Challenges of Just Friends

Thursday, Jan 3, 2008 - 12:19:24 AM
yes i've a broken heart but ice cream and love from some friends really helped me get over it!!
- destiny

Thursday, Jan 3, 2008 - 12:17:44 AM
I had a boyfriend that came over mostly every weekend and i was stupid enough to think this was THE one he always said i have to go early cause my mom needs me... and i really belived him until i saw him at the mall that night making out with another gabbie.... i didnt know what to do..... should I go up to him and say something or should I leave it alone and never talk to him again? i decided that i jst wont ever talk to him EVER AGAIN he called me that night and said hey sorry i had to leave early my mom needed me 4 something.....i couldn't hear another lie so i busted out crying and said "i saw u at the mall making out with gabbie!" he sat there in slince for a minute or two....and i said well i guess this means we are going to have to break up.....he said "good you were jst a fill in" i felt sad and like i have just been walked on... and since then i have not been really good at trusting boys any more.!....is that bad? ~Gabbie D.~
- gabbie d.

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 9:15:00 PM
i have never had to get over a broken heart. idk how but i am thee type of person that always has a smile on my face. i just got out of my first relationship and when we broke up i realized that we just werent meant to be. We are becoming like best friends and its great. If you let it get to you and break your heart, you dont have the oppurtunity to become friends with them because you are still dealing with the heartbreak. its better to have a poitive attitude for everything and think what good has come of it and then you get more outta life
- Rissa

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 7:20:56 PM
The way that i get over a brokenheart is to spend as much time as possible with family and my girl friends. the best thing for me to do to get over a boyfriend is to just delete his number and get rid of all means on communication with him so the temptation doesnt stand to call him or email him whenever im missing him or am just feeling lonely.
- becca

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 7:20:43 PM
well i've had a broken heart b4 and yes it's hard when it happens but l8r on it get's really easy bc u tend 2 move on and u 4get bout that otha person and now u don't have a broken heart. well last yer my best friend pretty muchly my sister wazs in love with this one guy who is pretty muchly like my bro, but he dumped her bc she was going 2 hs adn he was scared that she was gunna brake ^ w/ him then so he broke her heart but now she's ova him only bc I told her 2 start d8n & she got ova him just like that so yea!
- brooklynn p.

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 7:19:57 PM
I'm really not sure WHICH blog to respond to, but I am going to talk on "Just Friends". BEWARE!!! There will ALWAYS be an attraction when females and males are JUST FRIENDS. Unless the two are not "real" friends, there is no way to avoid a "special" kind of relationship. Love Always- Alexis<3
- Alexis T.

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 7:11:02 PM
I have feelings for my best friend. But he told me he doesnt have the same feelings. I fell in love with him and he just steps all over me and breaks my heart. Its hard for me to get over that but its finally getting easier. What i do is just keep in mind that it cant happen and another thing is. i try not to talk to him much anymore. It hurts too bad.
- Heather

Wednesday, Jan 2, 2008 - 1:06:28 AM
I have this problem with me and girls. I mean honestly, I don't think that I have any problem attracting them but I sometimes have problems with trying to become more than friends with them. They often have the feelings for me and I can return them... for a time until as hard as it is to say because it makes me sound so bad, I get bored. I try not to get into relationships because I know that I can very well end up hurting her and I know how much it hurts cause it hurts me as well. What should I do? Also, I noticed above that there was something about how the messages in society can be very wrong. I find respite from this by disengaging from society but that can leave you in a very hard position where since you reject society, the vast majority of it rejects you back. However, I reap the rewards happily as a free thinker.
- Tiger

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 11:14:59 PM
If you have feelings for your friend and they don't return the same feelings as you it's ok because you will still have them as a friend. I get over a break up by not thinking about the boy i broke up with and just acting normal around him not feeling sad around him. Also i go shopping with my friends and also hang out with them so i don't think about him and not get said. Dawson just want you to know you are doing a really good job. Because there are a lot of kids or young adults that don't have anyone to talk to so you are really helping people.
- Andrea

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 11:05:09 PM
omg i got really serious with a guy this past summer and we started a long distance relationship. we were talking about getting married and everything. well when school started and he just stopped talking to me.ive talked to him recently and hes got a girlfriend and everything. how low is that!?!?he just left me hangin there. it took me forever to get over him but i recently realized that sometimes you have to be the bigger person and be the one to step away and move on. thats what i did and honestly i have never felt better! ☺
- Heather Lee C

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 11:03:41 PM
i was friends with this boy and then after a year he was my boyfriend. But now we broke up because of what people were saying.
- RMS

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:57:46 PM
My heart has been broken and it took about 2 years to get over it. The best thing in the world for a broken heart is time. It's going to hurt for a while and some days will be better than others, but you will eventually get over the person you lost. If its God's will in your life then He will send that person back to you, but if not then you have to move on and accept and trust in God because only He knows whats best for your life. I am now over that broken heart and my life truly couldn't be better right now. The Lord has given me the person that I am going to spend the rest of my life with. Now that I am with Jeff I can see all the things that were wrong in the relationship I had with the other person. Just take it day by day and trust God and He will help you get over that person and send you someone that is worth having. Often He will send you someone when you're least expecting it, but if you are looking then Church would be a wonderful place to start!
- Lindsey

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:54:58 PM
Getting over a broken heart isn't easy, but you have to go on. You just need to tell yourself that things will get better, and they will. And if it's your friend you had feelings fore, you could always focus your energy on keeping that friendship solid. You don't want to have a broken heart and loos a good friend too. If you give yourself time and are patient, things should look up for you. Just look on the bright side and try to focus on something else. I've had this happen to me and this person and I are still very good friends with no awkward feelings at all between us. We are completely fine just being friends with each other now and our situation is really working out.
- Kaitlin

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:41:47 PM
You Know... people say that in order to get over one man, you have to get under another. DONT THINK ABOUT IT! Giving yourself up like that is NOT the answer! you may forget about the pain for a second but when that guy gets up and leaves all your pain will come right back! I do have to say that i am still looking for something or someone to ease my broken heart.... and its been almost a year now. me and my boyfriend dated for about 2 yrs and during those years he cheated on me numerouse times but i didnt care... i was in love. but last july me and my best friend of 4 yrs started butting heads, i found out 1 month later that he had cheated on me with her. THEY SLEPT TOGETHER! i couldnt believe it! i was heart broken, torn up inside, ripped to shreds! i felt as though my world was crashing down on me! i was so hurt but still so in love wit him. we broke up and my best friend and i stopped talking... completely. Its been about 6 months now and it still kills me! She was my bff we did everything together and now she was dating my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first love. I miss them both everyday and there are 3 or 4 days outa the week that i just sit in my room crying because i lost the 2 ppl who meant the most to me. If friends are supposed to be forever then why did mine leave????
- Breanna

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:32:54 PM
Cant Be Because If Your Heart Was Broken you'd be dead!!!!
- Katarah

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:24:01 PM
i recently just had a break-up with a guy that "loved" me or so he said and it wasnt as much of that fact that i just got dumped as it was that i really liked another guy but i liked that guy i was going out with ALOT, ALOT more! and 1 day he broke my heart for another girl and the problem was he lied...alot. so i wasted my time with a lying, cheating(he touched other girls),jerk!
- Erin

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:23:15 PM
well first i call one of my best friends and vetn to her about it. after that i talk to one of my parents about it!!then i go to my room shut the door and put my head phones in and listen to music until i fall asleep!! this trick keeps me frome just sitting around and crying about it all night!! music is my "pain-killer"! i know that was a bad example but for me it works!! now i've told my friends how to do it and they use my technique too!!
- Emily K.

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:20:42 PM
i havent had a broken heart yet and hopefully dont get the chance to experience one. but i think it depends on how severe the broken heart iz will depend on how yu get over it. you should never stay concentrated on your borken heart though. you should be sad for a while but then you gonna have to move on. Because life goes on no matter wat the problem or the situation.
- riah

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:07:20 PM
Well I dated this guy for about six months and when we broke up I felt like I didn't really have a purpose in this world. So I started talking to my youth pastor and she said that some times you have alot on your plate but when some thing like this happens it tends over flow your plate so the best thing to do is pray to God and tell him your problems and tell him your feelings because he is the one true person that will never leave you no matter how bad it gets.He will ALWAYS be there. I took her advice and I prayed about it nd it turned out to be the best thing because I became closer to God. And I thank her every day for that advice and hope some else will read this and take my advice because it works...
- Lisa M.

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 10:06:14 PM
I've had a broken heart before when i lost all my really close friends to me b/c of some choices that i was making and some quote"behaviors i was doing also. so, my heart was broken for the longest time. My encouragement to all of those who have broken hearts out there is that even though you are going through this rough time in your life right now, and are greeving over the lose of someone close to you or just getting over a tough brake up or whatever the case may be you can and will get through this part of your life you just have belive and trust god in all of it and he will get you through it:-). and try to move on with life and think of the good times.
- stacey

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 9:01:28 PM
I'm in the middle of this right now. I have a friend and me and this friend have been really close for a long time and we've done so much together and this friend has been there for me. so of course i developed feelings for my friend but didnt say anything for awhile. but it hurt and it made me conflicted so i told this friend how i felt and i found out that this friend also had feelings for me too and didnt wanna say. it hurts and im conflicted but i think me and this friend should just be friends. mostly because im married. strange. cant help who you love and how you love.
- Emily

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 8:59:36 PM
i have had my heart broken many times before, but theres always one that sticks with you forever. i try to move on with life and look at the brighter side, no its not easy, but you have to be strong for your own well being. i try to remember the good times that i shared with that person and think maybe it better this way.i am still friends with most of my ex's which helps, to know that they still care for you, even if its not in the boyfriend/girlfriend way.
- Ali

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 8:55:27 PM
me and my gf dated for 3 years now.. just last year i tried everything i could to break up with her and date someone else.. i say things that would just make her break down and cry.. force her to do things that she don't want to and even cheated on her.. but she's still would not break up with me.. but just recently i ask her for a break up and she just ask am i sure.. and i say yes.. and with no second thought she's agree.. and since then i've been missing her.. thinking of her.. and lost interest in everything that i used to likes.. and what make it worst? i think back of all the bad things that i've said and done to her.. i really hate myself.. is there anyway that i can say sorry to her? and hopefully i could forgive myself?
- Minh

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 8:22:53 PM
I have dealt with heart issues for a lot of years. I was in a really bad relationship with a man that I thought that I loved, and he never once acted like he cared. So my answer to the question of how to get over a broken heart is the only thing that I found that worked for me. I took time to harden my heart toward this man. I found every bad point that this person had and I hardened myself toward him. I figured if I had no feelings for him then he couldnt hurt me anymore. And I was right. It was so much easier to leave after i numbed myself where he was concerned. I know that is not the healthy approach. But I had tried everything else. I had litterally run out of tears. And I couldnt handle the pain anymore so this is what I did to get over the broken heart. Now I have a man that I can truly love with all my heart and have him return that love.
- christy

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 8:20:58 PM
Have I ever gotten over a broken heart? Honestly, I'm not sure. WHen you really open up to someone and then they just reject your feelings, it hurts. You can try to move on, but once you have those feelings for someone, and those feelings grow stronger, its always hard to just forget about everything and move on. I've tried, and I just ended up feeling worse. If you truly care about someone and they break your heart, I guess you just have to give yourself time to move on. Once you give yourself time, to get over the fact that the person you love, its all uphill. But the struggle to get to the top, let me suggest ice cream. It may be fattening but MAN it is GOOOOD. Thank you Dawson for helping so many people out there, including me. And people reading this, don't let heartbreak bring you down, life is like a wave in the ocean, it can be high and totally worth the ride, or sometimes it just feels like everything is crashing down, but know that you have one life, and plenty of chances to find the person who cares for you as much as you care for them.
- Megan S.

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:06:17 PM
This blog speaks the truth. I've been listening to Dawson on the radio every sunday since august of last year and I think what you do is good. Just listening to you speak to others and help them can help me solve my personal problems to. About the blog. I've followed the rules in this blog with two of my friends. These rules will really help you and even though you may like the person alot it's best to dicipline youself, I followed these easy to follow steps and now I have the two most best friends in the world. ~Jennifer A.
- Jennifer

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:05:28 PM
hey,dawson! me again. about that broken heart thing:i have had many broken hearts. every time i "fall in love", i fall hard. then, something always happens. he's a jerk, it doesn't work out, he doesn't like me back... then i get all depressed over something that was totally a waste of time and tears. then, i go right back to guys to try to solve the problem and it starts all over again. and sometimes, it's with some one i don't even like! i really wanna stop this exhausting habbit! email me back w/ advice PLEASE(!), Dawson.
- CJ

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:05:09 PM
Hey Dawson! i love listening to your radio show on sunday and i just want to say that lisening to other people struggles and you in return helping them and giving them advice, has really help me and still is helping me. Going back to your question about how you get over a break... well for me i just do something, like hanging out with my friends or play sports because sport is one of my thing and when i play it, i don't really think about the break up. I also cut up all the pictures me and that person took and i just loose everything he and i had to not think about all the good times. so i basically do something to get my mind of the break up; but its easy to say then to do...oh Yeah Happy New Year and i hope this year bring joy and happiness to you! -patience
- Patience

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:04:45 PM
I am 20 and I recently went through a big breakup of three years and it is really hard to move on especially if you know that she has already gotten together with someone else shortly after the seperation. You always have that thought in your mind that she was already talking to this guy but you want to believe that she wasnt. It has been 2 months since our seperation and I still have feelings for her but after our huge argument on christmas night she made it easier for me to push those feelings away and forget about it. The one piece of advice I can give anyone is to not hold your feelings in because it will only come back to bite you in the butt in the future. The more you hold in your problems the bigger the problem is going to become and eventually it is going to erupt and your going to get the full effect of what you have been putting off and you really won't be up to dealing with the stress/depression it may cause and you may lead to doing other things that will just add to your problems. For those of you who are still in highschool and you lose the one you care about just look up and remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea and what you had maybe was not meant to be. I know its hard to realize that at a younger age, I know i have went through it many of times, but you will move on and you will find someone who will really care for you and treat you the way you need to be treated. For those of you who are in a bad relationship and don't think you can get out of it think again. There have been times that my friends were in an abusive relationship and did not think that they could leave that other person but the abusive one isnt worth the time and effort to try and make it work because they are not going to change. If any of y'all need a word of encouragement or just someone to talk to I am more than happy to assist you with whatever you may need. I hope you all find true love and happyness and enjoy the life that you were given to its fullest. if anyone needs some advice and confort.
- Mark p

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:03:00 PM
Sveral people I know...including myself....have had a broken heart. I got over it by just praying and relying on my friends to pick me up. I still am in love with a boy at my church....he wouldn't begin to break my heart and I love him dearly.
- Kaitlyn

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:02:32 PM
its really hard for people at my school to accept the fact that me and my just friends friend arent in a relationship but besides that the relationship is well worth it
- brandon

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:02:23 PM
of course ive had my heart broken who hasnt once in there life.. come on noe and it hurts like hell.. i totally had a melt down when i had my heart broken and it will happen again..
- Christy

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:02:11 PM
Hey! I love this blog cause I grew up with guys and guys were my very first friends. I still have my very first Just Friend ( for 12 yrs.) and just made a new one this year. I believe Just Friends are important because they teach you about the opposite sex. If you never have a friedly relationship with the opposite sex, you'll never know anything about them. I think that's when you really miss out. Plus, I'm a tomboy, and it really helps to get away from that girly world! =)
- CJ

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2008 - 1:01:46 PM
Fist! I must say Life alway go on. it will be Hurt alot from brokenheart but only time will healling every thing. and most is very importand for all of us weakheart and mind is. being closer to familys and friends who love and care for us. don't being alone in anytime at all. well..when you need to sleep than ok. But also try to keep self occupie. being alone is not help at all. well still love your talk show still listening smart thing from you dawson.hope you teaching more for badluck kids who need help from you. I feel sad for most of them who not lie. happy to know you. regard from our familys TJ
- TJ

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 6:49:35 PM
WELL I JUST TRY TO MOVE ON WITH LIVE, AND TRY TO FORGET WHAT HAS HAPPENED BUT THERE WILL ALWAYS BE FEELINGS FOR THE SIGNIFICANT OTHER THAT WAS A PART OF YOUR LIFE, IT IS ALWAYS EASY TO REMEMBER THAT LIFE GOES ON, NOONE PROMISED IT WOULD BE EASY, BUT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. AND IF IT IS SOMETHING THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE THEN LET IT. ALWAYS TRY TO REMEMBER THAT, AND SEE IF IT HELPS IT HS TRULY HELPED ME, AND I WOULD RECOMMEND ANYONE TO GO BY IT YOURS TRULY, CHRISTOPHER,
- BRIAN T.

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 6:48:52 PM
i have had my heart broken many times in the past and because of that i don't trust too many of the male persuasion! i am still friends with brian however which is great! he's a really nice guy and we get along perfectly and neither of us are ready to settle down in a permanent relationship with one another which is great! finally i meet a guy who likes me for who i am without regard to wanting sex all the time, it's quite refreshing!
- maureen

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 6:48:17 PM
What better way to mend a broken heart than to surround yourself with those who fill it? By which I mean, a guy(or girl, if you are a guy...or whatever) Is not everything--friends ARE. So hang around with them, watch movies, whatever. They're more important than s/he could ever be. Speaking from experience.
- Laura

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 6:47:52 PM
Hey Dawson, I just wanted to thank you for the advices you provided above. I think this will help me hold on to my "just friends" for a long time. By the way i hope you have a Happy New Year!
- Karla

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 3:13:39 PM
hey! i had a 'just friends' relationship that recently went into a bf and gf relationship. about a week later he broke up with me because of a death in his family. he was struggling with it so i was there for him. even though he totally broke my heart. i cried myself to sleep for about a month or so. 2 days after he broke up with me he asked out my other friend. they have been dating for about 2 months now. he had lied to me about many different things. but our friendship before our bf and gf relatioship was strong enough for it to still last to this day. even though he lied and broke my heart he is stll the only one that has every totally been there for me. the worst thing is that i still love him!!! help. wat do i do???
- marit

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 2:04:07 PM
But when you ate "just friends" and you get a new boyfriend they can get really upset. Than you have to deal with it. So no mater what you hurt someone.
- Lacey

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 12:11:07 AM
hey this is hailey and i read the just be freinds i think boys and girls can just be freinds! i have a freind named ryan and he is my best freind in the world he is nice sweet funny but when i talk to him on the phone it has to be a secert because my parents dont want me talking on the phone with other guy,but it makes me happy when i do tallk to him and i get strest when i dont talk to him. well that is what i think about if the opiset sex can be freinds. ps: sorry about the miss spelt words!
- hailey

Monday, Dec 31, 2007 - 12:03:46 AM
Hello Dawson, A guy and I are just friends and we're pretty good friends, but not by choice. I mean ya I choose to be friends with him, but it really started when our fathers began car pooling together. Anyways, I would just like to say that even though he is my only "just friend" that's of the opposite sex it's really nice having someone that you can look at and not be like he's cute, or i wonder how i could hook up with him. Having a "just friend" relationship relieves some of the pressures of the opposite sex he likes her she likes him drama.
- Valerie

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 11:30:49 PM
i just got done reading the blog about "Challenges of Just Friends" and i have more than one guy friend. i feel like one of them likes me, but i wont talk to him about it, other than that we talk about everything. i dont see him anymore than just a friend, and i dont want our friendship to stop. i love him like a brother. and i feel like if we stopped being friends, i would die without him... i dont know what to do. help me please?
- kim

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 11:30:17 PM
Dear Dawson, I'm so happy you and your crew are talking about this subject. I have a very close friend that is going through something like this. She uses guys for her own personal pleaures. She has "friends with benefits. I myself have a best friend that is a guy. We talk about everything, he helps me with any problems I go through, BUT we don't have sex. Its not a need/must. I want to know how I can get it through her head, that she doesn't have to have sex with guys to be there friend. How can I do that. I don't want to tell her what to do, I just want to be able to talk to her and maybe make her realize that she is making a bad choice. Thanks, your show is amazing. Courtney.
- Courtney

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 11:27:57 PM
Within the last 5 months I moved to a new city. I met and started falling in love with this great girl from the Hotel. I ended up taking the position with my company, and I moved in with my new girl. Less than two months after I moved in, my Sarah went to rehab for pain pills for her Med condition. I spent Thanksgiving with her in rehab, the next day she got out. For 4 days She never came to see me, while staying with her parents. Then called and said get out! I was falling in love with you, I wanted to fall in love with you, but now I realize I dont love you. BYE. Everything was on the right track, now I dont understand. She will not talk to me, she is mean, rude and heartless. I adore her, and don't deserve what I'm getting. I cant stop thinking of her. My lifes turned upside down, and she has never talked with me about it. Its been a month, and I can't close my eyes without seeing her smile. Help feels like im dieing.
- Jax

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 11:19:07 PM
Wow!! For me, I've kept my feelings inside and tried to get over it because I knew the guy didn't like me. An plus, I thought to myself, "I'm too young to be in a relationship, I'm too young to even keep or know what a relationship is." But it's really so hard to try to ignore the guy or ignore your feelings for the guy. But anyways, my opinion.
- Nichole

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 10:40:42 PM
i have had a broken heart alot of times and thats how i started to get addicted to video games so i didnt have to deal with it. but the problems is i am still addicted to video games. im mainly on the cpu 24/7. help me dawson.
- David

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 10:33:09 PM
Um.. Hi my name's Natasha and i have a story to tell.. Well it all started from my friend who moved from school. I tried talking to her all the time but then she started avoiding me and i was wondering why?. Later i got a myspace and i was browsing through my friend's myspace friends list. Soon i realize i see a "buddy request" from one of her friends. I accepted. A month later i saw a picture of a soccer player and i decided to send a request to him/her. Soon i find out that he accepted. I saw one of his pictures and i said he was a "cutie" later i find out that that person who i added was my friend's ex bf. So i started thinking omg i can't beleive this. after two days my friends started saying " how could you do that!, get your own friends delete my friend!" So now my friend is mad at me and i don't know what to do or say. I've said sorry over 10 times but all she said is W/E i asked her why she has been avioding me she said because i was annoying and I feel like I've been a bad friend and I also feel like i wanna die WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
- Natasha W.

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 10:26:51 PM
The only guy who ever broke i am still with today. After it happened i just tried not to think about it but every night for a month i cried myself to sleep. Finally i think i just tried to put myself in his shoes and the way he feels, it really helps out slot and it makes it so much easier to get through. But right now it was worth it our relationship is better than its ever been. So always try to put yourself in the opposites sex shoes.
- Nikki

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 6:43:23 PM
I have never had a broken heart, because i have only been in love once, and thats with the guy i'm with now. The other guys i have dated were not as special to me as this one is. They were more like brothers and now we are still good friends, so i ddind't lose anything by leaving them. I'm happy now, but to answer your question, no i have never had a broken heart.
- Abby

Sunday, Dec 30, 2007 - 1:39:11 AM
I read the blog and I have a "just friends" friendship and I met her last year and for about 6 months or so one of my really good friends kept on calling her my girlfriend but I just ignored it and adventualy he stopped and I agree with the blog saying that people misunderstand the line between a relationship and being just friends
- nick

Saturday, Dec 29, 2007 - 7:01:06 PM
hey dawson. sorry for the structure of this comment. it's just that i usually don't puncuate and all that jaz on the internet. but most importantly i would like to say thank you for ALL the advice you give to teens like my self [im 14], and i listen EVERY sunday, even though i have school the next day. but ANYWAYS, i have two friends who are male and we are the best of friends. the thing is.. we are like madly in love with one another.. not the two boys, but i am equally in love with them as they are with me. i have only their best interest in mind as they do me. we help eachother with decisions reguarding the opposite sex and relationship problems. i tried having a relationship with one of them. it did not work as well as i would have liked because of the stress of still trying to hold onto our friendship and not be more, but the problem was, it was okay for us to be MORE THAN FRIENDS. we were just afraid of that. but on the lighter side, it was EASIER for us to remain friends afterwards. i am still in love with both of them, and they are still in love with me. and i ALWAYS know if i have any relationship problems, i could go to them and they could give me valid advice. ALSO, i know that they will ALWAYS be their for the emotional care that another boy or man may not provide me with. because they know how... DAWSON PLEASE SEND ME AN EMAIL BACK FROM YOU SO I CAN KNOW THAT I AM NOT WRITING TO A BLANK SPACE<33 your biggest fan ALEXIS T. PHILADELPHIA, PENNSYLVANIA
- Alexis T.

Saturday, Dec 29, 2007 - 1:08:08 PM
well i have some guy friends and we hang out all the time. they lookmout for me and i look out for them.there like my brothers. they tell me when a guy is bad news.
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Saturday, Dec 29, 2007 - 1:07:52 PM
a really good friend of mine wants to go out with my best friend whos practicly like my sister and it makes me soo mad because i know he dosnt feel the same about me but i know if thats not the way he feels thats fine thers many more roses on the bush and one is made just for me
- nickiey

Saturday, Dec 29, 2007 - 1:02:35 AM
well i have 2 friends that are boys and we dont have all the s*** of going out becouse we have an open relationship like we can say that echother are hot and have no problum with opne onother and so i think a lot of peoplle that cant be friends with the opisit sex is becouse they think they must date if you think echother is hot
- teaya s.

Thursday, Dec 27, 2007 - 6:54:51 PM
I have many guy friends. I think of it as a complement, like guys don't think your creepy and they respect you ect. Well one of my ex-friends (well ex-boyfriend but then were friends) is starting to creep me out. He stands WAY to close to me, asks me personal questions, trys to touch me, usually always calls me...which I don't answer. He lives a block away so I'm scared that he'll come over any time and rape me. He hasen't called me in about 2 weeks so I'm relieved. We did go out last year for about 10months. It was fine@first then things got to be where I couldn't stand him...he was like obsessed about me. I'm just trying to forget about it and move on.(which I'm :-) Take care Dawson Have a happy new year!!! :-}
- Victoria

Thursday, Dec 27, 2007 - 6:54:07 PM
ok dawson. i have a just friends relationship....to be honest i have many. and sometimes i will end up falling in love with them. but i refuse to date my boys. why would i want to kill that relationship we have been building for years. just for something that would last not nearly as long. my theory is: i would ratha have a brotha then a boy lova. it sounds kinda stupid...but when im with them. i play that in my head and then im just back to be there for them. dawson you are a good man. you really are. and one day i will call into your show and tell you my story.
- hannah <3

Thursday, Dec 27, 2007 - 12:04:13 PM
A broken heart has the ability to cause pain for the rest of your life if it's not treated. A broken heart does not heal itself. My heart was broken to pieces over and over and over again to people that I really loved and trusted. It took a lot of forgiving not only them, but also myself. I blamed myself for everything that went wrong. I internalized so much self-hate, regret, guilt, shame, rejection, and self-pity. I had to choose to find a way to heal my broken heart. I had to forgive and let go.
- Sarah

Thursday, Dec 27, 2007 - 12:03:53 PM
merry christmas dawson! keeep up the great work
- mark

Wednesday, Dec 26, 2007 - 9:44:32 PM
Merry Christmas, Dawson. :) On the 22nd of December it was exactly one year ago that I told one of my friends that I had feelings for her beyond friendship. She did not reciprocate, however, although she did tell me that she held a deep respect for me for various reasons and we have remained friends. I still have feelings for her that I repress on a daily basis now that we attend the same Bible college, so I haven't gotten over that and I don't know that I ever will, but as far as a broken heart is concerned, I just keep waiting it out and telling myself that God will get me through it. Besides that, I don't know what else there is to do. It still hurts, even a year later, but I can't change the way she feels, and I shouldn't try. I can't make her like me. The only one who can change her mind is her, and since that doesn't seem likely, then there's no point in beating myself up about it.
- Jonathan

Wednesday, Dec 26, 2007 - 5:06:48 PM
Yo merry christmas you arer awesome
- Connor

Wednesday, Dec 26, 2007 - 10:20:05 AM
I have been blessed with having a few "Just friends" of the opposite sex, although one of them's particurarly one of the dearest friends I've ever had. Just like written on this blog, we feel great about discussing any type of problems any of us are facing (either with relations or just every day issues one encounters), and feel great and love each other about being able to frankly discuss anything and just knowing that we have each other's back no matter what (yes, even when we don't agree on things). I get along okay with my brothers and we actually share a lot, but there are things that only with her I feel free to share. Hooray for 'Just friends'.
- Rafael

Wednesday, Dec 26, 2007 - 10:19:03 AM
hey Merry Christmas Dawson and a Happy New year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- jo

Wednesday, Dec 26, 2007 - 10:18:59 AM
i have a best friend that's a guy. we are everything you mentioned on your 3 blogs. you're right, its very rare, but worth it. we love each other alot. but at times i was ready to give up because i didnt want to hurt him anymore with the drama going on in my life, but then i heard your theme for the week "friends of the opposite sex" and i wanted to listen. you saved me from making one of the biggest mistakes of my life. thanks.
- brandy

Tuesday, Dec 25, 2007 - 7:37:42 PM
hey dawson, i have a really close friend and hes a guy and he likes me but i dont like him i think this is a great blog and it helps alot because this guy i can trust him with anything and he is great
- rachael

Monday, Dec 24, 2007 - 7:01:27 PM
I have one friend, who'z just 'a good friend'. I recently moved from Northern California, all the way to Eastern Tennessee. And I lost a lot of my good friends. But I thought I could make up for it by dating this guy. Well, him and I had an awesome relationship, but my parents hated him, and his parents disliked me very much. So we started talking, and decided it needed to end. Well, we didn't talk for months, we were always around each other, but totally avoided one another. We started talking again after about 2 months, and now we are best friends, we tell each other everything.. nothing, I mean absolutely nothing isn't told. I love having him around. He makes me feel loved, but yet, we arent' feeling the need to be dating. And I appreciate him very much. I listen to your show every week on Electric 94.9, and you inspire me so much!! Thanks so much Dawson for your support for us teens/young adults who need help!!
- Danielle

Monday, Dec 24, 2007 - 7:00:47 PM
it wasn't a healthy way to get over a broken heart. I cried and avoided him for a year, trying to get him off my mind
- Emily

Monday, Dec 24, 2007 - 7:00:37 PM
i was just friends with this guy austin. one day he asked my out and we started dating. i never wanted him to be just a friend! i tried to get close to him like most girls. we were so in love and ingaged but he died yesterday when a dunk driver pushed his car into a canal and he drowned......i am desolate...........HELP!
- sophia

Monday, Dec 24, 2007 - 12:47:27 AM
Dear Dawson! I have a really great guy friend that is like a little brother to me! My parents love him and his parents feel the same for me. For this christmas he bought me a very exspensive gift and I know that there is a very strong bond there! We hang out every day and most of those days that we hang out is with our other friend! (female), and she has developed a crush on him! Well she developed this crush she was going out with someone else! So she had me talk to her boy friend at the time just asking what was going on because they have been have problems. So the best friend that I am I do! After I talk to him I tell her everything he had said word for word. The next day at school she dumped him and he did not take it well! Then the next day I get a textmessage asking why I broke my friend and her boyfriend up, and these where some of my best friends and it hurt alot! Now that, that is over my two friends have been flirting ALOT! and it's so cute I am so glad for them even tho they are'nt going out yet but they are just developing a beautiful relationship! So I think that yes it is possile for a guy and a girl to be friends but i agree that there are alot of drama!
- Keremy

Monday, Dec 24, 2007 - 12:29:22 AM
My guy friend and I are really close. We've done everything together.. but not any bad stuff like having sex or anything like that. He's only kissed me on the cheek a couple of times. That's it. We've been friends ever since pre-k and nothing's happened.So it really is possible for people of the opposite sex to be friends.. or even best friends.
- Leslie

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 11:53:54 PM
hey i live in tupelo ms and my life just took a complete 360 about two months ago. my dad was caught cheating so they got a divorce and now he is getting remarried less than a week after the divorce is finalle. He then doesn't pay his half of the child support and my mother is too naive to take him to court. so im having to work a full time job and go to school in order to pay all of all bills. then after that he has the guts to ask my mom if he can not pay child support for a month so he can buy him and his wife a new place in tupelo. my mom didnt say yes to that and instead gave him a piece of her mind. and then after me being distraught about the whole situation my boyfriend of two years wants to break up so he can experience different relationships because he is too immature and he is a boy. But all of this is just crazy .
- Brittany

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 11:39:44 PM
Hey Dawson. It is possible for guys and girls to be "just friends" I've been just friends with a guy for 10 years. We've never been anything more, that just friends.
- Jaime

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:43:36 PM
I'm the kind of person who talks to anyone and everyone, whether I consider them a friend or not. Last year I met this guy and I'm not really sure how it happened, but we became friends. We got pretty close and are currently having this "Just Friends" experience as described above. It IS hard not to have feelings that makes you want to become more than friends in this situation (its hard to shun that kind of affection, especially from a member of the opposite sex) but as long as you realize that it's better to have someone like this as a friend that a boyfirend (or a girlfriend) then the friendship should last. I personally find a "Just Friends" friendship involves more trust than in a same sex friendship. As long as you overcome the challenges, then I find that (for me at least) that they last longer and you enjoy yourself more in “Just Friends” relationships.
- Nikki

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:43:09 PM
I honestly struggle with this all the time. You feel as if you have to something with that "boy" friend. I have unsuccessfuly had one guy friend that I have not done anything with. It really is hard. But I would in the future want to have a good friend relationship with a male.
- Emily

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:42:23 PM
hey Dawson!i am andy i have a gf want to be with her for ever and there is some boys that shes likes so dont know wat too do about it and i am 16 she 15 wat can i do or want new gf if u help Email plz!!!
- andy

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:40:36 PM
i think that it can work sometime but most of the time the guys are just looking for a friend to do things with i have learned that in the past and i have gotten into alot of trouble for it too..
- courtaney

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:40:15 PM
well, i have a friend who is currently just a friend but we dated for about a year and a half. and the funny thing is we had more fun with each other when we weren't dating! we did ocasionaly fall while we were friends and have some x-rated fun...but now we've finally stopped that. we still have the dirty inside jokes and if i ever need anything i know that i can call him and vice versa. i think the thing w us was that we needed to date, not date but have "benefits" , and date again, to realize that we can be much better off as just friends! i do think that i love him, but i know he doesn't love me. so i would rather be just his friend because i know that he's happier this way. i think that that's what love is all about: knowing when you're so much that your love starts making your lover unhappy.
- marissa

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:36:14 PM
hi my name is jessica and i can relate to this blog because i have a freind named lane me and him are just friends.
- jessica

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 10:35:42 PM
I have been just friends with my friend ashley for about 4 years and i have always had a little bit of a crush on her. Just recently at a party she made a move on me and than kinda ran off and giggled. and i just dont no if i should tell her how i really feel because i dont want to ruin what we have but i really like her.
- Greg

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 7:17:03 PM
In the past, I have learned that when I am getting over a broken heart, it really helps to cry. Crying is liquid laughter, and gives the same feeling of release. I found that it was always best to cry with a friend or loved one and talk about it once you can't cry anymore. Then you pray to God to help heal your broken heart. Then you pray to God to help you forgive the person that broke your heart. Once you have forgiven that person and yourself, you can move on to the last step, MOVE ON!!!
- Cally C.

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 7:15:41 PM
i think that being just friends is a great idea...if i would've read this a couple months ago it would've saved me a lot of pain. Every guy friend i get we eventually give into those impulses and go out. Reading this has given me some really good advice. Thank you and have a very merry Christmas! :]
- Kayla

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 12:31:10 PM
I have a friend that is a boy and we will get the kids in the neighbor hood and play cickball (we have a blast)!!!!!!!!!!! P.S. I love how you help people!
- kristin

Sunday, Dec 23, 2007 - 2:11:16 AM
ok well im erin and me and my friend that i've known for years(we went out for 3 days last year to try out our realationship, but rumors got in the way of that)just 2 months ago told me he's liked me for a long, long time and so he asked me out and we kissed, my first kiss, so i was totally excited and we were serious but then drama comes and he randomly breaks up with me after 1 and a half months...i was heart broken and crying but now my friends have been so good to me but i'm afraid if things go back to normal and he asks me out again that i'll happen again and again etc... so what should i do?
- Erin

Saturday, Dec 22, 2007 - 6:43:02 PM
you should not worry about what other people say or think. A friend is some one that is there for you and does not let you down! They can be male or female.
- Tracey

Saturday, Dec 22, 2007 - 4:45:39 PM
hey Dawson!my gf i konw she some boys that i dont like and i dont know wat to do about it so can help me plz we have go out 2yrs i love her , he moved airzon but now is back i am 16 and she is 15 i want be with her for ever but i dont can i do
- andy

Friday, Dec 21, 2007 - 9:10:44 PM
hey Dawson!my bf is trying to win me back because he thinks i like one of his friends.But I'm trying to tell him that we are nothing more than friends.He keeps braking up with me because of him.he is the jealous type.so if the guy he thinks i like , buys me things and he doesn't like it so he brakes up withme.last week he said that we are over forever when today in 7th period,he asks me back out.so i forgive him every time and go back out with him.
- chelsea

Friday, Dec 21, 2007 - 9:10:21 PM
I once experienced this "just friends" relationship. I had a good friend, for like 3 years. Over one summer we became great friends and hung out together a lot. As the summer grew on, my like for him became even stronger, to where i told him my feelings. Unfortunately, he just saw us as friends and nothing more. Gladly, we are still friends till this day.
- Julie

Friday, Dec 21, 2007 - 9:10:09 PM
hey, i have a friend, derek of the opposite sex, hes a really good friend, and i can talk to him about pretty much anything..and thats cool. but sometimes i think that i like him, and when he hangs out with other grils and im around i get jelous a little. but yea.
- Karen

Friday, Dec 21, 2007 - 9:09:54 PM
right now i'm working on a just friends relationship with someone i talked to in the past. it gets hard at times to say no to them but you have to just stand up & be like okay. this is a just friends relationship completely. sometimes you have to stand up to them though. they may want more from you than that. that's when you have to hold your ground & remember what that relationship is all about.
- michelle

Friday, Dec 21, 2007 - 1:40:07 AM
I have a couple of just friends and they are my best friends. We touch eachother all the time, as a joke but no one, has ever done anything wrong. We're best friends don't have feeliings for eachother but it's akward sometimess
- Katey