When Benefits Quit Being Benefits

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 10:46:49 AM
well i don't have any best friends just guys that know my dad and so that is how it works we just talk nothing more because they know my dad verry well. i think it is good to have a friend of the oppistite sex because it would be boring with just girl friends
- Lisa R.

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:15:28 AM
My best friends name is Jessica. Jessica and I have known each other for a little over a year and now i cant imagine life without her. She's just such a big part of my life that being "FWB" would just kill that. I can talk to her about anything and everything (and trust me, I do). It just doesnt seem that people that are just FWB can really have the true experience of a friendship. Friendships arent about sex. Its about being close to someone and having someone you can trust. Jessica is that someone for me. If i get upset or just get depressed she'd be the one to comfort me and get me smiling again. I love her so much and I'd be nothing without her.
- Michael

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:15:02 AM
i loved the fwb blog it is sooooo true i was in a relation ship like that once and it turned out horrible me and this guy were friends for about a year and then we started doing stuff and i fell for him, but he only liked me as a friend. so it was like all he was doing was using me for sex. and i wanted more then that. i listen to your show every sunday night on kiss fm and it is amazing it gives me great advice
- amily

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:14:45 AM
I have this cousin and all of are class mats and everyone else is wanting to beat her up because she supposedly said something bad about about a kid in my class (senior) that had died. Well i know for a fact that she never said a word bad about him cuz he didn't even know him and everone is just trying to start s***.
- Shanice

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:12:51 AM
hey well i have a friend his name is michael he is 21 and i am 13 i am dating a 17 year old though my bf thinks i like him well i actually do but my parents wont let him date me and i love my bf we have a great relationship though we talk everyday we say goodnight he calls me beautiful he said he was beginging to love me n stuff we talk about stuff give each other advice and yea that kindd of stuff we try to find times to hang out together yea bye - lexie
- lexie

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:11:55 AM
it's good to have a friend of the opposite sex that's just a friend because you wouldn't want to go far into a relationship until(you and a guy) is ready for it.
- alice

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:11:46 AM
Hey Dawson im not sure i guess the reason why i have friends of the opposite sex as well as any one else is because sometimes girls can be more fun sometimes than other guys.
- Charles

Saturday, Dec 8, 2007 - 1:11:35 AM
I'm currently in a FWB thing. Well yeah it sucks. i only do this though for some entertainment and because the guy i really loves i can no longer be with so i no longer see the point of sex being so special,.
- Brooke

Friday, Dec 7, 2007 - 12:43:47 AM
i love you show i lesten to it all the time will u email me i need to talk but i do not want to call well me and one of my friend said we can do all the stuff a couple can do but he wont go out with me and soo should i kiss him and stuff like that or should i just be friends with him
- tristin

Friday, Dec 7, 2007 - 12:43:26 AM
i think its really bad that freinds would abuse there freindships by giving in to ther sexuel desires P.S i love ur show :)
- daniel cole

Friday, Dec 7, 2007 - 12:41:44 AM
my best friend would be talor....she is the first person i would go to if i have a problem...sheis like a sister to me.we do everything together.we have classes and friends and everything.without her,my life would be a wreck.i love her to death.
- chelsea

Friday, Dec 7, 2007 - 12:38:53 AM
"It is extremely difficult, if not impossible, for most people to have sex with someone without feeling." - This is not true. I have sex with a ton of guys who are just friends and it's not an emotional thing at all. In fact, most of the guys I have sex with already have girlfriends that they love. Being friends with benefits can be purely physical and it can be just for fun. As long as you pick the right kind of friend to do it with, you'll be fine.
- Anonymous

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:55:41 PM
This is one of my favorite topics. Believe it or not I have lost more boyfriends because I have more friends that are guys than are girls. It doesnt matter now but I guess it did then. I grew up with only one brother and we had pretty much all the same friends. I think that haveing a best friend of the opposite sex is the greatest. I mean you can talk till you are blue in the face to girlfriends about your guy problems and get nowhere. But if you have a guy friend then guess what. You can talk about guy issues with your guy friend. And guys I think that having friends that are girls helps with learning respect for women. Because your "Gal Pal" will flat tell you when you are not treating a girl with respect. and vise versa for the girls. Your guy friend will set you straight about the way you treat your man. I have lots of friends of the opposite sex and its the greatest. For some reason I always felt more at ease with them. More open to talk and WAY less self conscious. Its like having a brother or a sister for those of you who didnt have either. Or didnt have a sibling of the opposite sex. I love all my friends that are guys. They have helped me through alot. and I love them every day for it.
- Christy Barnett

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:55:00 PM
i have one true friend of the oppisite sex. and we are like brother and sister we fight , but in the good of our hearts. he understands when i tell him about guys , and he gives me amazing advice. the best part is guys are always there for you when their your bestfriend. this kid , we make the friendship work very well, and we have a good relationship and i can tell him absoulutly anything , because unlike girls they can keep a secret well. :) which works well. it is good to have a friend from the oppisite sex because they can give you another point of vieww and usually helps alot when it comes to relationship problems with guys.
- Lauuuuren.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:54:35 PM
friends with benefits emotional scarred me for awhile. and i still am not over him. he meant everything to him, but i meant very little to him. i dont think ill ever get over him. i guess i can say i love him. and its hard and hurts when you know , you did something with someone that doesnt care about you half as much as you care for them. dont do it. unless you deff. know you'd never fall for them. and DONT if you like them alot. that was my mistake , i liked him alot , and then he took advantage of my feelings.
- Lauren

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:54:17 PM
when you have a friend of the oppisite sex you have a balance. it's not about sex and when you're just friends you don't have alot of worries. your more comfortable. i'm best friends with a guy named mikey and he's awesome. we respect eachother. we know that we don't want anything to ruin what we have.
- angelica

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:54:04 PM
i read your blog on why girls give in to guys?but i dont know why that happens.because theres a guy i used to date this guy i did alot of stupid stuff but i dont know why i did it *Destiny*
- Destiny

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:52:22 PM
hi dawson. my best friend in the entire world is a guy. his name is payton,i call him paypay or supaman becuase of his amazing karate skills. its truee. i like just having him as a friend. if were having realationship problems we can talk to each other about it and have advice. and you know when we were in 1st grade and he was in 2nd we got married haha. and hes more like my brother. i can trust him. i love having him there for me. its great to be able to have such a great friendship with him. but i have to admit....sometimes i wonder if there will ever be more than just friends.
- hannah

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:51:55 PM
okay well, see i lovve love love!your show and i listen alllll the time and i dont really get what a fwb relationship is but here's my view of it....i think if your going to have a sexual relationship with someone make sure you absolutely know you love cause sex is supposed to be special and i personally am waiting until im married cause i want it to be worth the wait and you should too. im not judging im just suggesting.
- Erin

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:51:35 PM
I've always wanted to have a FWB relationship. It's just seemed like something that could just be alot of fun, ecspecially with someone, say like and ex that you still want to be close to. Thanks for sheding some light on this subject, it's helped immensly! I can't wait for Sunday's show.
- Tori

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:51:15 PM
I've been listing to your show every Sunday since last year i love it I hope you'll contiue I hope to talk to you soon
- Raylene

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:51:06 PM
Friends with benifits are a quick fix to the problems you may be facing. I tend to resort to sex when I feel like I'm falling and no one is there to catch me. I for one suffer with many addictions including cutting, suicidle thoughts, drinking, and smokeing. I will tell you self medication is not the awnser I hope that anyone suffering can take this into account. I know that I wish I would have listened to people who told me that, when I started. The best thing you can do is talk to people.....before it's to late. Open your heart to you family, friends, and most importantly God. You can get through this. I can promise once you start these bad habbits you will regret everyone of them.
- Kathryn

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 11:50:43 PM
I tryed the FWB for a long time with my best friend Eric. but i started to grow strong feelings for him and he was not ready for something like that! it destroyed our 13 year friendship. We have not spoken with each other in 6 years! be carefull.
- heather

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 1:25:56 AM
Wow i really enjoy ur show i listen to it all the time and i love it...It helps me to see where i am going wrong in my relationships and where my boyfriend is comin from i really love ur show hope to talk to u soon...love Rhonda
- Rhonda D.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 1:18:31 AM
The only way I am able to maintain a close friendship with a guy is if we have discussed "us". In other words, at some point you have to make your intentions clear about what you want out of the relationship. Otherwise there will always be wonder.
- Sarah

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 1:18:16 AM
I have a lot of friends that are the ooposite sex.I make my relationship with them work by being honest with them and also by letting them know how great it is to have a guy friends i can count on.I also think my relationship with them works because of honesty and trust.
- Nayeli R.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:32:51 AM
i love your air cast its so awsome i listen to it evey time it plays on 96.1
- kayla

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:32:41 AM
hi dawson..i jus wanna say these blogs are realli helpful and i try to comment evry tyme i can....lets see i have a lot of gud guy frends and thats all it is frendship.without having to worry about this person lyking me or anything. its realy good to have frends of the opposite sex i can play around with them and not have to worry about all tha drama and stuff. sumtymes with girls its a bunch of gossip and drama and sumtimes i just wanna git away from all that and my guy frends help me achieve that.
- riah

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:32:24 AM
my best guy friend is the best thing thats happened to me! its like he gives me insights to what its like being the opposite sex, and helps me with my problems! having them there is like having a brother...or a boyfriend without the attachment. its the best and most amazing feeling ever.
- brittany

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:11:33 AM
Dawson, I think it is great for someone to be best friends with someone of the opposite sex just for the friendship. I hang out with a lot of guys, and I have more fun. If you hang out with someone of the opposite sex, you don't have to try to impress anyone. One of my best friends is a guy, and we talk about almost everything. I don't have to prove myself, and neither does he. Just being around other people for the friendship is a great thing. I don't a a "friend with benefits". I just have my friends.
- Kaitlyn

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:10:32 AM
Hey I just luv ur station and tha way u help troubled teens and adults. U giv gr8 advise to who ever needs it. Ur doing a gr8 job so keep it up!!!you rock!!! And b sides wen u help others it sumtimes helps me 2 cuz i hav sum problems just like that. Thanks, who new u r so gr8 at this? Us of corse! And any one wuld use ur advise any day 2 help others 2. U seem 2 b like tha 'go 2 guy' 4 everyone's problems. like i sed, keep up ur good work!!!!!!!
- kaneisha walden

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:09:52 AM
hey i am very glad that you help kids with their problems. it means alot to me cause i listen to your show alot and other kids have the same problems and you help them so it helps me.. ok i think the friends with benifits thing is wierd cuz you will feel nothing special after it is over and it is wrong and to tell you the truth you rae being unequally yoked. so to all those people out their just think would you do it if jesus wuz with you 24/7? i didn't think so . well thank you for every thing dawson!!!!!!
- whitney c.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:09:13 AM
Have a friend from an opposite sex he is most of the time hard to find. I have a guy friend who is there for me. You need to know you have trust or you don't have anything at all. You need to choose your friends wisely because most guys are the same and only want one thing. You need to look out for your self. My relationship with my guy friend is truthfulness and honesty and thats all you need. Sometimes the opposite sex is better than the same sex. Sara B.
- Sara

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:08:33 AM
Iam a bad person becouse i steel lie and think about sex. i never had sex.
- james

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:01:38 AM
I think that one of my greatest friendship with the opposite sex is my male teachers at school. I have more trust with them because I know I can trust them. They give me more support then my family does. They are alway willing to help me at moments notice. I recently have been dealing with issues with my cutting, depression, family, and personal issues, but they have been there. They help me find a place to stay. I know it seems weird, but I feel like they are my greatest friendship with the opposite sex.
- Ashley R.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:00:48 AM
I have been in a friends with benefits relationship before and now me and that person dont even talk anymore we were friends for 7 years and than when we took it to the next level it messed up everything but I gues things happen for a reason.......If me and him would have stayed that way I wouldnt have met my husband.
- Sabrina B.

Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007 - 12:00:08 AM
Hey Dawson, I just wanted to say I really like your show, and I listen to it every night. I don't believe FWB is right. In the end it usually breaks somebody's heart. At first you may say that there are no feelings between the two of you but then someone starts to have some feelings, and they want more. ~Jessica S.~
- Jessica S.

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 11:59:33 PM
My best friend is more than a best friend shes more like a sister. And she feels that same way. We both have each other back now and forever
- Narda

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 11:59:24 PM
my thoughts on fwb's is that i think that it is very hard just to have sex with a friend with out attachments and no strings attached as my friends call it. it is very hard to have to deal with that kind of thing but i have to admit that i have done that kind of thing with some of my guy friends and i kinda feel bad now that i think of it that i did that with them. i am really trying my hardest to stay away from that now. i still get offers to do things with my "guy friends" but i tell them that i am not really into that kind of thing ne more and then they try to get me to feel guilty that i did not have sex with them. sometimes they do make me feel guilty but there are other times when i am just like hey it is my body i can do whatever i want to do with it. and honestly fwb's is not really one of the things that i want to do with my body. i think that if and i know that there are people out there that do have fwb's i think that they should be really careful about how often they do it and for them to make sure that they use protection. cuz if the girl gets pregnant she has to live with it, cuz the guy is not going to want ne thing to do with the child cuz it was with no strings attached. but i understand the feeling to be wanted by someone of the opposite sex. i even have those feelings also. but i really dont understand the whole meaning of fwb's cuz it is just going to ruin your friendship with that guy or girl that u do have sex with. and i personally think that i would rather have a friend that u can just hang out with and not have to worry if they want to have sex with you or not and not have to worry if u are going to end up pregnant in the long run. so my advice to ppl that do have fwb's that u should end as soon as possible, and just be friends with them. u should not let this type of thing stop u from being friends with the opposite sex. just try to be friends without having sex with them. -Lucia
- Lucia P.

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 11:56:34 PM
I think it crazy for people to think that fwb would work. Because from my angle when you have sex with someone it should mean somthing that why it is so important to have it with the person that you are going to spent the rest of your life with.
- Abigail

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 11:56:20 PM
Hello wonderful people out there. Friends with benefits, makes a whole lot of sense. Science is finally answering the "Love" question. When we say that we are in "Love", what we are experiencing is a whole bunch of opiates created by nature so we can get together and procreate. We have them released all the time. When we have the motherlode, (high concentration of these hormones), released into our system for a particular person, we say it is love. We say this person is the "love of our life/soul mate". All it is, is the incentive to procreate. Humans are born ignorant, and since we are not taught to think logically, accept the truth, and to live accordingly, we have created a big mess of the world. We have false concepts like, marriage. The "feeling" does not last, like all drugs, what goes up must come down. We have these hormones at all times. When we are attracted to someone, that is what's happening (hormone release). The different stages of like/lust/love, depends on the amount released into system at any given time. At one point in human history, before thew were scientifically explained, auroras were deemed magical, mystical, etc., and all types of rituals and customs were built around those beliefs. Sex is just that sex. Main purpose, procreation. We have built rituals and customs around the whole thing. Think logically, accept the truth, and live accordingly. Peace, always. worlQuache.
- worlQuache E.I. (Expert Idiot)

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:57:49 AM
I have been in friends with benefits relationships before. It's like an addiction that cannot be stopped. There are no benefits from a relationship like this. Sure the sex is good and all, but all that results is one person wanting more (as in an actual relationship) than the other person wants, which leads to hurt feelings. I dated a guy and we broke up. I was too afraid to have sex with a different guy so I became friends with benefits with my ex. I thought that if I tried a whole bunch of new things and gave him really good sex he would want me back. Well that didn't work. I got jealous at every other girl he talked to and assumed he was f***ing them. I wasn't satisfied with him as juss a FWB and I'm not satisfied without him either. I felt as if he used me and that the sex to him was meaningless, but to me it was one last dash of hope to win him back. Then came the next guy and this sick cycle repeated, but I felt more for this guy than the last which only hurts me more. I am stuck in this sick cycle of lust and hope feeling used and empty, unloved and unworthy.
- kandy

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:52:27 AM
Hey Dawson, I think it is so cool that you are highlighting friends of the opposite sex. My best friend is a guy, and seriously I dont know what I would do without him! I have friends that are girls too, but they dont really react the way a guy does, girls can be so petty, and with this guy, I never have to worry about him twisting my words, or spreading lies about me. Having a best friend of the opposite sex is great! Maybe it doesnt work for everyone, but it sure works for me!
- Emily

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:50:24 AM
friends with benefits. what if instead of having sex, you were just makingout and doing other things besides sex with your friend? but this friend you still have feelings for, but the friend doesnt know if he likes you yet? idk what to do
- tyler [girl]

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:48:17 AM
My best friend is of the opposite sex. We have a very good relationship. Its hard for me to only be his "best friend" because i see him more than just a "best friend". The way we have such a good friendship is because we can talk to each other about anything. Even when it comes to talking about being more then just friends. He is the best about talking about it. But everytime i talk to him about it gets harder. But i honestly think friends of the opposite sex is a good thing. Can be confusing but good for you.
- Saige

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:47:41 AM
my friends name is nick... i have a bf but sometimes when i hang with him and some of my other guy friends i feel like they like me more than my bf... i know he loves me and he shows it when hes with me but when hes not with me or hes with his friends, he just acts different to me... he wont even hold my hand or anything... its like hes shy around his friends and i dont want him to be... i really dont know what to do. should i talk to him about it? i just feel he could he show me he loves me a little more and i really wish he would because he dosnt even say i love you... is that bad? please help me!!! p.s. i love listening to your show... it helps a lot
- maddie

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:46:38 AM
I have been friends with my best guy friend for about 4 and a half yers, and I never have looked at him as a guy i want to date. I mean don't get me wrong he is the nicest guy i know but I look at him as a brother and we tell each other every thing. Even when we don't have any one else we can tell we both know that we can be open with each other. And like Dawsons recent blog said when you cross the boundarys from being just best friends to friends with benifits you lose a conection between the both of you, and know matter what you do there will always be an uneasy feeling or nervousness when you try to talk to be open with him. And personaly I discourage people, expecially tenns and young people, to have a FWB.
- Lisa M.

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:44:33 AM
I have a really good friend from the opposite sex, we've known each otha for like 5years nw hez really cool wit me i can go to hm fo any kinda advice he would help me. He always knw wu im goin out wit n sumtimes he even tells me wu he think is or not right fo me most of the times i always listen 2hm... Bt fo some reasons we startd likin each otha, i realy wana get w me cz i trust hm i knw dat hes a realy gud guy... Bt im stil wonderin if dats a good idea... Please anyone send me an email r reply dis n lemme knw wat u think...:-)
- Manoue

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:43:49 AM
Hey I am friends with two really great guys. We dont have the friends with benefits stuff and it is really nice to get a guys opinion on matters. Sean is in my youth group and Joel is my neighbor. I kind of like joel and found out he likes me but has a gf. So i got to figure that out!!! But yes!! HAVING GUY FRIENDS IS GREAT!!!!!!
- Kelsey

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:36:05 AM
Hello, Dawson. I am Marissa and I listen to your show every Sunday. I am 15 years old and i just wanted to share my experiences with "FWB's". My experience doesnt have to do with sex, but i was hurt along the way. My BFF had this crush on a guy for...ehh...about 4 years. When we entered high-school this year-9th grade- i found out that he liked me and not her. So i started liking him back and we started getting closer. He wanted to go to Homecoming with me but i didnt want to ruin my friendship with my BFF, who at the time realllyy liked this guy. I asked her if it was OK if i went with him to homecoming and kept making sure she was okay with us and everything and so we went to HC together and ended up kissing and ever since that day, i fell for him hard. We would hang out at his house, with my BFF there, and kiss behind her back, but not at school. He eventually broke up with his girlfriend, who he was cheating on with me, and we just "went with the flow" - as we called it. He is a great guy, dont get me wrong. One day he went to the movies with this group of girls that i hate and i found out. We got in this arguement and hadnt talked for at least 2 days. I finally talked to him and told him that i missed him and that i wanted things to be better between us. So, i found it in my heart to forgive him. We then were friends. Then I went to his house with my BFF and we kissed again. I was an amazing feeling to have of kissed him again. Since that day we have been "FWB" and started kissing at school. My friend finally let go of him after so many fights and arguements. I was so proud of her. We are still BFF's. Then on Nov. 5, 2007 he FINALLY asked me out. Now we are going out and everything is good. I get jealous at times when he talks to those girls that i hate, but i know that i can trust him. I just wanted to point out that not all FWB turn out bad, or involve sex. I am glad that it didnt happen to me :]]. I would like to thank you for all the advice that you have given to people who need changes in their lives, and i hope this has changed someones too.
- Marissa

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:32:52 AM
well my best guy friend would have to be.......either Chad he has put up with me through thick and thin even tho lately we havent been talking as much as we should but the way we make it work is the fact that we like similar things sports and such. he always likes to protect me even wen i dont need it. i remember once last yr i was being stalked well he made me sneak outta the house and hang with him and alot of guys and after i was raped he went after the guy that did it hes a great friend really he is!!
- sammie

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:28:57 AM
Tell me and my friend... Are best friend's she is a girl and i am a boy we know alot about eachother and when out one and now we are friend's... But she has touge me kindaness... and i am glade and i know here.
- J.R

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:28:33 AM
i have a friend that is a male and we talk about a lot 2gether and he explaines to me why my boyfriend dose what he dose
- jessica

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:26:41 AM
I do have a good friend who is a female and a good christian girl too. We stay friends bcuz we like doing the same things, we've never taken it past friendship, altho I've asked about it we like being single.
- Ben

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:25:51 AM
ok my friend brian and I are a little more than friends now and are currently seeing one another and so far it's been pretty interesting and good for both of us because we came from past relationships that were hurtful and found each other's company to be pretty amazing!
- maureen

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:24:19 AM
Having a "just friend" of the opposite sex is a wonderful thing! They keep you grounded, and aren't afraid to give you a reality check when you obviously need one. Its a friendship you simply cannot have with someone of the same sex...its different, even while it IS still being just friends.
- Laura

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:23:43 AM
I've had alot of great friendships with guys. Alot of them from school, but we just hang out watch movies, go out for rides, whatever. It's so nice to just hang with them and not have any sexual stuff in between. It has never been that way between any of us! As I say if you don't want the responsibilities keep your pants on!lol
- Jenn

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:14:02 AM
shane..he is my best friend from the opposite sex. i've known him since i was in diapers and now i'm almost 15. shane is just the best. sometimes i can go to him and talk when my girl friends are being stupid, and thats nice to have.
- Karen

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:13:43 AM
my oposite sex best friend is my friend anthoney. He gay, im bisexual too. So really when i have a guy problem i can talk to him and see what he says. We hang out all the time.I think having a best friend for the oposite sex is fine,it shouldn't matter.
- Kenzi

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:01:04 AM
Well i have a few great friends of the opposite sex!!! We talk about everything!!! Most the time if i have relationship problems i can turn to one of them and there always there for me! Most the time going to a friend of the oppostie sex with relationship problems can help more then going to a girlfriend!!! Also having a friend of the oppesite sex helps to understand away to keep a converstion going with a man!!! Sometimes its hard because people want to pick on you about liking them and sleeping with them but as long as ur not it really over throughs all that just knowing if another guy tryed to fight you they are there for you and if u need a shoulder to cry on you have one!!! I would die if i didnt have my "boy" friends!!!! ~sammy~
- samantha

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:00:40 AM
I think it's great to have a friend of the opposite sex because sometimes the same sex as you are won't understand some things you are going through such as if you have been in a bad break up, a guy can see your point of view when you're talking about your ex, and it gives you an opportunity to see both sides of the story when it comes to having friendships. I always treat my guy friends differently than my friends that are girls because there's such a different range of feelings when it comes to guys versus girls. It's kind of weird because I've had fights with girls but never with guys, sometimes I feel more comfortable around them than I do girls. But I've never had a FWB.
- Megan

Tuesday, Dec 4, 2007 - 1:00:02 AM
I have a best friend that is the opposite sex and i love it!! we are the best of friends and i would do anything for him. People say that sounds clitche, but i would seriously take a bullet for him. We have known eachother for only a little less than a year and thats such a short time but wehave grown sooo much with eachother and now my brother and i are both best friends with him. I like having him as friend because its nice to have a guys' opinion when you need it and i know he will truly give me an honest answer. its nice because its NOT a friends with benefit deal. i dont believe in that and i just love having someone there to be there for me and support me and help me make decisions about school, life and even guys. Although he used to be into drugs and drinking alot, when we became better friends he stopped all that and its way better and that really shows how much some people love their friends. i cant live a day without him and im glad hes by my side!!! i recomend it to anybody that is stuggling about thinking about it and just make sure that if it does become something more because who better to date than someone your friends with and know for a long time...just make sure its not a friends with benefits thing and it will be fine! ♥Rissa
- Marissa

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 9:52:01 PM
-FWB- there is the Problum Right there who In there right mind just wants someone to do stuff with? Wouldn't you rather have a Close knit person who will love you back? rather then someone who has a hundresed FWB! I think FWB is totally rertared and Disrespectful to your self and your SO called friend. if you guys need any help w/ anything Im here Always Thanks
- Sarah P.

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 9:50:57 PM
i feel that guys need to put the commitment in a realtionship and not just be allowed to "get in your pants" whenever he wants to theres so much more to a realtionships girls!i am only 16 but i have had to learn the hard way about "friends with benefits" Dawson,i love you show!
- korenn

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 9:50:23 PM
I had an amazing relationship with this guy Roberto. We dated and even when we broke up we remained inseperable. We went shopping together, ate dinner together, went on road trips together, its was fantastic. I have to tell you that today we really can't stand eachother. Things just seemed to get bad after we dated and then broke up for the final time. On our anniversary might I add. I have to admit that losing him as friend feels like I have lost half of myself and it has taken a really long time to realize that I am okay without him. I would give advice to people and say that you should never date one of your good friends. A friendship is not worth losing if things go bad in the relationship. But at the same time that is just my experience I have known others to have relationships that they were friends first then eventually got married.
- Emily

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 9:47:52 PM
Friends with benefits are bad and will only end up hurting you in the end.
- Rachelle and Brittni

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 9:47:37 PM
Friend with benifits is a whole bunch of nonscene the only reason guys or girls do this is so that they can have sex with you then they leave you. In most cases the guy or girl is only using you and they probley have a whole bunch of other people they are using at the same time. Dont get yourself caught upu in lies because in the end they will hurt you.
- Stephanie

Monday, Dec 3, 2007 - 12:46:59 AM
man im like so scared to be a dad right now because im still in school and because im only 14 but if i do become a dad now im going to be kicked out of the house but i don't want to cuz i have no were to go but to my girl friends house.... lou yang
- lou yang

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 11:22:59 PM
friends with benefits will hurt someone at the end so y wont u just go around that and not get hurt and just find someone that really cares 4 u just not themselves. my really good friend wants that from me and i asked him the '?' do u care about me and he answered no that just answered his '?' which was a no! and now i have waited and i found some that just wants me 4 me
- Josephine

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 10:19:12 PM
Friends with benefits are awesome... All the perks of a relationship without the drama ;)
- D

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 10:19:00 PM
hey dawson im so scared of being a dad so soon because im only 14 and i don't know wut to do...
- lou yang

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 9:58:31 PM
i think ur right if i have a fwb we would probbably stop talking to each other like we use to do! i don't think i would ever have a fwb! cause i would never want to have sex until i am married!
- heidi

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 9:50:32 PM
I completely agree with you Dawson. In the long run, FWB can hurt you emotionally. It usually seems that people that have FWB relationships the female gets emotionally attached and sometimes want to take it further, but the male usually isn't really willing to committ to more than a FWB relationship. In my opinion, us females get too emotionally attached, and in the end usually want more, and then get hurt.
- ~ comment left on the DMLive MySpace by ~ DoRa

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 8:55:04 PM
lately i have had a lot of problems in my life with things like drugs and sex and i listened to your show and it really helped thanx a bunch
- tyler k.

Sunday, Dec 2, 2007 - 8:09:22 PM
I Think Thats Its A Great Waste Of Time Cause I've Been Friends With This One Girl For Almost 3 Years And It's Been Great. If We Became FWB It Just Wouldn't Be The Same.
- Alfredo L.

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 11:56:23 PM
i think its stupid, pointless, and a waste of time
- amber

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 9:48:41 PM
Well, I'm 18 years old, yes only 18years old and I knew this guy for almost 2years and least year me and this guy had sex and then it won't on from there. But see it was not the frist time that I had sex. See when i was living with my mom I had sex 3 times with three diffter guys and they really didn't love me.
- Jamie h.

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 4:47:47 PM
Well, im only 14, yes only 14. and when i was 13, me and this guy i knew since we were 5, started haven sex. We wasnt daten, and when we saw each other we always did sumthing sexual. it was fine for a while, and i started to fall for him, and so i asked him out, and he told me no. & so now, when i go to date guys they ask me about my past, and its hard to tell someone you like, that at one point you had a FWB. & i know im really young. But im a Freashmen, and msot of my class are not virgins. and most of us, lost it while we were in middle school! So, FWB is no point in the end, cuz you will get hurt!
- Samantha

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 3:10:17 PM
Hi Dawson i understand wat u say about the whole sex with benifits i've been throught it and now me and the guy r not talkin and it hurts me inside that we r not talkin but like people say everything happens for a reason
- latissa

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 3:10:14 PM
I think that is the woger way to have sex. Because what if they like each other and what if he get to huter?
- Heather C.

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 10:28:05 AM
this is wrong...having casual sex....
- will

Saturday, Dec 1, 2007 - 10:17:23 AM
Hi Dawson. I havent commented in a while but this one affects me personally because I want to get into a relationship because I miss that special feeling. But at the same time I dont because I'm not over my ex. I thought that the FWB relationship was the best way to go because theres not dramma and you feel that good feeling you get when your in a relationship. I dont know if its him I miss or just the fact that he was my first love but I want that feeling again but Im notready to get into another relationship. You also have to think abou the fact that when you do get into a FWB relationship there is an attraction, if there wasntthen this wouldnt happen, that attraction is only going to get stronger eveytime you kiss, hug, have sex, or even hold hands. You may not feel it so much to start with but you will after a time period. There is no set time, it could be 2 days 2 weeks or even 2 years, who knows?? my point is that there is an attraction and that attraction will eventually turn into a feeling then a love that is just setting yourself up for heartbreak. The only part that I'm sorry for is that I had to figure all of this out the hard way. --Amber.
- Amber