I’m in the middle of blogging about abuse. I’ve decided to tackle one of the most difficult kinds of abuse there is: sexual. While any kind of abuse is damaging and wicked, sexual abuse is exceptionally destructive because of the twisted mixture of its physical, emotional, and spiritual elements. Most people refuse to talk about it, but all that does is leave millions of people stuck in their pain, shame, and despair. I don’t want you there. I want you to be a whole person. Healed and recovered from whatever negative things have happened in your life. So let’s together tackle this issue.
What is Sexual Abuse?
Any type of sexual contact between an adult and anyone younger than 18, or between a significantly older child and a younger child is considered sexual abuse. This includes penetration or external touching of intimate parts, oral sex, indecent exposure or any other sexual act performed in your presence for other’s sexual gratification. It can also include the showing of pornography to someone younger than 18.
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No matter what has happened to you, there is always hope for your future! | A key characteristic of any abuse is the dominant position of an adult that allows him or her to force or coerce a child into sexual activity, even if no bodily contact is ever made.
Sexual abuse (whether a single incident or many acts over a long period of time) can include these activities done with or in front of someone under 18, such as:
- Sexual Penetration (Vaginal or Anal)
- Fondling or Inappropriate Touching
- Oral Sex
- Exhibitionism (Exposing one’s private parts to a child)
- Masturbation (Acting out in front of a child or teaching a child how to do it)
- Prostitution (Forcing child to have sex with others for money)
- Showing or Using the Child to Create Pornography
- Obscene Phone Calls
- Any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a child's mental, emotional, or physical welfare.
Abuse Is Everywhere
Statistically, it’s not just girls who are being sexually abused – it also happens to guys. Some experts say one out of every three girls and one of out every six guys will in one way or another be sexually abused by the time they are 18. In fact, child sexual abuse is reported approximately 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the victims are usually afraid to tell anyone what has happened to them.
And sexual abuse isn’t just committed by men. Some women also abuse. And it’s not typically a stranger, or an enemy. Most times, the person who abuses is someone who is very close to the victim, a close family member or relative, or some trusted authority figure. It is also normal for the victim to feel loved by, and even love for, their perpetrator. The victim often has a strong desire to protect their abuser from being found out. Still, regardless of who the abuser is, the effects of sexual abuse can be life-long. And sadly, either you have been or you know someone who has been violated in this horrific way.
Sexual Abuse Is Not Your Fault!
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Most times, the person who abuses is someone who is very close to the victim, a close family member or relative, or some trusted authority figure. | Just about every sexually abused victim blame themselves for what happened. This is a natural, but HUGE mistake. There is absolutely no one who deserves to be sexually abused. When you were abused, the person abusing you had almost all the power; physically and emotionally. There was never a level playing field. You were up against a violator and could not defend yourself, or stop the madness. So remember this simple truth: Sexual abuse is not your fault! It’s amazing how victims blame themselves – just about every victim does.
Sarah summed it up well: “I just don’t understand why so many people get abused. I don’t get why people are so mean to other people. I guess you can say I live in an ‘abusive’ house, and yeah it is really hard -- you just think everything is your fault, you’re the reason everything is bad, and even after that you still think like that, even when you know its not true.”
Katie commented: “I did not know sexual abuse includes being shown porn. When I was really young my mom and dad used to show me porn. I didn’t want to watch it, but they told me to.”
Jenna says she knows what it is like to be abused. “My sister and I were both abused when we were young -- by a family friend's son. It is very hard to trust anyone again after you are abused.”
You need to know sexual abuse is never your fault and is never okay. You should never be made to keep secrets that make you uncomfortable. Please find someone who you trust to talk to about what’s going on in your life. It may be a pastor, school counselor, therapist or a doctor. But you must find someplace to get help as soon as you possibly can.
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You need to know sexual abuse is never your fault and is never okay. | Emily says she has lived in a sexually abusive family situation her entire life. “My dad started sexually abusing me at six years old, and it went on until I was 11. I used to pretend that it didn’t happen, but it did, and there isn’t anything I can do about it. My only advice is try to get out. My life got so much easier when I moved to college. It’s a safe haven you need. You need safety, and friends you can trust. And you have to rely on God, all the time, or you'll NEVER make it through.”
Brandi describes her sexually abusive home life: “When my parents learned my oldest brother was molesting me, they did nothing but pat him on the back and slap me in the face. It went on for years. My life growing up wasn't easy but I clung to God. If you're in an abusive home, don't give up! Find a trusted friend to talk to and as hard as it may be, stay close to Jesus, He will NEVER leave or forsake you. Tests and trials only make you stronger.”
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You should never be made to keep secrets that make you uncomfortable. |
I know you hear me say this a lot, but it’s true: Nothing stomps out the effects of sexual abuse than openly talking about it. In talking about it you bring the hurt and confusion into the light where the pain can be washed away. If you have been, or are being abused, and never told anyone, the first, most important thing you can do is tell someone else. The more you tell your story the better.
You can always call my Hope Line: 1-800-394-HOPE (4673). If you are in immediate danger, contact the police (911) as soon as possible. You can also call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).
I would not bring up this subject if I did not believe there is tremendous hope for you. But you must take the lead. You may have heard me say, many times before, it is not your fault you were violated, but it is your responsibility to become whole. Start the process of healing today. Take that step and tell someone you trust all about it. By doing this you have made your first step on a journey to healing. I am so proud of you.
I’m going to continue next week with the topic of Verbal/Emotional Abuse. Please tell me your stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you.
Friday, Nov 21, 2008 - 1:44:45 AM
im 14 and i was 13 when i was raped. it was one of my best guy friends. i totally didnt see it coming. now im stuck and dont know what to do because we go to school and are involved in the same stuff im not really sure what to do. its hard for me to have relationships now because my father aused me also. when i was raped i was pregnant and miscarried. entering high school and losing a baby isnt exactly easy. it wasnt too long ago either.
- Brittany
Friday, Nov 21, 2008 - 12:39:22 AM
Abuse is everywhere. there is little we can do to stop it. The piggish guys that think their girlfriends or daughters are only good for sex. My advice to those who are abused is simple. GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!
- charlie
Thursday, Nov 20, 2008 - 10:24:23 PM
It breaks my heart that some children are too afraid to talk about what has happened to them. I want so much more for these kids than they're getting. It's not a pity story, it's a cry out for help and sometimes I wish people would realize that. I was about 4 or 5 the first time I was sexually abused. It was one of my mom's friend's sons. I hardly remember what happened, and I'm thankful for that. Then, when I was 11, my brother put his hands where no brothers hands should go. After a few attempts to have anal sex, and me saying no every time, I finally told him to stay away from me until our mom got back. We were camping, and I wanted to go swimming with my big brother, little did i know that a bikini would be too provocative for me to where in front of him. My father also sexually abused me, but not in a way that most would call sexual abuse. He would watch me bathe...or make me give him a bath and if I didn't then I didn't 'love him'. My mother thought she failed. She wanted so badly to protect me. She is a wonderful mother, I love her so much and I would never ask for anyone else to have raised me like she did. She blamed herself because she was looking in the wrong direction the whole time...she never would have thought that my big brother would do such a thing, or my dad. When I was 14, I lost my virginity at a party...my first party, first time I ever had alcohol. After that, which was alot of regret, I became interested in sex because I figured since I can't get my virginiy back, then what's the big deal if I do it? Well, it is a big deal. After that, I lied to my mom just so I could go to a party. I knew she wouldn't let me go if she knew what I was actually doing, so I told her I'd be with a friend...which was true. I barely knew this girl, but she had somehow heard that I was wild and fun and I wanted to prove it. She left me at the party that night, very very drunk. It was only my second time ever drinking and I managed to down about 5 beers and maybe a glass or 2 of vodka. It may not seem like much but to my body, it was. So, drunk and without a friend to keep an eye on me, I asked if someone would please show me where the bed was, I was tired and there weren't any girls there. Lots of boys offered of course, but I went with the one I trusted the most...ha. After what seemed like hours of talking, I thanked him for showing me where the room was and said goodbye, but he wouldn't leave. He was sober, I was drunk. He was 24, I was 14. That right there should never happen. He lied down beside me and told me to take off my clothes. I said, "what if I don't wanna take off my clothes?" and he said "I'm not asking you to, I'm telling you." Though, he didn't physically force me, I still felt like I had been taken advantage of. I did as I was told. He started putting his hands all over me and then he got on top of me. Previously before, I had initiated that I would have sex. I made lots of sexual comments, though most I don't remember. I kept telling him it was okay and that I wanted to. But, just as he started to go in, I changed my mind. I wasn't sure if it was too late to say anything...but I did try anyway. He wouldn't stop. You know what happened from there. After that, I think I passed out in the bathroom. I was laft there all day the next day, with only guys, who kept getting on top of me and putting there p**** in my face every time I fell alseep. After those incidents in my life where I said no but no one listened, I began to believe that I didn't have a choice....that it's up to the man to decide whether or not we're going to have sex. Something similar to that happened when I was 15 and I snuck out to see my 'boyfriend', which I had only been dating a few days. Now, I'm learning that saying no does count, and it is important. Not everyone has the courage, I usually don't. But, after realizing that I want to live for God and I'm going to have to be honest with my future husband and tell him that I've had sex with many guys, I've decided to respect myself. I am a Christian and my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. It was given to me and I bought at a price, therefore I should honor God with my body. I'm still 15, and it's only been a couple of months since my last sexual encounter, but at least I can be pleased with the fact that even though I let my past put a few tears in me, its didn't tear me up because I'm going to be stronger than that. I have power in Christ who strengthens me. Dawson, I really admire that you did a blog on sexual abuse and I hope and pray it reaches many teens and children who are too afraid to talk about it. I want them all to know that nothing and no one is stronger than God, and He promises to get you through it if you trust in Him.
- mackenzie
Thursday, Nov 20, 2008 - 8:02:51 PM
It all seems like a bad dream. I wish I could act like it never happened, but I have to come to terms with the fact that it did. I relive it unconciously everytime someone catches me offguard, touches me without me realizing it, or breathes in my ear. Talking about it arouses flashbacks of what happened. I sometimes shake when I'm with my friends. He goes to my school, and I've run into him a few times since. He acts as if he is perfectly fine, like he never did anything wrong. I am choosing to prosecute against him not for revenge of anything, but for the sole purpose that he won't hurt anyone else. I just want this all to go away..
- Isabel
Thursday, Nov 20, 2008 - 2:19:11 AM
First, let me start by saying Dawson McAllister I'm so happy you chose to blog about such a strong topic. Many young women out there have dealt with this kind of behavior. I for one am one of them. At age 13, me and my best friend were having a little get together over at her house. It was her, her mom, her dad, and me. As night approached, Lindsey and I were bored and decided to call our friend Anthony.
While on the phone with Anthony, Lindsey asked me if i wanted him to come sneak in and spend the night, and I said sure. So, he came over.
When he got there it was fine, he was flirting with Lindsey and I was fine with it, being I was still into my ex boyfriend who broke up with me about a week before this. Later into the night, however, he started flirting with me, and eventually it led up to something much much more.
We were all sitting on the bed and Lindsey was on the phone with her ex boyfriend Aaron, who she still liked, and had just talked into getting together with another girl. So, that, in turn, made Lindsey sad and she went to sit in the living room right outside where Anthony and I were left alone.
Aaron had gotten off the phone so Anthony seized the moment and started to cuddle with me. He knew I was still into my ex so he did it as a comfort thing, and i started to cuddle back a little. I guess he took that as "oh she's into me, time to make my move." and he laid me down next to him and started kissing me. Of course, I wasn't kissing back because I didn't have those feelings towards him. A few moments later he started rubbing my thigh up to the bottom of my butt, and I told him to stop but he just laughed. Then, he started rubbing my back lifting my shirt off my back so he could reach my bra strap. He continued to do so until my shirt was up high enough so he tried to undo my bra, but didn't succeed. Just then, Aaron called back and Anthony wasn't happy as he mutter to himself, "he just had to come back now didn't he," and leaned over to answer the phone.
Now even though he didn't succeed in this attempt, I still don't go around town by myself even though I know he's in a foster home because of this. However, I passed him today going to the bus after school, which means he's back in town.
I later found out that he was actually gonna get paid to date me, and then have sex with me the next day and then leave me, but of course after that night i rejected the phone calls and never went anywhere alone, and i still don't.
The worst part of this all was I was only 13. I'm almost 14 now, and I don't know if another encounter with him with ever happen again or if he's finally left me alone, for good.
- CameoRose18
Thursday, Nov 20, 2008 - 12:26:55 AM
I have had to deal with emotional abuse for several years, and it has only recently started to subside somewhat.
Firstly, I have to say that after all these years, I have only just begun to realize that it was something that was wrong, and no matter how much I rationalized, was NOT my fault.
My parents acted very loving and caring most of the time, but other times when I did something wrong, or not to their standards, or something that did not agree with what they wanted, they would curse at me and say horrible things about me, calling me an ungrateful b---- and things like garbage and worthless scum.
These two contrasting behaviours have created this sort of internal conflict in me, and now I dont' even like them touching me, and I don't feel comfortable around them, which is a horrible thing, and I really wish it werent' that way.
The things they said made me feel worthless and unimportant, and as a lasting result which I have to fight with continuously is that I always doubt whether my presence is really wanted by other people, if I'm annoying them, and whether or not I'm scaring them away by wanting to have a human-human relationship with them.
Emotional harm is horrible and perhaps one of the types that leaves the most profound marks on the mind of a human being, and after going through this, I have vowed to NEVER EVER do anything like this to my children. I have chosen to break the cycle.
- Jane
Wednesday, Nov 19, 2008 - 2:06:40 AM
hey and to johnathan's comment down there.....my church was the same way. not all churches have good christians in them. church abuse sounds hoorible but it is SO real. some churches are pretty much social building networks and lost site of why they shud be there. dont matter, youth group kids r immature and think they r so all that, stay strong and know ur better than they are how u gonna kill urself over THEIR immaturity? STAY STRONG MAN U ROCK AND GOOD JOB NOT GIVING UP ON GOD AND KEEPING RU LIFE. and glad u found a church where ppl love you...
- emily
Wednesday, Nov 19, 2008 - 1:05:13 AM
for a long time i thought my boyfriend/neighbor actually cared about me. i am 17 and he was 26 and we wud see each other and he told me how attracted he found me and was always flattering me and buying me things and talk to me at 4 am when i cudnt sleep and he wud always touch me he always wanted to go farther and farther with me and i wud always get really excited like oh he must really like me but everyone was telling me he didnt care about me he was a petophile. i always pretty much knew it was my fault cuz i wud lead him on i in a way wanted it from him and he wanted to see me naked and wud always pressure me (i never did take off everything for him) and he put me to sleep one night and i woke up and his hands were down my shirt all over my b**bs......i didnt see how wrong it was cuz he always said he loved me. but my friends all cud. he wanted to keep me hiding it cuz he didnt wana get in trouble, he knew it was wrong, but i just thought he loved me. now he wont speak to me, call me, or message me or anything, i was completely used and he wants nothing to do with me all the sudden. my friends were all right, he was using me and didnt give one crap about me, he just thot it was cool he cud get that from a 17 yr old. it really makes me miserable.idk anymore. ive never had a decent relationship with a guy.im so frustrated!!
- emily
Wednesday, Nov 19, 2008 - 12:37:04 AM
At the age of 15 is when memories would hit me of my father molesting me at the age of four. I don't remember a lot of things that he did but I remember some. As I got older I realized what he had done was wrong. And that I felt like I was nothing and that I could never be anything. But i have this friend Kelsea that made me realize that I am somebody and that I can do what ever I set my mind to. I don't live with him anymore. I am 18 now and I am as happy as any person could be. I'm not going to let myself think that he took a part of my life away because he didn't. I am now engaged to this wonderful man that loves me, and that i will love day in and day out for the rest of my life.
- janessa
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2008 - 11:22:07 PM
hey...i have questions for you about pornography, if someone could respond great??how would i contact you if i cant over the phone
- kevin
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2008 - 9:01:13 PM
Dawson your willingness to help is amazing!!! I think all of us need to spend some time in pray for all the young people who have been or are currently being abused. CJ your story brings tears to my eyes. I pray that GOD will help you get the help you need and may he send some blessings your way for everything that you have been thru!!!! PLEASE OPEN UP AND TALK TO SOMEONE SO YOU CAN GET HELP AND BE ABLE TO GET SOME FRIENDS THAT WILL CARE ABOUT YOU AND HELP YOU!!!!!! I WILL KEEP AND AND ALL WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED IN MY PRAYERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO YOU CAN TALK TO ME.
- Jeremy
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2008 - 8:59:12 PM
wow thats shocking
- kelsea
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2008 - 1:26:50 AM
I was never verbally or emotionally abused by my family, but for many years I was by kids my age at my church. It went on for so long that I don't even remember when or even why it actually began. I was always the outcast in my youth group and the girls I knew would always say mean and degrading things about me whenever they could get away with it. Sometimes the boys joined in, and sometimes they were indifferent. I never understood why they hated me so much. Eventually they began to stop and instead just ignored me altogether. I'm naturally a rather sensitive guy, and so all of this was devastating to me. My self-esteem was completely destroyed and I've never been able to rebuild it. I tried to commit suicide several times, but I was young at the time and my body always fought back. My family and I eventually moved from the area and I found a church where my peers love me, but the scars remain and I doubt they will ever go away.
- Jonathan
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2008 - 12:45:34 AM
The damage to one's self-esteem due to verbal abuse, even if the one inflicting is close to you, can have lasting effects on a person. I can still remember my days in middle school when my best friend and I were constantly called names like "dork" "nerd" almost the whole book. By the grace of God we had each other to keep each other strong with positivity and confidence through our words. We both understood each other because we had a pretty troubled past. However, prayer and positive guidance is necessary, for some are impressionable and will try anything to "fit in" and this could lead to other things such as smoking, drinking, illegal sexual activities, etc, all because of a few negative words. I believe this much because I wasn't at one point that positive guide, I lost my best friend to a negative society, and that regret is something that no one wants to deal with. All of this started because of her judgemental, verbally abusive father forcing her to move away from the great friends she had and filled her head with his ways, and she soon became like him. To this day, I regret my hesitation, and I hope no one has to go through losing their loved one in this way. Words are sharper than a sword and more impactful than an earthquake, and have made or broken history. Use them how you choose, but remember their power.
- Daquan Emmanuel J.
Monday, Nov 17, 2008 - 8:14:51 PM
Hey Dawson, I hear your late night show when my husband works nights, you have a very soothing voice that calms my fears of being alone. When i was 6 yrs old my grandfather started touching me sexually eventually it progressed to oral sex to me, watching porn, diffrent sexual acts. by the time i was 10 he was having sex with me. I eventually got the courage to tell him to stop. my fear was always if he did it to me maybe he wouldn't do it to my sister. but i was wrong although he never went as far as to sleeping with my sister he did touch her as well as my 2 cousins. unfortuantly my sister suffers from bipolar because of it . one of my guy friend who i had confided in had told my family about what happen, i was the one who paid for it, my dad refused to talk to me unless i told the family it was a lie that i made it up for attention, but it wasnt the truth, i went into the military to run away from everything, i lived my life destuctively from drinking binges to having multiple one night stands. it took one special man my husband to get me on the right path. unfortuantly now i have trouble having sex with my husband because i feel soo dirty. but i know little by little it'll get better. thanks for helping
- Keira Lee
Monday, Nov 17, 2008 - 7:23:30 PM
I found this blog very helpful... I was raped two years ago, and I've always felt alone, and guilty... I really hope you keep blogging about this stuff, to help people out there like me.....
Thank You Dawson,
Renee
- Chelsea
Monday, Nov 17, 2008 - 1:08:29 AM
Dawson & Friends,
i have been sexualy abused by my cousin... it has destroyed my life. I have lost friends, lost my awesome grades... and lost my abilty to trust ANYONE! i was minupulated and lied to... but i excaped before he stuck his p***s into me, i was a victem to oral and he played with my p***s forcefully... in middle of a christmas night. I have trusted to Jesus and he has helped me. Because of this experience, i looked at homosexual pornogoraphy... by best friends found out... and labled me homosexual. but that night i found out i was the straitest man in the world! i have not been able to keep ANY relationship, sleep on my stoumach, sleep in the dark, sleep at all during christmas break, trust, go into the men's shower room after gym without being scared... i have no clue in what to do! i always thought... why me? i tell myself that "CJ, you are a survivor, nobody can take that away from you" i dont have a clue why that helps me... fate has it that i am that one out of six men who are sexualy abused... listening to your show and reading this blog has helped me tremendously!
your friend,
-CJ-
GOD BLESS
- CJ B.
Monday, Nov 17, 2008 - 12:40:22 AM
When I was raped, I remember feeling tormented inside trying to figure why these things happen to the point I tried to hang myself on the rope swing that my friends and I use to swing on. Unsuccessful, it became easier to move on by concentrating on keeping my breathing, heart, steps and movements in a rhythm as I walked on the sidewalk when I was by myself until I met up with my friends or family and start our time with where we left off. As the years went by I was able to put the abuse in the back of my mind even though I would still live it almost every night with twisted dreams of kids being hurt or killed. Other than that I felt pretty good. However, we are all told to get help, proper help. When I began trying to make friends in my mid 20s all the confusion related to the abuse became the forefront of my thoughts. Old feelings resurfaced and I was conflicted on trusting my friends, or try to resolve it myself. I mean I did it once I should be able to do it again. A year of this emotional roller coaster of feeling great one second and being ready to take my life the next went by before I decided to get professional help. It's been almost four years since I reached out and I'm still going through counseling, but I can say it is getting easier. I do a lot of reflecting. I hope that I can get back to the way things were. Where there were so many people living under one roof and so much going on, but yet through all the chaos we all honestly knew that we were all happy with being with each other! It's not like that now, but I keep the memories of those moments and attach it to new experiences of today and tomorrow. Some of the things that help me a lot are quotes and phrases that I hear or read, lyrics of music that I listen too, the counseling I get, and the thought that I walk among other survivors everyday even though I don't know one personally gives me hope. I know things will be fine and I keep telling that to myself like being my own counselor, and that someday I will have friends that I can call family.
- Jeff
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 11:32:25 PM
I was abused like in 8th grade and this year i am a freshman, its effected me to where i trust almost no guy. Even my Best friends.
The guy was like one of my friends from around 2nd or 1st grade and i just couldn't believe it.
It wasn't rape even though he hinted on it but, but rather harassed and touched me very inappropriately almost every day for about a year in school
now i am in a private school almost so any contact with boys is forbidden.
He said he loved me and he just couldn't help himself to me. (which was disgusting) He also Asked if i would go out with him but i said no and almost immediately after he asked if he could kiss me
I finally told on him. I had my friends with me and i was crying.
I still feel almost like it was my fault and i still don't fully trust any guys
i wouldn't say im hot but everyone says im one of the prettiest girls in our class maybe the prettiest. but ive known him for so long
?How could he do this?
- Brittany
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 10:57:50 PM
I have been abused all ways!! I have to say seual abuse was the worst! I have been sexualy abused by 3 differnt people (2 men and a girl) For a long time i felt it was my fault because i never said NO! I was to scared to say no! I was 6 the first time 8 the seconed and the 3rd time was my dad non stop for 2 years from 10 till 12!! I am 18 now and have never gotten help but the boy i am dating now talked to me about it and for the first time i felt alive! Its sad but talking to someone helped me and it was the best thing to ever happen to me! For all that haven been sexualy abused find someone to talk to it helps though it dont take all the pain away it sure helps a lot!!
- Samatha
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 9:31:46 PM
i no how u people feel i was being sexually and physical abused by my boyfriend i was so scared to tell people about it bcuz he said if i told any1 he would hurt me more and every day he would abuse be but i got strong enough to tell some1 i trusted tht he was doing tht to meh and he got taken to jail bcuz he wouldnt stop wht he was doing and from this day on im scared to be wid any other guy
- sara
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 9:05:22 PM
I love your blogs! bless you for all that you do and you help a lot of peole thanbk you thank you! They tuely are what your wanting to know and be said to you when your having this problem.
- Rebecca p.
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 6:33:14 PM
i understand how people feel when they get sexually abused. I was there i know how people feel when they get abused. I was abused buy my uncle and still havent been able to get over it but with people there too get me through it it was pretty good to let my feeling out.
- heather
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 11:58:56 AM
I was sexually abused by a family member as a child. I kept silent until I couldn't bear the pain on my own anymore. After years of silence, I finally got the help I needed by talking with a great Christian friend who had been there. I finally started healing and forgave my abuser for all the hurt he had caused not only me but the family. It was a long hard journey but the Lord has changed my heart and healed the hurt. Just remember that it isn't your fault that you were abused and there is no shame in speaking out. There is healing for the pain. God will never leave you. He loves you and wants to take your hurt. Just surrender it to Him.
- Jen
Sunday, Nov 16, 2008 - 12:38:22 AM
SEXUAL ABUSE IS SICK!!!!!!! That boy Payton needs to speak up and someone needs to help him. That step-dad needs to be put in jail for life so that Payton and his family can start to get help that they need. It makes me cry just hearing his story and not wanting to do anything because his mom is happy with that sick guy. I pray every night for all young people but in this case Payton needs a phisical intervention to get some help. SEXUAL ABUSE IS WRONG AND SICK AND THE PEOPLE THAT DO THAT TO CHILDREN NEED TO BE PUT AWAY FOR LIFE!!!!!!!
- Jeremy
Saturday, Nov 15, 2008 - 10:30:05 PM
i personally have never been sexually abused. but i know someone who has. she ended up running away for two years and getting pregnant. its sad because it affected her whole family. she still takes care of the baby and everything. but its a shame how the child came to be.
i believe anyone who sexually abuses anyone ,especially a child, is sick in the mind and isnt in touch with god. we need to get theses kind of people off the streets and out of our homes. its just not safe
- yasmihng
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