Trading Love Addiction For Meaningful Relationships

• Work on being alone, and accepting yourself for just who you are without a boyfriend/girlfriend to prop you up. Learn how to commune with

  “…you must have an accurate sense of who you are, your own identity.”

  God and other friends whom you are not romantically interested in. It is amazing how free you’ll feel not having that panicked feeling that you have to have someone in your life. “…you must have an accurate sense of who you are, you're own identity. Someone who is too caught up in their own insecurities and short comings will live with a ‘me’ mentality. A great relationship starts with being comfortable with who God has made you to be and His dream for your life, and then allowing that to overflow into the life of another.” (Sarah)

• Talk about these issues and your bent towards love addiction with your friends or a minister, someone who will talk loving, but straight with you. Just talking about these things will help you more clearly understand yourself and realize you are not alone. In time, you will learn an incredible truth – it’s okay to be alone. You will not die without a boyfriend/girlfriend. Life does go on. There is more to life than an addictive, toxic relationship. Without all the emotional panic and crazed feelings, you can begin to slow down and actually enjoy life for what it is. Is this easy? No. It will take time to learn a whole new way of thinking and acting.

• Work on developing new friendships with people from both sexes that do not have any romantic overtones to them. I’ve always thought people of the opposite sex need to be together just to hang out as friends. This will not only help fill the need for companionship, but will also help you understand what the opposite sex thinks and feels about the key issues of life. You can learn a lot about the opposite sex through good friends, especially when there isn’t the pressure to have some dramatic, big time love relationship. Let’s face it, if you are a love addict you definitely need a rest from all the drama and intensity of an impossible relationship. You are no doubt tired. Finding new friends will help give you the rest and relief you need to look more clearly at yourself and think about the kind of person you would like to have a romantic relationship with.

• Little by little, work your way back into a dating relationship. The important thing to remember here is to slow down and not force things. A lot of times, a person you will really come to love will come into your life when you weren’t even looking for them. It’s amazing how that works, but I have heard hundreds of people tell me they found the one they love the most when they weren’t looking for them. To find a boyfriend/girlfriend out of panic is a recipe for disaster. So slow down and let life come to you.

• Develop a meaningful relationship with God. No matter what you think

  God will fill the hole in our soul, and help lead us to the right person to date at the right time.

  about church or organized religion, fact is you and I are wired to have a meaningful relationship with God. He is the only One who can give us peace and confidence, even when we’re not dating or are totally alone. Because in a real sense, we are not totally alone if we have a relationship with God. God will fill the hole in our soul, and help lead us to the right person to date at the right time. He loves us millions of times more than we can ever love ourselves. We need to turn our whole desire to be loved over to Him. After all, He is the very essence of love. Take time to find and know God. He alone will transform our lives.

• Begin to look for healthy qualities in the people you meet. You don’t need to date one more troubled, self-indulgent, toxic person. You need to change your whole way of thinking of the kind of person you might want to have a relationship with. For example, Sarah had thought through the kind of person she would like to date. “A good relationship takes an equal amount of commitment from each partner. You have to allow your partner their personal space, allow them to spend time with their friends instead of always wanting to know where they are. There also needs to be equal understanding and support from both partners. You have to appreciate your partner’s positives as well as their negatives. Relationships are mainly about equilibrium and stability between the partners.” (Sara) I totally agree with what Sarah said. Think about the right kind of person to date, and wait for that person. Don’t settle for second best.

Wednesday, Nov 14, 2007 - 7:34:28 PM
love your show
- chris

Wednesday, Nov 14, 2007 - 7:34:22 PM
Hey, Dawson! I think it is totally cool as to what you do! thanks!
- josh e.

Wednesday, Nov 14, 2007 - 7:33:59 PM
I love listening to your show on Sunday nights. I have found God and developed a relationship with Him that is stronger than any other relationship I have ever had with anybody.
- Sarah E.

Wednesday, Nov 14, 2007 - 7:32:41 PM
i got engaged around july, but towards the end of the month i had to fly back home to finish school. for about a month my fiance and i kept in touch but when he went back to school he stopped answering my phone calls. i called his friend to see what was up and she sed that he was sleeping around with other women. i hated him for it. i sent him a nasty email saying that i didnt want to be apart of his life anymore then he sed he was sorry and he still wanted to get married and i fell back in love with him again. but his friend told me the other day that he has a new girlfriend. i am so heart broken. i hate him i love him i just want to get over him but i cant i dont know what to do. ive started doing things that i wouldn't normally do to get my mind of him and i dont like it.i really need some advice.
- heather

Wednesday, Nov 14, 2007 - 7:24:30 PM
well i myself have had promblems with this and i broke myself free by realizeing that i dont need anyone to make me happy how can i love someone else if i dont love myself and that is what people need to realize in order to actually love you must first learn to love your self
- jessica y.

Tuesday, Nov 13, 2007 - 10:57:52 PM
i always love these blogs because they help me understand and learn what i have to do to get away from feeling like i would die if i don't have my ex boyfriend with me for the rest of my life. my ex boyfriend was a jerk and treated me so badly. he'd call me n ames and he'd cheat on me and give me the guilt trip saying i will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that "unique". all my friends told me to leave him....that my friends are all that i need to be happy and a good guy will come along when he comes along. but i didn't listen to my friends, even though they have gave me very good advice for 2 years now, i just didn't listen cause my ex boyfriend sorta brain washed me in a way. but then he broke up with me after he cheated on me for the millionth time and it took a month for all my friends to convince me that i am better off without him. and now that i understand and accept it, i am doing so much better. i have great friends whom i should have listened to from the start and a new boyrfriend whos liked me for 3 years and he is very kind and nice. its just hard to let him in because i'm not used to being treated so good. but what i'm trying to say is dawsin, my friends is what keeps me going in life. friends is the true key to happiness. you need to tell your listeners to make sure they keep and stay very good friends with their friends.....cause when all else fails....its all they have....its all that i have right now and i'm happy. and i love your show. i love listening every sunday to it. thank you. ~KT~
- KT from MIHS

Tuesday, Nov 13, 2007 - 8:47:05 PM
I think hooking up is good just to try to get to know each other because u dont need to start dating someone until u get to know them because i did that once and some really bad stuff happened i didnt know nothng about the guy until a month after i was already dating him and then i hated him so yea.
- Lexie

Tuesday, Nov 13, 2007 - 12:02:35 AM
I think hooking up with girls because you never know what people are like until you spend time with them. I met an awesome girl once and it didn't last, but she taught me a lot about myself. It was hard, too, because she gave me the clap ... so I will never be able to forget her. In fact, every time I get a flare-up, I have to talk to my therapist because there were so many good things about her ... but in the end this is all I can keep. I don't even mind having the clap because in this way, we share something significant and nobody can take that away. I don't even think that my future girlfriend (or especailly my wife) will mind because this girl taught me how to be a man. I mean, a real man, like to have responsibilities and stuff. For example, I have to really stay on top of the medications because things can get really bad. Man, it's painful. But this girl was great. I am not sorry at all that I got involved. It was a really positive experience overall (some negative things, as I wrote earlier). But like I said, until you get to know someone, you never know what they can offer you.
- Karl B.

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:59:55 PM
This blog is just the advice i needed, i do feel like i will never love again and i feel so lost without my ex-boyfriend. even though he doesnt care much about me or so it seems i feel like i have just lost my best friend and i feel i can never be whole again. i have been goign to church and its helped.
- Kayla

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:58:39 PM
hey i always listen to ur show on sundays it makes me wanna call-in an tell u everything that is on my mind but there is alot and honstly i dont really think that nobody can help me..en if i tell u wants all on my mind u wud pry just say that i need counseling..buh dat dont help either..so yea.. i love ur show tho
- Jocelyn Fast Horse

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:58:14 PM
ya im basicly a lova addict. it stinks, cause i dont exactly have an amazing relationship w my dad, so ive been searching for a good relationship w a guy for a while now. but i give up, i admit it & it was a big waste of my life. i just dont know wat to do now. i dont know wat the first step is., other than God.
- -nessa

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:47:15 PM
i think part of my past hook-up with some one i wasnt dating or even close to dating is ruining my present relasionships. a while back, probably when i was 13, i stayed with my best friend, her brother was 16. things got carried away. i love god, and he has done great things for me since i discovered him, but at that point i wasnt worried about god. i had a boyfriend. we had been steady for about 4 months. then, my best friends brother got on top of me. i could and should have stopped him. i told him i had a boyfriend, he didnt stop and honestly i didnt want him too. we didnt have sex. even then i planned to be a virgin just because i was scared of STD's. as the night progressed, a little kissing went to making out, then touching outside of clothes. then we went into "underwear zones". luckly when i thought i went way to far i told him no yet i felt horrible. i thought maybe if i made out with him and let him touch me in places no one should see until their my husband, he might want to be with me. how wrong was i, after that things werent the same. he acted like he hated me. i was hurt. then my great reputation at school was gone. i hated myself and him, when i relize it was my fault. i mean sure he came on to me but i had all the right to stop him and if i really wanted to i could. now i dont have long relasionships, im afraid the same thing will happen. i do regret it. your first kiss is supposed to be special. mine was at the time as i look back on it i regret it. if i could give anyone advice about this topic it would be to wait. yeah it's only french kissing or whatever you prefer to call it,but you only get that first kiss once. dont waste it. there IS a boundary everyone needs to set for themselves even at a young age. im now 15 and i regret it more than ever.
- brittany

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:40:21 PM
being friends with benifits is definetly "exciting", until u get attached and the other person doesn't. i LOVE relationships. i guess u can say im addicted. but i loved my BEST friend and we became friends with benifits. i wanted a relationship but he didnt. i use to go over his house to hang out and if we were alone it would turn out to be a make out session or somthing along those lines. and one day after skool he started talkin to my sister. he told her that the only reason he was doing that was because he felt bad for me. HOOK-UPS AND FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS AREN'T THE WAY TO GO. THEY REALLY HURT!
- Aimee~Rose

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:39:40 PM
hey i never had a hook-up or friends with benefits but i know someone who have.and it reaaly is hard to find someone when you are rushing into a relationship.your blog helps me alot.
- cynthia

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:37:58 PM
Having a love addiction for anyone and that addiction can really end up hurting many people, such as you, your family, your children or future children, and your health. There is help for anyone that is looking for it but you have to make the first move
- heather c.

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:37:24 PM
I had a..... friend that is a boy and we got closer than friends but i didnt really want to date him. After a while i began to feel bad about it and other people started to talk about me so i had to stop before it got really bad.
- Gabrielle

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:35:20 PM
wow you realy know what to say and when to say it
- Kim

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:34:05 PM
Your show rocks you give really good advise and know how to deal with problems.
- cj

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:33:40 PM
i am have always been friends w/benefits. sometimes it gets depressing because they just want me for benefits and not a real relationship. but sometimes it can be fun. and i say that because it takes away the pain and my problems. i don't know how to stop. i just enjoy it so much and i want a real relationship but all any guy wants that knows me get there benefits.
- Tiffany

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:27:08 PM
I love listening to your show.its a every weekend thing on sunday nights. i stay up all nite and listen to u help people who need it. i think it is a good thing your doing for people who needs it.THANK YOU!!!
- nicole

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:26:47 PM
i have a girlfriend and she went to parties and danced with a couple guys she doesn't know. I feel mad, jealous o, and hurt but i dont know why what should i do???
- Dennis

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:26:14 PM
I ve had a bestfriend w/ benefits for a long time, until i sarted going w/ his brother ,and it was kinda awkward because he feels like we have too much history for me to be going with his brother. But the thing is I kinda dont care.
- Narda

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:21:40 PM
Friends with benefits is a bad idea for anyone and everyone. Everybody think about it for one minute, are you really getting everything out of it that you want. Does anyone think that they could get an STD or AIDS? You can and even though you may say you know this person really well it can happen anytime. There is more to life than just sex. If they are true friends like you say they are than you would never have to be put in that situation.
- Heather C.

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:20:48 PM
yes i have had friends with benefits. thinking back on it i didnt like it. at first i thought i did but now i dont like it. i guess i still have some friends like that but i dont want them friends with benefits. either friends or not at all. i had a boyfriend at the time and he dumped me cuz all he wanted was sex. so he wanted "some" from me and i wouldnt do it right away with him so he dumped me. im over him now but i still want a boyfriend. i miss having one.
- brittany

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:20:05 PM
Yes, i have had a friend w/benefits. It was good, or positive, because now i am getting to know this guy a lot better physically and personaly, and mentally. So it worked out for me, but it may not always work. I know that he was a good friend before all this but now he is an even better friend.
- Stacie

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 11:19:45 PM
ok Dawson I tune into your show on Philly's Q102 FM and i enjoy listening to all the advice that you give out to these young kids who call you and i just wanted to make a comment that keep on doing what your doing because your helping so many children and young adults with many problems!
- Maureen

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 1:59:18 AM
Yes, I have had a friend with benefits, and we are still good friends to this day. We would hook up a few times a year and it was nothing more than a nice dinner and GREAT sex! Now I have a LTR, I don't need that, but he is still there as a friend, and I know that if my current relationship ends that he will be there for me, because he told me so.
- Melody

Monday, Nov 12, 2007 - 1:26:33 AM
Dawson Mcalister,wow..wut an amazing person.....well I remember the 1st time I heard ur show was at the end of my 7th grade year last year that is..1 night before I was going 2 bed&I had nvr heard of u before so it was something new&interesting..I have listened 2 it since then&actually listened 2 it 2night..I have actually thought of calling in 2 talk 2 u about certain problems that I have but I have my doubts..however I believe I will so I hope that we get 2 talk soon..ur advice is unbelievable&so is this blog!!Keep ^ the good work Dawson..I hope 2 meet u 1 day in my life!!:D
- Sarah

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 11:49:43 PM
Tonight is the first time I have every heard of you, listened to the radio on the road. Thank you, you are helping people, improving lives, and saving lives. This love addiction is what I believe I have dealt with for a long time. I have realized it before, and though about it a lot. I know tonight was the last night for this topic, just to talk, just like everyone else, is all I need.
- Matthew

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 11:13:51 PM
well one i want to say im glad i was turning stations and found this and its very cool that you put your time to help everybody i will try to call if i cant get through then i will wright to you thank you
- Tiffany P.

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:56:00 PM
hey why i post my comments is i got a friend that we have been for 8 years and i dont talk to her much and i really miss talk to this freind cause we was so close to each other and i really misss talk to her.
- Karen

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:55:39 PM
I had a love thing this summer. This guy was dating my friend but he liked me. We kind of hooked up. I really thought he liked me. He said he loved me and every thing. I told him that if he really loved me he would break up with my friend, and of course he said he would. We never did anything serious. I thought i was 'in love' with him though and treated him great. Well, he broke up with her and then stopped talking to me. I found out he started doing stuff with my best friend behind my back. So my summer lovin was a bummer. I don't speak to him any more.
- katie

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:49:41 PM
ok so there was this boy i had liked for a while and we became friends with benefits. it got to were we both liked each other more then just what was going on. but that problem became bigger when he decided to accuse me of doing the same stuff with other guys. so then we started going out and it got worse. it just went downhill from being friends with benefits to now not even barely talking. friends with benefits is the worst thing to get involed with.
- shaunna

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:28:02 PM
I have been in a "friends with benefits" relationship before, and it wasn't that great at all. Three years ago, I met this guy, and at first we hated each other (for no reason in particular), then we were friends, then we went to make-out buddies. We hooked up nearly everyday, and at the time I liked it. But then rumors started going around, and the worst was that I was pregnant. To make matters worst, it eventually got to the school counsilor. At that moment, I realized that all of the...drama wasn't worth it. Why be friends with benifits when you could just be friends? So I talked to him and told him that I didn't want to do it anymore, and it turned out that he didn't either. Now we are "friends withOUT benefits".
- Yasmeen

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:23:51 PM
I'm 19 years old. When I was 9 I told my parents that my grandfather was molesting me. He had started molesting me long before that, but my psychology professor says I might have blocked most of it out. To this day, no one but my parents knows. It kills me a little inside when I think, everyday that he was never brought to justice. Also, I found out my father went fishing with him about two years ago; I can't even think about him without wanting to murder him for betraying my trust the way he did. He will not admit this betrayal to me either. I had problems before, but since my father added to the problem; I've noticed I've become very distant to everyone. No one knows who I really am. I hide the real me, and because of it I can never be myself. They say if you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else, or let them love you. I have never had a boyfriend or a relationship because of my trust issues and I have no idea what to do. I can't seem to let go of these issues. I need help, but I don't know where to go.
- Morgane

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 10:13:02 PM
I've had a couple 'friends with benefits' situations and it all depends on the relationship with your friend in my opinion. My first one was a mistake because the guy only wanted me for sex, not even a friendship, he only acted like a friend when he wanted something. The most recent turned out ok. We had sex about 4 times so far and we still are friends that laugh and hang out with everyone else.
- Nas

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 9:38:23 PM
Yeah friends with benefits wasn't a good thing for me. i ened up gettin hurt because the guy did have a g-f. but i liked him and he did like me back but the only thing in the way was his g-f. i mean i didn't wanna be with him as bad as everyone said i did. i ended up gettin embarassed and everything. then he came around to my house one day and told me that he had broken up w/ his g-f for me. and we went out but it was too weird for him i guess. then he went out with his g-f again and said he should hae never been with me and it hurt.
- dana j.

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 9:25:18 PM
I had a 'friend with benefits' moment before. Basically we've been good friends for awhile. We hung out for years. We were just hanging out one night and things got heated. Basically we ended up having sex for about 3 seconds until I realized what I was doing. I regret every single second of it, and now I lost a friend because I can't even look or talk to him. Its not a good idea, because sometimes it will turn into something more than you thought it would.
- Justine

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 9:10:24 PM
i have had a hook-up.i didnt mean for it to happen the way it did..it just sorta happened.and he goes to my school and lives near my best friend and i have to see him alot and it sorta seems he wants to actually betogether but the whole thing is all confusing.we have liked each other for a while..its just he wants more than what i can actually give him..it hurts alot when i seem him with other girls it takes alot to keep myself sain..and i dont evan wanna tell my best friend about it cause she likes him.well yeah im just warning people who cant handel alot of guilt dont be a hook-up or a 1 night stand.
- Sarah

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 9:05:39 PM
friend with benefits hmmmmmmm... ok it was my sixth grade year and i was dateing the one hot girl not saying any names her mom had just broken us up we were both bumbed... the next day she cam over to my house and we hung out in the back yard in this little hut my dad had made for my little twin brothers we sat in this hut for a while just talking she told me that she had got a new boyfriend and i was all like ok but i just want you to know that thres still a place for you always in my heart. sshe said ok there was a long slincles and we began to kiss she had this bright idea to be friends with benefits... i was yeah ok i do regreat saying ok because her newboyfriend found out after like a week or two
- Ryan

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 8:54:22 PM
I have had friends with benefits. It's not a good idea. I began to get attached and have feelings for him. and he didnt feel the same. And it broke my heart when we grew apart. and I suggest not to do it unless you deff. know you wont get any feeling other then "friend with benefits". It also is a sad excuse when a guy doesnt want to go out with a girl , but still wants to get some from her. that is what happend to me. and i am emotianally unstable without him. :/
- Lauren.

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 8:29:58 PM
Personaily I belive we should have a Relationship with god before anyone else cause we love because we were 1st loved. Then if we have faith in him. we will find the one in time but we have to go through a few wrong one to truthy apprecate the right one. If you grew up in a home like mine then you never want to be like your father/mother and from day one you want to be the strong one and not get to close or open up to fast to someoneit can take years to get trust from someone like me but when you do..it shows people care cause we build up walls to see who cares enough to tear them down, love ya Dm! thanks for all the help you give to anyone and everyone!
- Jessica

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 8:29:09 PM
i have never had a friend with benefits that i know of, but my boyfriend of a year and a half has had plenty. from the things he tells me about them it seems that its better to have a friend with benefits then an actual girlfrien/boyfriend. the reason is because when someone is in a relationship they have to worry about the arguments and the "why were you walking with that person" type of thing. on the other hand, being in a friend with benefits relationship all you do is have them with you for a while and not have to worry about having any commitments with her or worry about what they do or them worry what you do. i guess thats why people prefer to have friends with benefits. i think it also has its cons as it has its pros. the cons would be having problems in your future "real" relationships. when you want to settle down and have a true relationship maybe it would be hard because of the fact that your not ready to be stuck to only ONE person. just like me and my boyfriend sometimes we have our arguments because of his old friends with benefits, not because he wants to get with them but because they want to continue doing their old things with him. its something hard to go through but if you decide to do it just remember that there is certain consequences to those actions!
- jenny

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 7:23:26 PM
I have had a friend with benefits. It wasnt such a good idea. it seemed like it at the time but he was my best friend and i love him because of it. I mean we are still friends but nothing like we used to. At the time he had a girlfriend that he had been dating for over a year and a half and we did things sometimes and he made me feel so special. I loved it. But then at the same time i felt bad. But one day our friendship went down the drain. It took me forever to gain his trust back for something i didnt even do. He was the one leading me on this whole time. So i guess you could say that for me it wasnt such a good idea.
- Heather

Sunday, Nov 11, 2007 - 12:06:11 AM
Yeah, so I've had a "hook-up" and friends with benefits. It's terrible. Over and over again my heart was broken until I reached a point where I couldn't even feel. I was so hard and so broken and so angry. I never found the love and acceptance that I wanted. The feeling afterwards was the worst feeling in the world. I felt dirty. I felt used and I always felt rejected. There was so much pressure to be "good" at sex so that the guy would want to again. I hated it.
- Sarah

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 4:46:34 PM
While I personally have not had a one-night-stand or a freind with benefits, one of my friends has had a friend with benefits, and it all ended badly. It ended up being "beneficial" to only him (meaning he sexually abused her). I think either situation (friends with benefits or one-night-stands) are bad things because it allows the responsibility to be sort of pushed aside. It's giving away our most precious posession without any meaning (like love) and it is disgusting. It's no wonder why we have so many fatherless children and pregnant teens today. It's not taken as seriously as it was before.
- Jessica

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 4:45:11 PM
WHen you don't trust males, any for that matter it's easy. Sure I've regretted most of them, but they're the only option for me. I'm not like most girls who want a man to hold me. When guys come and hold me I flimch, when guys get excited I hide, it's just how I've been my whole life.
- Ame

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 4:44:30 PM
I think that friend's with benefits is kind of over the hill a little because God says to gaurd our hearts and how can we gaurd our heart when every other day we have someone that we take it to far with and dont even realize it untill too late and then regret it and have our hearts broken in the end which would mean you are not gaurding your heart when your heart keeps getting broken over and over again.I know fropm personal experience with friends with benefits that I regreted all of it after I did it I had my heart broken because i did something with someone I didnt really like or love and just would move onto the next one on his list and it broke my heart that I knew I could never have a true relationship with him and I just used him for my own entertainment which I finally had realized hurt God because i was not gaurding my heart and was thinking about the fun not about what would come out of it and how it hurt God too.
- Kaitlyn

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 12:34:02 PM
I've had a friend with benefits before, it wasn't that bad of a thing to do, but i didn't really like the guy. And he had other friends with benefits, so I was confused on what to do. I just told him that we didn't have to have benefits, and we are still friends to this day. It's a little awkward, but at least it didn't get too serious with benefits. I think if you really want the benefits, you can just go out, that way you have more commitment and trust an all that.
- Faydra Anastasia

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 10:02:43 AM
I think that it's totally wrong. you could easily lose a good friend. don't do it. you'll regret it for the rest of your days.
- Renee

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 10:02:31 AM
i am curently in a friends with benefits thing with my ex boyfriend...we just broke up yesterday (not even kidding you it was just yesterday)and he was saying that he didnt want to be "tied down" because hes in treatment for drugs and wants to focus on that ....so what im wondering is if being friends with benefits with my ex makes me a slut?
- Nicole R

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 10:02:12 AM
I can't wait until your next blog.. it looks like it'll be interesting and it might help me some Love what you're doing dawson!
- Me

Saturday, Nov 10, 2007 - 10:01:58 AM
I think it's a negative thing, In the end someone get hurts, perhaps after a while the girl wants more then just friends with benefits, I had one once and it didn't work out quite the way either of us wanted it, We both got hurt..It's best to have a relationship, most of the time the male doesn't want a limit of girls he can be with at once, then again..some people just don't want a relationship and want to just feel loved by someone, but the best way to be loved is starting out in a relationship and take it from there, nothing to fast, I think friends with benefits is not a good thing for people who have been hurt in the past. But thats my take on friends with benefits. I enjoy your show Dawson, it helps kids with everyday problems and big problems they've had for a long period of time that they only want to talk to someone they can trust with, I've never called it..but i've wanted too..Perhaps I will Sunday. Kent
- Kent

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:27:04 PM
WHAT DO U THINK ABOUT BEST FRIENDS HOOKIN UP??
- CICY M.

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:26:48 PM
Well I had this one boyfriend about a year ago...he was a forgein-exchange student living with my neighbors...and he was 2 years older than me and all he wanted was to hook up with me. At one point he said "fine then, I'll just call someone else who will". I dumped his but right then and there. And just yesterday actually, (not even liying here) I had a senior ask me to be friends with benefits with him, and I was like "no!!! I have a boyfriend for one thing, and for two, that's just really slutly." I do think that Benna friends are slutly and gross...if you don't even care about the other person, why would you do those things with them? After everyting happened with that other BF, I felt all wrong inside and empty- liek nothing else even mattered anymore. I have a new boyfriend, and we haven't had sex yet and we've been dating for almost a year! I"m so glad I didn't give up my virginity on someone who was going to leave the country in a couple of months who didn't even know my last name!
- Abby

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:24:40 PM
Hmm interesting blog how do you know your a love addict because sometimes i feel like i am! i mean i cant live without my boyfriend!is that love addiction? Love your show keep up the good work!
- Sarah Mc.

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:23:54 PM
i think this is your best blog so far keep it up! i listen to your show every sunday night and it REALLY helps
- Micah

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:23:37 PM
I've never had a one night stand. But I have had a friend with benefits. It certainly didnt work. I'm still a virgin, but we did do other things. I really cared about this guy, and he just wanted me to give him anything he asked for. When I told him "no" to sex, he told me to leave him alone, and he wouldnt speak to me. I was hurt, really, really, hurt. I later found out that while he was asking me for sex, he was sleeping with another girl from my school. Friends with benefits just DOESNT work. No matter what people say, Eventually somebodies gonna get hurt. -Emily
- Emily

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:22:42 PM
I actually have had friends with benefits. I was in active addiction (using drugs) for a while, and when I was out there, I would hook up with guys, and end up just being friends with benefits, but apparently I missed the benefits part. It was fun while it lasted, but in the end someone just ended up hurt. It's so hard to have sex, with no feelings or emotions attached, and every time you do you end up just that much closer to being drained out emotionally, physically and spiritually. I no longer choose to hook up, or even be in relationships where sex is a factor, because I now value myself, and in so I respect my body. As you just finished an addiction series, I have been clean now for 14 months. God can fill the void, and He's the only one who can.
- kimberly

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:03:12 PM
I am currently in a friends with benefits "thing" but it's more like we're casual sex partners. I wasn't sure it was possible, and I tend to get really attached, but managed to stay distant. We're just really good friends and we've both mutually agreed that we don't want relationships, so we just do the sexual part. It's nice...and I don't have to worry about a boyfriend. I think it's a sign of maturity if you can be in a friends with benefits "thing" and not get attached. I'm pretty good at it.
- Christina

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:02:35 PM
I think a lot of people have Friends with benefits instead of relationships because they don't want to get close to anyone for fear of getting hurt....But when you do something sexual with someone you don't truely care about in the end it just leaves you feeling empty And I think it also lowers your self-respect and you dont feel like you are worth anymore than that. And then when you are with someone you really do care about it isnt special. And in most cases with FWB someone still ends up getting hurt. Maybe some girls feel like they have to be like that to even get a guy..I've always heard that Girls give sex for love & guys give love for sex.
- Jennifer

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 10:01:35 PM
I think that if you are sick enough to have a friend that you put into the category of a friend with benefits, then you need some help. wouldnt it be easier and less akward if you were dating the person?
- brittany

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 9:59:53 PM
frends wit benefits i think is a horrible idea(if its tlkin bout wat im tlkin bout) becauz its only a one tyme thing or it can be. but then after its all over u still feel the same way u did before and thats empty.soo i realli dont see the point its 2 ppl who feel empty inside and then try to satisfy each other which may help for a little while but then u got rite bac to feeling the way u did. it like that saying "misery loves company" but then wat happens when miserys' company leaves?? misery goes to find sumbody else so wats the point. unless misery goes to find sum better company or tries to better its self then it will end up being pointless and a whole waste of time and life. so yea thats my input.
- ~riah~

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 9:55:09 PM
personally, im going to wait to date, kiss, and anything else until im married. but thats just me.
- Keisha

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 3:58:04 PM
I don't believe benna friends are okay, because someone always ends up hurt. You don't go and kiss, and hug and do sexual things with someone you don't care about in that way. Most people i find who are benna friends really do like eachother. I also find that some people are dating somebody and then they are benna friends with somebody else, and do not consider it cheating. I find this ridiculous. Why go and hurt somebodys feelings? There is no reason to be benna friends with somebody. I have never myself been benna friends with somebody, but many of my friends have and it never ends up well.
- Amanda

Friday, Nov 9, 2007 - 3:57:11 PM
Hi Dawson, I think you have the right message. Keep it up. I love your show. It helps me to pray for the youth of America and try and befriend people. Thanks for your inspiration! I am trying to practice what you preach. Again, I Love your show and you. Write back and tell me how I should pray for you. Thanks, Love, Meredith
- Meredith