Should Race or Skin Color Affect Who You Date

This sounds like a typical “Romeo & Juliet” kind of scenario—two people from different backgrounds or cultures coming together to prove to the world that love can rise above all our differences.

Sometimes it may seem like everything is working against you just to make relationships even more difficult. Other people seem to make it look so easy, right? If you only knew what people went through in their own lives, you’d see how challenging all relationships can be. It takes a lot of focus and commitment to make one last. One of these difficult challenges is brought up in Brandon’s question here.

QUESTION #43) Brandon asked: “How do you have a bf/gf relationship with the opposite sex without worrying about their race or skin color becoming a problem?

DAWSON: Dating someone of a different race can be a challenge, but not necessarily for the two people dating each other—it’s usually only a problem with people outside of the relationship. This sounds like a typical “Romeo & Juliet” kind of scenario—two people from different backgrounds or cultures coming together to prove to the world that love can rise above all our differences.

God made all of us, including the color of our skin. It’s more important to date someone who shares your same beliefs and values, than your skin color. If there are people in your life who don’t think you should date someone “different” than you, I suggest you talk to them and find out what their reasons are based on, and then explain how you have found someone who you really connect with on many different levels. While society might have a difficult time with interracial dating and marriage, you don’t have to live that way.

It’s more important to date someone who shares your same beliefs and values, than your skin color or race.

One word of caution: some people, while dating someone of another race, look at their relationship as one being under attack. So it is easy for the two of you to get wrapped up in an “Us vs. The World” mentality. The problem with that is sooner or later those who are against your relationship will quit caring about the race situation. Then the two of you will still have relationship issues to work out, without the emotion and drama of standing alone against the world. Sometimes without those “Us vs. The World” props, the relationship crashes because there was not enough foundation there to begin with.

One other thought: Some of the problems facing interracial dating are not related to skin color, but more to cultural differences. The question you should ask is: Can the two of us adapt to each other’s culture? Remember, cultural differences can be a big deal. Just be wise about who and why you’re dating, interracial or not.

QUESTION #44) Sarah asked: “I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year, and I know I love him but at times he just doesn’t seem to understand that I want time for friends and family.”

It’s easy to suffocate a relationship by demanding the other person always be there just for you. - Your friends and family will play an important role in helping you seeing more clearly if he’s the right guy for you.

DAWSON: It is a struggle to find a balance between time with the person you love and the other important people in your life. Hopefully you’ve tried to explain to your boyfriend the importance of having many friends, and not just focusing on one person. Your boyfriend needs to understand it’s easy to suffocate a relationship by demanding the other person always be there just for you. Remember love is not selfish or demanding. That being said, here are some questions you may want to ask yourself about this issue…

Have you included him in some of these other relationships? Or do you want to keep him separate from your interactions with other friends and family? He might be feeling like you’re embarrassed or ashamed of your relationship. There’s also a possibility that he doesn’t truly know how you feel about him, and he’s trying to get clues from you, based on how you spend your time. Try inviting him along with you when you spend time with your family and friends.

Unless, of course, you actually don’t want him to be involved in these other relationships. But if you are dating someone, and seeking to know them more fully, and possibly moving toward a much deeper relationship, your friends and family will play an important role in helping you see more clearly if he’s the right guy for you.

But don’t string him along. If you want to keep your relationship with him private, I’d tell him, and explain to him why you feel the way you do. He deserves to know at least that much. Just remember, whoever you choose to spend your life with, you will always face the challenge of giving each other the kind of time, together and apart, each partner needs and deserves.

We’re coming down the home stretch on our quest to answer the 50 most pressing questions you have about the opposite sex. Scan through the past 44 questions and send me something you haven’t seen answered yet. I’d love to answer your question!

Monday, Jul 13, 2009 - 2:10:19 AM
I am a white women in my 20's, I have grown up with multi colored friends... and have come to realize that color or race is not a concern its in how you treat each other and the relationship. I do know that my family is very racial in the aspect that my grandparents are very old fashion and grew up in a time when it was not aloud for a Italian to be with a Jew. Or a Black women to date a white man. Times have changed and people have to learn that we all have the same heart.... the same colored blood.... I do know that myself because of what my grandparents believe it is hard for me to dat outside my race just for the fact of being disowned... but I know in my heart that if it came down to it and I fell in love with someone outside my race or color... My family would eventually realize my happiness is more of a concern than anything and i think they know this too but fear it at the same time....
- Juliet

Monday, Jul 13, 2009 - 12:29:32 AM
My father doesn't appreciate me and calls me ho,sl** and a b^&%# because I have been with men of different races but when I date a black man things don't work out that's just with me personally I won't date a black man because of the way they treat me even if I don't know them I am multi racial mixed with a little bit of everything but my father still calls me names and yells at me because I won't date black guys nor would I marry one this is just my preference of what I like I don't see why this is an issue with family when family should not be into the situation it is depending on the two people that are dating or whatever their fling is family will only bring you down they always want what they want and most don't care if they hurt your feelings friends do the same so I think race isn't a issue its family and friends who have the problem with it everyone has different opinions on this and they are entitled to it if someone writes something different we can only ask them about it but we have no place to try and change someones mind about their say not matter what race you date there's always a good/bad that comes along with it so you can't pick and choose who's good and who's bad its just if you don't date a particular race that is on the person has nothing to do with being racist some people just misunderstand what others are trying to say
- olivia

Monday, Jul 13, 2009 - 12:05:47 AM
i like any one who is different my advice is ----as long as the couple gets allong im fin with it. isnot our skin coulor, i say no matter how differanly someone thinks as long as they get along with outhers its all cool to me!
- speedbiird9 --GAMER

Sunday, Jul 12, 2009 - 11:54:54 PM
I am ecperiencing this second hand. My friend is wanting to gett married to a black Jamacian Jew. Her father is really strick and she has been under his reighn all of her life, and she is 19. I think she id getting maarried for all the wrong reasons. He is in the military and will recieve his benefits and things like that. Her whole family will disown her because of this decision. I feel, she is not readdy, and just wants an out. How do I tell her what I think, if she really does not want to hear it, not even from me, her best friend of 10 years? Do not get me wrong, I do not disriminate, it is just, her life andher changed, I barely know her.
- Kayla

Sunday, Jul 12, 2009 - 11:26:58 PM
Here's all I got to say: people are people. We ALL look different, we have differend opinions even when we are the same color or religion. Being racis is so OLD! This is the new century. Put it in the past. I'm not saying to mix all the races up, it's good to keep your heritage, but it's not bad to be with others. If we wern't meant to be with others of different race, then God wouldn't have made it possible to be with other humans. Plain and simple. Love will succeed!
- Christine })i({

Saturday, Jul 11, 2009 - 2:21:36 PM
i thnk that every one in this world is diff and we shudnt b lookn at race or skin color to determine whether he/she is right for us.. i thnk that if u have feelings not for their apperance but personality u will b happy with that person.. dnt let ur peers choose wats right for u.. u kno urself bettr than they do
- vikki

Saturday, Jul 11, 2009 - 12:07:27 PM
Zoe, Dawson writes a new blog once a week but it sounds like you need help now. I encourage you to call The HopeLine at 800-394-HOPE or chat online with one of Dawson's Hope coaches by clicking here: www.TheHopeLine.com You may also call Dawson Sunday night's during his radio show at 1-800-394-4673
- ~ from the DMLive staff

Saturday, Jul 11, 2009 - 11:59:59 AM
k well i love ur show but i need some help with alot of things this is about me just living im 13 and probly wont live long with wat im doing please talk to me
- Zoe

Saturday, Jul 11, 2009 - 11:36:13 AM
Uh, Dawson, Romeo and Juliet had a huge difference, they were both Italian and white and young(like many first lovers) They had no race and cultural differences, merely their families hated each other. I look at someone from an opposite race or creed, and I'm not as absorbed by the aesthetic quality, because like many, I do not see the physical beauty in that girl like a person from that gender would. I do not suggest I am racist. Far from it. I just believe that color is a factor, but a totally limited one in the scope of finding the one you love.
- Charlie

Friday, Jul 10, 2009 - 7:44:23 PM
the color of your skin or the type of race you come shouldnt be an issue when it comes to dating...it doesnt make you any different from each other..we are all equal..
- haley

Friday, Jul 10, 2009 - 12:52:10 PM
I need help with a grail problom like she is like fiting with me and i dont think i will not work and there is someone els like she i really in to me and she dose not enore me or any thing like that and lacey will not pay a tenchen to me and everything like that and she is like she dont love me but she dose and i love her and the other person is like she loves me with all heart and lacey dose to and i am just all cunfused with all of this i need help
- James S.

Thursday, Jul 9, 2009 - 7:21:29 PM
what does a guy do when he's interested in you? I think i'm starting to fall for my best friend (a guy). One of my girlfriends thinks he's falling for me too. I make sure to hide that from him and most of the world but everyone already tells us we're bound to be together. How can i tell if he likes me too? He told me he would probably act differnt around ne girl he liked but i want to know wat to look for so i don't c things just because i want to c them. help!!!
- britt

Thursday, Jul 9, 2009 - 1:40:12 PM
I dont like the whole racist dating thing its unfair, my dad used to be a police officer in Okmulgee so he has delt with a lot of bad people that were black or dark colored. I dont know how to say that without making it sound bad. But now he thinks all black people are the same and i really like someone who is mixed and i dont think ill ever convice my dad to let me date him. What to do, what to do? I love DMLive. I listen to it every night. Dawson yur awesome. -Kelsey.
- Kelsey G.

Wednesday, Jul 8, 2009 - 8:55:11 AM
Hey Dawson! My friend and I just wanted to tell you that we listen to yourr show every sunday when its on! We think your a great role model with great advice, and you know your wrongs from rights. And we just wanted to tell you that your a very nice man. And you have given be advice even when your talking to someone else. Thank you very much Dawson! You've changed our lives! :) -Katie and Kaitlyn
- Katie and Kaitlyn

Wednesday, Jul 8, 2009 - 1:22:52 AM
I am dating a wonderful man.. we have been together a year and live together.. I have 3 grown children and he has 3 and the youngest one lives with us.. his son lives with his mom and the olders lives on her own.. my question is.. his 11 year old who I love as my own.. I spend more time with her then her mother and do more things with her.. we go shopping and get pedicures she helps me cook and I help her clean her room.. yet she always talks about her mom.. and this is my mothers or my mother is or that.. when we all three go out she always talks about her mom.. and he dad has ask her not to.. i have talked to her that am not here to repalce her mom or try to be her mom..yet she pushes me away.. please help..
- Idalia

Wednesday, Jul 8, 2009 - 12:57:52 AM
well it doesnt matter ur race as longas u guys love eachother its ok♥
- osaky

Wednesday, Jul 8, 2009 - 12:42:09 AM
Thanks Mr.DM for answering my question in your blog, I GOT JUST WHAT I NEEDED. GRACE & PEACE!!!
- Brandon

Wednesday, Jul 8, 2009 - 12:41:18 AM
Dawson, you are amazing. I have listened to your show on the radio since January, and I am hooked. Ever Sunday night at 10 PM I turn it on and listen. I have been to your site a couple times, and love reading your blogs. You rock!
- Rissa

Tuesday, Jul 7, 2009 - 6:49:09 PM
Race is still a issue till this day, but not to me. I have opened my heart to my bf whos african american and Im Mextalian a combination of mexican and italian:),..I love him for him, race means nothing to me. Although were different in many things it only brings us closer because we are willing to learn from each other.
- Becca

Tuesday, Jul 7, 2009 - 9:34:18 AM
im really bad with girls, so i have never been in a real relationship with one, but there is this one girl i know that i think likes me, but i dont want to ruin our friendship by asking if she dosent, how can i tell if she really likes me?
- joe

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 11:24:17 PM
no it shouldnt mater who u date it maters wats on the in side not the out
- Georgianna

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 11:23:51 PM
How do I tell a guy that I just want to be friends? Recently I've been unable to just find a friend in a guy. They want a hookup or nothing and I'm not that person.
- Jo

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 11:00:46 PM
Why doesn't my family approve of my boyfriend?
- Braelynn

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 10:59:38 PM
I have been dating this a black guy for 3 years. I am a white female and find that if two people really care about each other it doesn't matter what they look like on the outside. You can over come anything TOGETHER, if you want to. Jealousy and hate is a common fear in those that do not understand. Always trust in yourself and what you believe and do not ever let anyone tell you that you are wrong for what you feel and want in your life.
- Sanna

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 3:43:27 PM
I just recently got out of a relationship. We were together for a year and 2 months. It seemed to hurt more then I could of ever imagined. He told me I was a bad girlfriend and that I treated him like crap. I felt like I was doing neither of those things to him. I would see something he likes and randomly buy it for him and he wouldn't even say thank you. He just looked at me and said why did you do this. It hurt my feelings. The biggest problem I had with him was trust. He cheated on me 2 months in our relationship. I had suspicion of it because the girl he cheated on me with confronted him in the mall while I was with him. She tried telling me that he cheated on me but I didn't believe her at the time. Between June of 08- Dec of 08 I found text messages of him talking "dirty" to other girls and even finding pictures on his phone. He was always real protective of his phone so one night I looked through the text and thats when I discovered all this. The reason he gave me was that he was bored and that it meant nothing. It still hurt really bad but I thought we could work through it. But even after that all he would do when i was trying to spend time with him is text constantly. I would ask him to stop texting so we could spend time with each other but he still did it. On my birthday I told him all I really wanted was him to spend time with me without texting for the whole day. He couldn't even manage that. The day after my birthday which was june of 09 he was going to go to white water bay with an old friend/ ex girlfriend and I thought okay maybe I can start trusting him again by letting him go. We both work at white water bay and i worked that day so I felt a little better and he also told me that it would be him, her and her friend that was going so it seemed like a "group thing" not a "you and me" kind of thing. Well i look over from where i am at and its just her and him..i feel like he lied to me. He saw me and seemed perfectly happy. He didn't ignore me or anything he just acted like everything was okay and I couldn't pull him to the side because I was at work and that will look bad on me. But a guest coming up to a lifeguard and talking is okay. He didn't even tempt doing that. Then other lifeguards were saying they were holding hands and all this other stuff and I had no way to talk to him. I was getting really upset. He was supposed to stay and wait for me to get off that day but when I get to my phone to text him I have a text from him saying he left and had to go home but we will hang out after I got off. So I get in my car and go to his house and I text him telling him I'm at his house and he tells me he isn't there and he is with his friend brant. I was confused and said I thought we were going to hang out and he wouldn't text me back or answer my calls. I ended up going to brants and brant was not with my boyfriend. I didn't know what was going on. After me texting him and calling him 50 thousand times he decides to tell me that he is with that girl still and i answered him and he once again stopped answering my calls and texts. I came back to his house asked his mom if he was home and a few mins after i got there he pulls up in the chicks car. I met him at the end of the drive way mad, torn up, sad, crying..ect... And he told me he ignored my calls because he didn't want to get yelled at. He started telling me that he didn't care anymore and told me to get in my f****** car and leave. I did and ever since then we have been broken up. He is now going around telling people that we broke up because I was crazy. I text him on the 4th of July and told him to keep my name out of his mouth and to stop talking crap. He thought what he was saying was fine. So i guess my question after all of this is, what do i do about him? I really thought I loved him and after reading your blogs I'm not sure. I think about him all the time but my friends and family tell me I'm better without him. I guess you could say I'm not over him yet but I want to be so much. -Marcella
- Marcella

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 12:20:27 PM
okay, ive dated this guy four times beofre now. and i care about him alot, but there is this guy Shawn that always tells me he likes me and how much i mean to him, but the thing is i dont really know him. then there's a guy Brandon, hes like my bestfriend. we dated once, and he still has my back throw everything. then we go back up to the one ive dated four times (hes Billy.) ive just started dating him again. but i have no clue wat in getting my self in to. this is one thing Brandon cant help me out with. but i need help, i dont know wat to do. help, please.
- jennifer

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 11:12:17 AM
i was born jewish while my ex was born christian.. We joked around about it, but it was never a problem. I dont think race should matter at all
- jesse b.

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 1:23:04 AM
****, Tesla!!!! I am so grateful there aren't too many people like you, or atleast the ones that think the same way. It is for such narrow minded oppinions that the world has been and still is a hot mess!!! I certainly did not wake up few years ago and decided "today I am going to fall in love with a guy of a same race, culture and religion as me" Love happens, and when it does you better be thankful that you were lucky and worthy enough of it. My husband and I are of different race, culture and religion. We never alowed our differences come in between us, but rather make us stronger! What matters the most is how two people feel about each other. No one can judge anyone because no one knows how two people are when they are alone. Besides, since when is dating the same race a guarantee for a perfect love and happyness??? Every day I thank God for bringing him into my life and every day I feel more and more in love with him, as he does with me. I never thought I could be this happy. But that's what happenes when you open your heart to love, and love only. Be good, do good and good will return to you!!! As far as children are concerned they can be whatever they decide they want to be, but their parents will certainly make sure to raise them well, nurture them and help them grow into beutiful, open minded people, who will do their part to make this world a better place!!!
- Larisa

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 1:07:40 AM
How can you tell if some one loves you and if you do how can you go to that person and tell how you feel about it?
- Dmitriy J.

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 12:43:41 AM
How do you ask out a girl with out making her not scared?
- Kelvin

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 12:17:18 AM
YoU can't help who u fall in love with. If they are white,black,or whatever. If you love them it don't matter what people think as long as you and your partner are happy! If people don't like it tough. If they don't like to see it they can look the other direction. God made all of us and loves us all the same so why can't we love each other the same! That's just my personal oppinion.
- tosh

Monday, Jul 6, 2009 - 12:05:32 AM
How can you tell if some one loves you and if you do how can you go to that person and tell how you feel about it?
- Dmitriy J.

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 11:45:03 PM
I'm having trouble with my parents they always yell at me when uts the most simple thing I try to help so they are thankful for me it dosent help. HELP!!!! Zach
- Zach

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 11:24:22 PM
I have been talking to this guy for about 3 years. And it was fine at first then the 2nd year he changed and started changing. He wanted sexual things such as pictures...and talking dirty like sexting. I just want to know what I should do? I really like him but he told me he loved me for a year then one day his feelings change...I was broken and depressed for along time. So any suggestions please...
- allona

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 11:11:00 PM
Well almost two years ago i was sexually abused by some guy.and i have been in therapy for a year and it ended in February 09' and she taught me to tell my mom anything i needed to tell her, ever since i was abused i can't look at guys the same way i did before and i have found a wonderful boyfriend and he knows about my past,but it just doesn't feel right being with a guy. for the past 5 months or so i have been attracted to girls like crazy is that normal for being abused? is it PTSD? And i met this girl the other day at the red hot and boom, and she kept holding my hand and she gave me her number and before she left she kissed me and i don't want to tell my boyfriend because i don't want him to get mad he is a supper nice guy and he treats me with respect,but im just not attacked to guys and i don't want to hurt him but i really like her.and on top of all that if i like girls and possibly like guys how would i tell my mom that im bisexual,i couldn't think of what she would think of me.i just don't know what to do.
- megan S.

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 10:40:19 PM
well first off i dont think it matters race its just not that important when it comes to dating someone you like and if you or your partner think it matters then its just not ment to be or maybe if your situation is that your parents dont want you to date someone from a dif.race then just **** it lol. :)
- brenda m.

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 10:13:26 PM
No I Think It Should'nt Matter On What Your Race Is or Skin Color Is To Date Someone It Should Be On How The Person Treats You And Whats On The Inside.
- Krystal

Sunday, Jul 5, 2009 - 12:46:43 PM
I am currently serving in the US Army in Oklahoma for the past 7 years now. I was at one time against the opposite race, but now I have come to a conclusion that god did make us as one whole and one body and all different skin colors, but we have to love each other as if it was your brother or sister in the same family of yours. The army has multiple ethnic groups from all walks of life. I do believe that god put us on the earth for a reason and you just have to find that certain thing in your life that god gave to you to share with the world and society regardless of race and skin color. So you do what makes you happy. -----Jason
- Jason

Saturday, Jul 4, 2009 - 10:50:51 PM
im white but i only like dating black guys because i have more in common with them. i cant get my family to understand that i only wanna be with a black guy.. how can i get them to support me and my decision
- tiffany

Saturday, Jul 4, 2009 - 3:04:36 AM
It doesn't matter who you are, or what race you are. If you love someone, you take risks for them that you wouldn't other people. My sister once brought home a hispanic boy before I was born, and my dad sicked his dog on him and came out of the house with a rifle. My family has already affected the life of my sister, and it's probably going to affect mine, too. I'm already being affected by it. I'm 1/2 Cherokee Indian, and 1/2 European, and I get laughed at because my skin is white and i look nothing like a Cherokee Indian. Racial opinions and discriminations have been going on since the dawn of time and they will still go on, but you shouldn't be one of those ignorant people who don't date people of a different race. If you love him, you love him, and that's all that matters.
- Amee

Thursday, Jul 2, 2009 - 2:45:08 PM
I was in a relationship once with a guy who was mixed and even though he was half white and 1/4 black and 1/4 hispanic my parents treated him as if he was all black. They called him names and told my relatives that he was abusive and they brought up all the time "I cant wait til this relationship tanks" or "Im just hoping this doesnt last long or praying that you're just going through a phase". It hurt not only me but I know it hurt him. Eventually they started taking things away from me and striking deals that if I broke up with him I could have whatever it was back and my dad even black mailed me with it for a car. I eventually broke it off because I was afraid he was going to be really hurt.
- Chelsea

Thursday, Jul 2, 2009 - 1:20:50 AM
I have a best friend who loves this guy and now is falling completely apart because she told him and he doesn't feel the same way. She hasn't been the same since and I don't know how to help them and they're becoming suicidal. Please respond to this on your site. thanks.
- anonymous

Thursday, Jul 2, 2009 - 12:09:14 AM
I am very indifferent when it comes to interracial dating....I really don't have a big problem with it, but my issue is when ppl downgrade after they step outside their race, that's weird to me. Not every black man is a thug ladies and some ppl don't think that they deserve better. My biggest piece of advice to anyone is to not downgrade yourself period! Dating outside your race is not a crime, but dating beneath yourself is I believe.
- Jay

Wednesday, Jul 1, 2009 - 11:47:27 AM
I have beautiful mixed nieces and nephews. When my first sister got pregnant with her first child. My parents were racist. They didn't take it too well. But they seemed to eventually got used to the children being mixed and have come to accept it. My sister dates men of the opposite race. I date men of the same race. It isn't because i'm racist. I just seem to only attract men of my race. If it is comfortable to you, then do what makes YOU happy. People will learn to accept it if they truly care about you.
- Destany

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 11:59:49 PM
I USED TO HIDE THAT I LIKED DIFFERENT COLORED GUYS BECAUSE I KNEW THAT MY FAMILY WOULDNT EXCEPT IT .NOW THAT IM GROWN UP AND I LEFT THE HOUSE I AM DATING A GREAT GUY THAT IS BLACK AND MY MOM KNOWS THIS SHE IS ALSO A CHRISTIAN SHE THINKS I SHOULD STICK TOO MY OWN KIND SHE JUST DONT APPROVE AND NOW IM HAVING A BABY GIRL AND SHE DOESNT WANT TOO BE APART OF THIS BABY WHAT SHOULD I DOO ME AND HER DONT TALK BUT I STILL WANT HER TO BE APART OF MY CHILDS LIFE.PLEASE HELP ME.THANKS U AND GOD BLESS U
- DESTINY

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 11:25:00 PM
I am African American and Native American and I have dated boys that are not of my ethnicity. It should not matter what race anyone is...although in these times that is often what people look at. The race of the person should not matter, but the character of that person should. If you really love/like a person their race should not be a factor you use to decide if you should date/be with them or not.
- Mya

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 9:03:24 PM
Brandon, It all depends why/how you end it. If you the person is just not the one for you say some thing like: "I think we should slow down and just be friends. I am not sure your the one for me, so I think we should both date around for awhile." If you say something like that the breakup will be much less painful.
- Sothh

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 6:04:10 PM
love is love no matter what
- tony

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 10:27:04 AM
It really shouldn't matter about skin color because the only difference is the skin color.It matters whats on the inside. Not on the outside
- Kaylie

Tuesday, Jun 30, 2009 - 12:02:56 AM
Does ending a relationship with your bf/gf always have to be terrible or sad, or can the ending be a pleasant or fair way?
- Brandon

Monday, Jun 29, 2009 - 5:45:08 PM
I've been good friends with this guy (who is mixed race already), for ten years. We recently started dating, and suddenly its some HUGE issue... I ended up telling him my parents just dont let me date, and we have to keep it a secret. Its eating at me that i lied... Hes been so great to me, and i feel like im not returning the favor because my family's views get in the way.
- Meg

Monday, Jun 29, 2009 - 3:04:00 PM
I like a girl that's black and she is just the nicest girl that I would ever meet. I believe race really doesn't matter when it comes to dating because no one else has to love that person except for you. My Grandmother would prefer that I date of my same race, but she said that if that's who I want to spend the rest of my life with, then so be it. Don't let anyone tell you that race matters when it comes down to a relationship. Thanks for reading my comment!! JustinB.
- Justin B.

Monday, Jun 29, 2009 - 12:01:43 PM
Tesla, You say that it does matter, but why? Because if they have children the kids won't know who they are? Kids don't really care, as long as they have a loving father and mother thats all that really matters. This is a very good topic Dawson, keep up the good work friend.
- Sothh

Monday, Jun 29, 2009 - 2:26:30 AM
if you like or love someone, race and color should not effect what you think about their personality; the inside counts just as much as the outside. A relationship includes two people and if you can both equally learn to love the good and the bad, black or white, then you shouldnt have second thoughts about the relationship. Don't let people on the outside of your relationship pressure you into breaking up with someone you love just because the person is a little different. Go by your personal beliefs and don't worry about what everyone else thinks.
- Katie

Sunday, Jun 28, 2009 - 10:25:09 PM
who cares about colour or race,God created us all equal,so it shdnt be a problem dating some1 of the opposite sex and ignore the ones tht hate on u.
- lionel m.

Sunday, Jun 28, 2009 - 10:06:57 PM
Dawson, I like my best guy friend and he likes me. He is a Christian and we agree on a lot of things. The thing is I feel weird sometimes that I like him, because he is my best guy friend. Is it normal to feel like this?
- Hannah

Sunday, Jun 28, 2009 - 9:47:15 PM
i dont think that race matters i think you should date who ever you want 2 date and if that boyfriend or girlfriend you have dont treat you right i think that you should get someone that can treat you right
- diego

Saturday, Jun 27, 2009 - 2:21:53 PM
I don't think that race really matters, because i'm really falling for a guy who is black, it all to me goes by how they treat you. (:
- ashleigh

Saturday, Jun 27, 2009 - 12:45:07 PM
Hmm i dont really know what to think about this. My parents raised me to believe that people should date within their ethnicities. My parents arent racists or anything, they just believe that its better that way, because of the differences in our genetic makeup and all. But at the same time, if someone falls in love with someone of a different race then I have a hard time believing that its wrong for them to marry...so hmmm.. idk..
- Hannah

Friday, Jun 26, 2009 - 9:45:09 PM
Is there a right and wrong way to flirt?
- Grace

Friday, Jun 26, 2009 - 8:21:45 PM
You bet it does matter. Black people and white people together is just wrong. If they hook up and have kide thier children will be neither white or black and will not have a good identity. Same is true for others too. Mexicans need 2 stay with mexicans and asians need to be with asians. It is not OK for different races to date!!!!
- Tesla

Friday, Jun 26, 2009 - 7:52:32 PM
Thanks that really helped. i listen to your show every sunday and im 12years old and i have problems but im scared to call.! but i have a question . please email me backk
- Julia