Just Friends

1. One benefit of “Just Friends” is you tend to respect the friendship you have. I wonder how many teenagers and young adults have a “Just Friends” relationship.

   “We don’t want to ruin what we have.”

   I don’t know of any surveys taken to answer that question, but from my experience on my radio show, I would guess it would be less than 50%. Finding a good friend of the opposite sex is not easy to do, but it’s more than worth it. So people who have “Just Friends” relationships tend to respect them and take care of them more than just random dating. “I'm best friends with a guy named Mikey and he's awesome. We respect each other. We know that we don't want anything to ruin what we have.” (Angelica)
   
2. Another benefit of “Just Friends” is it tends to be more like brother and sister. Everybody needs brothers and sisters, but let’s just suppose for a moment that you’re a guy who doesn’t have a sister or a girl who doesn’t have a brother. Or perhaps you don’t relate well to your brother or sister. “Just Friends” can help fill the gap of those who have never experienced a good brother or sister relationship. “It’s [‘Just Friends’] like having a brother or a sister for those of you who didn’t have either. Or didn’t have a sibling of the opposite sex.” (Christy) By the way, if you have a good relationship with your brother or sister, you are truly blessed. Someday I’ll blog on this topic.
   
3. One of the greatest benefits of “Just Friends” is learning more about the opposite sex. It seems to me that many students and young adults do not really understand the opposite sex. Let’s face it, no matter what our culture may say, men and women look at the world differently and react differently to life. That’s one reason why in dating, things get so confusing. Because along with the deep emotion comes confusion and frustration. But a friend from the opposite sex can fill you in on what women/men are like. They can answer a lot of your questions about the opposite sex and save you all kinds of grief. “I think it's great to have a friend of the opposite sex because sometimes the same sex won't understand some things you are going through such as if you have been in a bad break up, a guy can see your point of view when you're talking about your ex, and it gives you an opportunity to see both sides of the story...” (Megan)

Thursday, Dec 13, 2007 - 7:55:03 PM
My two best friends in the whole world are guys! I'm sorry, but to me they're so much more fun than girls. I wouldn't have it any other way. I love them soooooooo much!
- Emily

Thursday, Dec 13, 2007 - 6:53:21 PM
i think its great to have a friend of the opposite sex because its a break from being surrounded by girls all thee time. i mean, its nice to have friends that are girls, but they can be too sensitive and tend to start alot of drama. so its nice to have someone who you can play with and have fun with. and sometimes get an insite to how boys think.lol =)
- yasmihng

Thursday, Dec 13, 2007 - 6:52:31 PM
HI DAWSON MY BEST GUY FRIEND IS MY FRIEND CHARLIE. HE IS THE BEST! CUZ SOME GUY TRIED 2 GET HIS WAY WITH ME IN A VERY INAPORPEIT WAY AND CHARLIE CAME AND BEAT HIM UP I LOVE HIM SOOOOO MUCH HES MY BEST GUY FRIEND
- VICTORIA

Thursday, Dec 13, 2007 - 6:52:17 PM
i love having a guy as just a friend their more down to earth and a lot of the times you don't have to hear their drama.they are more comforting and listen better than your "girl" friends do sometimes.......as long as you don't start to fall for you "guy" friend...you should be okay....if not then you might wanna mature some before ya think about relationships! i learned the hard way....
- Emily

Thursday, Dec 13, 2007 - 6:52:03 PM
sup
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Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 8:59:06 PM
this is where i find many many anwers to some of my everyday life problems, issues, concerns, thoughts or just curiosity!!! i love your show so much that i might be even A LITTLE BIT addicted to it. Hope that it helps many many others as well!
- natalya

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:19:53 PM
i learned its better to stay friends the hard way cuz now that guy is weird around me now but i know we will be kool like we use to back then.having guy friends are awsome cuz u get to kno whats really inside of guys heads and some guys are really good listeners so they can help u with your guy problems and even your other problems.
- cynthia

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:19:14 PM
i think that is true because i have many friends that are girls and i somnrtimes get on their nerves but we never break up and i love ur show so much and one day i hope that u will get the chance to tak to me
- wilsdaryon

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:18:22 PM
I was friends with benefits w/ my x (now my bf again) But it worked out because we realized we liked each other A LOT...and even I told him I cheated on him when we first dated he still asked me out...I'm so happy. But there is one thought that lingers Is he cheating on me...what's he doin now...you know that kinda thing!
- Amanda C.

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:16:43 PM
hey dawson. your show rules.
- haley b.

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:16:18 PM
hi dawson thanks for helping me for my problems you are the best this shaquania fom philadelphia
- shaquania

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:14:42 PM
hey dawson this is joe from philadelphia i wanna say you are the best i agree with your comments
- joe

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 7:14:32 PM
Hey Dawson,well i think it's a great to have a friend in the opposite sex. I have lots of friends that are guys. And we acn talk bout anything. Its great to know that you can have someone to talk to and to be there for you when you need them!
- Kristen

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 12:17:17 AM
Hey Dawson,well i have this friend and i like him and i know he thinks of me as a friend.I try to support him in every way i can.Do you think i should try to be in a relationship with him or not risk what we've got?
- Gabby

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 12:14:34 AM
i think that a guy could have a friend thats a girl and have no feelings for her and the same for a girl a girl could have a guy thats a friend with no attraction at all
- cody

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 12:14:20 AM
Okay.Well about this topic...well i do have a best friend of the opposite sex.And he is the best of friend i can have.Sure we had our ups and downs when each of us were in relationships.For a while when we were not in relationships we kinda went out or just do whatever,it kinda worked out but at the end it would never because we just seen each other as friends.Sure i did like him alot but in the end i realized i could only see him as a friend.At times we would never talk to each other because we bot were in relayionships because the person who we were with didnt like the fact we were friends.but now everything seems to be alright we have worked out our differences and finally actually became best friends and he seems to be the only one guy i can trust now a days.Hes a great guy and a good best friend.hes awesome!.he really helped me out throught the good and bad times no matter what happen we still were able to forgive each other and it really helped me out that i can talk to him about anything. ~JESS!~
- Jessica C.

Wednesday, Dec 12, 2007 - 12:02:10 AM
Hey Dawson I listen in to your show and it help me work out my problems.OK now that I have said that back to this whole just friends thing.I personally know that it is possible to have a friend like that cause, me and one of my friends are really close friends and we both talk to each other about our problems with our GF/BF and we have been friends for a long time.So yes it is possible and it helps me a lot to have a friend like her I know I can always talk to.
- jordan

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:59:05 PM
HI DAWSON, FIRST LOVE YOUR SHOW!!! ABOUT "JUST FRIENDS" IM A GIRL AND ALL MY FRIEND IN SCHOOL ARE GUYS AND THEY HELP ME A LOT WENT I HAVE PROBLEMS AND THEY DONT CAUSE DRAMA LIKE GIRLS DO!!!!I LOVE THEM!!!!
- Jo-Jo

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:58:27 PM
sup dawson? nk first I LUV UR SHOW! second i soo think guys an girls can be freinds! alot of ppl do it! mi freinds have freinds of the opposite sex!
- tAFFI

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:58:15 PM
Its realy nice to know that someone feels the same way as I do. Im a tom boy but also I attract boys and all of my freind are opposite sex.When it comes to a relationship it doesnt last very long because of all my male friends that I have.So I gave up on that situation and decided that I dont need someone in my life that will distract me and keep me behind.For all the other girls out there like me dont try so hard to find someone becouse if you have a male friend that is so true to you he will be there for you.
- VIOELT

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:56:23 PM
I have a few guy friends that are just friends and I get accused constantly that I like them or they like me. I can't have any just guy friends according to the people in my school but other girls or guys can have friends of the opposite sex. Sometimes i do end up likeing them like a crush a tiny bit because they are the only GUYS I can really trust or know they wont tease me to make me angry or sad or to just make themselves feel more important. But nothing more.
- Ansley

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:55:22 PM
Having friends of the opposite sex can sometimes be even better than having a boyfriend/ girlfriend. Most people tend to act different around their friends than their boyfriend/ girlfriend. People may even act more like them self around their friends. It's not mandatory to go out with your best friend. Yet that seems to be what most people think.
- Sara

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:49:23 PM
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR HELPING PEOPLE LIKE ME IM 14 AND HAVE SOOO MUCH DRAMA IN MY LIFE ESPICALLY WITH MY REAL FATHER SO THANKS 4 HELPING
- TYLER S.

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:48:55 PM
Hi Dawson. I have this guy friend that I've known forever and we were never really close until about 2 1/2 years ago. And he liked me and I liked him so we had a thing for awhile but than things got complicated with my family and stuff we stopped everything. We have drifted apart so much that when I see him I don't know what to say to him. Well I graduated high school and he's got one year left and he has a girlfriend now. But ever since we stopped seeing each other, I regret it and I want him back. But I don't know if I should act on that or just wait this thing out. I know we would go great together b.c. we had before. I saw him at the gas station a comple months ago and he came up and gave me the biggest hug. He said he missed me and we should hang out. And I wanted so much to pull him away from everyone and tell him what i felt but i didn't think it was the right time and I didn't know what to say. Please Help Dawson I don't know what to do about Jason. Should I tell him or Should I move on because I've been trying for 2 1/2 years and nothing has changed.
- Tosha

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:47:51 PM
I HAVE FRIENDS THAT HAVE FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS I TOLD THEM THAT THAT IS WRONG BUT THEY NEVER LISTEN TO ME SO I DON'D HANG OUT WITH THEM ANY MORE
- ASHLEY

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:47:26 PM
Hey Dawson, I have called your show once and talked to you, you helped me alot i have lost about 30 pounds since there just getting in to different activities, and I have meet this guy that i like and he likes me back, but he has a kid with another gurl. But he wants to marry her for the sake of the baby but he Loves me! I absolutely hate comming between people, but he says im not, Hes in a band called Simply Inspired and hes really rich and he wants to buy me everything! Please help me i need to know what to do. b/c i care alot about him! Thanks
- -Amber

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:42:47 PM
It is so much easier to just have an opposite sex friend. Me and This Guy have been Good Friends for some time now. and I've learned so much men. i actually understand them better! it is truly amazing what can happen just being friends with the opposite sex. this guy has CHANGED my life. he's amazing! and by the way Dawson, i love you show. it too has changed my life. i can relate to a lot of the people who call in. i listen to it every Sunday and weekdays. its amazing what you do! keep it up =]
- Brittney

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 11:41:28 PM
My husband is my best friend and I am his. My advise to those who would rather have a boyfriend or girlfriend than be "just friends" is that your relationship would be more meaningful if you are first friends. Having my husband as my best friend and me his, has really helped our relationship and our marriage. When I have a problem, and I don't want his opinion or comfort as a husband, he gives it to me as my best friend, and vise-versa. Growing up I had a lot of "guy-friends" and I believe that really helped me understand more about men. It has helped me to realize that guys are just as sensitive, shy, and complicated as women are, they just hide it better than we do. So yes, having "just friends" of the oposite sex is a great investment for future relationships and even marriage. Plus, it's a great gift to yourself and you may get more out if it than you think! You may end up falling in love with your bff and have a great marriage!!! Luv Ya Dawson, God Bless!!
- Cally

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 2:22:46 AM
Hi Dawson, First off I love your show! I listen to it every week. I agree with you on this blog completely! It is possible have guy/girl relationships. One of my best friends is a guy and we get along great. I help him through things with girls and he helps me get through things with guys. He's always there for me when I need him and he won't judge me on things that I tell him. I really love that about him. We've come to be best friends and I really love being friends with him. My friends keep telling me that we make a cute couple, but we've already been through that in the past and it almost wrecked our friendship forever. I've also been told that he likes me. In my opinion, I'm not exactly sure about that. Everyone always mistakes us for being like the boyfriend/girlfriend type of thing and while it's a common mistake, it does get annoying. Why is it such a common mistake though? I also have another friend, who's my friend's brother and he's like a brother to me since I don't have one. We have a lot of the same interests and he's also helped me get through some rough times!
- Marisa

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:25:19 AM
Ok I have a friend who is a guy and i like him but i dont love love him i just like him as a friend. Peoplen say we make a perfect couple but i keep saying i just like him as a friend! Help plz Dawson Love Kalysa E.
- Kalysa E

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:24:48 AM
i really think that having a "just friend" form the other sex does halp you with some problems that maybe your other friends dont understand. i have a really close guy friend and i can tell him anything and he will always listen and even give me some advice
- Stephanie

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:24:34 AM
Ever since I moved to a new town (nearly two years ago), I instantly made a few really good friends, one of them being my best guy friend now. We can go weeks without talking (conflicting schedules) but somehow I can still tell him more than I can tell most people, simply because guys don't seem to do the drama thing so much as girls... they react differently to different things, and this really does open up new outlooks.
- Bri

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:23:44 AM
Hey Dawson...i just want to say that i lov your show and i listen to it every night...it is AMAZING!! and i need help with something...i walk down the halls in my school like nothing is wrong and i am a pretty popular girl and i get called a slutt by some of my ex-boyfriends and i cant take it anymore and i just wanted to ask you what i should..cuz my case is that bad or anything so i didnt really want to call in and ive heard you help alot of people and i think that it is great!!!
- Alissa

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:23:20 AM
first just let me say that i love your show!! i listen to it every week. I do agree that every one needs a friend of the opposite sex. i know from first hand experience that every one needs one. one of my best friends is a guy. i can go to him for every thing and he wont judge me. But make sure that u r not attracted to them.
- Taylor P.

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:21:58 AM
I totally agree with your point! I have no idea what I would do without my guy friends (there are MANY). They're the brothers I've never had! They're amazing. It's so nice to be able to be close to guys without all the stress of dating. I love what you're doing, Mr. McAllister. It's a great thing! I love it! Your friend, Jane
- Jane

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:21:40 AM
I definatly agree, guy friends are amazing, drama free, and down to earth, they also help you understand guys, its a great thing to have
- sarah

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:21:26 AM
i have a lot of guy friends whom some i like but they dont like me back what should i do?
- Rokie

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:21:03 AM
i listen to ur show every night and mostly feel bad for those people who call in and also feel grateful for the great advice u give them to keep walking on their feet and or to live- keep up the great work!! : ) sincerly,Rokie
- Rokie

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:19:25 AM
I hav a really sweet guy that likes me and I like him back( I don't know what to call him because I am not aloud to have a boyfriend until I am 17!) and he has alot of friends that are girls and this blog has really helped me understand! Plus I also have three brother-like guy friends! I love your show and think what you do is a great ministry!!! THNX!!
- Jessica

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:18:20 AM
My best friend is a girl.She and I always hang out go skying togather.We have never got into one of those love things. I think people should have friends from a differnt gender
- Keoki

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:17:42 AM
Yea....it can be kinda hard having guy friends but when you already have a boyfriend, it gets easier. I have a bf and a few of his friends are also mine. And they happen to be.....GUYS!!!! I still get a little jealous when he is around a few different girls though! he worries me sometimes!!!!! but i don't have to worry about that cause i like him and he likes me!
- hannah

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:14:50 AM
(by the way I don't think you share email addresses but if you do please don't share mine!) I agree. I have a lot of good guy friends, sometimes they're even more fun to talk to then my girl friends. But I'd like to mention that though having friends of the opposite sex is a good idea, you should always have some good friends of the same sex that you can talk to. There are some things that you just don't, or shouldn't, talk about with the opposite sex, it sometimes gets a little awkward or perverted... But, it is great to have friends of the opposite sex. (p.s.-maybe sometime you could blog on friendships with the opposite sex, where they have a crush on you but you don't like them in that way?)
- Just Me(Quin)

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:13:47 AM
I have a bounch of guy friends.... but somtimes i find myself having feeling for them!! but i have this one guy friend who is my best friend ever we do everything together!! hes like my lil brother practuly
- Racheal

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:13:34 AM
i def agree. a lot of ppl think you cant have a friend of the opposit sex, i was even skeptical myself... but it is possible. everyone thinks me and my guys friend have some sort of sexual relationship but thing is its not like that. yes i love him to death and i know he feels the same but its purley frienship.! love always al3x.! <3
- alex

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:10:29 AM
I happen to get along better with friends from the opposite sex, I ask myself why sometimes, but I just happen to realize that girls don't really like a whole lot of drama, in my case, I know I don't. Guys are not really into this whole drama thing, so I would so much rather have a male friend than a female friend.
- Roxana

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:10:08 AM
Dear Dawson, I've been friends with guy named Sam since the 7th grade and i'm now in 8th. He's the first i guy i really have loved, i want to be with him. But i don't know what to do, he has a girlfriend that he just hooked up with, and i know he likes me more then just a friend. I think the reason why he won't ask me out is because he's afraid it will mess up our relationship. What should i do?
- Amber

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 1:05:19 AM
I have a best friend that is a guy. We have been super close for like 4 years and we tell each other everything, and have never gotten in a fight. Then i have this other best guy friend, and we are super close and have known each other for a little over a year and we get along great. It helps having these 2 with me because its like our own triangle of brotherly/sisterness and its amazing knowing that they understand me and that i know they would never let anyone hurt me and they know i would do the same.
- Ember

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:10:55 AM
yea you are right. i have a a best friend thats a girl but nothings between us.~hugh ps help me
- hugh

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:10:43 AM
I defintely agree with this blog. so many of my best friends are guys. it works out so good. i tend to get along with them better. for me....i like hanging with them more bc there is not all the drama that there is with girls. Guys are so much easier to talk to and having guy friends helps you understand the opposite sex. i have a guy friend and we have been best friends for probly 3 years now. i cant imagine what i did without him for all the time before that. i tried the whole relationship with a best friend thing. but it didnt work at all. after 2 days he left me and now he doesnt talk to me anymore. so that didnt work at all for. me. but i really like this blog!!!
- leslie

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:07:49 AM
wow my message is the same at the one below me i have lots of guys friends and i am losing them cause my bf they all like me well a lot of them and my bf gets mad and thinks i like them what should i do? if i hang out with him my bf goes and hangs out with girls and says if i can hang out with guys and then he can hang out with girls that i hate well bye
- lexie

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:05:54 AM
I think guys are just in it for the sex
- Brittani S.

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:05:25 AM
hey dawson i use to have a (just friend)when I was in 4th and 5th grade and my friends thought that i was dating them and i wasn't
- jade

Tuesday, Dec 11, 2007 - 12:05:01 AM
i have 5 good guy friends and a boyfriend, even before i started dating my boyfriend i told him that i wasn't the type to get along with girls, girls tend to cause drama and as for the guys we can just go bum around and play video games and have a great time. i reassured my boyfriend that they where just friends and nothing more, not only do i get to keep my best friends & stay happy but i know that my boyfriend trust me which makes our relationship much stronger and its the same for him he can go hang out with girls or talk to them and I'm fine with that, and he knows how to tell the girl no if she tries to make a move on him, which I've witness first hand. so really i think it is possible for girls to have guy friends and vice versa. just if theirs any boyfriend/girlfriends involved they should have a serious talk and if you can't stay true to your word, then you shouldn't be together. build your relationship based upon trust and try to involve your partner in group activities with your friends. =]
- Stacy

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:24:07 PM
I really am confused. ehat do i do if more than one guy likes me and wants to date me? there is more but im lost and upset eith guys all together. My boyfriend likes to avoid me and talk to other girls. what should i do? Dump him or stay with him? Please help me. thank you, shelley r.
- shelley r.

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:23:37 PM
I think that this blog is great. I think I have more girl friends than boys. I think that boys are so much more fun to have as friends that girls in a way because they don't some of the things that you like and other things like that. Guys are so much easier to talk to because that just listen some of the time.
- Korisa P.

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:23:02 PM
I totally agree with this blog. I have a friend who is like my brother and we have never done anythinggg,but Im glad I can be friends with him and that I don't have to worry about getting involved with him.
- Carrie

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:21:48 PM
i'v had this friend from since i was in 2nd and he was in 1st. now i'm in 7th and he's in 6th and i think i like him. should i tell him and can i have a relationship with a BEST friend
- Briana

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:21:24 PM
what should i do if we have been best friends for almost three years and im starting to like her but she says she just wants to be friends?
- w.t.h

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 11:20:48 PM
Hey dawson, you have the best blogs. I want to say although you are touching on the positive subject of the just friends between different sexes, this is also a curse and a deadzone for some of us guys, or even girls who want more than a relationship from that person. The current theory is that we end up in the "friend zone" and will never have any luck when we make an advance on that person, because that person is too afraid to lose us if we go into a relationship. And then this said person we like ends up sleeping/having something with an ********* guy who takes advantage and only wants sex with that person. Again your focusing on the positive no drama aspect of just friends, but alot of us want something more. but then again you can take this position to an advantage and use the kindness to get somewhere. But I heard most girls want a challenge and not a nice guy who is in the friend zone, and want an *******? Is this true? I hope my advice will help you ith your research dawson. contact me if you need more research into this subject. chao
- Andrew

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 1:49:18 AM
I have a ton of guys friends but my bf gets jelouse whaat should i do
- ~ comment left on the DMLive MySpace by ~ sam+jax

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 1:37:17 AM
i agree theirr is too much drama with dateing. and a good friendshipp is better too. but then again some people just want someone their to hug &kiss and when your just friends you cant do that. ? but you have a greatt pointt.!
- - ~ comment left on the DMLive MySpace by ~ k.sa

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 1:22:00 AM
yes u can have just friends i have a had a best friend that is a girl for 14 years and we haven'tyet made one mood. P.s. help me dawson
- ben

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:49:59 AM
Yes, I have friend that's a guy too and we haven't ever had romances. We've been by each others side since 2nd grade and we are really respectful towards this relationship that we have built for each other. We have always been there for each other and we've kept each other off of drugs and having bad relationship with our dates. We've backed each other up on everything and have never had any fights. So I do think that having an oppisite sex "Just friend" relationship is a great advantage.
- Ivy

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:42:45 AM
My best friend Valerie has been my best fiend for 4 years. She is my ex-girlfriends sister. Me and my ex-girlfriend are still friends also. I deffinatly believe guys and girls can be friends without the drama.
- Michael

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:42:24 AM
I really do agree with this blog. This is the first time that I have ever looked at your website. I was listening to you tonight and heard you talk about this blog and wanted to read and comment on it. Fortunately, I have a just friends relationship and have had it for about 4 or 5 years. Many people around us are like hes got a crush on her or the opposite. WRONG. She is like my sister and I was there to help and protect her when her family turned away from her. We talk to each everyday and if we dont, something is definately wrong. It wasnt like I set out to find a sister, it just kinda happened. I have five brothers and no sisters so it just kinda seemed to fit. I love her to death in a sister kinda love and would never let anything bad happen to her.
- Clay

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:41:12 AM
i have a guy friend his my best friend. we are exs. we dated for a year or so but we broke up and just wanted to be friends and its great we can hang out and talk about anything. like when my boyfriend dose thing i just dont get i go to him and he helps me understand and the same with his girlfriend. i love him and i dont know what i would do without him..
- Jenny!

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:40:47 AM
i've never really had a good "just friends" relationship. i've always been the girl who liked that guy & he finds out & we date & it messes everything up. but when i do have one it's so easy to talk to them. they understand everything in a whole different way then we do. it's amazing to see how different girls & guys thinking is.
- Michelle

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:34:16 AM
I have 3 very close guy friends I don't have to worry about if I am going to get hurt by them or not. One is my bible study teacher who loves us (meaning I and the other two guys) very much and then one who I have known for awhile now. Then you have this guy who I have known for about a year and a half now. Here the thing though I like this one and he likes me. Here’s the thing we don't want to go out with each other. We both are too young and not ready for marriage. A lot of people make fun of us because we have set boundaries even though we are just friends. We can’t even give each other a side hug no holding hands nothing. I know it may seem odd but I don’t want him to trip or fall with his walk with Christ so we have set these. Our bible study teacher and our parents are helping us out with these as much as possible. Even though my parents think it is a bit out there I am still sticking to it. It is hard yes but with God all things are possible. People ask me what the boundaries are for. I tell them it is to help us both out so we don’t fall. Then they say well it’s ok to do this or that. Then I tell them boundaries is not a line it’s a path and if you push your way over you get hit by on coming traffic. -Laura-
- Laura

Monday, Dec 10, 2007 - 12:14:58 AM
Having guy friends is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. my friend charlie has always been there for me and we've never had any romances. having a friend of the oppisite sex is a great advantage to everybody. even if you have a same sex friend they don't know what the guys think. only guys know what guys think. i think everybody can have a very healthy relationship with their friends of the different sex without having something romantic.
- christa

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:59:22 PM
guys and girls can be friends i have plenty witch i like cuz i can talk to them about anything its good but i dont know there cool as that cuz i have problems i can talk to certain ones of them so yea they can jus be friends
- Kayla

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:50:55 PM
I have a friend that is girl.we were friends since we were 4th grade.when i have any problem she is there for me no matter what but since we went to same Hih school she still my friend i'm really lucky to find her as a friend. we go out every time,we never argued that is how people will expirience when they have opposite sex friends.to have a girlfriend or boyfriend it's a disater some time so i will encourage people to expirience having friends with opposite sex like us.
- khalid

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:48:44 PM
hey i love your show! im listenin to it right now.. awesome!!! i feel so bad for these people especially the ones who have problems with their parents! i know exactly how they feel!! i would love to talk to you sometime! im 12 years old by the way.
- Callie B.

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:47:26 PM
Dawson, I agree with you to a point. I know that girls and guys can be friends....best friends at that, but what happens when the oppisite sex falls in love with your husband and wants more then a friendship, and your husband can't see it? This friend goes to a point of making sure that our relationship is always miserable, like text messaging me and leaving me voicemails that my husband and her are having an affair, and when you ask your husband to drop her because of the disrespect she has for me, he tells me that it's not fair for me to make him choose between me and his best friend? I just think that guys and girls can be friends, but the closer they get sometimes it may get to be more then that. I know I am being long winded....its all a long story, but I think that it can a majority of the time go to a higher level other then friendship.
- Suzi

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:42:09 PM
my boyfriend and i argue over this topic all the time. i swear that guys/girls can't be friends! i've never had a friendship like this unless the guy was gay. also, my guy friends that did exist always turned into my boyfriends. my current boyfriend has a lot of friends who are girls. he admitted that he used to have sexual thoughts about them, further proving my point. a guy can't just be friends with a girl and visa versa. if you spend enough time together, you'll end up kissing or something. i just don't think any innocent opposite sex friendship can exist. it sounds good in theory, but i've never seen it done..
- Kylie

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:39:33 PM
i agree about having friendships with the opposite sex. i have a few female friends and do tend to develope a brother sister relationship with them. now while it could be possible to have a relationship with one but never really wanted to risk the friendship. also most of them are in their own relationship and we tend to help one another make it through the hard times.
- Jesse

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:38:46 PM
I definately agree with you. All my life most of my friends have been guys. I've learned sooo much about how differently guys think than us. When I'm looking for some one to date, my guy friends have been very good at telling me who to avoid and who is a "real" good guy. I know this blog isn't about dating but the boyfriend I have now was one of my best friends for four years. One day I realized the whole time I've been complaining and asking him for advice on the opposite sex that he was just what I was looking for. We have the same goals and ideas on things. I've learned a lot from him.
- Candy

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:38:18 PM
I totally love this blog, and I agree with it in every respect. Having guy friends is the best, its like having your own personal Cia or something. My best friend in the whole world is this guy that ive known for 4 years now. And I love him like a brother, weve always been there for each other and there have been alot of rough spots that weve gotten through. Point being that I know he will always be there for me and I absolutly love that feeling. The only thing that gets to me is when people cant accept that you have these sorts of relationships with other guys (or for guys - Girls) People always assume your flirting, or "somethings going on" and its totally bogus. But on the whole? Its the best thing thats ever happened to me.
- rae

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:25:51 PM
Allo. My name is Raven...I've heard ur show a few times and I've REALLY wanted to call but I forgot what my adress was.But u can talk to me by email if u want.I just REALLY need some one to talk to right now.Thanks. Your Friend Raven
- Raven E.

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:23:55 PM
wats up. i was best friends with a girl in MS and dated her this summer and im now a freshman in HS. we talk but its different now. she wants to go back out but im nervous. what do you think
- tj

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:19:41 PM
How do you have a close friend of the opposite sex when you are married or about to be married? That would be almost impossible. Your husband or wife would think that you are cheating, and your friends would think that you are cheating too.
- Jeremy

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:18:20 PM
I love this topic. I'm 21 and I still haven't had that "serious relationship". I love my guy friends.. There's 2 who have been more like other brothers to me. Take it- my one brother and I are real close. But these 2 guys that I'm friends with- they're so easy to talk to. They help me out, I help them out. They respect me and they look out after me as if I was a little sister. I love the comfort of a guy friend. We always have the best times together. You rock, Dawson.
- amanda

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 11:13:30 PM
Wow, That is great! I think I would consider a girl I know as a best friend! I also know a guy who I would consider my brother and I now know a girl who I would consider a sister. I totally agree. Thank you very much :)
- Alex

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 10:25:33 PM
hey! dawson! i had (in a sort of speaking) a really good guy friend but then he asked me out and i said yes. (bad move) we dated for a lil' while then we realized we were just meant to be friends.......how open should we be now? should i still come to him with relationship problems? (also he is my best friends' ex also )
- marie

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 10:14:18 PM
I agree with you beyond reasoning Dawson. I have a guy friend that is almost like my brother. I keep getting guys coming up to me asking me out and what not. Everytime I turn to him. Its like he is my rock in a way. There is no drama when you look at us. I am the same with him. We are both happily single. That was something I thought I would never say. I was dating this guy for three years, I'm 17 now and that was about last may that we broke up... but I really loved this guy and just started to date every other guy that asked me out. It was the worst choice I had ever made. It waisted my life. Thats when I met Josh. He was so much fun to hang around.We know are constantly together and so much happier. Its like he is my long lost Big Brother.
- Jamie

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:37:05 PM
dawson, i think is a really great blog. i totally i agree with it. i mean, i know what you mean. my closest friends are all girls. and wow, it really helps. i mean, girls can really understand you from a different point of view than another guy would. and they wont laugh at you or call you a wuss if you're like sensitive or something. they'll be there for you to talk to you. as a guy, i dont think a lot of us can be like that. not saying there arent guys out there who can really listen, there's just not a ton. well, thats pretty much all i just wanted to say.
- Matt

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:36:42 PM
i love your talk show on 104.7
- Leah

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:07:51 PM
Hey Dawson! I was just wondering if you could give me some advise? Well nine years ago my mom and dad got deversed and I was not allowed to see him. Well now that my aunt and uncle are living with him I talked to him for the first time in nine years. It was so emotional! He wants me to come and live with him and I really want to live with him but I don't want my mom to hate me for that. Do you think it would be ok
- Tori H.

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:06:18 PM
i think being just friends has a better way of teaching you about the oppsite sex. i am friends with many guys and then when you finally decide to go out with that friend you know alot about them and that makes the relationship between you two.
- emily

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:05:44 PM
hey ok i make it work i tell my guy friend that we make bettter frends and he agrees but he still wants to go out w/me but we've known eachother for like ever so yeah but he's like my brother and i'm his best friend w/beneits he says but i hope somewhere he says "she's my sister, that's gross" at least i hope he does that. but to answer your question i tell him that i will never go out w/ him and that it will ruin our friendship and make us not all that close as we are and he does'nt get all that mad because yes i flirt w/ him but i say hey you know we are friends and then somedays when i will tell him why i am so mad or why i am sad and he makes it all better no matter what. that's what i tell Chance!
- brooklynn p.

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:04:07 PM
I have a lot of friends. Just because your friends are the opposite sex doesnt always mean that your friends with benifits. The guy friends I have I love them like brothers but some people think differently and that aint that fair they always think we are a couple and That is no where near the truth.
- ellie

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:02:00 PM
I have lots of "Just Friends" relationships oith guys, but one secifically. He is dating another friend of mine and he is like a big brother to me, lie you have laready pionted out. But more than anything, people seem to GET THEIR CONFIDENCE FROM THE OPPOSITE SEX most of the time. If you have a good friend of the opposite sex, like me, and they compliment you on something and encourage you to do what's right then you got something good right there. When you hae a group of people of the same sex and then you have your own friend of the opposite sex with you and somethign was to come up and everyone starts hassling you, they are more likely to go withthe opinion of your friend then you, because people also tend to LISTEN to the opposite sex more than their own.
- Rachel

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:00:53 PM
i wrote in last week about this subject and my relationship with my best friend of the opposite sex. i like seeing this on here because it show my peers that you dont have to have FWB just to have a best friends thats the other gener. its a great thing to have them there and to have your back and catch you when you fall. thanx a bunch! =D
- marissa

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 9:00:14 PM
Dawson I think it's great that your putting this out for people to think about. I have a friend who is just friends and she helps me understand why things happen and is always there for me and I'm always there for her. We've joked about how we would make a great couple because we get along so well and understand each other but we both have a agreement that we won't because we don't want to ruin the great relationship we have. Whenever I need some relationship help she's always there to give me advice and a females view.
- Joe 19 Brooklyn, Ohio

Sunday, Dec 9, 2007 - 8:59:00 PM
I really agree with this blog. Guys and girls don't really understand each other and if you have a friend from the opposite sex, they can help you out when you need it. It's a lot better to have a "Just Friends" relationship than to always go and date them. It really does help out a lot.
- Tabitha