentify with many of the love addict symptoms i dont think but Im afraid I might be still. A love addict lives in a fantasy world. : I do, identify with this one because i can just see myself with her, living happily years from now and that seems like a big fantasy world if you ask me. A love addict wants to be rescued from their empty life. : I dont see how this one relates to me, I have a great job and great friends while im currently going to college and that does'nt seem empty to me... but maybe theres more to emptyness than what you have" A love addict pushes their partner to meet needs only God can meet. : This one confused me honestly. I try not to bother God to often but recently i find myself talking to him more and more, asking him to let her be happy in life and to aid my friends with happiness too but i try to to ask to much because I dont want to feel greedy. The other day a friend told me "its ok to pray for yourself, sometimes we have to pray that god gives us the strength to bear though life and survive till the storm settles" A love addict tends to worship their partner. : I can idtentify to this, it seems this girl ccan do no wrong in my eyes. A love addict confuses sexual attraction with love. : This one is hard, I will admit she is an attractive young girl but she has set her goal to stay pure until she is engaged and i respect that about her. A love addict craves to be consumed with his/her partner. : I dont want to be consumed with her, I just want to be closer to her, possibly have a chance with her... but in a way that is being consumer. A love addict lacks attention and nurturing when they were young. : This one i cant relate to. My mother was very nuurturing when i was young and often my father would get upset that she would show me more attention than him which was a problem but once the two were divorced i learned that my father loves me too and now both parents are very suportive of what i do.. but on the other hand i have always been very independent. A love addict feels detached and isolated from family: This one gets me too because i love sitting down with my grand mother or my mom and just talking about life and their jobs and my work and i love talking ot my step sisters and step mother about how they are and listening to them and once a week my father and i get together to swap stories. A love addict is highly manipulative and controlling of others. : I would'nt call myself manipulative but my friends seem to follow me as if I'm their leader. neither of them will take time to make plans but always look to me for what we are going to do. A love addict has inner rage over lack of nurturing and early abandonment. : once again i dont see the lack of nurturing but i do have inner rage that i think comes from my father, kind of like its genetic. I'm not good at venting my anger appropriatly. A love addict tries to avoid abandonment at any cost.: I dont like being alone but i also dont like being in large groups. A love addict confuses the drama in the relationship as love. : I have been in alot of relationships that lack drama and i often end them for no reason. Stephanie and I argue alot and yet i continue to strugle for her. A love addict feels being in a romantic relationship will make them whole. : This one gets me too, no explination needed, its true. love addict has an obsessive drive to leave one relationship for another.: I have done this one twice now. A love addict uses relationship and sex to alter their mood and relieve emotional pain. : I can agreethat relationships make me feel better but they also make me feel worse too. A love addict trades sexual activity for what they think is love.: the one problemwith this one is that I hav'nt been in any sexual situations since my first relationhip in 9th grade so i have avoided sexual encounters for nearly 4 years now. Thats my stroy Dawson and I know you have so many people who want to talk to you but if you can find the time to read this and possibly just give me your two cents i would greatly appreciate it. I think it's time i identify my problems and try to defeat them.
- James T.

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:41:29 PM
im datein a guy name sotero and i like him i dont luv him im luv my ex-boifriend julian but i dont kno who 2 choose cuz sotero luv me and i dont kno if julian still luvz me like he use 2 do i stay wit sotero or go 2 julian hhhhhhhhheeeeeeeeeellllllllpppppp
- ashley

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:40:17 PM
My mother was a love addict. Nothing my sisters or I said could get her to realize that my step dad was not a good guy. I think she stayed with him because she was afraid of being alone for the rest of her life. after she meet him she became an alcoholic because he was one so they went to the bar almost every night. Once he picked me up to go hunting. He drove me an hour away to his shack. we bundled up and walked down so trails to a stand and didnt think i was capable to carry the gun up with me so once i got up in the stand he climbed up to give it to me and was so drunk that he fell from the top of the stand. so i went down to help him and he told me he was fine and to just go back up and hunt. but i ran back to the shack and got help. once we got to the hospital we found out he was 4 times the legal limit. That is only one example but my mom still wouldn't leave him. On new years eve 4 years ago, we watched the ball drop at home and then my mom and step dad went to the bar. I went to sleep at about 1 and woke up to them arguing because he did something that made my moms friends leave. I was used to them arguing because they did every night. I heard my mother storm out to go find her friends. i went back to sleep thinking she would find them bring them home and come back. She was missing for about a week before they found her in her van an hour away at a camp ground we always used to go to. Still to this day I do not know what killed her because the autopsies didn't determine what the cause was. The reason I told you that story is because I want other people to know that there will be other people that will love you and that you can love back. I sometimes feel that I need to be with someone but then I remember my mom and learn from her mistakes. I know that her parents were not the greatest and didn't show her as much love as they should have. I have learned a lot from my mothers mistakes. One there are other fish in the sea. Two you don't need alcohol to have a good time. There are others but most importantly because your parents did something wrong it doesn't mean its right for you to do. Thanks for taking the time to read this and i wish you all a great life. -Brian
- Brian T.

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:27:05 PM
People become love addicts because they feel they need it. People who have been hurt as a child/teen by the ones who are suppose to love you hurts and makes it hard. And I feel that because they were not loved as a child, they feel they need it and become addicted to it when they get it by that special person. i was raped and molested from the age of 7 to about 12 and then raped by a so called boy friend when i was 16. so when i finally got involved with a good guy and "fell in love," i realized i was a addicted to love . it lasted for 4 years and when i found him with my so called best friend, i realized it. and reading your blog reminded me of that relationship and how i was.
- Dana

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:24:54 PM
being left, forgoten, or ignored by some one you look up to can hurt you forever, everyone around you can care and love you but if that one person -dad mom bro. sis.- doesn`t you can be left feeling empty. It can happen when you a baby a kid a teen or an adult but mostly when your growing up
- Lauren

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:19:58 PM
Hi DAwson, why are women more likely to be addicted to love? I see that most of time is like that. Thank you
- Jessica

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:19:46 PM
Hello dawson you can call me TJ it is kool. im listen to your Radioshow every sundaynight when i drove home from work. it so great that you show this young peoples how to brighten they live, some of it work some of it not matter to thems, love addict? hehehe....I really think if they really know what love is first. that will be such great thing. I think sex is make the younf peoples addict more than any thing. love is second. like you can say ( Fool rushin) heheheh..that how I feel. LOVE is come second, since my parents pass away longtime ago. I not know what love is no more after that, but now im marry and have a kid now my son feel that empty spot for me. I just learn how to love again..by the way I love your show , regard TJ
- TJ

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 11:19:38 PM
Hi Dawson. I am a love addict who has reached the ripe old age of 60. I have been married four times since the age of ten. I always need to be loved, wanted and sexy. I confuse love with sex, and I need a man. Ihave been this way all my life, and I'm tired of it. Diane
- Diane S.

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 10:13:22 PM
hey dawson im lyndsey. and well i think i may be a love addict. when im not with my boyfriend i feel so depressed like i want to cut my wrists and stuff like that, i actully have cut my wirst before, when he doesnt call i flip out. but when were togather all we do is fight. i get so mad at him for every little thing but he gets really mad at me easily to. and then i will go and talk to another boy and think i have feelings for them i just dont know what to do. im scared to loose him with all that we fight and stuff i mean i have never felt this way before and i truley think i could marry him.
- lyndsey

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 10:03:06 PM
i can honestly say that i am definitly a love addict. i meet all the requirements above and i am in a relationship that has lasts a little over 5 months. i'd love to talk with you and hope to hear from you. i dearly love the show!
- Christine

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 9:51:59 PM
Heyy man i just read your blog and my girlfriend and i broke up the other day and i found this blog a real help to realize that i myself am a bit of a love addict. I didnt want to belive it but this blog help me come to terms with it. And the thing you said to that guy tonight about the exgirlfirend in arizona and how hes made a fantisy about her and how he shouldnt copare his old girlfriend to his new girlfriend that is so right on.
- Thomas

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 8:03:44 PM
I just wanted first of by saying that I love listening to your show on Sunday night. I have to admit that I used to be a love addict. When I was dating my ex I couldn't even imagine being without him. Thanksfully God has helped me get through that.
- Nichole

Sunday, Sep 30, 2007 - 7:23:56 PM
I know someone who is addicted to love. Me i can't help it...I fall for the first guy who says im cute...i move from guy to guy and they all say they love me and i believe them...It wasn't until a REAL guy told me that i was beautiful that i knew what love really is... I only like love because i feel safe and sucure...
- Brianna

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 9:22:12 PM
first of all,i love listening to your show. i feel the same about the whole drop them part. i have a lot of friends. and out of all of them for somereason they alwayts come to me about "love advice". i dont understand why but i get a lot of the same crap and i feel the same way about all of it just wanted to let you know.
- samantha

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 9:20:58 PM
I think that people become addicts because they feel the need for love because they have been neglected or feel isolated from their families ABBY
- Abby

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 7:34:41 PM
I think the reason for love addiction is that maybe that person feels that is the only thing they have to "hold on to". And they stay with he/she even when the relationship becomes abusive. I always wondered how someone could stay in an abusive relationship. I asked a friend of mine who has experienced that before. She told me she felt like it was her fault he was abusive and stayed in it to change. So my question is "Why abusive relationships?" Is what my friend said true for everyone?
- Donna

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 5:00:10 PM
dawson, by hearing you talk to other teenagers around the world and listen to thee problems and you help them figure out whats up i t helps me understand what to do with my problems some of my problems were .cutting .balemic .emo .raped .abuse .and i have never met my real dad :[ .drugs but you know i am only 15 and i am figuring everything out somewhat so just add me and we can talk Thank you so much <3amanda
- amanda

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 3:25:02 PM
Dawson, thanks so much for talking on the show on 99.5. The first nite i listened to you, I was talking to my friend. She has a lot of trouble in her life. She said that she had two options. She said that she was either going to run away or commit suicide. She also cuts herself occasionly, but our school found out so shes stopping a bit. Please tell me what i should do.
- Shania

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 3:16:22 PM
when my mom was little my grandfather didnt show her the love she needed, so she went from guy to guy, trying to find the love from a "man" she didnt get at home. well when she was 21 she got pregnant with me. well when she told my dad (in my house otherwise referred to as my sperm donar) he just up and left. so me and her made it for ten years by our selves. yea she dated different guy here and there, but only a few stayed around long enough to meet me. sence i never had a father figure in my life, she was always affraid i would mess up like she did. well my last boyfriend and i dated four different times. and he cheated on me all four of the times. i was waht you call a love addict. i couldnt even begin to imagine my life without him. well the last time we dated (the fourth and last) he told me he cheated on me, again. well it took all i had, but i finally realized what a jerk he was, and i broke up with him. no i am with a different boy, who treats me a hecht of alot better. he doesnt cheat, and he treats me like a "princess". and i love it. and my last relationship made me respect this one so much more. i just want all the other girls (and guys) out there to know, that noone deservs that. noone should have to put up with anyone like that! much love, andrea (nashville, tennessee.)
- Andrea

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 1:52:55 PM
Hey Dawson, I'm Sydni and I'm 11 years old. I wanted to talk to you because... Well my mom always says that my dad does nothing and is a big cheap *ss and i just need someone to talk to about it.
- Sydni

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 1:49:50 PM
Yes I am my boyfriend he is totally sweet but sometimes he just gets soo mad and yells and hits me so I broke it off now he stocks me everywhere I go What did I do? Well I called the police to get a restraining order and well I haven't seen him since.
- kim

Saturday, Sep 29, 2007 - 1:29:50 AM
i was love addicted i met this grl and just feel in love with her i ws obsessed i worte her name everywhere made shirt tht had her name crved her nme into me everything
- heather

Friday, Sep 28, 2007 - 2:47:33 PM
I just found out that my girlfriend cut her self and my mom lives in katy texas and i found out they broke into her house and raped and it was my fout cuse i was not ther to help her she is just 10 i need help i cant stand life no more pray for me
- A BIG FAN

Friday, Sep 28, 2007 - 2:47:30 PM
Hey Dawson, I think that people could be addicted to love because they want to be loved and that they might be afraid that someone doesnt love them. That use to happen to me with this one guy and he wanted me but i didnt want him. I think that he just wanted to be in a relationship because of the fact that he wanted to be loved by someone.
- Renee

Thursday, Sep 27, 2007 - 11:08:21 PM
Hey Dawson, It's really awesome what you're doing for people. I listen to your radio show every Sunday night when you come on. Keep it up! :o) I have a question.. I'm friends with this guy and he can't seem to get it in his head that I only see him as a friend. Every conversation we have starts with "I need you" or "I wish we could be together" or "Do you love me?" And to tell you the truth, it's really getting on my nerves. He's a great guy and everything but I just wanna be friends. Is he a love addict? And how can I help boost his self esteem? Thanks a ton <3
- Renee

Thursday, Sep 27, 2007 - 11:07:54 PM
Hey i love ur show i make sure i here it every sunday. Ok i just wanted 2 say that my ex boyfriend was like this and i knew it frome the start but i thought i could make it work. I made i work for about 3 1/2m but i was just so stressed and stuff. Like he would tell me to call him at excatly 7 and if i was like a min late he would yell at me. He also would bring up how he hates how i dont tell him where and what im doing a stuff and i would ask him if he is my boyfriend or my dad. (but he was worse than my dad). So after about 4m my Best Friend told me i need 2 get rid of him so i broke up with him and took him off my AIM and Myspace. Then he started calling my dad at work and me when i was a school and sending me stuff on Myspace about how he has changed and he still loves me and stuff. Whell i fell 4 it i i added him back on Myspace and stated telling him i loved him and stuff but then againg he started getting rite back up again. Like me and My Best Friend where getting redy for her horse sho on saturday so all we had 2 do was get up on Sunday ond go. So he called and i said i cant talk im getting redy for the hose show and we hung up. Whell me and Mt Best Freind got dun early and went 2 the movies during the movie i for got 2 turn my cell of and he callen so i turend it off. When i got out side i saw i had a voice mail so i put it on speacker and licened to it. I said "i no r lying and i no ur not going to a horse show and i need to know where u r and U BELONG TO ME SO U NEED TO CALL ME ASAP" needs 2 say my Best Friend Got mad and called him and told him off and ever sinc we havent talked. But i just wanted to say i read this and i sent this to him telling him he needs to read it and think about it. Thanks for ur time and sorry i talk and type alout. Sincerly, Jessica (Pa)
- Jessica K