Just Friends - Part 2

• Just Friends helps people respect the friendship they have.
• Just Friends helps people have a great brother/sister relationship.
• Just Friends helps people learn more about the opposite sex.

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:54:18 PM
Dear Dawson I have the best friend and he is such a nice guy! For ex:we have a friend and he had this sickness so he could not go to school in the first grade! And on Holloween he pushed Ben (the other friend) around the neighborhood! Ben he has hearing adds and my friend pushes him around school(he is in a wheel chair) even if it is out of his way!!!! P.S.
- kristin

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:53:21 PM
i have 3 girls that are just friends and i think it help because if you have a problem they can help.
- stephen

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:53:14 PM
Most of my best friends are of the opposote sex. This past year one of my very close guy friends asked me out. I didn't like him at first, but i said yes because he was my friend. I ended up being almost 'addicted' to him. He eventually broke up with me and it hurt like crazy! Being friends with guys is a great thing! Girls can be and will be horrible friends! Guys are always there though! ~Ali =)
- Ali

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:52:54 PM
so my sisters best friend is a guy and they are just friends but everybody else thinks they should be more then friends but they are like brother and sister so it is possible
- bobbi

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:52:42 PM
Being friends with guys is really cool but it is harder to be friends with a guy that broke up with you a week ago. I feel like he broke up with me because of something I did so we had a talk and then I let everything go. Sometimes that is the best thing to do.
- Kimberly

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 6:52:13 PM
well i'm currently have a "just friends." but we became friends cause we were both attracted to eachother. it's been really hard to keep it as just friends because of that. there's also only so close you can be as freinds without being in a relationship. this is were our friendship is. it's a hard decision whether to actually have a relationship or keep it as just friends. cause there's no guarentee that if the relationship doesn't work that you'll still be able to be good friends. but there's always the possibility that it could work. so i guess the point is be careful how close you get to that "just friends." especially if you've been (or are!)attracted to the person.
- heidi

Thursday, Dec 20, 2007 - 12:34:27 AM
Being friends with a guy can be so great but also very hard. My best friend is a male and he treats me just like any of his other friends which is good but it gets really annoying sometimes when he just talks about girls and what he wants to do with them :P ick! i dont want to know that! We are friends and all but i am a girl and some things that he tells me are things a girl either doesnt want to know or shouldnt know! he talks about this girl 1 week and i diff one the next. i love him to death but it gets hard.
- Breezy :)

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 10:46:24 PM
i have a buch of friends who are guys, and i think i have more fun with them than some of my girl friends. it's odd really, but most of my friends before i started school were guys, and quite a few of my guy friends now are the same, but my girl ones arent.
- alyssa

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 10:46:09 PM
I think that being friends with the opposite sex is really important. My best friend is a guy name Tyler he is the best friend i could ever ask for hes always there for me...more then any of my friends that are girls.
- samantha

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 10:45:54 PM
well i can say that i DO have a best friend that is a guy. and it can be chalenging at times because we used to date but i no longer like him like that and we promised that we would be best friends till the end and that is what we are going to do. i think that it is more hard for him cuz i think that he still does have feelings for me and that can be hard for him. but there is also ups to have a best friend that is the opposite sex and that is that if u are having problems u can go to ur best friend and talk to them and tell them what they think that u should do about it. yes i could be hard for the other friend if one of them starts dating but they are just friends nothing more and if they want to be more like go out or what not i think that they should do that. but they will just have to learn how to deal with that if one starts going out with someone else. i know it is hard for my best friend to have to sit and hear all about my guy problems but that is what he said that he was there for to talk whenever i needed it. right. ~Lucia P. Faribault, MN~
- Lucia P.

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 2:02:32 AM
i am really good friends with a guy we are like brother and sister and its just gross to think about him in anyother way all my girl friends always tell me hes so hot and all this and im like eww gross dont talk to me about him like that...i love him and i would do anything for him and make sure that the right girl comes in his life but i can never imagine me and him being more than just friends...but i love having a best guy friend because i can talk to him about anything its great. ~Nicole~
- nicole

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 2:00:48 AM
i may be only 12 but yes, i agree that you can have just friends. and i also think that it is a great experience because you don't like them at all or whatever..you just like them as a great friend. because they are always there by your side, but never there too often, and always there when you need them, but never there to much. thanks dawson for everything you do!
- Kayla

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 2:00:24 AM
i have a gf i thik she like i my friend ummmmm so can i do and tell her wat this is the 2 time
- andy

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 2:00:04 AM
Well I have a really good guy friend of mine named Corry. And yes it is difficult to to watch your best friend be with some one else when inside all you want to do is be with him. I know that feeling and honestly i can't think of a right answer or wrong answer to Dawson's question but i do know that when i finally told him that i had feeling for him it turned out that he had the same feeling for me. The relationship didn't last that long but at least he knew how i truly felt and i knew how he truly felt and we are still best friends to this day. So if you are this predicament the best thing i can says is talk to him. He's your best friend he'll listen to what ever you have to say.
- Lisa M.

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:59:28 AM
hello dawson why i love your show. amazing what one person can do to help many teenagers and young adults with problems. keep up
- katrina

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:59:15 AM
Just friends. I have tons of them. Granted most want down my pants, but I think of them as "brothers". So it can be problem when one person decides "just friends" isn't good enough. What happens when one friend starts dating someone else? AWKWARD MUCH....... Amy
- Amy

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:58:45 AM
well... i have a friend relationship w buddy ive known him for 2 years... we talk about everything... but what comes into play alot with him. my bf that i have also known for 2 years but recently started dating.... as having a guy friend.. my bf gets very very jelouse... and thats just redic. in my opion u cant cut everyone off..
- christina, charleston south carolina

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:58:10 AM
Hey Dawson, I've had a guy friend who I thought we were close as friends. I Love JUST guy friends. I told him everything but I found out he wanted more than a friend. He thought that if we are good friends we could have Sex. I was so wrong about him. I trusted him and told him everything. It shows you need to know if that person is trustworthy and is that is really there for you and for your needs not there sexual needs. You need to tell yourself that you won't let a close friend treat you like you have been used. It's not what teens need at this time of there lives.I've made sure that I pick my friends wisely.
- *Sara*

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:56:57 AM
It’s very difficult to have friends of opposite sex because there are no guarantees what will happen. I always have male friends never female friends and lately they do not seem so appealing to me because they always ask my advice about someone they want to date. Lately, one of my male friends in particular asked my advice about getting back with his ex and I told him it was a terrible idea considering why they broke up initially. But he went ahead anyway and it hurts really badly and I asked myself why that happened because usually I just give my opinion and not care what the other person does. Then I realized that it was because I had feelings for him that I wasn’t ready to admit. Also, when people of opposite sex are so close, and one start dating the other might feel left behind. They could both jeopardize each others chances of meeting new people depending on how close they are. Having an opposite sex as friends as more cons than pros most often.
- nike

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:55:32 AM
When people have friendships with the opposite sex I believe that it sometimes is a good thing because you can have a really good conversation. The only thing is that many times when you have that special friendship with the opposite sex there is a lot of sexual tension. Many times in opposite sex friendships many people feel that there "close" friends could never hurt there feelings. If you take a look at the bigger picture, when there is sexual tension in that friendship, most of the time we end up losing a friend.
- heather

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:54:58 AM
I think there are many challenges to having friends with the opposite sex, but also great benefits. Recently, actually, though, my best friend who happens to be a guy has turned out to like me. So, there is that chance of being friends with the opposite sex that they'll turn out to like you as more than a friend. People should really have friends of both genders because it could help them to figure out what they want they're future spouse to be like.
- Elizabeth

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:51:20 AM
there can be so many challenges when being friends with the opposite sex. one person can start to really like the other person a lot. Or one person can have strong intense feelings for the other person and try to do something with that person, that is not ready for that step of a relationship.
- sam

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:51:05 AM
i have a person like this in my life currently and we knew each other for about 18 months before anything romantic was to blossom and we became really great friends who respect each other, talk to each other quite often and we enjoy spending time together when we can. it took me a long time to find somebody like him and i wouldn't trade him for the world.
- maureen

Wednesday, Dec 19, 2007 - 1:09:46 AM
My best friend is a male, and the main thing I notice when we are out and about is that people think we are a "couple". Other than that minor thing, I see nothing wrong with having an opposite sex best friend.
- Melody

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:43:36 AM
I have a girl who I am just friends with and although it has been good in the past, it has gotten a little challenging. She is very honest with me about things in her life, especially when dealing with her boyfriend, her home life, and her relationships with others. I don't mind her needing to let her feelings out to me, but sometimes I get frustrated because she's either depressed or angry or both most of the time and seems to complain about everything. As a side note, I found it interesting that, after reading what you said about protectiveness and examining my actions and feelings, I am protective of her at times, especially when it comes to her boyfriend and his actions that haven't always been the most thoughtful or beneficial to the relationship. I never viewed this as being protective of her though, until now. Another danger I've found with these relationships is flirting; this same friend says that I flirt with her occasionally, although I make no effort to do so (we've agreed to keep our relationship platonic) and wouldn't recognize it if I did, unless I was being deliberate about it. I've also been told I do it with another of my "just friends" on occasion, by her boyfriend, no less (although he doesn't mind, because he trusts her and me completely and knows that relationship is also platonic). However, if it's easy to innocently slip from friendly interaction into flirting without realizing it, as it seems is happening to me, this might be a hazard, especially if that person has a less-than-understanding boyfriend, or it might push away a potential "just friend" who isn't looking for a relationship with you.
- Jonathan

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:42:48 AM
hello Dawson, I believe that friendships with the oppisite can really help you experience you love life better. if you have a problem with your boyfriend/girlfriend your friends will always have your back and can help you out. But it is difficult at times. Most of my best friends are guys, who mean the world to me. But at times it can become difficult. Guys may be the same age as you but the dating process for them is usually lower than girls. It can also be difficult when you start to fall for one of yourfriends, but they like someone else. But all and all having oppisite sex friends i believe is worth all of the extra effort. My boys mean the world to me and i would not be the same girl i am today if it wasnt for him. So i would say go for it, but make sure they are just friends, and if you try to get more than friends make sure your both on the same page. Otherwise it can end up hurting you/him/her and the friendships that used to be really amazing! Hope this helped you Dawson, Your show is amazing i try and listen to it every sunday if i can. Allyson
- allyson

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:40:03 AM
I have a really good just friend realtionship with this guy, but lately I have started to like him more than just a friend. I found out he likes my best girl friend and I feel like my heart is being crushed. I feel confused if you can't tell.
- nessa

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:39:48 AM
hey dawson yeah i think that it is possible to be just friends with someone of the oppisite sex i love you show so much!! you have helped soooo many people it's great!!!!!!!! email me back i would appreciate it love always -Angela
- Angela

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:39:32 AM
Having best friends from the oppisite gender is good. but also bad. Its good because you have someone where you can tell them how you feel and what your going thrugh...But it can be bad because all those times spent with them can be turned into feelings such as love. I know that because it happend to me. My best guy friends became the guy of my dreams. And it can be really painful to try to get rid of those feelings because you know they arent correct.
- Ana

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:39:07 AM
I have a ton of close friends who are guys, and some of them are just plain awesome! I have older brothers though, and I fell that has definetly helped me be more relaxed around guys. I have some friends who just can't seem to be friends with guys without wishing they were more than friends. Some I guess some people jsut can't do it. I seem to have the opposite problem. I like just being friends to boyfriend/girlfriend. Someday I'll find a guy who I can be more than friends with, but until then, my guy friends are great!
- Mary A.

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:38:58 AM
My name is liz and one of the most common and hardest thing to do is getting over the fact that one of you best friend ( a guy ) is going out with one of your best friends ( a girl) because you are used to getting to hang out with him at his house and being able to talk to him about things but when he starts going out with you best friend you kinda just dissapear in the whole thing...and i think that it is one of the hardest things to get over.....
- liz

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:37:57 AM
some challenges are not falling in love with him/her! Other challenges are watching them get hurt and wishing you could help! You always want whats best for a just friend and sometimes that is a challange!! (samantha)
- Samantha B.

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:36:41 AM
I have a guy friend named Joel. It is nice to have a friend the oppoxsite sex of you because they arn't always talkin about girl crap, like guys. You can be yourself and do maore things that make you active, like playing tag or something silly like that. There is no pressure of dating either or hurting feelings in the dating way. Here is his point of view. IT IS FUN HAVEING A FIREND THAT IS A GRIL BECAUES SHE IS NICER THEN MOST BOYS I KNOW .
- Kelsey

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:35:53 AM
I have a friend named Joel. He lives by me and a nice thing about having a friendship with a person the opposite sex of me is that they are not always talking about girl crap, like guys for example. W
- Kelsey

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:35:20 AM
I have several guy friends. Actually, I am just "one of the guys". I enjoy it very much. Every now and then I will think that one of them likes me, to just have it smushed in my face when they really don't. I think it is healthy to have guys as friends. Or having girls as friends if you are a guy. That way, you know how to respond to the opposite sex when you get into a relationship. I have heard from a lot of my mother's friends that when they were growing up they didn't hang out with guys. And now they wish that they had.
- Megan

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:34:55 AM
I totally agree on the only staying best friends thing. Some of the challenges i have found when two of your best friends date it really is not a pretty thing. I had this best friend that i have known since the 3rd grade and then when we go older he found he liked my best friend. Which this was okay at first we still had lots of fun together the three of us. That was until it got to wierd for the 'three' of us to hang out. And i ended up just getting left out. It is alot easier just to stay friends because once one friend tells you all this stuff about how bad of a boyfriend he is. It hurts to have someone talk about your friend like that. And when your friend is flirting with another guy really bad it makes you mad and frustrated knowing that your friend has no idea what is going on. And most of the friendships i have seen and the one i went through is that you usually lose one of your friends. I have hardly any contact with my guy friend because his girlfriend might freak out or he just doesnt have time for anyone else any more. So just staying friends is the best idea! And it is alot more fun. And there is no pressure on how you guys act around each other.You cant ever go back to just being the three of you so why ruin that know?
- Heather.

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:34:10 AM
I agree with Lauren on this one.
- Dustin

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:33:28 AM
hey dawson! i just wanted 2 say that ur rite! having opposite sex friendz iz great but also having oposite sex friendz iz kinda hard at timez. i hav a lot of guy friendz and they're all awesome but itz kind of difficult bcuz a few of them lik me in a way that i dont lik them....one of my friendz has asked me several timez even tho he knowz im already seeing someone and that i just want 2 b friendz w/ him and each time he asks it getz harder and harder 2 b friendz w/ him.....another friend of mine also likez me in that way but fortunately goes down when shot down.....im not saying that opposite sex friendshipz r bad they're actually great! my best friend in the ENTIRE WORLD!! iz a guy....he and i hav been best friendz since diaperz and i can talk 2 him about ANYTHING!! he and i r alwayz there for each other and i lov him 2 death!!! we can talk about nething even opposite sex problemz.....we understand and respect each other and i kno i can alwayz count on him!! but u kno the whole bf/gf thing sometimez workz out i wuz very gd friendz w/ this guy for about 3 yrz and then one day he asked me 2 b hiz gf...it worked out great and we're still together and i lov him not only in a special way but also in a way of friendship and thatz important. u kno im lucky bcuz i hav so many guy friendz that lov him and i kno that some girlz dont hav that a lot of girlz' guy friendz wouldnt do the thingz mine do for me lik i hav some amazing friendz that even tho we may b just friendz and dating other ppl they would still cuddle me and hug me and all that stuff and im glad that i hav them
- Becca

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:32:03 AM
The challenges of being just a friend are for instinsts people think you are more then frinds.When people think that friends seem to stop hanging out together sometimes because of what people sometimes say.A nother challenge of being just friends two friends of the oppisite sex are that one might like the other one more then just a friend and that can really might mess up a friend reletionship because one might feel a little akward when with the other one.Another thing with the one that likes the other person more then a friend is that the other person will act different when and that can really damage a friend relationship.The last reason i have is because the one friend might want to be more then friends and the other one says lets just be friends and the person that likes the other one will get mad and not be friend swith them because of that.Those are some challenges of friends of the oppisite sex.
- mariah

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:29:44 AM
well i have alot of male friends that are just frinds.It isnt always easy but i learn as i go.Not dating doesnt really come up very often.It still does though. It cant be a touchy issue if they start to have feelings for me and i dont share those same feelings.I try not to date my friends.I try to keep them as just friends!
- laura mcd

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:29:15 AM
I don't think any harm can come out of a opposite sex freindship i currently have a girl who i have a very good freindship with but there is not any "love" attraction she's like a sister
- Dalton

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:20:12 AM
Some challenges of having a friend of the opposite sex is when they start dating someone else and it starts to get serious, you tend to be more protective of them more than some of their friends might. you tend to me more protetive of their feelings because it is more like a brother sister relastionship rather than a friend to friend situation. Sometimes a challenge is that people portray you as a couple no matter how many times you deny it. you get pressured and nagged about how much time you spend with them. I got over it and realized that it doesnt matter because the raltionship is so much more than that!
- Marissa

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:19:17 AM
hey dawson..well i dont really have a friend who is a girl..lol...i moved here from bd like 1 yr ago n there guys dont really talk to girl..so yea it was hard to talk to girls but im workin on it.....
- JD

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:15:59 AM
My husband has a friend of the opposite sex that he has lied to me about talking to six times now. I have told him that it bothers me that he talks to her, and he says that they are just friends and he is going to talk to her no matter what I say. How am I supposed to feel about that? He said that he is not going to hide it anymore, but it really bothers me that it is another woman that I have never met and has talked really bad about me, shouldn't he understand how I feel and not talk to her, please help!!
- Erin

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:14:10 AM
I have had the same male friend since 2nd grade. We talk about anything and everything. No matter what has happened in our lives we have always been there for eachother. When ever we have had a question about the opposite sex we always asked eachother. Being friends with a guy all these years has taught me how to be comfortable with my husband. I can ask any question or act any way i want and not be emberassed or ashamed. There are not pressures when its just a friend situation. My husband left for training with the Marine Corp and he asked my male friend to take care of me while he was gone. I was 7 months pregnant when my husband left. I love having a friend of the opposite sex that i can feel protected with when my husband is not able to be here bc of the military.
- Tiffany G.

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:12:24 AM
i think having a friend of the opposite sex is great because then you can tlk to that person and get an opinion from both sides... its amazing
- kaitie

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:12:07 AM
I think that the best kind of friend relationship is with a guy beacuse most of them wont judge you.
- Tiffany P.

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:11:02 AM
Hey i think this blog is totally true! i have a bestfriend guy frend named angel...he is my ALL time best frend..and i totally think u can have a best frend from the opposite sex without anything happening...i listne to your show every sunday nite and i think your totally right.
- Brytne

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:08:42 AM
I have a best guy friend...He is one of the very few ppl thats completely honest w/ me it doesn't matter how it makes me feel he tells me no lies...and he is always there to lift me up and make me feel good about myself..I'm very thankful to have him in my life...So i guess what i'm saying is Just Friends is a good idea if you do it right and are always honest....-nikki P.S. love u nate
- Nikki

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:08:16 AM
I have a 'Just Friend'. And he has saved my life quite a few times. And I love him for it. I come from a HUGE family. I'm one of ten kids. 5 boys and 5 girls. But I really don't have a close relationship with any of them. So last year when my best guy friend walked into my life, when I was at one of the hardest times to get through, I realized God had finally answered my prayer. He sent me, my protector...my "Guardian Angel". Noah, will take anyone down that tries to hurt me. And he listens to my problems, and offers me great Christian advice. The funny thing is, Noah...is also my brother's best friend. Kind of funny how God worked that out. I've known him my entire life, but we've only been friends a year...and I feel closer to Noah than I do to anyone else!
- Katharine

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:07:32 AM
i think that it's a good thing, having "just friends" wiht the opposite sex. the one problem is that some people can't understand that your just friends.
- Anna

Tuesday, Dec 18, 2007 - 2:07:19 AM
There is a Possabity That Could Happen.. And I Have A Couple Of Guy Friends That I Dont Date But I Want to.. But I Have Said Anything To the Boys. Megan
- Megan

Monday, Dec 17, 2007 - 12:03:50 AM
I agree, haveing a best friend is great, there is no sexual pressure, no proving yourself, none of that crazy confusing things about dating and wonders... They are always there to talk, share their opinions, they always have their arms open for comforting... It's awesome!! But what about the part where you want to be held?? You want to cuddle and watch a movie, to just know that your loved, and not in the brotherly way... I've never had a boyfriend, I've always had guy friends... but these things I've mentioned are the things I long for the most. And it's not the same sitting with your best guy friend... Some, or actually most,of my guy friends wouldn't want to just cuddle, it's just not the same!!! What then??
- lauren

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 11:59:17 PM
I am 21 years old. when I was 15 I got pregnant by a very good friend of mine and we got married trying to make it work then we had a second child when I was 18 then 6 months later we ended up seperating. and for the longest time we couldnt stand each other. now it has been three years and we are the bestest of friends we love each other like brother and sister and we will always be there for each other. we can sit and talk forever about the ost random things. I never thought I would ever be so close to him. being just friends is so much better than having to deal with all the drama of a relationship.
- Krista

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 11:00:45 PM
Hey Dawson,i like your blog. i have just friend who is a girl.I know her in my school but she graduated last year and now she is in college and she is helping me when i graduate this year which classes should i take when i go to college.so i have 15 brothers but i don't have any sisters. When day i locked my car into my keys and it was like midnight and actually it was snowing,I just give her call and she came to give me ride to my house that's the only time i figure she is not my friend but she is my sister.how come midnight someone who is sleeping will come to u and give u a ride?i really liked her as my sister. so now it's shame for me to start a drama like boyfriend and girlfriend. it's not confortable for me to start the drama of bf/gf. To find just a friend is great.
- Khalid

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 10:35:53 PM
I have a female friend and we've known eachother sence 3rd grade and were now in 7th and im dateing her bestfriend and her being just a oppiset sexed friend is grate because i can just talk to her about what ever from A to Z i can ask questions about what i should get her bestfriend ( my girlfriend) for christmas. haveing oppiset sexed friends are great
- Christian

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 10:13:55 PM
hi- i am Clara i went out with this guy and we had a really harsh break up.I never want to end being part of his life and we stared a great friendship!!We are now best friends and it is the best thing ever!
- clara

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 10:13:37 PM
i have so many guy friends n my girl friends say that we should go out because we look cute together. but we dont because we consider eachother as sister and brother. wat should i do??
- comment left on DMLive MySpace by ~ TEAR AWAY..

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 9:59:32 PM
I want to say thank you dm for your blog... I called in about 2 weeks ago because I just ended my friends with benefits and it was really painful for me... I couldnt understand why I was good for one thing and not having a relationship with the guy I had fallen head over heels for... Just reading your blog has helped me through the painful process of healing but to be honest I have learned from that mistake... It was the first time I did "friends with benefits" but to be honest thats the last time... I learned that I degraded myself and stooped lower than I thought I would ever do. So if anyone is in a relationship like that its not healthy for anyone...
- Katie

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 9:22:13 PM
Im 13 and have gone through all the boyfriend drama. Its a lot funner in my opinion to have a close friend thats the opposite sex.
- Lindsey

Sunday, Dec 16, 2007 - 12:19:54 PM
hi I'm Briana 13 and it's great to be in a just friends relationship. but there are times when I'm accused of being his girlfriend and this always gets to me. but maby i to want to be his girlfriend *thinks*
- Briana

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 11:09:27 PM
The main challenges I, personally have with having guys as friends, is its reallyy easy to slip and start flirting with them if you feel alone or something. orr if you're just a big flirt, Even if you don't like them. Another challenge is jealousy. If a guy friend has a date, you may feel like oh, hes not going to have time for me now that he has a date/girlfriend. But that isn't true at all. If they are truely your friend they will stick to being there for you, even if they have a girlfriend. Also, another challenge is just the fact that some people can't except that your -just friends-. If you talk to them or hang out with them, all you get is oooo!!'s or something. Everyone seems to think you CANT be just friends with a guy.
- Ashley

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:10:45 PM
Hey Dawson, well i have a lot of friends tht are girls and i've wanted nothing more than a friendship from them but im not gay lol.
- Brandon

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:10:38 PM
I think that the challenges to a just friend relationship, is actually not falling in love with "the friend." It usually happens that it's only "one" person that ends up falling in love and with a heart broken.
- asher

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:10:33 PM
Being in a "just friends" relationship has it's highs and lows just like any other relationship. Even though you love each other, there are times you won't LIKE each other. Another challenge is JEALOUSY! When you have a "just friends" relationship with the opposite sex, and that person begins to date, jealousy kicks in. You may not like who he/she is dating, or you may feel hurt that he/she is spending time with another man/woman. When this happens you gotta subdue the jealousy monster, and let your friend know how you feel, but that you will support his/her's decision. Honesty is the BEST
- Cally C.

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:33:31 AM
Hi Dawson - I just wanted you to know that I was here tonight(12-14-07 6:36 pm). You may understand a little later. Cherry
- Cherry H.-M.

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:30:12 AM
Hi Dawson i am 14 and i have just guy friends i think they are great to have becasue they are like your older brothers and they can be your best friends ever. They dont have big attitudes like girls do. They are great friends you dont have to date guys to be friends with them you can be JUST friends
- Kayla R.

Saturday, Dec 15, 2007 - 12:29:32 AM
I have a Just Friend who used to be someone I had dated. I think the challenge with that is because of our past, it's been three years though, and there are days where I miss him and think about him as if we were together but that ship has sailed. Now that we're friends, we're together everyday, we talk on the phone, we can go out somewhere together and it wouldn't feel like any pressure is involved of any sort. It was hard for me to accept our frienship at first because of how I felt towards him, but, with him being around me more and he doesn't treat me any differently or any more or less special as a friend, it reassures me he's there for me as a friend and I think after crossing that challenging bridge it has allowed me to mature as a person. I've honestly appreciated our frienship because the connection is strong, there's no doubt that. Some people see him as that comfort that fills a void, I see differently. It's something you seriously have to go through and experience before saying you have a Just Friend.
- camille