Dealing With Divorce

For a long time I have wanted to blog about what to do when your family is broken up by divorce. I have taken literally thousands of calls from teenagers and young adults whose whole lives have been rearranged by their parent’s divorce. Getting over your parent’s divorce is never easy, in fact, it will no doubt change the whole direction of your life. Everybody knows somebody from a broken home. They are everywhere. Maybe you too have suffered the pain of a family break-up. If so, this topic is for you. May it help you navigate through the rough waters of confusion, disappointment, anger, and pain.

I can assure you, you are not alone.

Whether your parents are separated, are going through, or are already divorced, it’s very normal to experience many different feelings and have a lot of questions. It’s also very normal for you to feel like you’re the only one who has ever had this happened to. But I can assure you, you are not alone.

More than anything, divorce seems to bring up a huge load of questions. Why did this happen? Is it my fault? Could I have prevented this from happening? Will they ever get back together? Will things ever be normal again? Did my parents ever really love each other?

Amelie wrote, “I mostly feel sad about my parents divorce. But I also feel angry and confused. There are a lot of feelings. I don’t know what to do with them.”

The divorce is about your parents and the problems they have with each other—it’s not about you.

You might even wonder if your parents would still be together if you would’ve done better in school, or not got into so much trouble, or helped more around the house. I have known many teenagers and young adults who have all but destroyed their lives blaming themselves for the actions of their parents. The personal blame game is perhaps the most devastating affect your parent’s divorce will have on you.

Here’s the truth: No matter what that little voice inside of you that is constantly blaming you says, the divorce is about your parents and the problems they have with each other — it’s not about you. It was not your fault. Your parents are adults and are responsible for the commitments they made toward each other, long before you were born.

So…Why Did Your Parents Get Divorced?
I could make a list a mile long of different reasons why people get divorced. The truth is, if someone doesn’t want to be married any longer, there’s always going to be some reason. For example…

We can no longer live together.
We can’t work through our issues.
We don’t talk to each other anymore.
I can’t live with your anger—you scare me.
I can’t take your verbal abuse any longer.
I am being physically abused.
I don’t feel like I love you anymore.
I found somebody else.
I’m bored in this relationship.
You have a serious problem with drinking/gambling.
You won’t quit looking at porn.
You can’t handle money.
I can’t stand your relatives.
You won’t look for a job.

It’s as if people find it easier to end a marriage, than to work through the problems they may be experiencing.

I could go on and on, and I’m sure you could add some that you’ve seen in your, or other people’s, homes. Experts on marriage say the most common reasons given for divorce are actually preventable. The top reasons given by ex-husbands and ex-wives were: lack of commitment, too much conflict and arguing, and infidelity—reasons that can be addressed by counseling with a marriage therapist. Tragically, we live in a world where 50% of all marriages end in divorce. It’s as if people find it easier to end a marriage, than to work through the problems they may be experiencing.

Still, I don’t believe anyone marries to get divorced. They don’t say, “Well, I’d like to go through the awful experience of getting divorced so I think I’ll get married.” Everyone thinks they have found the right one when they marry.

Adam said, “I don’t understand all the reasons my parents got divorced. Sometimes I wish I knew more of the reasons, so I can prevent it from happening to me.”

Your Parents’ Divorce Is Not Your Fault! Never has been, and never will be.

Personally, I wish divorce didn’t exist. I’ve seen too many lives broken by the affects of divorce—especially the lives of children who had no choice in the matter, but who were the most affected by it—people like Heather, who said, “Under all my anger is a deep sadness the came from my parents divorce.” I want you to know that I feel your pain. And want to help. My goal of the upcoming blogs is to help you not be a victim, or even a survivor, of your parents’ divorce, but an overcomer. It is possible.

Just remember: Your Parents’ Divorce Is Not Your Fault! Never has been, and never will be.

Next week I’m going to write about the changes you will experience after your parents get divorced. Please write and tell me your story – how have you dealt with your parent’s divorce? I look forward to hearing from you.

Friday, Dec 18, 2009 - 3:28:32 AM
I know how hard divorce is to deal with when it is your own parents. I was very young when my parents parted. It has taken a toll on how I look upon my own personal relationships as well. I know that I will never truly be over it but its something you have to learn to except.
- Christine J.

Friday, Dec 18, 2009 - 3:25:43 AM
My parents have been divorced since I was about a yr old. I never had my father in my life ( did not meet him until I was 18 behind my moms back) , nor have I ever had a "real" father figure. My mom raised me with my grandparents help my whole life. I remember at one time she worked 3+ jobs just so we could have more than the necessities. Her doing this caused me to not really have her in my life as a child. My memories of playing wiht her are limited. honestly I think I can name 5 times I remember. SHe was just never there. Growing up with out a father figure in my life has been about the hardest thing (the closest thing I've had is my grandpa who has had to be two people in one to me). I see how badly my relationship with men are and I am terrified of commitment. Men to me just waltz in and out, but its more my fault than anything due to me pushing them away and not letting them get too close or close enough to hurt me. I see how jaded my mother is from the divorce and how strongly she dislikes my father. Now she is remarried to a man she dated 7 yrs before marrying and she has a I don't care I can say been there done that attitude. It strikes me as if she does not care about marriage or the man. I never want to be that person. I want to believe in "true love", but have a hard time seeing it because it has never been in a home around me. To me a broken home is normal. I honestly don't know what I would do in a normal home, but when I get married if I do divorce is not an option. I can not and will not raise a child the way I was.
- Courtney

Friday, Dec 18, 2009 - 2:41:28 AM
My parents divorced when I was 10 and I am now 17. In my opinion, it is not the children's fault when parents divorce or separate. The kids should NEVER believe the HUGE LIE that it is there fault.
- Hannah

Friday, Dec 18, 2009 - 2:40:56 AM
thanks dawson. I've dealt with a lot of divorce in my family. At the moment i have three dads. All of which i haven't seen in years. and i haven't seen my blood realeted father since i was two weeks old, but thats a diffrent story.
- austin

Friday, Dec 18, 2009 - 2:37:55 AM
um well my parents never got divorced they just broke up. it is VERY hard to deal with, for instince all my mom wants for christmas is me but i cant be with her, my mom lives in another state and alot of drama comes with it my mom has hurt me, but it's just that she loves me and my dad just coesnt understand it
- joneshia

Thursday, Dec 17, 2009 - 3:28:58 AM
i have been through a bad breakup between all the men my mom has been with because they either have sexually abused me or physically abused me. my mom stayed wth a man and let me go into foster care because she wanted to save her man more then raise her daughter .we went through court for many years and she never fought for me that makes it alot harder on me because ive tryed killing my self so many times that i cant count and on to of that i cant stay in a good relationship and i miss carried today i am very scared . my life is changing hopefully for the good soon thanks for your show and its helped me alot .i listen to your show on 97.1 zht and i have actually talked to you personally a whille back please write back thanks
- kamie w.

Thursday, Dec 17, 2009 - 12:46:38 AM
what teens and children fail to realize is that it is not our fault.... we cannot control what our parents want or dont want....
- Lena

Thursday, Dec 17, 2009 - 12:27:05 AM
Between the ages of 3 and 6, my mom divorced and married 10 times! I was confused and oblivious to everything going on around me, so I know how it feels to go through divorce. Going through divorce is like getting your heart torn in pieces. I have lived in a total of 4 homes!
- Rayette

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 11:04:09 PM
Your topic this week is one that will hit home to millions. My parents are fighting right now, and they want to get a divorce, but wont for the family. I am the oldest in the family of 3 younger brothers. I blame myself for most of the fights they have, my name is brought up in most of them, I feel horrible because i have my brothers to look after and they hear all the fights. i feel like im stictly at fault, it makes me cry every night, i have even considered moving out to relieve some stress on my parents, after all i am 18. but that would just be running away, it wouldn't solve anything. Anyone going through this needs to know that its not your fault that your parents are fighting or getting a divorce. it is a matter of your parents. Don't let it control your life. if you need to talk to someone then find someone you trust that you can talk to. And whatever you do DO NOT GIVE UP do not run. you cant run from your problems, they will follow you for the rest of your life. Dawson is great help and he gives the best advice. and god bless anyone going through a divorce. it is hard on all parts. you have a lot of people that know what your going through, your not alone.
- Amanda T.

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 8:56:11 PM
my parents got devorced in August 2008, it was very hard for me to choose who i wanted to like with because i love them both so much, when i went to live with my dad my mom told me that she never wanted to see me again, i havent seen heer for more then 20 min since christmas 2008, i miss he alot, and i did blame myself for everything and even had second thoughts about living with my dad, but now i know that this was the best thing for me to do, i am more happy here with a loving and caring father then i would have been with a mother that picked favorites and drank. so i guess what im trying to say is that no matter how old you are or who you choose to live with you need to understand that its not your fault and never will be, both parents want you and love you but arent always perfect so give that some thought and keep a smile on your face
- Tiffany H.

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 11:25:21 AM
my parents got divorced when i was 7 and i went to counceling. my teacher, mrs annett told us (me and my brother) that it wasnt our fault, and that they didnt break up because of us. she told hus hat everyday. we even got packets to fill out with pictures of parents. but even after that when i was about 9 i thought my parents broke up because of me so if u get divorced make sure everyone gets whats going on.
- Cass

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 11:24:45 AM
Hi, i just emailed you about my situation with my parents split up. I would appreciate it if you took the time to read it. Thank you.
- Tori

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 11:24:13 AM
my parents divorced when i was 4 yrs old. I don't remember much, but i do remember him never being around except to pick me up every other weekend. After they got divorced my mother, i was living with her, started drinking, and chain smoking, and sleeping around. So, its plain to see...divroce changes alot of things. It took my dad away and even though i lived with my mom, it took her away too. Then when i was about 6 or 7, my dad remarried and i blamed my stepmother for not allowing my dad and mom to get back together again. My mom died when i was 12 in a car accident. I was then faced with a choice to either move in with my dad and his new family or my mom mother, my grandmother. I chose my dad, and now, i'm 20 with a family of my own, and i just keep wondering what would have happened, and where would i be today if my parents had never had gotten that divorce....
- Amber H.

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 2:01:04 AM
i feel sorry for the person that said their brother told them it was his fault. It wasnt. when i was 7 and my brother was just born. my parents split up. they are back together now but thats beside the point. what i am trying to say is it is not the kids fault that the paretns couldnt get along. people should never have to see it as their fault and the people that tell the others it is their fault, should look at their own actions/ births to.
- stephanie

Wednesday, Dec 16, 2009 - 12:57:01 AM
Over the summer my mom and my sisters found out my dad was cheating on Mom. He's a truck driver all across the US so he quite obviously had plenty of time to cheat on her. My father assumed my mom had already divorced him (which were still in the process of) so he's supposedly already married to the woman he cheated with. Being the gutless pansy of a man my father is, he hasnt signed the divorce and child support papers so were basically living off the state now. My family is on food stamps, certain organizations have been paying for our oil, etc. We have no way of conntacting him. He never picks up his phone, he blocked my older sister and probably me on facebook and since he works out of state, we cant really meet him anywhere. Thanks to him, my older sister an me are totally stressed out and my older sis and my mom are the only ones who appear to be suffering. Ive heard my mom crying sometimes at night, same with my older sister and in addition, my sister is practically failing 11th grade. I have no idea what to do. The state paid for an ad in the newspaper asking people to tell the court anything about him like where he lives when he's on break from work but we didnt get any responses. not even the area where he works will give us any information
- Jenny

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 10:04:39 PM
My friend's parents went through a divorce about a year ago, and I honestly had no idea how to handle it or what to say to make him feel better. I wanted to make him feel better, but I just never knew exactly how to handle it or go about bringing it up. He changed within the year. He became more rude and called me names. He pretty much treated me less than human. I thought that it all had to do with his parents' divorce, but I wasn't sure. On top of all that, he is adopted, which I know makes it sooo much harder on him. We don't really talk anymore. Our friendship fizzled out, but I know that I had trouble trying to keep him from hurting me because maybe he was doing it to portray how he had felt. I don't know, but I know that it is really hard to talk about because it is such a huge disruption to life.
- Kayla

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 8:01:22 PM
WELL, IM KINDA BACKWARDS...MY PARENTS NEVER MARRIED, WHICH IS A GOOD THING. MY FATHER WAS A VERY ABUSIVE MAN IN ALL WAYS IMAGINABLE, SO WHEN THEY FINALLY SPLIT, THERE WAS NO MESSY DIVORCE BUT IT DID REALLY SUCK BECAUSE HE WASTED NO TIME MEETING AND MARRYING HIS CURRENT WIFE...WHICH DEEPLY HURT MY MOTHER WHO REMAINS SINGLE BY CHOICE...SO...IM KINDA ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE TRACKS HERE, BUT I KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH A DIVORCE AND THEY WERE PRETTY MUCH UPSET EVERY DAY WITH THE CUSTODY BATTLES AND THE CONSTANT FIGHTING AND NEW STEP PARENTS THAT WERE WORSE THAN THEIR OWN PARENTS...SO...I JUST WANNA SAY...THE KIDS ARE NOT AT FAULT FOR THE ADULTS INABILITY TO CONTINUE TO LOVE EACH OTHER. THEY DONT EVER QUIT LOVING THE KIDS...THEY USUALLY FIGHT IN COURT TO "PROVE" THAT...BUT, REALLY, THE KIDS JUST WANT BOTH THEIR PARENTS...MINUS ALL THE FIGHTING EVEN IF IT MEANS THEY HAVE TO LIVE SEPARATELY...
- SAMANTHA JADE W.

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 1:02:12 PM
I was about 4 or 5 when they divorced, but I remember it. I was simply confused and thought they were taking a vacation from each other. I thought parents needed to do that once in a while. Later on in life I blamed myself, thinking that I could've prevented it. But they got back together after a few years so I guess its alright. All you have to remember is that its never your fault and that friends help.
- Olivia

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 11:37:57 AM
Dear Dawlson, my dad had passed away i couple years ago even know i am 10 i leason to ur show i thank it is great but my mom had a boyfriend and i said one word about her x-boy friend and he went off!!! What should i do i am turning it over to u to help please if u can i would love it ur friend, Hannah
- Hannah

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 10:26:56 AM
I have one brother. We both have the same mother and father. My mother has been married 4 times now. By now I am just used to how things work. I expect to move around and by not letting myself hope that we will stay in one place it makes things a lot easier. I am 17 years old and my mother has been married for just over 2 years this time. What I remember most about her getting divorced is that I had to say goodbye to all of my friends. It was hard and I did not handle it as well as I could have. The most important thing is to find one person, that no matter where you go, you can always talk to. Having at least one person to vent to is critical in how you get through hard times.
- Avangeline

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 2:30:40 AM
My parents have been divorced since I was five years old; it still affects me today. Ever since my mother and father split, my father has been in and out of prisons all across California. He turned to drugs and alcohol and would steal to get those things. My parents hate each other. I speak to both of them, as my father was recently released from a five year sentence in prison. All they do when the other is brought up is talk about each other in poor ways. Both are horrible parents. My father with his drug abuse, and never paying child support while my mother is an alcoholic party animal that thinks I am the most horrible child that she could have ever received. However, through all of this I have managed to avoid drug and alcohol abuse, as well as maintained a 4.0 GPA in college. Through their madness and horrible parenting I somehow managed to survive. It's hard, but it is something that we all, as victims of parental divorce, have to do!
- Ari

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 12:51:38 AM
not very long ago my parents got into a huge argument and my dad choked my and held a gun to her head and now hes in jail but my mom is fialing for divorce. in a bout 2001 my parents were seperated and both times my brother keep telling me that if i wasent born this wouldent be happening and i beleve him
- anonnomyse

Tuesday, Dec 15, 2009 - 12:07:20 AM
Dealing with my parents divorce has been a life-long battle.My parents divorced when I was 3 years old.Because of my parents divorce I am 19 years old and have never met my birthfather and since there is bad feeling about him in my family I don't know anything about him.It has been had especially being a girl since I have never had a male figure in my life to show me what it means to love a man.This is one of the reasons I have never had a good relationship with guys I try to date.Also it is hard to not know where I get things from my mom and where I get things from my dad.One of the ways I have been able to overcome not having my dad in my life and my parents divorce is that as hard as it may seem I have started to ask my family questions about him and as a result realize that him not being a part of my life is a blessing.Not having him in my life has made me a stronger person.Another way that I have overcome this is by writing how I feel on paper through poems and reading it outside looking up at the sky and than burning the paper.
- Yevgenia

Monday, Dec 14, 2009 - 11:34:34 PM
my parents got a devorce when i was very little. they fought all the time and finally they ended it. i was very little and dont remember much of it. but i do remember when my mom remarried to my step dad. he is an amazing guy and he has been there for us since the day he met my mom. i call him dad because my real dad gave up on me and said he didnt want me. yet now my real dad has popped back into the picture with a random email saying "heyy baby girl its ur daddy" on myspace one day. idk what to do? do i talk to him or go on and leave the hole he once drilled in my heart empty????
- Daryan S.

Monday, Dec 14, 2009 - 9:58:53 PM
My Parents were never married but together for 16 years. I remember the last fight like it was yesterday. I heard my mom tell my dad, we cant do this with our son around. They fought 2 days before 9/11 and i saw my dad for the last time for 3 weeks the next day. It was a hard week. Plus i got put between them in court. I said one thing and had to tell a lie for my mom. so she could win. Also she never told me were he was for over 2 weeks. Me and my mom dont get along like we used to. Now its been 8 years and it still isnt any easier. It doesnt matter if you were 4 or 14 when your parents divorce as it will always be there. The only thing that kept me sane was video games. It does get easier but it takes time. But it makes me think about marriage. And if it could happen to me. There is no one is my family is with the 1st person they married. But time will tell.
- Adam

Monday, Dec 14, 2009 - 1:05:33 AM
well i was little when my parents divorced but i remeber it perfectly as if it happened yesterday. My mom accually at one point told me it was my fault after thier divorce my mom remairred to a guy that never really cared all they did was fight and get drunk all the time. I moved around every year for about 5 years after that and got really far behind in school a that point i gave up and to this day still cat have a functional relationship becaue im scared of bein hurt
- tiffany

Monday, Dec 14, 2009 - 12:38:34 AM
My parents' divorce was a sudden thing. I had heard them fighting one day, and got worried because I had never heard them fighting like they were. It was then that they sat me and my little brother down and told us they were having some problems, and they were going through counsling and hoped to fix everything. It didn't work, so my mom moved out, and it's now a year later. Almost everyday I sat there and watched my Dad cry. I had to stay strong for my brother, who is 9, and I felt like I couldn't break in front of either of them. I love both my Mon and Dad, but I feel like there's that time in my life they will never be able to fix. I didn't really ever expect it to happen to my family, but it did.
- Logan

Sunday, Dec 13, 2009 - 11:41:26 PM
I knew for a while that my parents were going to divorce. But I just thought they would be waiting for me and my sister to graduate so we wouldn't have to go through the separate houses and such. It doesn't really bother me that my parents are getting divorced really, it's just what came along with the divorce that bothers me. When my mom told me they were divorcing she also told me that my dad had lost his job working for St. Jude Medical. He has been with St. Jude before and quit a while back which was the reason for us moving from florida to Ohio. They never treated him well and always screwed him over. It scared me really bad because of everything that we spend our money on, my mom had just bought a new fridge along with a new van, and on top of that all of our bills and college loans needing payed off for my mom and brother. After this my mom tells me shes trying to force my dad into rehab, which i told her was not a good idea. After he said he would go he ran away like i said he would, got so drunk he needed detox and while getting detoxed had two seizures. His heart stopped, but the doctors were able to bring him back up. For a couple days he couldn't breath on his own and could barely stayed awake. Now he is home, going to counseling, my mother is still divorcing him. Things are better, but still no job. I think this happened to make me realize how much my dad does, and that i should appreciate it. There is so much that joins everything thats happens or has happened in my family. I now realize i need to appreciate my father and what he does, but Im still not as close to him as when I was a girl, for certain reasons which need to stop because they are affecting other relations. I just want to know how to keep things good and have them get better.
- Jessie

Sunday, Dec 13, 2009 - 10:22:14 PM
Well both my parents are always complaining about each other around me(still married26 years). And my mom just can't stand my dad, mainly because she's never been his main priority and because he always has to be in control. So she wants a devorce. And all my life my dad has treated me like a child by picking on me and pointing out my faults and Imperfections, and it hurts. And my has always been the one there for me. But now my dad is trying to buy me by taking me to the movies I want to see and taking me to theme parks and all that, then makes me feel guilty by saying he will still love me even if I chose my mom when the devorce final. But he's also turned my brother and sister against my mom by telling them she doesn't love them anymore, which isn't true at all, so it's hurting her and a few times I hear her saying her life isn't worth living anymore and saying she should just drive her car into a tree. I'm so scared that whenever she drives alone that I will get a call saying she died in a accident. What do I do ??? I know I need to talk to somebody but that's just not me, I don't like showing my pain alot, help
- Krystal

Sunday, Dec 13, 2009 - 9:16:47 PM
My parents never got married when they had me. I can never say my parents were divorced because they were never truely married. But I have been leaving with my mom for most of the divorce. Its sad Cause I never get to see him as much as I do with my mom. My mom got a husband a couple years ago. I try to act like he is my father people ask me why I dont call him dad. Because he wasnt there when I was little. He wasnt there at my first bike ride. He just came. And I am old enough not to care. But I sure do miss my dad. And everytime I have the chance to see him his work screws things over. For the people who still have there parents together but may be fighting. Tell them, Tell them how much its affecting you...I was to little to even care... ~Kimberly
- Kimberly

Sunday, Dec 13, 2009 - 6:00:07 PM
my parents fight alot and i'm afraid if they keep fighting they might leave each other and i won't be able to see my mom or dad if they get a divorce because every time when my mom comes home from work she relaxes before my dad gets home and my dad gets on to her every time she does something wrong or busy stuff from her work
- ashley james

Sunday, Dec 13, 2009 - 12:42:52 AM
dawson:this past year has been hard on me.well we have a family of six mom,dad,brother and 2 sisters.of course my oldest sibling (girl) had belimia.then my other older sister got anorexia.my brother has kidney diease. on top of that my mom and dad announce a divorce.wow pretty hard right.well ive never realized how bad it hurts you on the inside.ive always covered it up.but what i want people to know is no its not your fault its not theirs either.they found problems in the relationship they might of tried to fix it but it didnt work.thanks to dawson my life is better i can live happy because of his show.THANKS DAWSON.
- gabrielle

Saturday, Dec 12, 2009 - 3:08:55 PM
i WANTED MYT PARENTS T0 GET A DiV0RCE...iS THAT BAD...i KiNDA PUSHED MY DAD T0 FilE THE PAPERS....BUT i KNEW S0ME0NE WAS G0NNA GET HURT iF THEY STAYED T0GETHER...MY DAD HAS ANGERMANGEMENT PR0BLEMS AND MY M0M DRiNKS AL0T...i KN0W i WAS THE 0NE WH0 MADE THEM GET A DiV0RCE...iM N0T W0RRiED AB0UT MYSELF 0R THEM..iTS MY LiL BR0THER...H0W THiS AFFECT HiM...HE IS 0NLY 10 YEARS OLD AND HE HAS ALREADY SEEN AND BEEN THR0UGH AL0T WiTH WiTH MY PARENTS
- chelsea

Saturday, Dec 12, 2009 - 1:51:48 AM
hi dawson. my parents arent devorsed or going to be.i live with my grandma so yah. im wrighting because my grandpa. first i will tell you my story about me. me and my lil brother and older sister were in a foster home in cali. then my grandma and grandpa got us out of there.then 2 years later my grandma and grandpa got a devorse. so we moved up to idaho. now 8 years later my grandpa is back with a disease called ALS. its a disase that invects your musles and you breathing. tonight he is really bad...he cant breathe..and he might die... im scared so so bad. i jest got him and now hes dieing.mabey toninght or tomorrow. all we know is that he wont make it.i hate to say it but its true.ill lose him. my papy. thank you dawson. thank you vary much. julie
- julie m.

Friday, Dec 11, 2009 - 9:55:55 PM
When me and my brother where kids my parents had problems with fighting and my dad was an alcholic and a angry one at that. For many many years my brother and I wanted our parents to divorce because we both knew they were not happy together it was like they put on a show for us. As my mom said she wanted to stay together for the kids. Finally in 2003 they divorced after 32 years of marrage. my brother and I are all grown up now but we still get affected by it. My mom remarried and moved 5 hours away. She moved up that way when I was 6 months pregnant with her first granddaughter she saw her born but now she is 3 and my mom only has seen her 2 times. My dad lives 30 min away I see him once a months and he spends time with me and his granddaughter. My dad and I had our battles for many years due to his battle with drinking he is now 3 yrs sober and a changed man. When my mom found out I was spending time she flipped out on me basically telling me I stabbed her in the back by seeing him and letting him back in my life. I can't belive it. I mean whatever happened with them is between them not between me and them. My mom and I stopped talking but just started talking this past summer but not as much. So this post I found very useful thanks dawson
- amy

Friday, Dec 11, 2009 - 7:24:20 PM
hey Dawson i know what that feels like my parents are divorced i hate it an i think about it at least once a week. thinkin its just my fault i just break down but i guess there is nothing i can do so
- kylee v.